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Red hot to for single guys !!
February 18 2019
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ukexpat1981
7 years ago
Not that I message single guys but I agree. Not as if it's that expensive either. Couple of schooners.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Thanks UK..
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RHP User
7 years ago
I’m a guest and regularly get the flirt “You’re exactly what I’m looking for please message me I’m keen” ...from Platimum members 😏 I’m guessing that means they’ve used all their allowed msgs flooding the inboxes of the hotties they hope to attract. And then send random flirts to the ‘backup’ choices in the hopes that we’re desperate enough to feel flattered and jump at the chance for attention. Yeah, no...not me. They just end up on my block lust🤣
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RHP User
7 years ago
Excuse my spelling!!! Platinum and list, not lust 🤣
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RHP User
7 years ago
I don't expect you to have to pay for membership because I am well aware of the many reason it's not that simple having followed the forums for years. I'm sure we'll read them here. The best reason I can offer for men to choose to have a membership is that guests can use the free message that renews every 7 days to message you. That only works for male members. 'Scuse the pun. Peachy
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RHP User
7 years ago
Just curious, if you got that same flirt from a paid member would you respond differently? Or would you then say “you’re a paid member, why not just message me ffs?” and still not reply?
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'Eiliethiya' I’m a guest and regularly get the flirt “You’re exactly what I’m looking for please message me I’m keen” ...from Platimum members 😏 I’m guessing that means they’ve used all their allowed msgs flooding the inboxes of the hotties they hope to attract. And then send random flirts to the ‘backup’ choices in the hopes that we’re desperate enough to feel flattered and jump at the chance for attention. Yeah, no...not me. They just end up on my block lust🤣 It is free to message Platinum members if you are a guest... I'm guessing they're probably saving themselves the effort of making unappreciated approaches or having to think of what to say. They do get 50 messages a day last I looked, that's a lot of hotties... Peachy
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RHP User
7 years ago
Hahha.. they must be sending a LOT of messages ! Lol .
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RHP User
7 years ago
Be thankful you get them at all. Think alot of single guys would happy with a flirt . Most dont get much at all
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countrytouch82
7 years ago
Quoting 'PeachyPearL' They do get 50 messages a day last I looked, that's a lot of hotties... Peachy Mmmm... I have a Platinum membership, and one "hottie" so to speak... Of course though, I required that membership to keep up with last minute interest on a meet and greet. Otherwise basic premium is more than enough.
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countrytouch82
7 years ago
I wonder if it is a turn off now being Platinum, that people might think I'm one of them serial "wanna fuck" messagers?
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RHP User
7 years ago
I'd have to assume that with those numbers, they'd run out of 'hotties' in a hurry anyway. Good point by you that folks have their different reasons for the type of memberships they have. Just another one of those examples of why we need to look deeper into the overall profile to seek an overall outlook about them. For me, the thought occurs that a Platinum member offers the chance to message them directly (though that time counts towards the free message guests get to message male members). Of course the guest has to match the seeking preferences of the profiles as well. Hmmm, I dunno, the whole idea of the thread comes across as sexist to me. Would the same be expected of women? Peachy
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RHP User
7 years ago
If someone shows an interest in you, who cares how they approach you. Quite single minded and pretentious to assume its financial reasons someone isn’t a paying member. I’m a guest because I’m feeling my way to see if I want to upgrade.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'Rapunzel82' Just curious, if you got that same flirt from a paid member would you respond differently? Or would you then say “you’re a paid member, why not just message me ffs?” and still not reply? I read a member profile recently that explained quite clearly they expect more than a flirt from a paid up member or else it reflected on the amount of real interest shown and would be a direct no. It always interests me that people have such ideas but hey, each to their own. Peachy
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RHP User
7 years ago
Wow ! That was fun 😂
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RHP User
7 years ago
Peachy mock me all you like. Yes I am obviously ignorant to the benefits of Platinum membership. However my interpretation of how *I* take it when a paid member sends a flirt to me (a guest), is my own.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I meant no harm, hoped to educate some as is my way... As I posted, as a guest, you can message paid male profiles. I hope it helped. And totally agree with people's (including myself) rights to take things their own way! It makes for an interesting and exciting forum. Peachy, each to their own
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Quoting 'PeachyPearL' Quoting 'Rapunzel82' Just curious, if you got that same flirt from a paid member would you respond differently? Or would you then say “you’re a paid member, why not just message me ffs?” and still not reply? I read a member profile recently that explained quite clearly they expect more than a flirt from a paid up member or else it reflected on the amount of real interest shown and would be a direct no. It always interests me that people have such ideas but hey, each to their own. Peachy Well Peaches, that would be my profile And yes, I'm very glad my ideas are different to yours......
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RHP User
7 years ago
Wow, people are feisty today. Actually, it wasn't but kudos to your right to have a different opinion! Peachy,
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RHP User
7 years ago
I got a flirt from a paid male member saying 'I'm looking for friends and let's exchange messages!" so thought he might wanna just chat. As soon as I sent a flirt back got a message saying he is looking for a male to play with though my profile says I am STRAIGHT....lame wanker!!!
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RHP User
7 years ago
Personally not fussed how I'm initially contacted, it's just breaking the ice.
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MzRizk
7 years ago
Hi everyone This thread pre-empts me wanting to start a posting on user engagement in general from here. I am pretty flabbergasted how tricky males - guests or not- make it to get laid. I would suggest most guest guys here are sussing and the hot ones(like the hot ladies) think they just need to sit back for the paid up ladies to hit them up etc. I have been here for 3-4 months and it never ceases to amaze how guys engage lamely. Keen Examples: 1. They draw out the face reveal process often opening with “ great profile lets chat and see if there’s a connection” yet have zero face pix on offer attached. 🧐 2. Guest guys dont seem to realise guest women cannot message them...😏 3. men respond to my dates in datefinder when theyre interstate, yet arent travelling🤦🏻♀️
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MzRizk
7 years ago
To continue: 4. Off here and chatting by kik or text the unsolicited dick pic then topples them. I am clear I dont like em sent unasked & being sent them for me this is a turn off because guys you are showing your needs to peacock(pun intended)surpass my erotic needs. So what hope would there be when we get naked if your porn fantasies are just ruling the game? A mindset by men that women here are after Mutual equal fun is a WIN. Show respect. Listen. Read. Its fairly simple! We are not the unpaid devices of your sexual fantasies. You are here to meet ours😆😅 ahem...well to mutually achieve a win/win ideally!! It’s not a surprise guys - we know your cock generally leads you but try, do try, to be charming/mindful and that may get you laid swiftly!
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RHP User
7 years ago
Apparently ,Nice Tits wanna root is a bit forward.. i have tried saying nice shoes
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RHP User
7 years ago
Yeah I gues as a paid member, I have tended to still use the flirt as an initial toe in the water.I know with the ratios the way they are, you ladies probably get swapped with contacts. Not really the case for most single guys. So I show interest with a flirt. If I get a good response back (a return flirt) then I will always message that person straight away. Also I know some guys are tools and just want to play games but i dont think its right to generalise. I for one do not have face pics in my public profile but as soon as I am in contact with someone I am very happy to open that folder It's just a general security thing as there are some professions where being attached to the lifestyle would not really be approved.anyway that my 2 cents worth
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RHP User
7 years ago
Flirts just seem like a half-assed effort to me. Like..I would probably f*ck you, but don't want to waste a message on you if you're not a sure thing (*MY* interpretation). An actual well worded, non-sleazy (you know, not presuming this is a sex site, so 'she's' here for sex and I don't have to show her any respect or common decency) kinda message will usually get a reply from me. Not always straight away cos I work and am busy (not using the "I get a hundred msgs a day and I can't respond to them all line...cos I really don't!) 🤣
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RHP User
7 years ago
Is the double standards. By rights if we're going to demand certain behaviour from men, we should be looking at ourselves first. It's entitled to think we can be a guest and pay nothing while expecting every effort from them while giving nothing in return to recognise when effort is properly made, that's not how relationships work. Disclaimer, No, that's not @ anybody so don't read too much into it, it is totally up to readers how they filter it. I don't support entitled behaviour by men either. Peachy
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RHP User
7 years ago
Yeah fair call Eilie,I take your point but you might be surprised how often a guy sends a message and gets no response at all. Not even a no thanks. So I guess it can get a bit disheartening at times and so you or i should say I get half-assed at times and send a flirt first to see if there might be any interest at first.As you though say probably not a very productive way of doing things and maybe i need to change that. And i think thats a good point as well Peachy. And i also do not support entitled behaviour by men either!
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RHP User
7 years ago
it dosent matter if your a paid member thats your choice if you are or not and people should respect your choice weather you are or your not...
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RHP User
7 years ago
it dosent matter if your a paid member thats your choice if you are or not and people should respect your choice weather you are or your not...
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abcplus1
7 years ago
As a couple, our reply rate is also dismal. Even a no thanks is seemingly too hard for a lot of women. So on occasions we have also used a flirt if the person's profile was *maybe* a match. Just to see if there was some interest.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I know it's not directed at me..but I'll address it anyway (on my own behalf) as I am a single woman with a 'guest' profile.... I see no need for me to pay for membership as I never send a first message. This is not 'entitlement', rather my own hang ups and insecurities defining my interactions (I need to be shown interest before I'm comfortable or confident in reciprocating). I have had paid membership on 2 occassins in my time here. Both times I was bombarded with flirts (from paid and guest men) advising ME to message them. That membership only really gave me unlimited accees to the cock and nacked pics people put up..and that's not a selling point for me! 🤣
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On_Safari
7 years ago
I NEVER logon and randomly search profiles. If I’ve been to a party and met someone who I’d like to become friends with here or engage with further I’ll seek them out. As a paid member I would just go through my flirts and if someone’s well written profile caught my attention I would message them but mostly I do not make the first move. Sometimes I’ll send a flirt to compliment a profile and that’s limited to the “I just wanted to say I loved your profile.” If I get messaged after that than it goes from there and more often than not a man can always be relied on to shoot himself in the genitalia by getting smutty. As for couple profiles - I will always respond to a message but often it’s the man contacting me and even though I’m polite and not inviting anything from either of them I think some of the wives may say “No” to the husbands interest and they Ghost me. As we are aware not all couple profiles have a “couple” behind them and the man behind that profile will dodge any suggestions of speaking to the wife. It’s not uncommon for women here to be ghosted after a few messages either OP. I don’t pay for membership nowadays simply because I’m not actively looking for anything. I go to parties, occasionally do a coffee with men who’ve approached me like a human being and I get the vibe they are harmless. If I’m interested they’ll know it after coffee because I’m not a fan myself of not knowing if the other person is attracted to me physically/sexually. Like Eilie and many other women I’m not interested in cock shots and seeing your goods, to me it screams needy and no decent man wants to force feed you his cock. So Guest status is awesome for filtering the wannabe porn stars. Some things are just left to wonder about and discover for yourself. Anyway that’s my 2 bob ~ Indy
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RHP User
7 years ago
Again..apologies for my lack of spell checking!! 🤣😂
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RHP User
7 years ago
Couples and single men do it too. I sent numerous messages containing details for a recent event and l would have to say the couples were the worst for not replying "thanks but no thanks" after showing interest and wasting my time. Not to mention the shitload of men that were extended an invitation and couldn't be bothered to reply but continue to whinge they're never invited to anything. All good though it helps me weed out the people for next time. Get over it, move on.👍🏻 Ms PF
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
The "if l send you a message would you reply?" flirt. It saves their precious messages and pre empts responses. But of course that's from paid members, a bit of topic. It shuts me when you send a positive flirt back, or even a message and they never follow up. Just another example of dick head guys in here
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RHP User
7 years ago
Is the different points of view on offer. I may not agree with them all mind you. Either how, if people have their reasons for not wanting to be a paid up member, they have to respect that other people have their reasons too. How can we expect other people to put in all the effort when we have our own reasons for not wanting to? Isn't it possible they feel the same? Peachy
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
That no 1 reason that a single male wont pay membership is because it's difficult to hide such payment in the marital household......
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RHP User
7 years ago
Their chances are that much less on a challenging site then hey. I think it's a lot easier to pay a sly bill these days mind you. Peachy
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RHP User
7 years ago
Would you reply to anyone anyway? 😅 Take advice from a real human being, do not buy a membership
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RHP User
7 years ago
I use the flirts as a way go know if someone is interested if they ate i message if not why waste a message on a not interested flirt....
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RHP User
7 years ago
Excuse my message sorry i typed fast lol i meant i use the flirt option as a way to know if a lady is interested if not why waste a message....
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RHP User
7 years ago
Flirts are just fun. Nothing more. Abi gets quite a few but just deletes them an moves on. No issue. No sh!ts etc... it's just a fact if life that everyone has a different approach and that's okay.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Look for Canberra residents
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RHP User
7 years ago
We just joined a week ago we are very serious about it but would be worried if someone didn’t reply cause we are not verified we have paid the money how do u verify your self ?? Unsure
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RHP User
7 years ago
Buy a membership you cheap skates 😁🤦🏼♂️
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RHP User
7 years ago
What about if you pay for a membership and no women bother to reply or at least say no thanks 🤷♂️ goes both ways
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RHP User
7 years ago
It’s $50 a month in 🇦🇺.. it only allows 5msgs a day to anyone you may think will reply... . unless they choose to reply.... but don’t then that’s 1 msg out of 5 gone... then that places you right up ship creek 🚢 on here when ladies would average 50/100 requests a day so even getting a look in is scarce sadly.. hence why I am now a guest.... 👌
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BinChicken187
7 years ago
Agree, it ain't hard to upgrade and actually message the person you're interested in, if not gtofh.
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MnauMnau
7 years ago
Interesting topic. Been paid member for few years now and can't see much benefit from it. I have 5 messages per day, I can say it is way too much. I still remember my first message as a paid member. It was honest and long story. Way too long to my style. Few hundred words. As requested by the person. "Don't send me a template message, put some effort into it." But I've got reply "thank you". And that was it. Now, when I send 1st message, if there is no reply 2nd follows in a week or two. If no reply after, I might leave it for later. No dick pics in my gallery. Face in private. Will share it after 2-3 messages when some form of contact is established. Couples, problem on it's own. They can't select properly what they are after. Search criteria seeking Man, Woman, couple. But in description "No single guys!!" Or Don't send us message, send flirt instead, will get back to you. Zzzzz I don't expect woman/couple to initiate the chat, but they could.... and they will not say "thanks no thanks" Sugar dating all over the place, and still can't reply "Sorry not my type" but checks my profile few times. So there is not much credit to being paid member.
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RHP User
7 years ago
99% of messages sent to ladies and couples don’t get a response in my experience, hence why I’ve let my paid membership lapse.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'RobinBanks187' Agree, it ain't hard to upgrade and actually message the person you're interested in, if not gtofh. It doesn't appear you expect the same from you friends! Peachy, cheeky as ever
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RHP User
7 years ago
I guess the bloke is still expected to pay .... Even in open times.... I have been both paying and not... It seems to me that a male is expected to have credit ..... And are flirts so bad ?😁😁😁
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Quoting '1forfuntimes' What about if you pay for a membership and no women bother to reply or at least say no thanks 🤷♂️ goes both ways Quoting '1forfuntimes' What about if you pay for a membership and no women bother to reply or at least say no thanks 🤷♂️ goes both ways Life is full of what if's and maybe's with no sure certainty.Least it's worth a go as you are doing. There's no sure thing in a bar either.
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Quoting 'cockhard' We just joined a week ago we are very serious about it but would be worried if someone didn’t reply cause we are not verified we have paid the money how do u verify your self ?? Unsure Not sure about the app but the should be a section in there somewhere to do the process. It's pretty easy and makes a difference
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