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January 18 2009
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playfulminx
17 years ago
I think the 'Looking For' details kinda let most people know if you're not what that person is seeking, but I agree that if there are some very specific things that you're not into, it wouldn't hurt to list it. But on the other hand, some things are quite subjective too... I could say that I am not into guys who are excessively inked but what does that mean? Am I saying that 3 or 4 tatts are too much or do I mean complete sleeves and back work? What happens if there's a hot guy with one arm fully inked that I would make an exception for but who thinks I wouldn't be interested because I've stated 'no excessive tatts'. Do I need to elaborate further? Isn't it perhaps easier for me to sus out body pics after some messages exchanges and go from there? Yes OralB, I think guys profiles on a whole are often incomplete in details as to what they are really after but since their pool of selection is smaller, it probably doesn't hurt to be generic.
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RHP User
17 years ago
I'm not sure exactly what you're asking other than would people please read others pofiles ;). I don't message much unless invited, but then i do read profiles and find i'm rarely welcome lol. From the girls point of view it seems it hardly matters what they put in thier profile. They'll get tons of messages anyway. I've looked over the shoulder of lady friends and seen how that works. I've also seen the quality of the responses lol. From the guys point of view it hardly matters what they have in thier profile because it hardly gets looked at. When it is its rarely by somebody who is looking for my statistics. I know myself i have spent many hours in the chat room doing my best to be interesting and entertaining, not recently as i've given up, only to find that despite my best efforts no one has even bothered to "check me out". I know i'm not that boring lol. Profiles are necessary and a good way to put your best foot forward. I think it more likely that what you say in the forums and/or chat that will get you meeting people. Then when you do meet its the way you present yourself, and they themselves, that will actually make you friends.... or lovers. Another 2 cents worth, will make enough for that mars bar yet...
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RHP User
17 years ago
We literally just updated our profile and included stuff we're not after, and hopefully a more direct view on what we are after. Kinda strange seeing this post straight after! But yes, you're right. We get fed up of messaging people to find they're not after 'x' trait, but haven't said so, and also fed up of people that say in their profile quite clearly that they don't want something, and it says in our profile that we ARE that! But again, that comes down to people not reading profiles properly.
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RHP User
17 years ago
Oralb, disagree somewhat. My profile clearly states i do not want single guys in capitals. It also says no chat requests or flirts, cos i really prefer a message. Further down it says i want to meet married guys over 40 and so who mostly contacts me?? Single guys under 40 and i get flirts by the dozen. so i dont think it matters what you put on your profile cos a lot of people simply dont read
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RHP User
17 years ago
Woodyperth, you are pretty well spot on. I've tried adjusting my profile a few times and it has made no difference whatsoever. I'm lucky to get a view and a flirt, what's that, if I get a response from a flirt or message I'm shocked. Although it is usually just saying sorry not interested. And I'm also not boring or ugly. Quite the opposite actually. As for females or couples complaining they still get flirts or messages from single guys. Here's the reason. No one answers. Because you don't get answers from those who are your higher priority people to contact you start to go outside the square and contacting others. Then they don't answer so you go further again. Some members have 20 flirts a day and they are lucky if they get 1 reply out of every 20 so they spread them around. It doesn't take long before all the people you want to meet have been contacted and with no replies what do you do. Look elsewhere. I don't flirt or message people that say they don't want single guys but that's because I actually read the profiles. Must admit these days I don't know why I bother, it hasn't helped me at all. The other problem is all the couples that are using a female profile instead of a couple profile. Then they complain when a guy contacts them. Wake up to yourself, if you are a couple looking for a girl, register as a couple, not a female. Well that's my say, off to work I go.
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RHP User
17 years ago
What really gets up my nose is the amount of guys profiles you look at and they NEARLY all say the same thing..... 'Have been told I'm attractive, but you can be the judge of that' or 'I'll come back to update this later'....jeez, a little more iimagination and thought wouldn't go astray. Arrrrgggghhhhhhhhh
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RHP User
17 years ago
Well since my post on this subject, i have of course been inundated with flirts from lots of guest members. I of course cant reply and i suppose they have nothing better to do with their time.
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RHP User
17 years ago
that would be because NO-BODY reads profiles Ours quite clearly says...NO SINGLE MEN......and yet we still get flirts from single men say..you're exactly what i'm looking for. If RHP were too add more things to our lists...it simply wouldn't make any difference!! Be thankful for the few they have...... make sure you read the profiles properly.....then inboxes would NOT be full of unwanted and wasted messages and flirts. Bren
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RHP User
17 years ago
Have you considered that just maybe its because i read your profile...?
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RHP User
17 years ago
Be fun to see posts from all the guys who HAVE read your profile and not messaged because you because they HAVE read it. Likely it would crash the RHP puters though lol.
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RHP User
17 years ago
i tend to avoid profiles that are too negative.. "i don't like this.. don't like that.. don't want so and so.." = winer IMHO however profiles that sound positive... or "i love trains, drink german beer and want a rugby watching mate". well now those are "shiversome" besides, do you really think putting "no wankers or bitches" is really going to stop them contacting you? LOL... LRE (on the up side)
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RHP User
17 years ago
Tigeress What you say the guys profiles says looks like the same I read on about every 4th or 5th female profile. I think you will find that it is a default response available when the profile is set up.
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RHP User
17 years ago
Loveenlust72.....fair point. Women can be just as bad. But women talk more, so its fair to say they would put more in their profile he he - don't you think..... :-)
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RHP User
17 years ago
Great word............going back to my profile now to make it shiversum.... and positive with lots of what I do want and just little of what I dont want. Thanks for the hints guys..........hint one: I dont want a one legged transvestite with a walker whose married..........etc etc lol And I promise not to be too intimidating.
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RHP User
17 years ago
Actually tigeress you are wrong. When you meet a woman she might talk more, but from what I have seen on here most of the female profiles have bugger all in them. The only ones that generally have a bit more in them are the ones that keep repeating that they don't want single males. I think it is because it doesn't matter what a female puts in their profile they are still going to get people contact them. So they don't bother.
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