RHP article - Don’t Waste Time: Successful Dates for Couples

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I took the article to mean that the choice was yours to make. No one was excluding anyone. It reads like they want each couple to think about what they want and then give them choices. Either slowly learn with another new couple...or at a quicker pace with a more experienced couple. Nowhere does it say anything about exclusion at all. Also it was not saying that the experienced couple cannot learn from a new couple, nor will take things at a relaxed pace. Personally I think you are nitpicking and seeing an affront where none is intended. JMO

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  rupamohan

  14 years ago

  It is OK if you have different opnion that is what this forum is all about...lol This is my opnion. If you are relatively new to the scene and yet to meet another couple let alone play, consider whether you should meet a more experienced couple, who may be able to guide you and adjust to the pace you like. A novice couple can be very slow and the date may end up with no moves from any side.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Not into first timers life to short and hard enough to find serious players on rhp I stop teaching when my kids left home its just to hard to try and teach people who have never done it My time for playing is limited my man is home for 5 days his fifo so our time to play is limited So finding a couple who have not play before and not sure if its for them is not for us

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  We found when we first started here that being new could actually work against you as a lot of the more experienced couples didn't want to take a risk on 'newbies'. Now we have been here for a while we actually understand their point of view a bit more. With a couple that is new to it they don't necessarily know what they want and where their boundaries are and they can come with a level of uncertainty as to whether or not this is actually for them ( i know this was true for us too).That is not to say that because you have been swinging for a while you don't have issues or baggage but it is a general rule of thumb i guess.We were fortunate enough though to meet some lovely more experienced couples who were happy to talk about thier experience with us and show us the way Now that we are more in the groove of it all we are more relaxed and tend to take people at face value and don't really look at how long they have been here but rather are they the kind of people we want to hang out with? This whole site is about choice and at the end of the day people make their choices on lots of things, looks,size,experience,location the list goes on.Lets just all have fun!!Mrs GC

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I think you likely hit the nail on the head with that one. I regularly see obviously newbie couples watching activities from afar, not really knowing how to break the ground and horny as hell so they go it alone. Also, how often do you hear of people who drive to the arranged venue an never get out of their cars? Or walk to the door and don't ring the bell? An experienced couple can at least leap all the difficult introductory hurdles.... but then after that, as you say... the play part is all an experiment anyway.One of the difficulties with newbies is that the bloke moreoften... gets a performance anxiety and inexperienced people dont know how to handle it.. or make a fuss which can sour the experience dramatically for a new couple... whereas experienced couples ... that's like water off a ducks back... seen it all before and know that it happens form time to time to everyone... so no need for fuss.. in fact fuss usually makes anxiety performance worse.HugsStalky Quoting 'rupamohan' It is OK if you have different opnion that is what this forum is all about...lol This is my opnion. If you are relatively new to the scene and yet to meet another couple let alone play, consider whether you should meet a more experienced couple, who may be able to guide you and adjust to the pace you like. A novice couple can be very slow and the date may end up with no moves from any side.

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