M47
Please explain
January 26 2014
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gazpacho
12 years ago
So.... 4 years is no record and you're on RHP..... So what's really on your mind? In marriage situations I think couples can survive pretty much anything if the WANT to. You need to decide what you want.... And try to find out what she wants... And get some kind of mediation going. Hugs Gazpacho
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RHP User
12 years ago
have you actually asked her why she isn't interested in sex anymore? And if so what was her response? Knowing why would be a good start towards fixing the problem, whatever form that fixing may take.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Time is on your side, consider a separation...or deal with it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I tried to get the woman to talk for a year or two.. she always came up with excuses, that I knew to be just that.. but I reckon I persisted and tried her suggestions.. she would not even CONSIDER mine.. after about two years.. I got talking to one of her best friends..and the topic of sex came up... I spilled.. and asked if SHE knew what was in wifey creatures head...She said.. "No, but I have an answer...." and took me and fckd me stupid..It solved the problem... Wife did carer and caretaker thingsHer Girlfriend did the fcking.. Ummm.. From memory.. The girlfriend did me 2 nights before wedding.. and was teh first one to do me AFTER the wedding.. When the girlfriend left town, I found someone to replace her with.Wife found out about that one about a year later.. and I became single.. problem STILL solved, however you look at it! *shrugs*
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RHP User
12 years ago
What the? So she did was the last one who did you as a single man and the first one to do you as a married man. Hmmmm............... why did you get married again?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Just ask her what she want. What turns her on and what would she like to do. What' her fetish or her desires. Dan
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RHP User
12 years ago
The wedding ring goes straight to the part of many (but not all) a female brain that deals with libido and chokes the life clean out of that sucker! Hence the reason why I have remained single all my life, I have no desire to lose my desire! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Your words were...."All of a sudden it's stopped". If as you say things were great before, but then there was a sudden change.... your answer lays in understanding what event brought about that sudden change, and addressing it backwards to the time and place where things DID work. So.... only you (and she) can really work out what that significant even was. DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sadly.. I was a bad lad.. the trouble started before we married.. we went ahead with it anyway.. Never got married again.. That was a whole world away..and another life..
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RHP User
12 years ago
Unless her side of the story is told.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I agree with Mischeviouslad You have the advantage of hindsight which has an uncanny knack of making sense out of things that didn't really make any sense at the time.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Seems to me you've already given up..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sex is only one part of a relationship, what about all the other things that made you marry her in the first place are they still good? Maybe she found out you had a profile on a dating site? Maybe she is getting it elsewhere? Maybe you are looking for a reason to fuck around? So hard to tell from this side of the fence, where the grass is so green. Sorry OP but I just find it strange that a man in love with his wife should be on a site like this.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think we under estimate how important sex and sexual attraction is, especially if you get married young. I am just not into my husband sexually. I so wish I was. As he is a lovely man. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
From looking at your side... I felt your pain until I started reading your profile and your validations and I can see you have given up on your wife and don't care...were you on this site before the sex stopped? Coz if you were she is being too kind to you if she has found out and deserves much better... A relationship is not just about sex so grow up or put her out of her misery and let her move on so she can find a decent man who isn't going to lie and cheat... - Posted from rhpmobile
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MissBishere
12 years ago
I to feel sorry for your wife. Is this thread just to get some attention, some action? How sad.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I read your profile sub-heading. Just that tells me a lot about you. It's tough enough for single guys on here, I'm not sure that you're in any position to be making such rude demands of women you are trying to have facilitate your cheating on your wife.
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
So you've come to RHP for what?? To get a mistress hoping this will fix the issues between you and your wife, get your needs met or write up a Forum and seek some counseling and opinions from others? Somefink not quite right. Sounds all a too suss to me. I read something on another forum regarding this... hummm Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
One of the key ingredients of any relationship/marriage is communication. The fact that you say you wife is no longer interested in sex after you enjoyed am amazing, plentiful, satisfying sex life earlier tends to suggest that there's been a huge break down in communication between the two of you. For your sex life together to have been so amazing in the first place your wife must obviously be a very sexual lady who enjoyed every pleasure with you as much as you did yourself, so for her desire for pleasure with you to disappear completely there must be some very serious, deep issues involved which you will only ever learn about through open communication with her & of course a hell of a lot of understanding on your behalf during those conversations. Unfortunately for you those conversations not only require you to listen to & accept all she has to say but also for you both to be completely open & honest with each other about every facet of your relationship including the sexual side. Instead of this happening, by creating the profile you have on here & taking the easy way out by trying to find sex with others behind your wife's back you have made it almost impossible for you to be as open & honest in any such conversation with her because you are already lying to her & if you haven't already you are looking to cheat on her. That means you will probably never be able to give her the honesty she not only deserves but would also would need from you if she was going to be able to open up to you about the issues that have led to her loss of desire to be sexual with you. In short...Man up dude ! Don't hurt your wife or your marriage any more than you already have. The only possible hope you have of saving & resurrecting a relationship that was obviously once extremely satisfying to you both in every way is to bring back full disclosure openness & honesty to you marriage. You will need her to trust you completely & unconditionally again before she ever reveals the reason or reasons for the sexual breakdown in your relationship to you.It may already be to late for that but there's only one way to find out ! Tell your wife about this profile & your reasons for it being here & anything that has happened as a result of it. Yes this is going to hurt her beyond belief but you're hurting her even more by doing it behind her back & if it hasn't killed any hope of your marriage getting back to where it deserves to be it soon bloody will ! She is your wife ! She is the love of your life ! She deserves so much better from you !If you're not brave enough to be upfront with her about all of this at least be man enough to walk away save her any more hurt pain & anguish ! Any marriage or relationship needs complete, unequivocal trust & honesty so if your marriage means as much to you as it should & you love your wife the way you should...Take a chance & give your relationship a chance to not only survive this horrible situation but maybe even become stronger. Granted it's a very slim chance given the fact your wife will find it if not impossible at least extremely difficult to trust you completely again for a long time BUT your wife deserves nothing but your complete honesty, no matter how painful. Mr fun
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madotara69
12 years ago
Probably so is the wife, she is getting plenty, and you are finding it difficult here and at home. More than likely that won't change much, except her world is growing larger by the day. Also probably not the response you were seeking, but hey we are dirty fuckers not idiots. Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is she getting her feed of pleasure from another source ?? 3 months seems long time even for young married couple ? Does she become keen after an evening out with couple drinks ?? I've only read your side to the story but it's either u r full of shit n trying to get a lady here to feel sorry for u or she has another lover on the side ??
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gazpacho
12 years ago
Quoting 'Warning69' Is she getting her feed of pleasure from another source ?? 3 months seems long time even for young married couple ? Does she become keen after an evening out with couple drinks ?? I've only read your side to the story but it's either u r full of shit n trying to get a lady here to feel sorry for u or she has another lover on the side ?? Of course you may be right, but it's not fair to make sweeping generalisations like that. Both men and women can go for long periods of time without feeling horny. this loss of libido can be caused by a whole host of physical and psychological reasons, not the least being stress or lack of sleep.. or a reaction to some kind of seemingly inocuous medication. It's often a lack of empathy that drives people apart... she not recognising his sexual frustration and he not recognising whatever has made her libido wain. For sure, the first port of call is to check to see if the reasons are physical... but to let it drag on will simply lead to further distress on the relationship. This guy may or may not be a troll, but the issue he raises is a very real one for younger couples and older couples alike. HugsGazpacho xxxPS, I love a man in loose undies.
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