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Quiet shhhh
September 04 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
I can't say that I am really shy but I am generally quiet, depends on the setting and the people I am with. Sometimes I am the life of the party other times I am a wallflower. I do find at work that some of the more shy, awkward people buy the most bizarre stuff. Sometimes I wonder how they even convince someone to have sex with them they are that shy. But then again, there are very confident people who know what they want and how to get it and have no problem communicating it. Maybe the quiet and reserved just stand out because we don't expect it.
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
I'm somewhat similar to yourself, OP, in that I'm usually quiet for a little while until I get a feel of what the other people are like. But also, too, once I see what's going on, the switch can be flicked in an instant. However, I have had occasions where I have clicked with people straight away and the fun began fairly quickly. Tall
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RHP User
11 years ago
Totally, the quiet ones always have an "extroverted place behind closed doors" - ultra hot women, have a direct proportional scale to being a starfish.. The hotter the the starfishier! - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
I get you Sunrise and totally understand. If someone does not like a person for who they are just being themselves with faults and all...well that's their issue. :) I try to be assertive, I'm not afraid to stand up for myself - in-fact the more I do stand up for myself the more empowered I feel....as well as that I know what I want and don't want. I will say and know that some my not agree - sometimes I think the ones who are more say "way out there" and use a sense of humor are the ones I am careful and weary of. I believe sometimes they put on a mask to cover up and are afraid to show their true colors or self. I can attend a BBQ/Socialize with friends and am happy to sit and watch sometimes I'm happy to join in - it all depends on the company I am with and if I feel comfortable. Sometimes people drain the absolute fuck out of me and after 5mins I feel totally drained and feel so hung over (it's hard to explain) and I need at least 24hrs by myself to recharge. Personally, I don't think Extroverts really understand or get introverts. As they say "Like attracts like". Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
When I meet someone , it takes me no time to weigh up if that person has a dud personality so I won't show the real me until Im feeling comfortable' if at all. Show me fair dinkum happy people who are relaxed and smile alot and I'm in my element... Good people have a great sense of humour and look for the best in people, not the worst..
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RHP User
11 years ago
I met a man yesterday...... You know who you are lol he was lovely has the sexiest green eyes ever, I was his for the taking basically, but did not happen. It's funny I need someone just to take control, I must submissive. I really wanted him to pin me down and you know ... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sunrise ,maybe a subtle hint to mr green eyes would have done the trick! We are not mind readers,love when lady makes a first move! Quick pinch on the bum ,is a good green light!xx
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MissBishere
11 years ago
Even though I hate saying I'm shy I am. I can say im reserved or quiet natured but I am just shy. It worse if I am interested on a guy - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Bloody Hell - are you a mind reader or somefink!!!! EXACT same thing happened to me the other day. I wanted the exact same thing - didn't happen. LMAO......Am thinking I'm submissive too. Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Haha Superfoxy two peas in a pod lol I have all these visions of what I want to happen but it's just getting past the initial first step. I know some people say just go for it..."Pinch his bum" BUT I have a problem from going from good girl to vixen and have no problem when Im there, god help the man who's on the receiving end lol Do I need therapy perhaps lol any tips from women about this? And guys are the women from RHP overtly sexy towards you when they first meet you, I'm serious lol Please Help!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
surprises me that some of the ladies are saying they are shy ' yet it appears here in the forums not so ??? Can only guess not being face to face and to a certain degree anonymous you can say what you like ? Interesting..
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RHP User
11 years ago
I agree with Jay_Me. Whilst we all chat in forums and in private with people in RHP, you get the definite impression that there are no shy people on here. But the reality when face to face with someone can be very different to the dream, all of a sudden the anxiety and fear of the unknown takes over.. Simple fight of flight syndrome..
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RHP User
11 years ago
Some people at work might not have suspected and my family doesn't know, but I'm pretty open about being on an adult dating site.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Depends how deep the erotica goes...where they're willing to go with it?.Covert or Unassuming...the truth must come out. Failure to do so will not allow for self expression and that is a tragedy..Desires and passion are meant to be shared, explored and even indulged..If you do not agree...thats ok, carry on and have a mediocre life. lol lol lol lol lol
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
Seems like we may have the requirement for a class together for all the people who might be a bit too shy to initiate - looks like we have enough on here to make it worthwhile... Tall
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BacioCouple
11 years ago
We wouldn't say we are "quiet" and once we get chatting to people we're not shy. However, our vanilla friends would be shocked if they knew we were on this site, and actually went to clubs, meets and played. We tend to think that you never really know what goes on behind people's closed doors - for all we know some our friends like to cross dress! Who knows. The sad thing is that we don't feel we can discuss our extra-curricular activities with our vanilla friends in case it ruins a friendship. Although there have been some very very funny discussions when they 'joke' about swinging.
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RHP User
11 years ago
That "draining" is a very real thing and you can stop that feeling very quickly...msg me if you need/want deets on how. Though I'm introverted, when i feel comfy or confident or maybe a little tipsy I can be extroverted. Saying that im also submissive - well for the right person - and prefer a confident dominant male who earns the trust to lead to boundaries unknown. I was very lucky in thatymy first rhp exp just happened to be just that...and though he cant read minds, I swear he can read body language which in my experience is sooooo much better lol. Trust your intuition sunrise if you feel the attraction and you feel it coming from your potential partner - lean in for the kiss... You'll know by the way they kiss if it's a mutual thing and things can start from there. Don't let fear stop you. .. If I had I wouldn't be thanking my lucky stars on a near daily basis. x - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
having a quiet personality does not mean there is no sense of adventure or ability to make mischief. speaking personally, i am reserved until i feel comfortable. then the fun begins. with extroverts, you know up front what you will get. introverts just hide it to begin with. i guess that means we are the ones you have to watch, because we are the ones who will surprise you. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
HAHA That's me to a tea as well. I too have the same problem going, from good girl to vixen and have no problem when I'm there! I say more than "god help the man who's on the receiving end" lol I laugh with my GF's as they say "That poor man - he'll run to the hills!!" haha PMSL....Think I need more than therapy! Guess I'm not a full on flirty type of woman (meaning in your face type) more a natural flirt without knowing it. If that makes sense?? I mentioned to someone over coffee the other day - I miss the bloody signals 1/2 the time! PMSL How bad is that.....??? Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
As for meeting a handsome good looking man - now that's a whole new kettle of fish. It actually scares me....that I miss all the signals cause my mind gets naughty thoughts!! Not only do I have to concentrate on the conversation with him but I have to try to blank out those thoughts to give him my full attention. DAM STRAIGHT! Multi tasking in that situation is mentally hard work. My mind doesn't even think of pinching his bum (that comes later) !! LOLZ Foxy
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' As for meeting a handsome good looking man - now that's a whole new kettle of fish. It actually scares me....that I miss all the signals cause my mind gets naughty thoughts!! Not only do I have to concentrate on the conversation with him but I have to try to blank out those thoughts to give him my full attention. DAM STRAIGHT! Multi tasking in that situation is mentally hard work. My mind doesn't even think of pinching his bum (that comes later) !! LOLZ Foxy See Foxy, there's the difference from us men. We can easily just think of your arse, even pinching it amongst many other things. And no need too hold a conversation as well. You can talk about anything you bloody want and we can keep focused on your arse. Maybe we are simple, maybe you are cursed. mwahahahahahaha Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
I never worry about the move, as body language tells me everything I need to know. Plus I just flat out ask. Do you desire me? So far, so good. Only one guy of this site got me confused he teased the crap out if me but never went there. Not sure why, but gee it was a fun day. Those that know me off line know I am confident, I can turn my sensuality on or off. I am two women in that regard. People may assume I am just your average goody two shoes housewife. My other side comes out when I am on the prowel.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am very quiet, introverted, shy, reserved, average looking,, watchful untrusting, & hugely lacking in confidence & social skills...... I know all this, yet am still assertive & communicate well with most people, as I accept & like them for themselves.. I have adventurous sex, attract handsome men, and enjoy laughing & chatting with small groups. My life & my personality is a series of paradoxes... I sometimes wonder who the 'real me' is... We are all a product of our upbringing, our past experiences, & our culture . My past traumas & rotten upbringing will always shape & define me, but I have the knowledge, skills, strength & intelligence to surpass self-blame & victimization... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I was always the introvert lol, seriously, I was usually afraid others would think badly of me and just always be there for everyone else, it was painful to watch.......... Hit the early to mid forties and I decided I was going to change, I thought I've gotten to where I want, however I wasn't who I wanted to be, so I was going to get myself out there............. Looking at who I am today, wow what a difference....
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RHP User
11 years ago
sunrise005, that's tragic. I really feel for that clueless guy - and you! Surely there's some way that mature adults can express themselves without being misunderstood and without completely ambushing their quarry ie: putting them on the spot and forcing them to take flight... How about, 'What are your thoughts on gender equality?' then, depending on the response, 'So, what do you think of women making the first move to pick up a man?' Too forward? But at least tactful I hope. :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I strongly recommend "Quiet - The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking" by Susan Cain (Penguin Viking 2012) for an excellent analysis of introverts. The world needs both introverts and extroverts but Western Society tends to value the extrovert character traits and denigrates introvert traits, hence the negative term "shy" and statements like "I used to be an introvert but then I was cured". An introvert will become overwhelmed by too much external stimuli and seek to reduce the flow of new information to a more manageable level so that they can properly digest what is happening. An extrovert is a stimulus junky and tend to search for more without heeding potential risks. So Mr Green Eyes was probably taking in the lovely sight of the OP and analysing, quietly, his options for his next move. By the time of a second meeting, he will have assimilated those stimuli and worked out a strategy which the OP may find quite rewarding for her stimulus. Some other gems of wisdom about introverts: - Optimal management structure is an introvert in charge of a team of extroverts. The extroverts have the ideas and the introvert is able to separate the wheat from the chaff. Cain has a fantastic chapter on the myth of charismatic leadership and why you really don't want to have an extrovert in charge.- Optimum relationship is an introvert and an extrovert. It acts as a push me/pull you, but it is better than the self combustion of 2 extroverts and the inertia of 2 introverts.- People will naturally tend towards introversion as they get older.- No one personality type is successful all the time. Extroversion is death in a bubble market, whilst introversion underperforms in a market which is bottoming.- Introversion/Extroversion is both nature and nurture. Testing on infants' reaction to external stimuli is a very good predictor for personality type (introverts react stronger to stimulus because their brain is more sensitive to it). However, just as Western Culture promotes extroversion, other cultures, such as the Asian culture, promotes introversion which can suppress the development of the personality trait.- Just because a person is socially adept does not mean they are an extrovert. Introverts are very good at being pseudo-extroverts because they analysis and adapt behaviour which they observe. The converse is not true as extroverts find it difficult to mimic introverts as they need to stimuli to keep their attention up.
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Thank you - yes it is real! I know as I feel it....only with some people tho - not everyone. :) Foxy
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6exxy
11 years ago
I met a man yesterday...... You know who you are lol he was lovely has the sexiest green eyes ever, I was his for the taking basically, but did not happen. It's funny I need someone just to take control, I must submissive. I really wanted him to pin me down and you know ... - Posted from rhpmobile 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 WoW not sure I could have missed that Sunrise but sure happy to see that! How did he miss that? Then again maybe he wasn't feeling it? Hmmm Happy to test that if you would like? lmao A gorgeous woman like yourself will find what your looking for 🌷 I'm curious msg me ☺️
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'SimpleNeeds2' An introvert will become overwhelmed by too much external stimuli and seek to reduce the flow of new information to a more manageable level so that they can properly digest what is happening. An extrovert is a stimulus junky and tend to search for more without heeding potential risks. (...) - Just because a person is socially adept does not mean they are an extrovert. Introverts are very good at being pseudo-extroverts because they analysis and adapt behaviour which they observe. The converse is not true as extroverts find it difficult to mimic introverts as they need to stimuli to keep their attention up. I'm a total introvert and love being alone in quiet places. I scored a 16 out of 20 on a recent test to determine if you are really an introvert.However, anyone here that's met me knows I'm nowhere near shy or withdrawn in social situations. I like to observe others, but am very much myself and I don't feel I adapt to behaviour around me. If that were the case I'd be an absolute bitch at work!
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RHP User
11 years ago
This forum was about being shy and reserved and I don't really think that means introvert by any means.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks for all your input. Although I'm not introverted just have that barrier to cross, which I think will get easier with time. With being new to RHP I will no doubt get into the groove of things.
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Wild_Pagan_Love
11 years ago
Not only is it the quiet ones with all the deep sexy secrets and desires - its a bigger thrill to discover it, when they hide it from the civilized world :P
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