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Recognising a RHP member in public
April 09 2012
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RHP User
14 years ago
How interesting that you recognised the person.Did she lift up her t-shirt,did he take of his sunglasses,and hat?I am intrigued John,do tell!
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wannabyummymummy
14 years ago
If i was by myself or with hubby then i wouldn't have a problem with someone saying hi but if i was with friends (who may not know about what i do in my spare time) or if i had my kids with me then i think it would be highly inappropriate for someone to randomly come up and introduce themselves.The fact that you don't have a pic up on here means that you are not going to get recognized in return so that could make it a little awkward.
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RHP User
14 years ago
John honey,I just read your profile,not only no pic but you say'MUST BE DISCRETE'.How is saying hello to a fellow rhp member in public DISCRETE.Don't make no sense to this lil duck.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Yesterday I saw a delicious looking man at the bakery and found myself WISHING he was on RHP lol, but decided it was probably for the best if he weren't as I was shopping with my mother and my children oops....can't help those stray thoughts ;)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Discretion is always the better part of valor.
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RHP User
14 years ago
If you have spoke before and it went well (and you didnt just imagine it went well) and if they were alone or in our case alone as a couple.
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RHP User
14 years ago
we have a few members in our immediate neighbourhood.... and others who work in the area (shops etc), but we say nothing, unless its encouraged....we do say a regular hello to a 'one time' playmate, as he's been a gentleman the entire time we've known him...
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RHP User
14 years ago
If you have been chatting or not, who you or they are with. I, like the others would not appreciate someone coming up to me in a public place randomly...especially if I have my children with me. If I am by myself then I have no objections if someone recognises me. They are more than welcome to say hello and introduce themselves, so long as they are not calling out a loud greeting for all the shopping centre to hear. Discretion can also mean talking quietly.
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RHP User
14 years ago
We meet and see thousands of our patrons everywhere, it is our way NEVER to say anything unless conversation is started by them first and then we NEVER mention the club. If they want to mention it to us that is fine and we will continue the conversation as we have nothing to hide from anyone, but we respect everyones privacy and always just smile.Bryan, Leesa and John
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RHP User
14 years ago
At the pub,girls night out. Nice looking guy , was looking at me and as I passed him I got the,do I Know you from somewhere. He was cute and so Isaid, maybe? Then I was the one to say, are you on an internet date site? Then the penny dropped and he had been writing to me,but I had said I was a bit busy. He was nervous about his mates who were at the pub and I was discrete, he said that he wants to keep the RHP life private. He boughtme a drink, we chatted so it just looked like a woman he just met at the bar. If a person came up to me and I was not wanting to talk I wouldhave just said,no I do not know you. One just has to think and be a bit subtle about it. Especially if a person is not alone.
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DonnaBrett
14 years ago
We have lost track of the amount of times that we have been recognised in public either from RHP or other sites or contact mags. Sometimes people will come up and say hi..sometimes we can feel the weight of their stares and when we catch eyes they will say something, customers have recognised Donna at her work place and said hello. Because we show our faces & use real names we must be more obvious LOL. We don't mind at all if people say hi. So far people have always been proper & I'm sure most swingers wouldn't say anything if we were with other people or with kids around etc. We've had messages sent to us where someone will say " I saw you in Starbucks on Saturday night but didn't know if I should say hi?" or similar stories LOL. Just come and say hello..we won't bite...well unless you want us to! hahaha Seriously though...one of our closest 'couple' friends we met like this in a strip club four years ago, they approached us..and we took them home that night LOL..and have been great friends ever since!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Thanks for all your comments. I would never want to embarrass them or myself. I have no picture because I would worry about being recognized myself. Silly eh!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
As far as I am concerned it all depends on far too many factures and every situation would have to be taken on board and seen in its own entity/merit I would never mention the site that’s for sure even if we new each other from here, so that I feel is a BIG NO NO But all said I would leave it for the woman to acknowledge me, if I was with a woman I would have no issues for her to say hi to friends, ex boyfriends, hubby (don’t have to say they are from a date site just oh that’s Harry or John an ex) what ever it shows your at freedom with your self and that you respect the person and maybe the times you had and that you have nothing to hide from the person your with and this says a lot about the inner part of a woman and should be respected. It is the 21st century and no one wants to walk around in dark corners in being feared of recognition but embrace it and take it in its own merit, In the end the women are the ones that needs to feel safe, secure and at ease with the person she is with, so if she starts hiding or dodging past relationships what kind of a life is that too lead, it shows courtesy and respect to others. I mean you are out with me and not him/her etc If on the other hand it was a discrete relationship then I would leave it to the one with the partner to say hi, if both with a partner well no answer goes back to it would be on each situation and circumstances to what happens, if current mistress or FB whatever you want to call it then I wouldn’t be in that situation so have no answer
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'D_G_T'Yesterday I saw a delicious looking man at the bakery and found myself WISHING he was on RHP lol, but decided it was probably for the best if he weren't as I was shopping with my mother and my children oops....can't help those stray thoughts ;) I was in that bakery
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RHP User
14 years ago
I agree with most of the comments. I have recognised a number of members. Never approached dont think thats good etiquette. Send them a message and they will look at your profile and let you know if they are interested.
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RHP User
14 years ago
not sure if it counts, but it was a "face book" friend, friend of a friend of a friend.. not sure how into this lifestyle she is, i might "test the waters" by asking the "internet dating" probing question..wish me luck *grin*td&h
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RHP User
14 years ago
Happened at the very first party we went to a person I knew from my profession was there greeting people. She had a sparkly gstring and nipple tassles on! Hubba Hubba !!!! lol ................ we both kind of freaked but came to the conclusion we BOTH were there and both knew the complication for all of us if we ever said anything. I still see here at conferences and etc we never say a word just smile and make small talk !.I also recognised Stalky or Gaz as many of you know him. It was at Hellfire and I was meeting him with some other friends but I walked up to him and said "Hi Gaz" he smirked and ask how did I know ........... I am not sure maybe its the wild look in his eyes. .Most people I dont worry about they are very disreet. This is my fantasy land though, our play world. Nothing here for us is real and we keep it very seperate for that reason. We did mix the two worlds once and sadly it didnt work and it made a mes that took eons to clean up, so seperate for us!We like that no one knows what we do and who we are we are completely different people on the otherside. But again so are many others !
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RHP User
14 years ago
ive been reconised a few times once by someone i didnt know but he knew me from the forums here and he stopped me and said Hi, we had a nice chat and then went our separate ways another i see around we played and he doesnt talk because i always have my kids with me when we see each other and he knows the rules just like most discrete people would.....we always nod and smile but thats it i think its fine to say Hello but not if your with someone or with kids expectially....that to me would mean a world of hurt and not worth your trouble Hugs
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RHP User
14 years ago
This happened to me last week! I noticed her straight away. I tried to make eye contact, but she just looked nervous and hurried away. What a shame.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I did see a girl I have met on rhp in a shopping centre once, she was with her hubby & he doesn't know she plays. There was a little nod of the head by both of us and we both went away with a rye grin on our faces. She txt me later to say thanks for no saying anything but she was have naughty thoughts all afternoon about our previous meeting ;)
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RHP User
14 years ago
I've been on this site a few weeks now, and another one for a few months. I have not yet encountered this scenario, but I have to say that I have sometimes had the odd feeling that someone has recognised me form here... example, just the other day I rushed out of the house in a mad panic situation (kids missed the school bus) had to make an impromptu stop at the local servo on the way, this guy is boring holes into me, I continue to fill my tank, all the while rolling my eyes and thinking "another pervy RHP or SH subscriber", rush in pay for the gas then jump back into the car...to find my button and zipper on my jeans is not done up... and I'm wearing tiny knickers... oops my bad!!! Getting back to the core of the subject, I wouldn't mind if someone said hello, as long as I wasn't with my kids or friends who think I'm a domestic goddess... hehe, more than they would know... chef in the kitchen, maid in the lounge and a whore in the bedroom... ;)
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RHP User
14 years ago
This happened to me about a year ago, not with someone off RHP but someone i met at a bar and went back for a night of hot fun afterwards. We walked past each other in the shops i was with my partner at the time and she just winked as we walked past each other, it was so hot and luckily my partner was looking in the other direction. I got a text later that night from her and before i knew it we had another hot night together. Great memory...
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hubby got recognized from his tattoo!But.... the woman said she had been looking at our profile and hubby asked what her username was... WELL... she refused to give it and said her profile was hidden so we couldn't see it...He got out of there as fast as he could!
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RHP User
14 years ago
So it took me a lot longer than I'm sure it took the people I met to figure out who each other were. But then I've always been a bit slow on the uptake. But then I've also hung on to my Tazo collection because one day that's going to make me a MILLIONAIRE! I say, if you've communicated with the other person and everyone knows each other's face, maybe a knowing smile and a wave would be okay. But if I were out with my family or my friends (almost none of whom know about my sexual/RHP side of life) and someone came up to me and said:"Heeeeey Slippery! What you write is hot, man! Based on your advice I pissed on my gf in the shower last week and she went off like a frog in sock! Keep up the good work, you kinky mofo!"I'd be waiting for a hole in the earth to open up for me to fall into, and then I'd drag them along with me. Let's keep it all a bit subtle. That doesn't necessarily mean that I'm ashamed of who I am, just that I don't want to broadcast that to the public at large or to people who would honestly rather not know.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I have a destinctive tattoo in my right Boob & was at the shopping centre when I heard "Dazi, Dazi...I'd know that tat anywhere....You dont know me but Im off RHP....Dazi, Dazi" She was a good 3metres away from me.... of course I kinda looked up when I heard what she was saying My daughter said " Mum I hope that skank is mistaking you for someone else" I just laughed & said "who the fuck would be called Dazi" I was speechless & couldnt believe someone would be sooooo loud & obvious especially when I had never met her.... I cover up now lol Dazi
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'dazichane' I have a destinctive tattoo in my right Boob & was at the shopping centre when I heard "Dazi, Dazi...I'd know that tat anywhere....You dont know me but Im off RHP....Dazi, Dazi" She was a good 3metres away from me.... of course I kinda looked up when I heard what she was saying My daughter said " Mum I hope that skank is mistaking you for someone else" I just laughed & said "who the fuck would be called Dazi" I was speechless & couldnt believe someone would be sooooo loud & obvious especially when I had never met her.... I cover up now lol Dazi That's unfathomably rude and creepy of her.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I cannot see the harm in saying hi, if in a general sense it all depends on the manner and attitude, I always say hi to people but as a general greeting not necessarily one of recognition, but in saying that it could be taken wrongly if you met on rhp and could make situations uncomfortable if there are others there, in that case, discretion, logic and commonsense comes into play, as some have mentioned perhaps a nod or just walk on by
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RHP User
13 years ago
I saw one lady member at the local shops the other day and i had every intention of going up and saying hello, but she was busy talking with someone it seemed liked she obviously knew, so probably wasn't appropriate *grins* I pulled up behind her at the checkout and we exchanged a hello and a smile... imagine i did introduce myself, then imagine the look on the young girl's face behind the till... your name is really coodi yowie... we exchanged a few messages when we both got home... 2 days later i spotted another member in a busy newsagency, i think he knew who i was too
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RHP User
13 years ago
Was out dancing with friends at a gay bar a few weekends ago when I went to the bar for a drink. Ran smack bang into the woman of a couple off here, where we had exchanged photos and a couple of emails but established that we weren't what we were each looking for. Smiled, but other than that ignored each other for the remainder of the night.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have seen a few members on the train going to work and walking through the city who are on here, never did I approach as well sometimes you have to keep business and pleasure separate. Plus working in the industry I work in you sorta get recognized pretty easily.But again, i dont think there is anything wrong in saying Hi, i mean we are all just human in the end.
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