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Privacy settings to prevent overflowing inboxes

May 15 2025

I have seen lots of posts about other women feeling overwhelmed by the amt of messages they get on here. I experience the same when I joined so thought might be worth sharing for anyone else feeling the same. It’s not in RHP’s commercial interest to stop men sending messages so I am guessing it’s never something they’ll highlight but… Even on a guest account you do not have to have your inbox open to anyone. You don’t even need to have your profile open to anyone. Below are the settings I use on a guest account which means nobody can message or even view my profile unless I like them first…So the onus is on me to make contact, and I don’t have to worry about ignoring guys who I am not interested in connecting with. I hope this helps ladies 💖

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Thesunlovingsub

one year ago

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Thesunlovingsub

one year ago

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NeoAndTrin

one year ago

Good info for newbies for sure

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LiveLifeNow28

one year ago

I haven’t renewed my membership after the first 12mths and from what I can see unless I do I’m not able to change these settings. If people took the time to actually read profiles and respected preferences before sending messages this wouldn’t be an issue!

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Blueflamingo

one year ago

I've found show when active and being featured also makes a huge difference in how many messages I get as a guest.

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Feelsgood

one year ago

I create folders for conversations and that way any on-going messages from people who I think No Thanks go into my No Thanks folder, Yes Please into Yes Please and then at least if they keep messaging I know I've already worked out where they fit or don't...

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Brian_Breynolds

one year ago

I guess we should give people the benefit of the doubt that they aren’t aware of these settings. But it does seem to me that the majority of women are unwilling to use them and take more initiative and control on here. The jury is still out on why that happens though.

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RHP User

one year ago

Yeah so I have a theory about this …. I think the noise of an overcrowded inbox creates a buffer … a way to hide from all the demands and expectations. When people ask “why didn’t she reply??” “She” can say she’s not rude… just overwhelmed Ultimately… We usually get to the point where we no longer need the buffer of an overflowing inbox and we get comfortable with not feeling any need to justify our actions and mollify people who add nothing to our lives Or maybe people really don’t want to talk to me and that’s why my inbox is 🦗🦗🦗🦗 Tbf I’ve used filters for a while and never had this overwhelming inbox issue … Or I’m just socially awkward so people avoid me… who knows or cares??

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