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Privacy Issues and the Digital World
February 20 2015
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am not on Facebook...privacy is incredibly important to me...I have asked friends and my family not to post my pic on fb,Instagram.Snapchat.Whatevers...I have had a work colleague who I am not friends with,ask me about a party I was at..a friend had posted my pic on her fb page..It seems to me that my right to privacy precedes anyone's right to know everything about me...but once the information is out there in cyber space,it is accessible to anyone who has the skills to retrieve it ..xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
Had you given them your surname? Thats the only way I can think that they could find you on freak book and get your home num. I dont think theres any need to give out too much private info to ppl you see from here. Even my facebook account isnt in my real last name.keep private/family/friends stuff just that... Private and seperate from both sides.
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LifeUnscripted
11 years ago
Privacy is rapidly disappearing. Your date was right, it actually is a very common thing for people to do before dates in the vanilla world. In the swinging world though I think there is a greater expectation of privacy? Of not trying to intrude into the private vanilla lives of people you are engaged with without invitation. At least that is how I see it. We need to allow people to determine their own level of exposure. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
If you have your mobile number linked to your facebook account and give that number to a potential playmate, and they then store that number in their phone (as most of us do so we know who is contacting us) then that person will show up in your "people you may know" list on facebook. Shocked the bejesus out of me! - Posted from rhpmobile
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MissBishere
11 years ago
about it, am I abnormal? I've had my fair share of stalkers but anything I put on the net I figure is no longer private. u also don't google people or do back ground checks on them. maybe I am weird.
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RHP User
11 years ago
In response to your question- I have never had a f 'book a/c but I have advert signage on my vehicle with name and only mobile number. what was a scary thought is my ex had only ever went by her maiden name so at some point my contacts list on my mobile was compromised.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I do not add people to my face book at all, unless they are family or a friend. I have been contacted several times on face book and ask to befriends, and i have had to say NO. My kids have access to my face book and how would i explain some hottie with a six pack? I think the woman is utterly wrong, If anyone is does that my advice is to runnnnnnnnn and never look back.
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RHP User
11 years ago
While Im single........ I have nothing to hide or be ashamed of.
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RHP User
11 years ago
To me it shows insecurity on the woman's part and that is an unattractive trait. I understand that people may search on facebook out of curiosity, but to tell you that she did it is very strange indeed and to go on and say that it was a background check? It just shows a lot of insecurity on her part and that's what I would be more worried about rather than a lack of privacy. Im not worried about privacy, but insecurity of that type is a very unattractive quality
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RHP User
11 years ago
You just don't care if someone tracks down your ex,knows where she lives,where you live and where your child lives? ..go figure xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
No I have never done it, but I know some women do. I have a girlfriend who will actively do searches on men she has met online. Often ends up knowing where they live and work from throw away comments a man may make via email or from the first meet over coffee.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'thepeach' I do not add people to my face book at all, unless they are family or a friend. I have been contacted several times on face book and ask to befriends, and i have had to say NO. I recently saved the phone number of another forumite to my Android. Several days later Facebook suggested her as a friend. I suddenly knew her last name, what her kids looked like, etc. Bloody freaky! OP, I think you didn't overreact at all.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes your work advert on your car would be how it was done. And I deffinately wouldnt feel comfortable hearing what she told you. That would totally shock me if I was told that. And would be a big no for any further contact
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't give my phone number out anymore! I have had a couple of stalker type issues and it's very unnerving because if you say no then that should be it, it doesn't mean I want them to keep trying to come onto me or get my attention, I'm not interested! I'm in the middle of a nasty divorce and he seriously does not need this kind of ammunition to use against me, so yes I am extremely cautious and OP I think checking someone out on Facebook is a serious enough issue to ditch her. I was the ex wife on the other end of one of his friends contacting me! I did not appreciate it at all.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' You just don't care if someone tracks down your ex,knows where she lives,where you live and where your child lives? ..go figure xxFreya I call that person my ex's 2nd husband. And theyre welcome to eachother.
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RHP User
11 years ago
That's some stalker level shit there OP. I don't think you over reacted at all. Don't get me wrong, I understand why it happens but I mean if you are going to intrude on someone's privacy like that don't sit there and openly advertise it! Keep the whole thing super-spy like and just wear a knowing (but undercover) grin. But hey, look on the bright side. You got to discover they are total psycho's before anything progressed further. That's always awesome. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
being single has nothing to do with it. And "shame" and nothing wrong? What has that got to do with a persons concern over their privacy and desire of safety and security? Saint dg from down town Salem. I do wrong things all the time. As for shame , yes dg all we need us another finger wagging pious goody two shoes to shame us for wanting privacy. I have plenty to be ashamed of. Especially taking the last but if cake out if the fridge un the dead of night and shoving it my gob.... Now there us an image for face book. And kissing a dinosaur, yiu must feel a twinge of same un that. And if that jacket does not make you blush nothing will.😱 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I always do background searches on google before I go to work with new people- they expect me to know about them, their company etc... I know I was google searched a lot today and yesterday (I have an alert when people google search me...) I don't google search anyone from here... Because I'm not wanting to... And by the time I shag them I'm generally FB friends already anyway.... Xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
It affects your family and your friends. I have seen some ugly stuff offline when people go postal with the information they get off here. Think divorce and child custody. Think about getting that new job you want. Think of how people's perceptions of you will change. Single people do not need their future boss, their children, their mums or what ever to know their whole private life. You don't pull your pants down in a public square and say hey, look at me nothing to hide. So why think it's ik to do in digital. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
For a faith based organisation,they're currently wanting to include in contracts information about their employees lifestyle choices,including sexual relationships outside of marriage and sexual orientation...the union is fighting it but !!xxFreys
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RHP User
11 years ago
dont give out your real name at least until you know the person. I mean its not rocket science is it?There are a huge amount of weirdos, perverts, creeps and some really deviant people frequenting these sites. Sorry but I personally think you over reacted. She was interested enough to find out things about you so take it a compliment. Google is most peoples friend these days and I would rather safety over privacy any day!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'thepeach' being single has nothing to do with it. And "shame" and nothing wrong? What has that got to do with a persons concern over their privacy and desire of safety and security? Saint dg from down town Salem. I do wrong things all the time. As for shame , yes dg all we need us another finger wagging pious goody two shoes to shame us for wanting privacy. I have plenty to be ashamed of. Especially taking the last but if cake out if the fridge un the dead of night and shoving it my gob.... Now there us an image for face book. And kissing a dinosaur, yiu must feel a twinge of same un that. And if that jacket does not make you blush nothing will.😱 - Posted from rhpmobile There you go.... being an unfun old cranklepants again. As I can see... the OP asked for personal opinions.... making mine perfectly valid. You cannot control what other people say or do.... but... you can control how you react to them, and you can control how easily your personal information can be accessed publicly with a little forethought. But I thank you and your re- born profile for your .....continued focus. DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
And I'm shocked that she would even tell you of her actions, but she is correct in saying that many women do but I believe men do as well. Social Networking has become acceptable social stalking A few weeks ago one of my work colleagues posted information regarding the work we do on FB in answer to one of her friends questions. This was viewed by pure coincidence by a employee of one the government contractors we work for. This employee was a mutual friend. As a result of this persons indiscretion, they were sacked and the company lost this major government contract. Since then we have had new contracts drawn up by our employer stating very strong terms and conditions regarding using social networking and our work and based on what the employee wrote , I think that is fair enough On a personal note I was seeing someone from here as well. A lovely gentleman, but his old flame , got wind of our friendship and with the help of others , tracked me down on FB and caused issues for me. I closed my account down and discontinued seeing this person. It wasn't his fault but we both didn't need this shit in our lives. I no longer have any social media accounts and I never give my phone number to anyone anymore as one poster just said, if you have FB on your phone it syncs your FB with your contact list and before you know it you can inadvertedly have all this information about someone that you weren't after Kik is the go
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RHP User
11 years ago
That's bullshit! Biggest hypocrites are religious factions, my kids all go to catholic schools, I know for a fact quite a few of the teachers are gay. I have brought my kids up to respect people based on the person not on their sexual preferences!
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
I'm very single and have nothing to hide or be ashamed of, but I still think it's unexpectable to stalk someone, it's down right creepy. I wouldn't like it done to me, so I would do it to someone else. My facebook is very personal, there are some things I'd rather keep to myself and that would be my children and family.....💋
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RHP User
11 years ago
I work in IT and I loathe social media but it's almost a requirement - well some sort is anyway as far as employment and keeping connected with news sources goes. Mostly my concerns are around music and unfortunately almost all musicians use Facebook and Twitter as comms platforms which means I have to as well if I want to keep up. That said, I willingly admit I have used a false name on both platforms, I have only fragments of my face (different photos) as profile photos, and I keep very quiet on them as far as comments etc goes. I untag myself from photos, you name it. LinkedIn is probably the only social media platform where I have a full facial photo with my real name. And even then, it's locked down. The only references to my full name are sanctioned and sanitised references I have allowed out there on the web, and this example is just one reason why. It's not that I have anything to hide (anyone who has exchanged mail with me here or elsewhere will tell you I am pretty open actually) but rather I value my privacy. Thankfully I work in an industry and can therefore understand enough about to protect myself as much as possible. This isn't to say you can't find me, but you would have to have a fairly good idea about a large range of things to actually go about finding me. And you would have to be determined too. I'm strongly considering shelling out for more privacy in the next few months.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Take responsibility for your online privacy! You only have yourself to blame if others can see what you put on Facebook. Learn about privacy settings or get over everyone looking at all your pics & posts.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' While Im single........ I have nothing to hide or be ashamed of. That's what I used to say, until one nasty piece of work sent screenshots of my posts, pics and the rest to my employer. Such joy.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Fb..... threw up 3 ... 'you may knows ..... simultaneously the other day .... a little creepy ..when you think that the opp. number ..may be receiving the same info at the same time .....
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Quoting 'thepeach' being single has nothing to do with it. And "shame" and nothing wrong? What has that got to do with a persons concern over their privacy and desire of safety and security? Saint dg from down town Salem. I do wrong things all the time. As for shame , yes dg all we need us another finger wagging pious goody two shoes to shame us for wanting privacy. I have plenty to be ashamed of. Especially taking the last but if cake out if the fridge un the dead of night and shoving it my gob.... Now there us an image for face book. And kissing a dinosaur, yiu must feel a twinge of same un that. And if that jacket does not make you blush nothing will.😱 - Posted from rhpmobile There you go.... being an unfun old cranklepants again. As I can see... the OP asked for personal opinions.... making mine perfectly valid. You cannot control what other people say or do.... but... you can control how you react to them, and you can control how easily your personal information can be accessed publicly with a little forethought. But I thank you and your re- born profile for your .....continued focus. merci mon belle amie
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RHP User
11 years ago
because youre scared of tech. Protip: there is no such thing as anonymity on the interenet - the second you put something up there, its gone, its public domain. She look at your facebook page, not opened your friggin mail or camped out at your ex's house and watched your kids. get over yourself
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'innerwest123' because youre scared of tech. I'd disagree slightly. I don't think it's tech related, but more privacy related. Ignoring the anonymity on the internet thing, things like children and ex's can be sensitive topics. Maybe you don't tell every prospective partner from the first date you have kids. Maybe you are going through problems with your ex around the kids and he or she has been rather indiscreet about it on social media. Do you really want someone you just met prying into that? Suffice to say, you are correct in that anonymity on the internet is almost impossible and that people should be more careful about what they allow to be posted to the web regarding themselves. Quoting 'innerwest123' the second you put something up there, its gone, its public domain. Not to correct you, but honestly?, this is a falsehood. Depending where you post it, and when you post it, there is a good likelihood it's public domain. Sites like Facebook, Twitter, MySpace, LiveJournal etc have ridiculously large caches and very rapid indexing to search engines of live and cached data, but some small forum or personal website out in the rest of the web? Unlike it's being specifically flagged to be indexed often or someone quotes you on the forum, you can sometimes backtrack if you need to. It all comes down to timing. Moral of the story, don't say silly things on the web you wouldn't say to someone's face.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Putting your information on public display is in effect an invitation for anyone to view it for what every reason they want. If you do not wish people to know this information then you should not put it on public display. I think people are way to trusting with some information and overly protective of the wrong information. Personally I don't really care if someone does a background check on me, maybe I do care a little bit but only because its more fun when it comes from the horses mouth.
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