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"Professional"...to be or not to be ?
March 31 2012
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RHP User
14 years ago
The professionals that announce their status as such on their profiles definitely have attitude. Professionals that are comfortable with themselves enough not to bignote themselves with this announcement will probably be cool with your own manner of making a living.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I think everyone has a need for discretion Debs, maybe there is a degree of snobbery about some people, or perhaps they don't think there will be enough common interest. If they are I would say move on, they aren't worth your effort.The world needs all types of people, just because your a pro doesn't make you a better person, well not in my book anyway.Cheers Felonius
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RHP User
14 years ago
What does professional even mean,different things to different people I would suggest.A profile description is only a beginning .It's not until you meet people that you really know if there is attraction and connection. For me sex is not just about sex,or why would we bother even with a conversation.
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RHP User
14 years ago
But I dont know that it's "so important" that it's on there. It's just a description.We're both uni educated and work in "professional" type jobs (actually more creative than professional). If we're looking to hook up with people that are more likely to have a common interest then that's handy information to have.We have friends from all walks of life, but they are all similar to us in at least some way - geography, jobs, hobbies, sports preferences, age, ethnicity.Everyone is the same, we all tend to associate with people who are similar to ourselves by default. It's got nothing to do with snobbery, it's obvious that you will simply have more in common with people like yourself.If you are just looking for a physical attraction of course then it doesn't matter at all. In a club or group situation that can work for us but if trying to hook up with people here we're more likely to be looking for people we can connect with in other ways. "Professional" is just part of the description we use to describe each other and is no more or less important than age, location, sexual preferences, body type, star sign or any other category you want to use to establish a common interest.Variety is the spice of life though, and I wouldn't think too many here would limit their choices based on occupations.Mr Chick
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RHP User
14 years ago
if past posts on this topic are any indicator....Pass the popcorn thanks N :)
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RHP User
14 years ago
This same forum went around a few months back and Im guilty too, I did have the word professional in my profile but after reading the thread, I did remove it....should I have ?, I dont know..but Im ok with the decision that I did...I accept the fact that I was blessed with brains and not Angelinas bod or sex appeal...Im quirky not sexy., I appeal to some but not others.... ......horses for courses... But the main reason I had it there was to explain to potential playmates that I work long, irregular hours as Im a doctor in a specialised field which includes massive amounts of shift work......I could be out on a playdate and get '"THE CALL" and under my contract and terms of work, I must leave wherever I am and be on a scene within an hour. I do at times go out when I am on call (otherwise I would have no life as Im on call alot..Perth does not have many doctos that do what I do...) and I have chosen to play but of course I never drink on those nites...EVER When I listed it in my profile, it wasnt a elitist remark - never entered my head that I was "better" than anyone else....god 8 years at Uni, you associate with everyone from every kind of background...and trust me thats a great thing....and Im mates with those people still today.......very handy knowing lawyers, accountants etc however to be honest, I wish I knew more bloody tradies..this after all is Perth where a electrician can charge you the same fee as neuro surgeon due to the lack of tradies living/working in Perth- they are all up at the mines....and pulling more dough than I am !!! Its fair to say that I mainly mix with people with people from a medical /police background simply due to the longs hours we spend in each others company and the chill time that we are forced to spend with each other after we finish our shifts...simply cause we are too frigging tired to drive home...... My bestie g/f works in the mines as a truckie and she pulling as much money as me good for her..., another 2 very close friends of mine are artists.., anolther close friend is on a disability pension.....I certainly do not judge a person by what they do, but how they treat me and others.... However I understand that the word "professional" can be interpreted the way the OP has stated, so in order not to eliminate any prospects I did drop the word from my profile...but then a quick glance at my profile prior to writing this, methinks, should I drop other words as well?...I am well educated and traveled ( thanks to work) do I drop those words too ???, wheres the line ?....when should I stop apologising for being.................I dont know.....................ME ?
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RHP User
14 years ago
I had to go back and check my profile to see if it was in there and yes, I'm 'guilty' too. Why is it ok to say you're a housewife, a milkman, a student or a tradie but not a professional? It's just info to give a little flavour as to who you are and what you do. For what it's worth, most men don't give a monkeys about what women do anyway, they're more taken by a decent rack or booty and a fun attitude ;)
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tomrach79
14 years ago
Definetly discretion. Some occupations unfortunately cannot have this lifestyle in the public domain and attached to them. I don't think it is being above anybody else. Tom.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Village idiot Wanna play with me? Depends what the profession is I guess. I just do not want to end up with a guy with a rats tail, ugh boots, flannel shirt , track pants and a night out is a night at Big mac,on Centrelink pay day Yep I am a snob But if your just gonna get naked and your a Bogan from Rockingham, work on the mines and you have big abs and lean body and know how to use that member or yours. Then all bets are off, who can resist a bit of rough byo Tool belt and tool
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QLDtwo4fun
14 years ago
We also include 'professional' in our description, basically for the reasons Chickcara gave. J&j
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RHP User
14 years ago
Yes they may state they're professional, however many seem to have been away that day reading and comprehending profiles was taught.
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RHP User
14 years ago
This topic comes up every six months or so in various forms. But I don't mind, it is better than someone resurrecting at 2 year old thread that most of the posters have left the site!But back on topic, I think most put down "PROFESSIONAL" as a badge of honour, like look at us, we are so educated we only fart in the bathroom! As for the very tired old line of using the P word as an excuse for the lack of photo's, that just doesn't wash anymore. If their concern was not being seen, how will they meet anyone and if they do, does the person or people lucky enough to be granted the privilege of meeting a professional have to sign a confidentiality agreement promising never to reveal who they met? Seriously, if someone is that worried about being found here, THEY SHOULD FUCKING WELL BE ON HERE! Hugs, Huggles and Gropes .. Mooka
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RHP User
14 years ago
...it's a bit precious to start dissecting profiles on a word by word basis. I see the word "professional" as a very pleasant euphemism that helps identify people that I may be interested in talking to and getting to know. I call myself an "outlaw and entrepreneur" and if you want to add professional in a couple of fields...feel free, as they are so diametrically opposed it's almost ludicrous. Sure, on one side of the street I walk I need the flash suit and tie...guilty as hell, I dress for success. Of course the folks I meet there are a lot more fun once we have an established relationship and can kick back wearing shorts and Hawaiian shirts sitting on the back of their boats at the Quay. | On the other side of my ever so precious professional world, I would have to dress up to dress down...it's a totally casual environment and people from all walks of life come and go as they please. I like this part much more than the other...but until the income from one overtakes the other, I'll keep tying the double overhand Windsor knots in the silk. | White, blue, brown or none at all......who gives a ratzass really about the colour or collar of your shirt or dress...or the lack thereof. If anything in my profile offends someone...chances are we aren't going to get along anyway. | Pass the Smoked Almonds and bust open a stubbie for me too. | | Okay, so it's not a domestic...but it's still beer!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hell, I am professional but only because I take money for what I do. I doubt that those who seek other professionals would see it the same way...lol.
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RHP User
14 years ago
...go "Pro Team RHP". | Quoting 'MistressT'I doubt that those who seek other professionals would see it the same way...lol. | Okay, so maybe it's the boots...but it's not a fetish dammit, I just like them.
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RHP User
14 years ago
So its all agreed that saying you're a professional does not make you arrogant? Great. Now then, as you were, peasants.
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RHP User
14 years ago
...so just keep them under glass. Besides, if you say something silly like "Let them eat cake"....you'll be giving head whether you really want to or not. Vive la revolucion! | I think you better come along quietly now...we need to hold an executive board meeting in the Tower and sort your professionalism out. | Note: Please ignore any screaming, that's just the final caveats of the Corporal Minutes being...signed and stamped.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Using the word professional is not a deal breaker for us, we would have a expectation of presentation of a couple who describes themselves as professional.We don't read any negatives into it.The reasons for rejection can be huge, we don't try to figure it out just ....next!
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RHP User
14 years ago
I think Professional sounds fine... it’ a whole heap easier talking about Case matters , Litigation, and contracts than trying to explain to some hottie why feeding a dead hooker into a wood chipper is the best way to dispose of unwanted dead hookers Isn’t It ?,
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RHP User
14 years ago
...when I first clicked onto this thread, by the title, I thought someone was contemplating becoming a professional ... um, ... well, ... working girl.
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RHP User
14 years ago
All Professionals are equal, but some are more equal than others...AMEN.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Well done Mr C,I had to read no further than your post, though I did. You summed it up perfectly. For example - If it is important to anyone that the people they play with are amputees - then put it in your profile so we all know.KP
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'sexymylf' Why does anyone bother to put this on their profile? A professional footy player, a professional serial killer? Which is it? What does it matter? I can converse with people of all walks of life and im no professional. Like the guy who tried to tell me tonight that hes a professional so he cant have his pics on public view. When i asked what this job was he replied its a public occupation like a banker or lawyer. I told him i knew what a professional was and again asked him. He again went on to tell me that professional people cannot be seen on these sites as it damages their reputations and that hes in finance???? Spare me the mumbo jumbo please. He would tell me more about him once we meet and play. WTF? Give me a tradie anyday. At least theyre not afraid of their pics being on public view and dont patronise us poor non professionally uneducated bums it's his choice, his free will...... just depends how you take it i guesssigned 'professionally uneducated '
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RHP User
14 years ago
And not a particularly important one. Being seen here would be awkward for my career, but that's not why we dont show our faces in public.Our life here is kept separate from our families and lots of vanilla friends. Some dont need to do that and good for them, but we do, and why is really none of your business. It wouldn't matter if we cleaned toilets, built houses or flew a space shuttle, we will always keep our sexual exploits private.As I said before, our profile uses professional as part of a broader description. At no point do we say we only meet with other 'professionals', there are lots of interesting people from all walks of life here.The word however is obviously ambiguous. The reality is we have a lot more in common with starving artists than with bankers and lawyers. So when I get a chance I will remove it from our profile and replace with something a bit less contentious - maybe we'll admit to being politicians, tabloid journalists or used car salesmen, that should be more popular.Mr C
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quite simply, people from different socio-economic backgrounds communicate differently. They use different words, they pronounce things differently, and often they have different views on what language is vulgar or overly pompous. No particular style is right or wrong, but it can be a turn off when there is a clash.My partner and I are middle class. We are both university educated and professionally employed. Whether it's people from adult dating sites or real world friends, without exception we get along best with those who have similar backgrounds to ourselves. We have some acquaintances who are very definitely upper class. To us they seem to be putting on unnecessary airs and graces. Sometimes I just want to tell them to pull the stick out of their arse and come down to earth.On the flip side, anyone who we have socialised with who comes from a blue collar background tends to be more brash and vulgar in their speech. The way they flirt and talk about sex makes me cringe; I want to tell them to get some class!For us, communication and mental connection is a major factor in attraction. Prospective play partners being "professionals" is not a prerequisite, but it very often helps.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'MrsPeachyPlayful' our motorbike riding white collar worker! Whew, one I'd recommend to Tuscan's Scarlet Ladies. He hasn't been on for over a month though and I couldn't even say he's still in the country but mmmm. Hugs... Mrs P Yeah where did he go? must have mad a pit stop someplace, he was all the go there for a while on the forums.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'wowwow11' I think Professional sounds fine... it’ a whole heap easier talking about Case matters , Litigation, and contracts than trying to explain to some hottie why feeding a dead hooker into a wood chipper is the best way to dispose of unwanted dead hookers Isn’t It ?, No wonder your roses look so good.
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RHP User
14 years ago
After reading 100's of profiles and meeting so called Professionals. it seems to mean "we are stuck up and will find fault in almost anything till we find a reason not to play" Funny enough most of of friends (and ourselves) are professionals ? So we worked out it must be just an excuse to not answer messages/not meet/not play or even put up decent pics. Of course , most of us dont want bogan partners who cant string a sentence together...or live in caravans. however adding " iam a professional" to your profile, doenst seem to help this :)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Maybe if people used wording to discribe what line of work they were in rather than the word "Professionals" :-)
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RHP User
14 years ago
I don't think it's an ego thing - not for the majority anyways. I think it's a TRUST thing. Being in a position of influence or working with children etc could work against you within this community. So I think the need to state "Professional" is just a need to reinforce, "It is expected you will be discreet". A little extra assurance and increased chances they'll collaborate with the right folks.
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RHP User
14 years ago
like playing professionals and oh the dressups there's Nurse, Madam, Officer ........pass the Bolly please and the freshly shucked oysters doused in Gran Patron
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RHP User
14 years ago
State that you are professional amateurs and reap the benefits of both.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Couldn't care less if your a Dr or a Dustman. Its all about the person & personality for me. For nearly all of us its about discretion anyway. :) :)
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RHP User
14 years ago
I'm kinda bemused by this whole discussion TBH. I guess what initially had me scratching my head is that theres alot of discussion about whether someone with professional in thier profile is arrogant. Yet it occurs to me that before you can make that determination you need to define what 'professional' meands and then evaluate the context its used in. For example, I have 'young professional' in my profile. I'm not trying to big note myself or look down on anyone, i just dont want to describe exactly what i do on an online dating profile as i work in a small feild where everyine knows each other and 'professional' was the best way i could think to describe my type of employment (i.e i work in an office based job and you need a uni degree to do what i do). Now that doesnt mean i'm not interested in talking to everyone from check-out chicks to nobel laurieats but those people may be looking for something specific and I dont want to waste their time.
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RHP User
14 years ago
The number of proclaimed "professional" profiles that can't even spell the word, let alone any of the following, detracts from the presumed purpose of hanging out the P shingle.proffesionalindependantrecieve but.ecteptional" We are a proffesional couple......." oh please, skip the rest!I'll spare this thread my views on grammar and sentence structure.Dogs balls have more chance of hiding than slipping those textual pearlers into such a profile.Signed
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RHP User
14 years ago
We are guilty of using the word professional in our profile. For us it is purely a descriptive word and not meant to be offensive or exclusive at all. I worked in a so called "blue collar" environment for over ten years, whilst my wife wears a suit. We like meeting all types of people, so for us the word professional probably isn't meant to be taken literally. We do however like people to have a grasp on current events, along with the ability to make interesting conversation. For us it makes it easier to "break the ice" so to speak.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I dont think putting professional as a description in a profile has any intent to 'big nose' a person or sound 'better'.....or for any other 'spin' you may want to attach to it. I have it in my profile.....put there as a means of describing a part of me.There's been enough forums about profiles and lack of description and content so adding this I always thought was a part of making my profile read as real and genuine.HOWEVER...having read the posts here, Im beginning to wonder if it's giving out the wrong impression.....think i will remove it and see if it makes a difference........Never occured to me that using this description might turn people off ......I guess it just goes to show how different we all are......
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RHP User
14 years ago
As soon as I see that someone has gone out of their way to mention that they are 'professionals', it normally scares us off. What is a professional anyway? Who knows. A person in a suit that has no life? That's normally the first thing that comes to my mind.I don't really care what someone does for money, but when they make a point of being 'professional', that's an instant turn off. I don't think that what you do for work should define who you are as a person.
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abcplus1
14 years ago
For us in the past hubby had a job where discretion was everything, a damaged reputation could have compromised his work.
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RHP User
14 years ago
My Mother told me that life is like a box of chocolates................ you never know what you are gonna get on the inside. It takes all sorts, don't sweat the small stuff.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Why judge someone because they want to give you some background information. Personally I like to know these things. Its info I use when deciding whether I want to get to know someone or not. It's not judgemental or snobby - just preference at the time. Depends on my mood and whether I want intellectual stimulation, hot raw sex or both from the same person. A bit of variety is the best :) SFxx
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RogueGeek
14 years ago
Do people expect other RHP members to identify them and then go out of their way to tell the world who is on RHP? Have a little faith, people!"Discretion" is thrown about so much it makes me want to throw something else. Sure - don't send out press releases details who you're sleeping with, but we're not talking state secrets here. And to be honest, if being on RHP damages my career, then I'm not sure I want that career. What I do in my own time with other consenting adults is my own business, and I see no reason to apologise for that. Hell, Shane Warne was involved in multiple sex scandals and it certainly didn't damage his career. If anything it gave him a boost...I think the world just needs to take a chill pill and get over who does what with their pink bits. So long as everybody is over the age of censent, and freely participating, let it be.As for "professional"... technically you only need to be paid for your job to be a "professional". If "discretion" is so important then wouldn't it be better to meet people who are from social circles as far removed from your own as possible? Should not the "professional" seek the "bogan"? I met a "professional" who was, in fact, a glorified receptionist and incredibly boring. I've met people with post-grad degrees, and others who left school in year 10, and they all have an equal chance of being interesting or boring.As for me, I don't even have a real job so I can't possible be a "professional". I guess all you peeps with your bachelor degrees had better move on to the next profile.Cheers,MS
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Playful2looking
14 years ago
cool go for it pass the pop corn.this topic sounds like fun... some white collor workers are twits some bogans are wankers; some bogans make more money then professionals. Me i try to look beyond the labels.
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tomrach79
14 years ago
Its a given than plenty of profiles on here are rubbish. Therefore, no one can be trusted. I may or may not have ended up on the news last week. The last thing I need is 'see that guy there, well he and his Missus are swingers and they fucked the christ out of me last week. Then his Missus nd I ... ' Sometimes it's necessary for some discretion. Maybe 'professional' is the wrong word. Discretion maybe?
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RHP User
14 years ago
We like the description 'professionals' and would read further into the profile to see if we are compatible in other ways. Why? Because they are likely (please note the word likely, there are obviously exceptions!) to have been reasonably educated,be able to hold a conversation, be more likely to share the cost of a nice motel room and be discreet. Whilst spelling and grammar in messages and profiles is also important to us it is not definitive and we know even some highly qualified people have spelling issues! We do not exclude other profiles that are not 'professionals' but we do have a strong preference to play with a couple who are similar in outlook to us, certainly nothing arrogant about that. We would never play with just anyone but again, that is just us. What others choose to do is up to them but we are here to meet nice, decent clean living couples we can have mutual fun with. We have a fabulous relationship together already and only do this for fun, which means we will be selective (call that arrogant if you wish). Others are here for as much random sex as possible, each to their own.
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RHP User
14 years ago
i'm a professional idiot... and i'm fun to be around too. As long as your not professionally boring, i don't really give a shit what you do for a living. Sometimes looking for matches with people of the same interest or professions can actually lead to a lot of boring conversations. I want to know what defines that person more than anything, their personality and so on.Now like attracts like... but opposites attract... hmmm, go figureWhy limit yourself i say! Do something random and start a conversation with someone you may not think would be a good match and see what eventuates..... you might surprise yourself.imagine everyone in the world having the same interests... what a boring existence
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