Play meets and kids.

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  Back_Again

  14 years ago

  We are quite happy to play on first date aswell, but just as happy for the other couple to take their time.   We meet couples with no expectation. If after the first meet, we are all keen, but the stars don't align, well that just makes aniticipation of the next meet more enticing, andin turn our own bed time fun afterwards more sexy.   We also have young family, and only look for dates about once a month nowdays..so far the strike rate has been quite in our favour, but we aren't stressed whether a play occurs or not.   Kilee & Trev

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Personally we prefer the "meet & greet" first, but each to their own :)I guess one way around it would be to be organised enough that you have a "meet & greet" with one person/couple, before heading off to meet with someone who has already "passed the test". That way you don't waste any of your free evenings :)

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  We can understand your point of view, we, as we have been known to say, are geographically unattractive. Throw in a young family on top our play dates are few and far between. But in saying that we have meet people in the hope that " yes tonight we are up for it" and have walked for one reason or another. So yes the problem of juggling the " normal" life with the extra coital existence is hard indeed

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Lets just consider the other couple you are meeting are of similiar age and probably have children of their own under 10 we would imagine?? Seeing you guys are 25.   Why cant you meet with your children and theirs and keep it G rated....then arrange to play afterwards when you all have arranged babysitters and a place away from both your homes.   We think you meet to play or you meet for G rated stuff no going with the flow.   Too easy, seems ideal to us!

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  ours are in their late teens and older...but still they make it difficult to play...we never have our own home to ourselves, so cant be spontaneous or adventurous if and when the urge strikes. we'd advise against mixing your family lives with your play lives, dont get your kids involved at any point....you dont need to be that familiar with play mates do you?

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I tend to do a lot of chatting up front as messages can be fit inbetween day to day. I have very little child free time, so by the time i am ready to meet someone, there is barely anytime to say hi how are you, i like to get right to the good stuff!! I have met a few peeps (no one needs to know the number? hehe) from here and i've generally swapped enough info to know that all parties are likely to self combust if the bumping and grinding doesn't happen ASAP. Sometimes i didn't do heaps of messages, it wasinstead all in the timing, and the vibe i got from the shorter exchanges. I always follow my gut though, if it isn't a flashing green light, then i am not going to meet. Some peeps seemed perfect on paper so to speak, but no matter how much chatting i did, my gut said no, so so did i! Been called a few colourful things as a result, but no bad first meets as a result? (i know it isn't the safest approach, but i trust my instincts, i've never gotten myself into a situation that i've regretted?!)

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  We understand where you are coming from. We have a child and no family in QLD. But your never goign to know if its a yes or no to playing until you meet the person or couple in person. Then when we do we like some time to ourself away from the other couple to talk about how we both feel or if we have any issues about playing with them. We don't want to be making that choice in front of the other people. So we don't like the go with the flow way of doing things.Another issue when meeting some one for the first time. You dont want to hire a babysitter from say 5pm- 1am just in case things go well and then ten min after meeting the couple and realising you don't like them and what to go home. Only to waste $150 on a babysitter you have booked for the night. That you would have preferd to spend when you actually needed a baby sitter all night. If we had hired a baby sitter every time we met some one with anticipation of more our baby sitter would be very wealthy.Like others have mentioned. As long as the other people or couple doesn't have a issue with it. We are happy to meet them for 10 min with there kids just for a coffee or at a park day time and keep it G rated. Its all you need to get a feel the peoples personality and looks in person. Then play at a later time.We usually like to host at home and by playing at a later date. We then get a chance to take out time Seating up our play room creating some atmosphere and we all know its a play night that we like the other people and all want to play.Same for if its a hotel. If you have met the people beforehand it gives you all a chance to talk about what kind of place you want to stay at. A chance to book some where nice. We usually like a 5 star apartment if we are going that way and that's not something you can just walk into and get a room like a tacky motel. It Gives every one a good chace to talk the night up between each other and fantasise about whats goign to happen before hand. That's 1/2 the fun. We have had couples that push the point about (hey if we hit it off we want to play tonight hint,hint,hint). Then when we think about it its like they are already saying yes before meeting. It just has that feeling of desperation even if its just desperation for time.So we keep the meet and greets short and simple, usually day time. Then save our time, money, energy and babysitters for a play meets at a later time with people we have met before and know we all want to play with.Tim

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  We want to keep our lives separate to the ones with our family. Unless the people we played with became friends obviously. We do not have the Internet at home so we can only use RHP on our mobiles so we do not have msn. We enjoy getting to know eachother through messages and see what everyone likes and what everyone is comfortable with. Booblicious, the way you do things is similar to how we do it. And with a young family we just find that more convienent for us. We have been able to know a few people through messages and have even said no to people that we did not feel comfortable with.

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  DonnaBrett

  14 years ago

  We prefer the option of playing on first meet. (although have done the meet first thing on a couple of occasions). Of course there has to be that 'spark' or there just will be no action...that goes without saying and we would expect the people we meet to think the same. But if the spark is there why put off the good stuff to a later date? We have found that when play is rainchecked or postponed the chances of it actually ever happening often lessens. Like the old saying goes, Strike while the iron's hot! We are lucky now...we have a child free home so having a playground to go to is not an issue!! LOL

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  We prefer to meet n chat first n as a norm we do not play on the first date. We are semi new n prefer to take our time , but this is us n our choice.   second date is a different story ;)

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  TWOfourYOU

  14 years ago

  It's an interesting topic. We are sure that everyone or every couple have the different way of meeting and playing. We are sure that these also get refined along the way. We have had a crack at play on first meets and also with meet first and play later......for us we have found that play meets are spontenoues and are better suited to when we have meet others in clubs, the atmisophere is very sexual, the talk tends to be very sexual, we had some good times just meeting people at the clubs not pre arranged just eople who have rocked up like us. We have had one instance we we meet and played on the first meet outside a club scene and to be honest, wasn't very enjoyable, rushed and maybe the word we are looking for is impersonal. Our overall preference and what we have found is we meet first and play on ather night. This first meet doesn't have to be for hours...but at times has stretched out for hours and these poeple we have found later on we have found the best people to be with. We prefer to catch up for a coffee/drink at a cafe, a bar or even the beach. We happy usually with the one drink, to get a picture of (A) to estiblish the person or persone if it is a couple are who they are (B) also to estiblish there character and weather we will get on are not (c) we also find out what they are into, when it comes to the bedroom i.e. boundaries. In regards to times of meets, we are a little luckier then some, we work for ourselevs and have the ability to meet during the day, which actually works better, as the kids are at school. Normally this is good to meet single males, but on ocasions we have meet couples during the week (daytime) which has worked in well. Weekend daytime meet and greets have to be organised but are possible, but noramlly on the coast only. I think at the end of the day for us (as mentioned everyone is different) the meet and greet is prefered, we have found on the second meet (playtime), it has been lots of laughs, fun and overall more sensual. Most people we have played with this way we have always had more than one playtime, even lifelong friends as both chillie and vaanilla friends! Thats our thoughts and to be honest maybe at times we have missed a meet with some great people cause we prefer a meet and greet first, but in the end maybe it wasn't meant to be in any case.......

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Hi there :-) We're in the same situation, and by the looks of your profile share similar interests. We've been planning a night out to couples international for a while because it seems the best way to get around our time restraints. Either we meet people, or have fun on our own! I'd recommend arranging with a few other couples/singles to meet in a club/party environment. If things don't work out you have other couples available or just enjoy each other. xx Mrs N

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  have no place in this game we play here..............never ever ever expose them in any way to anyone whose paths you cross here........ its not fair on them, no matter how you justify it.....

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Quoting 'naughtychilli'We find it useful to have an initial meet prior to another confirmed meet. We make it clear that the initial meet is simply for one drink and to see how we click. It looks like this 7:30 pm Initial Meet - one round only of drinks with a new couple or single 8:15 pm Play Meet - with the couple of choice from previous initial meet Think smart, act safe. Chilli xx That's amazing.... like a constant rolling playdate. "Yep - you're good, and we can do you on Thursday at 8.15, now if you'll excuse us, our Wednesday appointment should be rocking up shortly!" Only a female can be that organised.... so it's a MrsChilli initiative for sure isn't it?

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  we are with you guys on this.........seperate lives are a must...kids pick up on things you wouldnt believe....its safest to just maintain a definite line between the two ...........

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  QLDtwo4fun

  14 years ago

  We keep the two seperate, our kids are old enough to pick up on the nuances of most meetings. We usually suggest meeting at CI, as we have limited opportunities so we always meet ready to play, but don't always play with every one we meet. Lots of messages dont really give that much insight into the people.

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