RUOK day

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  I work in the mining industry on a FIFO roster spending the better part of a month away from home and loved ones stuck on mine site camps and have witnessed/heard of numerous people not being able to deal with things happening in their personnel life and deciding to take their own life as a result. It's a sad part of life. And if only they spoke up/ or were encouraged to talk to someone you think they would still be with us today. So don't feel "weak" if you need to talk to anyone there are professionals who can help with your problems!! -Keep and eye on your mates -Mates in mining - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  A great post yourself Pepito and agreed, great topic Q. Thank you to the people that checked up on me recently and apologies to anyone that couldn't get through. Peachy

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  As a life long sufferer of anxiety and depression, a daughter of a Vietnam Veteran and a relative and friend of people who have taken their lives - this campaign is close to my heart. Taken from the RUOK website: Academic Dr Thomas Joiner believes there are three forces at play in someone at risk. The first force is the person thinks they’re a burden on others; the second is that they can withstand a high degree of pain; and the third is they don’t feel connected to others. It's this lack of connection (or lack of belonging) that we want to prevent. By inspiring people to take the time to ask "are you ok?" and listen, we can help people struggling with life feel connected long before they even think about suicide. It all comes down to regular, face-to-face, meaningful conversations about life. And asking “are you ok?” is a great place to start. Be kind, be thoughtful, be connected, be a good listener, be aware, reach out, spread smiles, spread love. The Black Eyed Peas have recently teamed together with a host of other artists to remake their 2003 hit "Where is the love" I think it's an appropriate song reminding us that everyone is fighting battles, and it's important we spread love and connect with people in a positive way.

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  Tall74nHard9

  9 years ago

  In line with the topic, but not so much intentioned as such, I was on the phone with a fellow RHP'er for over an hour and a half last night, as she was concerned about upcoming events in her life, and she wanted someone simply to talk to. We had a very good talk with each other, and she felt quite happy in having the chance to be able to talk with someone. And I was happy in being able to lend her an ear and give her an outlet for her concerns - and I believe she feels all the better for having had some "time out" with another human being.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Is asking someone a bit like asking someone if they want first aid treatment.When a patient accepts an offer of assistance the first aider is then duty bound not to withdraw that offer and to continue their assistance until more qualified assistance arrives.So following that logic if you ask someone if they're OK and the tell you they are not does this mean you know have assumed some form of duty of care?

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  What to do when someone tells you that they aren't ok. Keep on talking.It probably depends a lot on the relationship you have with the person.How close you are. If its an acquaintance then ask them if they have some good supports in their life,if not then perhaps help them find some. Recently I reached out to someone who I knew was struggling.They live in another state so it is not possible for me to visit them but we are exchanging a number of messages a day. They said to me that they don't have many friends and they just appreciated knowing that someone cares. Q

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  To know or find someone who does genuinely care. Very very rare. When someone is feeling very vulnerable it is sometimes very costly to make that move.

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  My brother works on Barrow Island. His wife and four year old daughter left him Fathers Day morning. She said she can't do it anymore. He sees a counsellor there and she sees on here in Brisbane. They don't even get the time to see one together. He said yesterday he's watching his daughter grow up on Facebook. But with the lack of work, he doesn't have the option of getting a job in Brisbane that can pay the bills. Just thought I would mention it given the timing of your post. We had no idea things had gotten to that point. So we had a big talk yesterday and he has a plan in place to try and save his family. But being away a month at a time makes life so hard for all those involved - especially guys working in less than ideal conditions, isolated from their loved ones but working for their families.

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  MsSuperFoxy

  9 years ago

  I got my head bitten off, so I will not asking them again. I asked out of genuine concern. Ms Foxy

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  It is really a sad story Soft and there are so many like that. To connect is important but it's not all. Where do we get this notion that to be our truest and most beautiful selves we have to always be happy, content, and bursting with confidence? We’re built to experience life, not to force it to be a certain way. Guilt, shame, and self-flagellation—these don’t actually correct the wrongs or make you a better person, they just reinforce the dark emotions even more strongly. Aiming for “happiness all the time" drives you to create goals or pursue outcomes that you think will deliver on that promise. It becomes a goal in itself, another fictional outcome that’s dependent on bending circumstances to your will. The happiest people I know are those who make the most of what's already in their lives. Fb and other social media has it's purpose but I can't stand shallowness and it's false representation of what human life is or should be.(Ms)

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  R U Ok? Day. I saw an article today dedicated to how to handle people who answer that they are not ok Hank. It is a recognition of the fact that there is more to asking if someone is ok than just asking and recognises the responsibility we take on by asking if someone is ok. To be sure, I don't think asking someone if they are ok has anything to do with 'happiness'. I've always appreciated ok as being nothing more than ok. And envisioned that it is ok to not always be ok... but it's not a place to stay. Peachy :-)

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Anyone who is not feeling ok please reach out.If not to family or friends pease call Beyond Blue or Lifeline Q

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Hope everyone was awesome on RUOK day. Wanted to post a picture of my RUOK wristband but you will have to go to my profile for that. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  9 years ago

  Everything Is Awful and I’m Not Okay: questions to ask before giving up Are you hydrated? If not, have a glass of water. Have you eaten in the past three hours? If not, get some food — something with protein, not just simple carbs. Perhaps some nuts or hummus? Have you showered in the past day? If not, take a shower right now. If daytime: are you dressed? If not, put on clean clothes that aren’t pajamas. Give yourself permission to wear something special, whether it’s a funny t-shirt or a pretty dress. If nighttime: are you sleepy and fatigued but resisting going to sleep? Put on pajamas, make yourself cozy in bed with a teddy bear and the sound of falling rain, and close your eyes for fifteen minutes — no electronic screens allowed. If you’re still awake after that, you can get up again; no pressure. Have you stretched your legs in the past day? If not, do so right now. If you don’t have the spoons for a run or trip to the gym, just walk around the block, then keep walking as long as you please. If the weather’s crap, drive to a big box store (e.g. Target) and go on a brisk walk through the aisles you normally skip. Have you said something nice to someone in the past day? Do so, whether online or in person. Make it genuine; wait until you see something really wonderful about someone, and tell them about it. Have you moved your body to music in the past day? If not, do so — jog for the length of an EDM song at your favorite BPM, or just dance around the room for the length of an upbeat song. Have you cuddled a living being in the past two days? If not, do so. Don’t be afraid to ask for hugs from friends or friends’ pets. Most of them will enjoy the cuddles too; you’re not imposing on them. Do you feel ineffective? Pause right now and get something small completed, whether it’s responding to an e-mail, loading up the dishwasher, or packing your gym bag for your next trip. Good job! Do you feel unattractive? Take a goddamn selfie. Your friends will remind you how great you look, and you’ll fight society’s restrictions on what beauty can look like. Do you feel paralyzed by indecision? Give yourself ten minutes to sit back and figure out a game plan for the day. If a particular decision or problem is still being a roadblock, simply set it aside for now, and pick something else that seems doable. Right now, the important part is to break through that stasis, even if it means doing something trivial. Have you seen a therapist in the past few days? If not, hang on until your next therapy visit and talk through things then. Have you been over-exerting yourself lately — physically, emotionally, socially, or intellectually? That can take a toll that lingers for days. Give yourself a break in that area, whether it’s physical rest, taking time alone, or relaxing with some silly entertainment. Have you changed any of your medications in the past couple of weeks, including skipped doses or a change in generic prescription brand? That may be screwing with your head. Give things a few days, then talk to your doctor if it doesn’t settle down. Have you waited a week? Sometimes our perception of life is skewed, and we can’t even tell that we’re not thinking clearly, and there’s no obvious external cause. It happens. Keep yourself going for a full week, whatever it takes, and see if you still feel the same way then. You’ve made it this far, and you will make it through. You are stronger than you think. These simple questions we can ask ourselves or ask others can make a huge difference when it feels like nothing is okay. Peachy xox

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