"Relationship" dynamics.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  more than once and it is a regular thing then it is a relationship of sorts. There are so many forms of relationships but I am thinking you are asking about a committed relationship? A committed relationship, IMO is where both parties are bound by the boundaries or framework they have set to work within. This can be exclusive or seeing others but have future building plans for their primary relationship. A committed relationship is one where trust, love, caring for each other is the basis. I am sure there are more things that come into it but at a glance that's how I see it. LG

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  not calling it a relationship after six weeks is probably being cautious, because she's still feeling it out and doesn't want to make any assumptions. That's pretty sensible. For the woman not calling it a relationship after a number of months, I'd say one of three things is going on: a. Her man is being a bit standoffish, and she doesn't feel secure enough in it to call it that. b. She doesn't see him as a long term prospect, but still enjoys it as a casual thing. c. She's a bit relationship shy, and feels restricted by the term. This is all based on a Big "R" Relationship as opposed to a small "r" relationship, which of course they have anyway.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  but I don't mind expressing my opinion again... Relationship (noun): The way in which two or more people or things are connected, or the state of being connected. So you have a relationship with your family, your co-workers, your friends, your butcher, the postman.... Even your fellow forumites. I have a relationship with my espresso machine and whiskey collection, but I'm worried that my adoration is a little one-sided... Relationships are defined by the people in them. There are of course societal conventions about what constitutes a relationship that tends to fuck things up (as many societal conventions do), but at the end of the day if two (or three or four) people decide that they're in a relationship, what that means is whatever they decide it means. I have several relationships that certainly don't fit the mold of convention. One lives on the other side of the country, one I only see once or twice a fortnight, one is with a married couple... They have their 'rules' and boundaries. Some discussed, some implied, but they are all entirely unique to us. When you allow your relationships with other people to be defined by anyone else or by your own ideas about how things 'should' be, that's when trouble can arise. Communication, openness and honesty are important and knowing yourself well is vital. If you don't know what you really want, how the hell can anyone give it to you?

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  There are many different permutations of relationships..No two can ever be the same.because you are you and they are them,always a unique combination 😘xxFreya

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Quoting 'Keepitsimple72' Communication, openness and honesty are important and knowing yourself well is vital. If you don't know what you really want, how the hell can anyone give it to you? The whole post is sensational, but this part is outstanding! Could not have said it any better myself xx

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I have seen a bloke exclusively for three months before I might think, yeah I think I could really like this guy. Some people move way too fast. What the hell is the rush?

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I have a relationship, I'm not in one. I agree with Meeks, where's the rush? I couldn't imagine being someone's girlfriend after only six weeks, I doubt I'd know them well enough by then.

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  sweetgem

  11 years ago

  In my young and dumb age, I was moving at the speed of a lightning when dated a man, which of course had me fell and smashed right to the bottom of the river! But I learned from my own mistakes each time I failed and only up until I successfully escaped from my "previous life", I truly learned that a committed relationship did not just happen at the speed of a rocket! So, since then, I have been moving at the pace of a turtle when it comes to dating and committing into a serious relationship. Because of this change, I have been able to see things heaps clearer early on when dating someone (either for a committed relationship or a companionship) and know what to do accordingly. It took me a bit over a year to be certain that I truly like my current partner and want to start exploring a few things sexually with him. The word "relationship" weighs differently to different people IMO. It certainly weighs heavily on my scale, probably because English is not my first language and the very first time I was introduced to this word was when I was seriously dating my first love! Since then, whenever I see the word "relationship" I automatically see the word "love" as well (like relationship = love). Therefore, I have been avoiding using the word "relationship" to describe the companionship between my current partner and I each time we chat and discuss about things. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  ...but to make myself grow emotionally, I do have to remind myself now and again that just because a friendship isn'tdeveloping into the relationship I'd like it to be, it doesn't have to be the end of the friendship for me. I say "make myself grow", because left to my comfort zone I will likely make historically unproductive decisions.What's the hurry? Peoples' perceptions can change. Mine can change. Keep my pride. Maintain my autonomy. I don't possess anyone. Don't allow anyone to abuse my friendship either.Look to my future with only me taking centre stage. Take this friendship as it comes and be careful it doesn't define me.

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  MsJonesy

  11 years ago

  Relationships are tricky bastards aren’t they? Everyone has their personal beliefs and stances as to what that word – relationship – means to them. But to have a relationship (with anyone – it does not have to involve the ‘L’ word) means establishing what it means to everyone. It takes communication, negotiation and sometimes compromise, to make it work. And the communication cannot stop. Like KIS, I have some unconventional relationships and they have unique characteristics which have to be established and maintained by those who are involved. That can sometimes be hard, sometimes easy. But having the desire to maintain the relationship and make it work is what overcomes the difficulties. But ultimately how I feel about the relationship and how comfortable I am and how ‘into it’ I am rests with my choices and my self talk. Being myself within the construct of a relationship is paramount; losing your notion of self, or relying on others build and support your own self worth is fraught with danger.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  It was so easy with 20. Now after being widowed and single for 17teen years, and for the first time in a "relationship" I don't know is it one or is it just being Friends? I don't know the rules anymore....................Do we have to move in with each other to make it a Relationship or is it OK to see each other on a set regular basis? Is it a relationship to give him my housekey? Is this a sign from me to say....hey you are mine and I am yours? I am so confused how all this goes. I am also so relaxed how it works out, I have never been in a situation like this. But everything what I had in my mind what should be a real" relationship" is not right anymore, :) it is so different, so good so relaxed so sensual so RIGHT. Hmm, this one is teaching me to be flexible. S

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  For me I've meet some nice lady's and nice couples over the last 2 years. It's been 4 long hard years for me from the down turn in my life (two lady's here know my story) but now it's time to find a relationship :) but I'd love to find a lady that is open to this lifestyle and not just lie about her intent. But like anything in life when you start looking for it you can never seem to find it even tho it's more then likely right in front of us... Relationships come in so many different forms. My view only

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  There's hardly a word here that doesn't make sense. One size only fits one in this game!The workmate and her bloke are on stormy waters at present, there are two of us, blokes, who are being as supportive as we can. Both of them have their own baggage...which includes wound dressings. Both have made mistakes which can be put down to self protection. We can see that they would make a good couple, if he decides he's prepared to take the plunge. They are giving each other a bit of space right now to draw breath and think about it, we can only wish them both what's best for them. She has now discovered what it is like to be with a man who is considerate, caring and thinks of more than just himself. If this relationship fails she can take that positivity away from it.relationship, Relationship or RELATIONSHIP whatever label you use the whole matter of human interaction is a sensitive and interesting area.I have a lot in my head at present as I met up with my FWB this week and it is taking a lot of my thoughts about this relationship. Guilt, joy and a whole mess of thoughts are going through my head. I have a wife who loves me and is loved in return. I have a FWB who respects me and my marriage and is respected in return...apparently life wasn't meant to be easy. There is some awkwardness as Mrs D and I have discussed my sex life for some time now, she makes the occasional reference to my girlfriend but stops short of asking me directly about the matter. I'm left with the feeling that she knows/suspects somethings going on but chooses not to confront the matter. Oh what a web we weave...How the cyber friend feels is her business but I wish her well with her connections, the same applies to everybody else who is seeing someone.

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