RHP Marital Aide

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  gazpacho

  12 years ago

  Perhaps it isn't more common than you think... but getting around all the various nuances of RHP and its ilk you see that sex is pretty popular. My thoughts are that there is a strong connection with the religious concepts of sin and forbidding that will keep wanton sex in the underground for a long while yet. I just googled wanton to make sure I didn't spell it wonton... isn't that funny! Sex with Chinese yum cha. Hoot. I digress. Swingers are still an easy target for the moral judgment parade. The question is perhaps "What guides your moral decisions?" I laugh at couples who boo and hiss at cheaters, for instance, as, in a traditional sense, they are not sticking to the sanctity of marriage either... but there you go... you'll read plenty of gasping when a guy says he's rooting around... and far less of it when a woman says that she is... Seems she is probably in a lousy marriage and needs a bit of sneaky respite on the side, whereas he is just an arsehole. HugsGazpacho

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  Plain280

  12 years ago

  I have never been in an open lifestyle swinging relationship, but have known about this since my late teen years, the educational and embarassing years I shall call them and had a fairly wild time in my early twenties, until I met my current partner. However some of my friends got married and have drifted in and out of the lifestyle over the years and on reflection there must be an element of truth in the statement of swinging helping a relationship. I do not know how open their relationships were, but I know one couple who both confided in me but not to each other that they have other relationships with other people. So this is a conundrum, all RHP does is help the process for newer introductions, but mainly wannabes that want to dabble and bugger off quick smart when they are found out, as in gild the lily and even the odd photo to get their horny way. As for me I like the forums because the man specification listings that some women lest gets a bit daunting at times so cest la vie, it tickles the interest but as I get older sex becomes more an intellectual exercise as well as a physical one otherwise the enjoyment is not there.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  This is who I am. I write here to get shit out of my head. Thats your quote Gaz from another thread and a bit like me at times I just figure from what I have read and learnt over the years...theres a whole lot to learn from listening to others. Theres another thread atm about a lady here who just has come to reead the forums and she was abused by a random fucker like yourself who wanted to just fuck and like you Gaz maybe not talk...LOL... Although that thread didnt inspire me it was the thought that this lady has the perfect husband and marriage and if she finds out ........... See I dont condone cheating I have commented on this in the past....hate the hurt it creates. Had a girlfriend once who stayed with her cheating husband. they decided to work on their marriage...the thing is she was the one people ridiculed for staying....all of her so called friends talking behind her back....She told me she loved him and that was enough for me as it was their marriage and life and no one elses. I have been amazed at open marriages and how they work and am working on a theory for that......for if I get it right those people presumably have love and more in their marriage and then seek out SEX...... only if the sex starts to involve more intimacy as with a recent thread (Coops) is the marriage in danger. Anyway I am just saying there is much to be learnt here. If I figure where its going I'll come back...little naive vanilla me.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  The marriage isn't necessarily in danger if someone develops feelings for a playmate. What about poly-amorous people, they believe you can be in love with more than one person at a time. It's everyone's expectation that falling love means wanting someone full time or you have to be together 24/7 or something. Doesn't have to be like that you know.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I think in Coops situation it was that the playmate needed more from Coops which was the problem, not that they had feelings for each other.

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