F44
Real life and RHP
February 24 2015
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RHP User
11 years ago
For reminding me of what I am not missing out on! 😉👍
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RHP User
11 years ago
So what drew you there MsSplicey? It almost looks like you need some sort of sieve or colander to screen out the rubbish, although I guess your post probably concentrates on the bad side of the non-relationship. He must've had something going for him? I mean there are countless posts here where 'good, decent men' get no replies to their hard-thought through messages; meanwhile there's hotties hooking up with duds. What gives?
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Hottie1
11 years ago
I hear you. I have gorgeous playmates who live on the other side of the city to me. I put my 'feelers' out for some fun, seriously couldn't organise a 'root' for money nor love. Hubby laughs and thinks it's funny. Mary xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
IF you're someones hole of convenience..... at their beckon call... I say...... you don't deserve that
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RHP User
11 years ago
He isn't that interested in you.... NEXT!
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RHP User
11 years ago
In have read a few women's comments recently about men dicking them around. Arranging a meeting, then the day before changing the time, then cancelling on the day, the hour later saying they are suddenly available to meet again, etc etc. I am sure women are just as bad. What I don't under sang is why do people put up with it and give them second and third chances? Seems to me that 99% of these people are either married or have no respect for you or your time. I say tell them to fuck off. NEXT!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Under sang = understand.
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RHP User
11 years ago
of your forum ? So you got fucked around ???...and ? and I think any decision make while "Cue me going out and getting drunk and at 1am MrSplicey dropped me off outside his place" is never gonna end well and far for it for me to judge but to Mr S - leaving your lady with another man while she was drunk is that the tell tale sign of a man that cares abut his Mrs welfare ?.......just asking and saying
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't understand why people go to the trouble of making arrangements and them not follow through. What can they possibly get from that?And Meeka "under sang" is a rule that should apply at every karoke bar
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RHP User
11 years ago
But perhaps you don't value yourself highly enough either to give a guy four different chances. One of your key boundaries was that he wasn't tested, yet you were still happy to violate that repeatedly. Learn from it, respect your booundaries and treat yourself with more value.
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RHP User
11 years ago
You lost me a bit at "A few weeks later we start up again". Why even go back there?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Why oh why would you even go back there. I don't know if I gave just been lucky but I have found great guys as playmates for Donna on occasions. One guy we play with from another site , I can't believe isn't getting much action, great looking, respectful, knows what he's doing and willing to experiment a d make sure she is happy. Maybe because I look for her I can see through the bs. Good luck searching, there are some good ones out there. Cheers Michael - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
You know ladies, my experience is that as we men get older the oestrogen levels increase and my mind becomes more and more involved in sex. So firstly, don't think that you had anything to do with him not getting hard. I could imagine that he was feeling pressure for god knows what reason.... or there was something else on his mind... maybe he wasn't really attracted to you. But I will say I think it's great that you gave him a second opportunity. It reminds me of a woman I met last year. I went to her hotel room and (as I usually do I had no expectations) she was after sex and I just wasn't prepared I had my mind on a quick hello and maybe a coffee. Needless to say I found it hard to get hard. My performance was probably 2/10. But luckily she gave me a second chance and man did we have fun over the following months..... But as far as dicking people around, that's just rude. if you say you will meet you must meet. I've only ever stood up one person. I didn't have their number and I had an emergency to deal with..... I never forgave myself for that.... But I suppose the other side of the coin is where guys spend money and take the time (even with poorly worded messages) and we don't even get a reply..... Let's all work to be nice open and polite to each other.... it costs nothing, but may put a smile on somebody's face.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'ag4mg92' I hear you. I have gorgeous playmates who live on the other side of the city to me. I put my 'feelers' out for some fun, seriously couldn't organise a 'root' for money nor love. Hubby laughs and thinks it's funny. Mary xx Organise one with me lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
Agree with a concept that both sides need to put effort in to make it worth chasing, not sure why on earth anyone would stand up such an amazing person as MrsSplicey (I mean seriously hot or what) unless he was a bit worried about MrSplicey being involved. The married bit does cause a problem in arranging stuff but then that should be disclosed beforehand and therefore understanding is built in. Hooking up does create stress for some guys though, unlike women who can secretly navigate a situation where they aren't turned on, its kind of obvious for a guy. Its not unmanly but sure doesn't help a girls self esteem LOL, main thing is to not stress about it and relax a bit, spend some time getting the mood and circumstance right
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On_Safari
11 years ago
You're hot.....put this one down to a "waste of time" and move on. Any man in his right mind worth the effort would definitely NOT dick you around. I think he is stringing you along because he may suffer performance issues in general and it's a boost to his ego to have someone as attractive as you willing to consort with him. It would be hard for him to retain these kinds of "interactions" long term once he is forced into attempting a "consummation" ie. you arriving at his house. That possibly sounds harsh but I know about this stuff and I'm not man-bashing just sharing a perspective on men's health issues that may have some place in this instance. The fact he doesn't protect his own sexual health is also concerning and somewhat telling too. Intellectual stimulation is great and may be what takes you back BUT it could just be a mind fuck too. His issues are his issues Mrs Splicey don't make them yours. You're an intelligent Lady you'll make the right choice for you
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RHP User
11 years ago
I feel I want to add that my comment had nothing to do with him not being able to perform, but with his attitude and behaviour. Hope it didn't come across otherwise. ☺
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boxestotick
11 years ago
If we arranged to meet someone as hot as you - you would not be disappointed or let down. Can believe someone would stuff you around like that. Sounds like he's missing out. Better luck next time.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Testing has to be the line in the sand right there regardless what they have going for them, if someone is avoiding or hasn't been tested then it's time to move on. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks for the kind words people. I was more amused at being messed about, him being busy, or cancelling, or whatever only to find a flirt in our inbox on RHP AND with 'I have spare time, let's play' from a guy with his name in his nickname, picture and same suburb Small world. After meeting him on tinder we found out we had a mutual friend. This is probably why I gave him so many chances. By all accounts he was a good guy.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Not being able to "get it up" during sex is not a big issue for me. There are various reasons why a man may not be able to "perform" and it does not mean that he isn't attracted to me. I look at the "overall picture". How attentive was he is trying to bring me pleasure in other ways ? How affectionate was he in his kisses and touches ? What beautiful and romantic words issued from his mouth to make me feel good about myself ? All these things matter !!! I like to think of myself as a woman who understands these things so I tend not to give a guy "the flick" just because he "can't get it up". I also won't have sex again when drunk. Years ago, when young and stupid, I once did this. While the guy enjoyed what he was doing, I was totally "out of it". As they say "No sense, no feeling". LOL !!! If a man won't get tested and I have sex with him, I take on the responsibility of getting tested myself afterwards. I won't have sex with my husband until the results show that I am "clean". This is the way I conduct myself !!! Amy
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RHP User
11 years ago
All the signs were there. Even with an STD test you cant tell. Unless you specifically ask for herpes test most doctors do not include that in a normal std check. Plus STD checks tell you if your clean or not, and that only applies till the next time you have sex. so in theory you should bonk, and then test then bonk and then test, even if you wear a condom. fingers mouth and skin on skin can give you and STD. Drinking....never a good idea but we all make mistakes. Him not getting it up, well he was maybe not in the mood, not into you, not into sex ( i get that last one) I think my libido went out with drive in movies. any howwwwwwwwwwwww. I think you know what to do on this one.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Serenity2000' If a man won't get tested and I have sex with him, I take on the responsibility of getting tested myself afterwards. I won't have sex with my husband until the results show that I am "clean". BUT it is this damn attitude why there is the spread of STD's and HIV on the rise in WA. FAR OUT!! I have friend who contracted HIV due to this same stupid attitude. Oh life goes on but it is never EVER the same again. Fucking Idiots is all I can say.
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RHP User
11 years ago
you bag the guy for not getting it up on demand; citing how bad it is for your ego.... And your post is doing what?? From where I sit; perched up here in my Ivory tower; I'd say bugger all except to solicit some sympathy for your own lack of compassion...... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I read STDs are on the rise in WA due to all those cashed up FIFO workers heading over to Asian countries and bonking everything with a pulse without condoms I presume? I have also read the fastest rise in STDs in any group were separated / divorced women in their 40s & 50s. Women coming out of long term relationships and not being aware of sexual health and also being embarrassed about insisting that a man wears a condom. I have a friend who is having an affair with a married guy. He is in his 50s and had never used a condom before. Never used one in his whole life!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'I have a friend who is having an affair with a married guy. He is in his 50s and had never used a condom before. Never used one in his whole life!! The flip side to that... is the women he's been with didn't DEMAND he use them... or ... he goes home to his hand. DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Quoting 'Meeka100'I have a friend who is having an affair with a married guy. He is in his 50s and had never used a condom before. Never used one in his whole life!! The flip side to that... is the women he's been with didn't DEMAND he use them... or ... he goes home to his hand. DG No. He is a highly educated man who has been faithful and married to the same woman since his early 20's. I am not even sure if he had been with any other women prior to his wife and now of course my friend. When you talk about vanilla and naive this guy is on the poster. And before you say that he is a player... I genuinely think he isn't and he has been seeing my friend on the side for 5 years now but still wants things to work with his wife. I can imagine a lot of people coming out of LTR who haven't had to deal with dating and safe sex and would not be as knowledgeable about the risks. Hell there are single people out there who have one night stands or are serial monogamists who wouldn't even think about getting tested. I am sure we all have friends in this category. We all talk freely about sex and safe sex but many people out there in the real world don't. Some people don't really consider that they may be at risk....even if they use a condom.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Quoting 'Meeka100'I have a friend who is having an affair with a married guy. He is in his 50s and had never used a condom before. Never used one in his whole life!! The flip side to that... is the women he's been with didn't DEMAND he use them... or ... he goes home to his hand. DG I honestly believe that there is a 99% chance that this man has only slept with two women in his life time. So far anyway.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Serenity2000' I won't have sex with my husband until the results show that I am "clean". Are you aware of all the different incubation times for STI's? From the TheSTDproject website: Chlamydia Urine Test: Possible Detection – Within the first weekMost Likely Detection – 2 WeeksHighest Accuracy – 4 Weeks Gonorrhea Urine Test:Possible Detection – Within the first weekMost Likely Detection – 1-2 WeeksHighest Accuracy – 2-3 Weeks Herpes Simplex 1 & 2 Blood Test:Possible Detection – 2-4 WeeksMost Likely Detection – 6-12 WeeksHighest Accuracy – 12-16 Weeks Syphilis Blood Test:Possible Detection – 1-2 WeeksMost Likely Detection – 6 WeeksHighest Accuracy – 12 Weeks HIV Antibody Test:Possible Detection – 3 WeeksMost Likely Detection – 4-6 WeeksHighest Accuracy – 12 Weeks HIV Early Detection Test:Possible Detection – 1-2 WeeksMost Likely Detection – 3 WeeksHighest Accuracy – 3-4 Weeks Hepatitis A Blood Test:Possible Detection – 2-3 WeeksMost Likely Detection – 3-6 WeeksHighest Accuracy – 6-7 Weeks Hepatitis B Blood Test:Possible Detection – 1-6 WeeksMost Likely Detection – 6-10 WeeksHighest Accuracy – 12 Weeks 4 Months is a long time not to have sex with your husband.
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RHP User
11 years ago
The fastest rise is actually in the younger generations. However, yes the rise in the 40/50's is also prevalent. Is it the FIFO lads - Maybe, though it is every ones responsibility too. Off Topic - sorry
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' 4 Months is a long time not to have sex with your husband. I can do that standing on my head
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RHP User
11 years ago
A simple GP visit lazy - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' No. He is a highly educated man who has been faithful and married to the same woman since his early 20's. I am not even sure if he had been with any other women prior to his wife and now of course my friend. When you talk about vanilla and naive this guy is on the poster. And before you say that he is a player... I genuinely think he isn't and he has been seeing my friend on the side for 5 years now but still wants things to work with his wife. &I honestly believe that there is a 99% chance that this man has only slept with two women in his life time. So far anyway. However....the woman/women he's sexually active with... can she/they make the same claim?! Not judging them.... just drawing the obvious flow-chart of sexual histories. Regardless of my own sexual history, Im going to protect myself from someone else's every time. And he should be protecting his wife if he actually gives a damn about her health and wellbeing anymore. DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes she is faithful to this guy and has seen no other men in 4 years. They are both in their early 50s. She by the way was the one who told me that oral sex is a sometimes treat and asked me how threesomes worked. Her and the married dude had been discussing it and couldn't figure it out... Does one watch and then get his turn when the other guy is finished she asked me. That really made me wonder how routine their illicit sex life must be. He, I think, feels uncomfortable with her performing oral sex on him because the wife has obviously convinced him it is such a unpleasant thing to do and women hate doing it. Poor bastard. LMAO! they are both very conservative people.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Otherwise DG I think this guy is clueless about STD's. This guy is upper mgmt & probably earns 10 times my salary. :-/
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RHP User
11 years ago
I agree with meeka. A lot if people do not get tested. No news is good news, right? I go every three months and I practice safe sex. I also know that safe sex will not prevent herpies and that the stats in that are extremely high. Fingers and mouth and skin on skin. I am selfish as are we all that I want sex with strangers. It is a gamble we all take and we also gamble with the sexual Heath of others in including partners. Sex is a powerful force . All we can do is protect our selves as best we can. But people are human and can end up having hot sex and get caught up in the passion. It's not as simple as they don't care about others. It's more desire can cloud a persons judgement and have devastating consequence. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Its selfish. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange73
11 years ago
What would yiu do if yiu found out you contracted STD when your tests returns? What does that mean to your relationship with your husband and your boyfriend? If you did get a disease, is it all worth the risk?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Its no excuse. If you know what a condom is..... you know why they exist from a safe-sex POV.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Instant block and privileges revoked, these people think their time is more important than ours.... Hardly, had one on the weekend who decided an hour after he failed to show, (we had our own fun and a few great laughs also at the no show) to contact and apologise, mind you only after I went online took his privileges first then blocked him....... If only people thought what goes into couples arranging hook ups, family, work, venue, ......no second chances here.... Life is way too short to be messed around, ......
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RHP User
11 years ago
Was about time wasters or second chances , quickly turning to a deathly important issue..... IF ITS NOT ON, ITS NOT ON ...... :)
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