M50
Please tell em your experience.
July 21 2019
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RHP User
6 years ago
Joined 8yrs ago because my ex husband of 15yrs decided he was gay. So it prompted me to explore my own sexuality. Positives Had lots of great new experiences. Discovered many things about my own sexual preferences and desires. Made life long friendships. Negatives Other members that will put a women down for being open minded sexually. Forgetting we are all normal people in our day to day life. But our flip side of sexuality requires same degree of respect. Learnt that getting to know people socially first will 100% guarantee better experiences. Online u should keep to a minimum as it's turns into people treating u like a throw away commodity.. Online can be a harsh environment where people will act and say things that they never would do face to face.
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
Funny, I had this exact topic of conversation yesterday. I joined to find like minded people and bucket/fuckit list adventures. I Certinally did find what I was looking for, + soul mates and more. Good points: I'm in such an amazing place that the good so out weight the bad. I do not think too much or put time and effort into the bad as I do not want too. In fact it had made me realise what I do and do not want and what type of people I want to be around. So I say thank you. My experiences are all part of my personal growth. I really don't care what others think of me. In fact they (some), can get f*cked. There are amazing people here on RHP full of knowledge and wealth. I know as I have met them and continue long lasting friendships with. What a ride it has been. Ms Foxy x
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RHP User
6 years ago
what is the reason you join RHP? Sex Did find what you join for? Absofuckinlutely, for the first 3 yrs. Would like a semi regular partner in crime now. Still don't want a full time live in partner, just a number 1. I'll wait for him to fall into my lap 😉 In your opinion What are the good and bad points? I still think this site is the best for a few reasons, easy to navigate around, the forum, like minded people. Not so great if you're looking for a partner and too many men either married or just out of marriages who treat women like a disposable rag, just to satisfy their own bucket list
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RHP User
6 years ago
- Sex- Yes, quite a lot really.- Not nearly enough but maybe I'm greedy. Only regret really is the long line of weeping women I left behind me...hoping in all vanity that one day I will return. Naaaa just kidding...but there are at least two that do miss me. Maybe. Sometimes. Or not! ʗɱ
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Mask_007
6 years ago
Ms_S Is very sad to say and see that tipe of situation happening, should not happen at all. We are all the same, and we all have the same rights to do what we please and not be judged. Hope things change in a close future.
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Mask_007
6 years ago
SuperFoxxxy I really find you a very interesting person, would be amazing to get to know you better, and do not mean sexually, as a person i belive you have so much to offer. Maybe one day over a glass of a wine and a nice hot meal.
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Mask_007
6 years ago
I_touch Girl, i must say. You take my words away from me. One day ... one day... if i had chance...
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EarthQueen
6 years ago
Why - Initially I wanted to have some no strings attached sexual experiences as my ex partner had been my one and only lover. I wanted to learn about sex from the forums. Later I also had some hope to get a FWB and was open to meeting someone for relationship if that happened. What happened - One year of plenty of no strings sex. I could have had ongoing if I wanted but there was never enough chemistry for me even though most of the actual experiences were good. Also realised I wasn't in the right frame of mind for any type of relationship even a FWB. So I took a break of one year with no sex whatsoever and worked on myself. Then come back on this year and had a couple of great experiences but have since met a man who wants monogamy (not on here) so I'll see how it goes. Good - All but one of the men I met were good guys and treated me well. I like how open the conversations are. I had fun and learnt a lot about sex and tried different things and fantasies. It felt empowering for me to explore my sexuality any way I wanted. Meeting and hanging out with different men was fun and interesting. My ex was pretty jealous so it was a new experience for me to hang out with men. It taught me to think about how I wanted to be treated and look for that. The self exploration took me to tantra and then I got to understand my body and needs much more. It gave me more confidence in myself. I learnt what turns me on more clearly and now I'll ask for it. Forums have taught me so much. Bad - Leading always with sex is superficial and eventually started to kill my libido. I thought I could just fuck people and move on with no fall out. Wrong. I craved more connection and maybe for me, this is not the place to get it? Part of that was me having trouble with boundaries. But just sex alone is not ultimately enough for me. Scratching the itch is fun at times but I need the emotional depth in the long term to keep me interested.
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teamaj2
6 years ago
Mask Good topic Why did we join ? We were dipping our toes into the world of swinging . This seemed a good place to help us along. To enable us to meet like minded people . It’s been an amazing wonderful ride . What have we learnt ? As much as I’d like to think only the best in people. There are fake profiles , people that are married ( they are not upfront about it ) , those dreaded picture collectors and sadly some are disrespectful. Differences are what makes the world go around. Most people are just lovely , ordinary people looking to play , explore and have a good time . We are a big melting pot of different nationalities, kinks , fetish’s, wants and needs. That’s 100% ok . RHP gives us a safe place to explore and find out what works well for us as a couple . We have definitely found what we sought thru RHP . We found this thru meeting different people and attending events . We also have learnt via the forums. Expanding our knowledge on all things .
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
Thank you for your kind words. Yes, one day. Ms Foxy
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Mask_007
6 years ago
EarthQ. I could never tell, such a amazing comment... I really hope you find that special one that you are looking for. Teamaj2 Very well... i could not agree more... we are a extremely big mixture of believe and attitudes. And that is what makes very interesting. We always learn something... Thank you all for the fantastic postes... thank you all so much. And keep coming...
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RHP User
6 years ago
Why did I join?..Curiosity Did I find what I was looking or? My curiosity was certainly satisfied. Good things about RHP? I have met people that in the usual course of life that I would never had met Bad things about RHP..hmm Hugs Q
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RHP User
6 years ago
Over 10 years ago...I got onto this for SEX.. Lots of sex, wild and often.I DID in fact "Sort-of" find what I Was looking for, insofar as I did get sexjust not as much as I wanted. I did realise however, that I still did ok, at the hotels/parties/weddings, AND on one occasion not too long ago, "At a Funeral" - so long as(It appeared) there was plentiful amounts of alcohol and/or other substances which made people more horny then choosy. Anyway, I hung around RHP for the forums, and the occasional interactions, and occasional sexI have in fact been associated with a few.. ummm.. extra profiles over the years, where/when I had a playmate and we doubled up.. or played "Alternative" games. "Dis-fuckn-cretely"
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Dirtyandfriendly
6 years ago
I think originally I joined purely for sexual fun, over the years it’s evolved somewhat. Earthqueen really nailed it, that connection is needed that possibly evolves into something more, I’m not just saying a relationship, but a good friendship that offers more than just an orgasm. I do however have a very high sex drive, it hasn’t been received well I think. I have met some who have a sex drive, but more a fortnightly, monthly meet. I need more. I’d like someone I can do things with as well. I guess now I’m looking for a good friend and if it evolves to more so be it, but a few boxes need ticking. Good- everyone’s different and looking for different things in different parts of their life. Forums are good to see people opinions as well. Haven’t met many on here, but have had a good chat with some. Bad- a lot of talk and a lot want online fun only. A lot of fakes as it’s online it’s expected. Ones I have met it’s a one time only or a quick meet, I haven’t yet build something with someone and I think a lot have just wanted a quick fix. I had one in November where I thought it would be a fun time, but as soon as we met she said she only had a half hour before she had to be somewhere, I felt I was just to kill some time for her. The ratio to men to women is quite dIf fervent, I’d say 100 men to 1 woman, so you can imagine the messages they would receive. I’ve had more fun and met more out of here, someone said I should go to events, but I’ll never go alone.
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JT_team
6 years ago
Why did we join RHP? We met youngish and had only been with each other sexually. We've been fortunate to have found love with each other but as we get older we were honest that wanted to have more sexual experiences with other people. Have we found what we're looking for? We've had limited experience but even from that, from a psychological perspective a big YES! For me (the mrs) I had built it up to be such a big thing in my head and was so nervous, but the actual act was fine and felt natural. It was a big relief that it didn't f*ck us up as a couple or individually and now we're comfortable to explore more of our fantasies. Good and bad point? Good point is for the majority most people are here for the same reason, explore more of their sexuality and are open minded. Bad is finding a match in terms of clicking and timing. It's been a lot harder to get sex than we thought haha and at the beginning we did take it a bit personally with the fakes, pushy, rude people etc. But we've reset expectations we're here for experiences with the right people/timing rather than just quantity and also have learnt so much more about the scene. Lastly, as most people have mentioned, the forums are great - so much content and knowledge to soak up from here alone.
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handjob4u
6 years ago
Why - curious about swinging and keen to find genuine people who are enthusiastic about sex (originally joined years ago under a different profile). Found - like life, there are a wide array of people and personalities. While not everyone is trustworthy, the majority appear to be well intended, and some are truly wonderful people. Bad - people who: target naive newbies, picture-phish, are untrustworthy, cross boundaries, mishandle difficult situations and hurt others. Good - genuine people who respect boundaries, are sexually & intellectually engaging, and make life better for knowing them. Personally, it's been a really fun process of growth and exploration - I've learned a lot about myself and others, and had some truly amazing experiences that I never would have expected in the beginning. There are lessons I wish I hadn't learned the hard way, but overall I'm really grateful for the experiences I've had with the people I've met through this site. A couple in particular!
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Mask_007
6 years ago
Thank everyone is so nice to see how is everyone in they own way join with all most the similar idea. A majority of us have been evolved and learn got something from these experiences. Others continue the same as mentioned by Cave... I am extremely impressed and pleased with all of your posts. Please keep coming... i am sure is much more out there...
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RHP User
6 years ago
Suddenly single at 50, it seemed an easy way to interact with people. Going back into the dating world was pretty daunting. I met some great guys, some who are now lifelong friends. Ticked everything of my hotlist and more. Got involved in the social side and met some amazing men and women. It restored my self esteem and and let the real me come out to play. Bad points..... realising that a lot of people on here are not being entirely honest. It hones the bullshit radar.
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Freaky_Fun
6 years ago
Why did l join? Well l had the separation from hell x 10. I was suffering major depression and PTSD, l had locked myself away from world for a few months barely able to get out of bed, packing on weight because of medication and was fighting to keep my job because of my ex. I got a message from a friend who hadn't seen me training or at the gym for weeks which was unheard of. He suggested l get out more and meet people. At that stage l didn't even like people. He told me to try RHP, l was like WTF is that. I obviously lived under a big fucking vanilla rock for 45 years because l didn't even know swinging was a thing 😆 Anyway fast forward 3 and half years, l joined RHP, l moved 400 km away from my ex, I'm 20kg heavier but now back training, met the most awesome people EVER who I'm lucky to call my friends and have also met the man of my dreams. They are my village who accept me for me. And love them to bits. Oh yeah and every now and then l even have sex 😂 ❤
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RHP User
6 years ago
No turning back for me .... Similar situation to the ones I’ve read . A friend suggested ‘ online dating ‘ ..... I never knew these things existed 😝 I met a lot of cool like minded people, had amazing chats and conversations ,,,,, Did I forgot anything?? Ohhhhh and some wild naughty adventurous times !! Life is good 🙂
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RHP User
6 years ago
We joined RHP because wife wanted to experience the alternative lifestyles and find out what’s out there. Similar to some comments above she was in vanilla monogamous relationship for years and even though she was faithful she still coped hell on earth. Then we met through another app where I stated I was non-monogamous, into bdsm and I was after a life companion who wanted to be free and discover and explore things together while we kept our individual identities and not lose the spark of always being open to something new. She found me and asked me to introduce her to non-monogamy, bdsm, hotwife lifestyle and everything else. Since then I monitored men and women who messaged us, selected those who sounded like they were good conversationalists, as wife loves to talk to people and get to know them, then booked hotels and watched eager and skilled men fuck the wife every way she needed. We also dated women and couples together, so far it’s been interesting. I was on RHP years ago but left as I felt it served its purpose for me. I was happy to leave all this behind and have a normal relationship but then I met the wife who wanted to experience everything I experienced so a relationship which I never thought was possible for me took off. And here we are. I am mostly here for her as I am quite satisfied with all the sex I had before I met her and now that I have her in my life she fulfills all my desires and needs. What I found different with RHP is that I used to meet people who’d offer me depth and substance and usually we’d have something more than sexual connection, I find it hard to come across that now, strange enough it’s far easier to get laid than form friendships or find lovers nowadays. Times have changed really. Mrs doesn’t mind, she loves how easy it is to have access to all these willing men. But I am on Demi-sexual spectrum, I need intimacy to form sexual desires towards someone. Hence why it’s fireworks and earthshaking sex with mrs but I hardly feel interest for anyone else Hook ups, one night stands, booty calls does nothing to me, so I enjoy the show sipping alcohol when my other half lands an occasional horny stud into her net, exhausting the guy to near death with intense sex. I am more interested in having dates with intriguing people so we could talk history while enjoying coffee and desserts. RHP seems to lost lot of those I used to be able to catch up with. It’s still fun though.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Joined over 10 years agoMainly for research into the hotwife lifestyleAlthough Mrs Rough is curious, she is still very nervous about taking that step, so for now i live my fantasies vicariously through others, until the day Mrs Rough feels confident to take the first stepHave found what we are looking for for the moment, and hopefully we will be well prepared when/if the time comes to take the plunge so to speak
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Mask_007
6 years ago
MaenadandCentaur. I know where you come from. I do remember that time where was easy to find people in to good conversation, I miss that as well. Is very interesting how our lives change so much. But in saying that i still enjoy a good session in good company. Luviturf. One day... keep think positive. But tell me what is the positive and the negative about RHT by your eyes? Thank you for all the response... really good... Tell us more... tell us your history
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LetsFrolic
6 years ago
Joined late 20s I'm 42 now.. been on and off here. Between here and amm over that time I've met around 5 people. I'm.keen to.meet anyone I message or flirt.. it's only due to lack of response. I've heard every excuse in the book from I was too skinny to too young etc. I still have faith though. There is alot of nice people on the sites. The ones I have had the opportunity to meet have been great. Fingers crossed there's a single kinky girl out there that wants me while my body still works haha
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RHP User
6 years ago
Handjob4u Unfortunately I’ve had the misfortune of experiencing the ‘bad’ you mention. Trust is important. To be lied to intentionally by nasty, sly, sick fuckers isn’t funny at all. It can actually be quite damaging & life changing. I was a newbie that was targeted in the most horrendous way. There are some very bad people on RHP & other sites, they just start new profiles. Be careful single ladies. Some guys who come across as nice guys, seem pretty normal & have on their profiles “no expectations of sex on my b Hence why my profile isn’t visible at the moment. As for the original question, I joined after someone recommended RHP
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Mask_007
6 years ago
Hi Mitchblue. I am very sorry in hearing that. I don't defend that tipe of behavior. Is inappropriate, cruel, cold, low, and all the other adjectives i can associate to that. Unfortunately in these vast world we all live in is good and bad every where and we all should be extremely careful. Would be just great if people have a bit more consideration for each other. Good luck. And if you would like to talk i would be please to listen to you.
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Ditto what Mask said. Unfortunately all the dating sites have the bad ones as does the normal meeting methods in real life. It's a risk we are all exposed to. We learn to mitigate the risk but it takes time and experience. Fortunately the bad ones are few and far between. Don't let the arseholes take away your chance of finding what you are looking for
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Mitchblue not Maskblue...
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Mask_007
6 years ago
AnnieW... Make your words my. Thank you, always with some a awesome side and good heart... Thank AnnieW Handj... I am extremely sorry for not mention your comment, si so important tha people like you two and everyone out there that pass for that kind of situation talk about and make it more clear to new people about all of that bad behavior that is out there.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I thought I might find an open minded guy to have ongoing kinky fun with.... go to a few clubs, try a few new things. I have met some really hot, amazing guys, who are great fucks... had lots of fun. But yet to meet anyone who has the right attitude to keep my undivided attention. I like the variety, each guy brings something different to the table. I learn. I have fun.
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