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Privacy and Identity - Do you want your friends to know what you get up to?

March 17 2011

Just curious as how many people out there with friends or acquaintances that know that they are swingers? What has sparked the question is someone has recently added us to msn, which in turn must be linked to their Facebook page, so now almost all of their details are now available to us. Not that we personally will use this information in any shape of form, but if it happened to get into the wrong persons hands it could end up nasty. Ourselves personally would prefer to keep our 2 lives, so to speak, separate. But in saying that we have one close friend that knows our "dirty little secret" , however we won't be telling any others. We have 2 different email addresses for our friends to our playmates so this won't hopefully happen to us. I know it sounds a bit paranoid, but hell we don't want some stranger stalking or harassing us if they didn't take it too kindly to something that may or may not have happened, or develop an infatuation. We have kids to think about also like many of us on here.CheersMr Sum

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RHP User

15 years ago

Facebook is insidious... I get suggested friends from I don't know where, going back years and years. I go through suggested friends list at list once a week and block people I don't know personally/don't want to know. Not that non-friends should be able to see anything on there anyway.

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RHP User

15 years ago

my sis knows everything as she's my lifeguard. . and I love to tell the old ducks at work some things to shock the hell out of them, and they LOVE it but they don't know which site, etc. . I have a separate email/IM address as you never know who someone is when you first give it out, so giving access to the whole 'real' life right upfront is taking a big chance on an unknown. You often don't know much about them til AFTER you've talked to them, so a little caution is necessary. . I also don't play in my own backyard you just never know where or when you might bump into people around here, this is just playtime for me and since i'm not looking for anything more, I NEED to keep my playmates separate from my kids for their happiness and safety. . xx Sarah

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RHP User

15 years ago

i do as Sarah does...i have a seperate msn addy for all the men on here and another one for me and all the other stuff i do plus like Polar bear if they have locked up their FB you shouldnt be able to see anything from the outside mine is locked up now thankfully after a good friend found me on there and was able to name my kids...so its locked up tighter than fortknox lol roxxy

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RHP User

15 years ago

I have two separateemail addresses, two separate msn accounts and two separate facebook accounts. One whole new identity. Nobody finds me unless I want them to.

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RHP User

15 years ago

I only show my kinky side to the public. I have no facebook account because they refused to accept the name "Mistress". My msn is geared to my kinky profession. If anyone recognises me from my face pics then I will know that they are into the same things so it's no problem. Anything private stays off public websites.

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RHP User

15 years ago

Multiple emails and multiple accounts.... my goodness... I need a secretary! Apply for an audition! I keep my worlds separate. Family and family friends have their interests and between us we keep our sex lives private. I've no need to share my sexual interests with my sister for instance. Hugs S

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RHP User

15 years ago

It's Friday. I still hate my job. May I have a position description please Stalky? If nothing else this would be a most interesting role. Suspect the pay may be a bit shady, but worth a look, right?

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RHP User

15 years ago

I spend a lot of time in any number of public venues and truthfully, it's hard to wander through a mall like Chaddy on a busy Saturday at times without running in to someone that has been at an event I have spoken at or attended for any number of professional reasons. | Some of those programs you mentioned have more security leaks that Wiki...there are even instructions out there on youtube on how to "visit your friends" in MySpace that aren't even your acquaintences. No thanks...and maybe ask KRudd about FaceBook? Of course when his profile was linked to that model/stripper/hooker it must have been a mistake? | I like to keep my friends close...and behind closed doors. Enemies are obvious...and definitely don't need those in my face.

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RHP User

15 years ago

I closed down my facebook account due to the lack of privacy. Friend added my friends to her page (even though she'd never met some of them and others she had only met a couple of times) and when we had a falling out she was able to still find out about me through their pages. So I just don't use it. I have seperate email addresses and for all my online accounts and email addresses I never use my true date of birth or full name or address details as you never know who may be able to hack into them. I'm careful of my privacy even in the "straight laced world" let alone in this situation. I organised a seminar on Internet Safety as part of a previous job and it was scarey how quickly and easily someone can find out all sorts of details about you if they want to. Thats why I'm so careful. Had an online stalker for almost a year around 5 years ago and even though I would block their email addresses they would create new ones and start again. K

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RHP User

15 years ago

you can now put your setting on so only your friends can see what you have there, thats what mine is on...plus you can now just have your wall open to only certain people...so if you dont want frank to see your status' then you can make it so he cant but everyone else can i have a few people from RHP on my FB but only those i trust i dont have anything to hide so i have my friends, my RHP mates and my family on my FB and a lot of kids that im very protective of and so far i have found everyone to be respectful of everyone else...so thankfully i havent had to worry about anyone so to me if you lock everything up as tight as possible...then you are fairly safe and private roxxy

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RHP User

15 years ago

Why do we need to hide???? Swingers should not feel like they need to hide, what is this bad thing that will happen if other people know the fact that you like having sex with people other then your partner! I have told loads of people and noone has reacted badly, I've never lost a job over it, noone has ever turned against me. I am not saying everyone needs to know all the details but if it comes out what us the harm? We have swinger friends on here and on Facebook - we don't msn because it does not work for us. Of course we don't going posting things like "we fucked our selves silly last night at a swingers party" on Facebook because we use that for "muggle business" rather then swinging stuff, we use this site for swinging stuff of course. That says we will put status updates on Facebook like "what a great time last night. Referring to a swingers party. Why be ashamed of your dirty little secret. I understand that some people want this to be their own thing and the secret nature of it makes it more sexy, but the longer swingers hide about who they are the longer non-swingers will not understand! Swinger Pride!!!

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RHP User

15 years ago

I dont hide my lifestyle choice from anyone...work...friends...family - they all know....my facebook page is locked down to friends only (but more for those security conscious friends on my page than myself) ...I make veiled references to my activites (I too have minors on there) but if children I know wish to add me as friends I discuss it with their parents first making sure they are aware that my page really is an adult friendly page and inappropriate comments are likely to appear...its usually all good after that... . You do what you need to do to feel comfortable...not everyone is as open as me...not everyone is lucky to have the family and friends that I do...not everyone can get away with what I do at work...I understand that..its your choice...your life... . Kisses Focus

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DonnaBrett

15 years ago

All of our regular friends know what we do...no one has ever had an issue with it...some have even come over to the 'Dark Side" LOL. It has not changed our friendships at all. We figure if anyone did have an issue with our lifestyle, that's their issue not ours! Brett's work mates all know & some of Donna's but we don't care and they don't judge. Family don't know of course, there's no need to freak out elderly parents, kids don't know..although the eldest daughter probably wouldn't be shocked ...she knows we don't live a conventional life anyway (that's excluding swinging). We are hopeless at telling lies anyway..so trying to juggle different email addresses, double Facebook accounts and fake names wouldn't work for us. What you see is what you get! Pure & simple.If you are concerned about people finding out, then you're probably playing the wrong game..there are thousands in this scene..chances are eventually you will cross paths with someone from your real life.... if it happens just laugh it off cos they're in it as well!

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