Poly relationship

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I think you just meet women from places like here, and get to know them and their situation.I could do it with my husband and one of my girlfriends, they get on well but its up to them if they take it further.at the moment just her and I play with guys. Its a complex situation that I would think takes a while to evolve. I am sure some of the guys from here that are already living like that will give you some good advice.good luck, hope it works out for you both

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  "The Ethical Slut" by Dossie Easton and Janet W.Hardy.It's a great read and opened my eyes to Poly and Open Relationships.All the bestFoxy

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  Cheekyarses

  12 years ago

  That would be a very big decision to make! I firstly think of - compatibility, jealousy issues, family, what happens if it works for the short term, but causes problems! I think you are both very brave n hope you find the right person... Keep us posted - good luck - mrs cheeky x

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  How did you find your husband? How do most people find a partner?As Tuscan said, it's not a job. I can't see how you would advertise for the position. You'd both be open to the possibilities and you'd either find someone or not. Much like dating, if it's not happening quickly enough change what you're doing - but advertising? Eh

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  perhaps on sites like Alt .com...or swingers sites etc

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  So a woman to service you both? Will she live with you? Maybe have children by your husband? There are a million permutations to the agreement. And no you don't advertise for such a role, it has to happen naturally because at the end of the day what are you offering a single woman? Does she have to stay exclusive to you? Or can she still peruse her own happiness??

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  How to find the other or maybe more. OP if you are both keen and open about it then the best approach is proactive disclosure. Let everyone know, from family to work, friends to neighbours. Its like coming out of the polygamy cupboard. As the gay's have done, have pride, be proud, and be out there. The best way to find lovers is to have a large social network (not just facebook). You will be surprised what will come out of that. The grape vine (which I used to despise) is a great communicator of life choices. Before you know it a friend of a friends uncles daughter work associate will hear and if its her thing will gravitate your way.It is simple networking, get the word out there and do not let anyone tell you you are wrong. Be proud of what you want and avertice every chance you get. If you can not stand tall and let the world know what you want now it will never work even if you find someone. Skeletons in the cupboard are not a good thing to have.So advertize, I see you have a mention it in your profile, maybe highlight it a little more. There are dozens of dating websites. For those that still read the paper, put ads in the classifieds. Find and advertises on as many popular meidias as you can. Talk talk talk about it to as many people as you can. Oh and if you really want to make a bang, call the papers, tv channels, make a noise. The fifteen minutes of fame will get you a lifetime of happiness.One last thing about advertising (I made most of my money in advertising) is do not stop till you reach your goal. One add does not cut it. Again and again till some tell you to stop, no don't stop till you find what you are after. Its not a popularity game, you are seeking one from many. Do you dare play that game... LOLI wish you both the best of luck.Thus all said may I ask some questions, pretending to be an intelligent, fit, good looking, interested female.How long have you been together?Do you have children?If so are they all your own?Do you want more children?Do you have a home that you own?What are your plans for retirement?What do you both do?Can I have my own lovers?Who wears the pants?If you can answer all these questions easily and with congruence then you are well on your way to a loving polygamous life. Have set a date on my calendar for 2037 to try and hunt you down to ask. How did it go? Catch ya then. x

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Thanks for the advice :)

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