Relationships and Pregnancy

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  couplefairride

  11 years ago

  Maybe you should seek counselling. If she agrees to it. Then there is a ray of hope. If not let it be and build a positive friend relationship with her for the sake of your child. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  they could be But I think this is a huge red flag If she would rather listen to her father at her age..I'm assuming she's around your age, then that is a huge red flag IMHO She's a grown women responsible now for another life and for her choices, she's not a teenager (I'm assuming) . I'm not saying family is not important, it is, but if she's going to chose her existing family over you, the father of her child, and if all that you say is true, then you have dodged a bullet. I would never let my family dictate my relationships only me However, in saying all of that, its hard to believe that you have broken up just based on that reason but no one ever knows what goes on between two people except the two involved, so we can only go on your side of the story But whatever the reason, if it was me, Id give her time and space, if you are meant to be , you will The waiting is the hard part

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  sweetgem

  11 years ago

  What benefits do you see for coming on RHP while you are still dearly loving the mother of your unborn child? Your presence on site like this could make an already fragile situation more worse when the lady in question finds out! Could it be your partner's, or ex partner (since you have recently split up), hormones that are affecting her thoughts or not, nobody on this site will know for certain because, we are not her and we do not know the whole story. Therefore, I don't have the answer for you unfortunately. But good luck for whatever path you choose to walk on from here on. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  Lovinit28andKC72

  11 years ago

  But I think it I had have listened to my father,my life might have been a whole lot different. At the end of the day parents only want what's best for their children and you will soon come to realize this.... But anyway, yes is RHP the place for someone that is still in love with the ex partner who is carrying their child, probably not. You should be working on that relationship without any other distractions.....💋

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Can you see why her father doesn't want you in her life OP?..Can you fix it ?Prove to her that he is wrong? If you want to be part of your child's life at least think about it,...Children need both their parents,my child grew up with barely knowing her dad,such pity and now he regrets that he spent so little time with her.Be the bigger man,try to mend things if you can with her father...seek out some counselling to help with all this...for your child.As for being on sites like this,...it won't help your cause if you are genuine in trying to build some bridges..good luck xxFreya

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Quoting 'sweetgem' What benefits do you see for coming on RHP while you are still dearly loving the mother of your unborn child? Your presence on site like this could make an already fragile situation more worse when the lady in question finds out! Could it be your partner's, or ex partner (since you have recently split up), hormones that are affecting her thoughts or not, nobody on this site will know for certain because, we are not her and we do not know the whole story. Therefore, I don't have the answer for you unfortunately. But good luck for whatever path you choose to walk on from here on. - Posted from rhpmobile I think he is just using the site as a way of thinking it over and why not ask here on RHP. Alot of people on here have there own stories and experience in life. Or are we just here to talk about irrelevant shit.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Mate tough times. Give it time. If you want this girl in your life- get on with your life as confidently as you can be. This is attractive. If you lose your shit and get angry or sad this will just give her more reason to stick to her decision. If your leave the door open you never know what will happen. Having a baby is not easy for a couple let alone on your own so she may just think again and want you in her life. Hope it turns out OK. CT

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  gazpacho

  11 years ago

  Sounds like the dear old dad is a meddling old fucker who could never be pleased. The parents in law are part of the whole package, as are the sponging siblings and that annoying little smart arse nephew. Do you want that life for yourself for any prolonged period of time? Look after number one, buster. Hugs Gaz

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  The OP's profile says he's looking for "someone i can have fun with, to explore life as well as a bedroom", so he can't convince me he just stumbled across this site looking for a forum to post his problem on. DjMikey, your telling us your side of the story in only a few scentences, which really makes us having to fill in way to much ourselves.I could be way off of course, have a feeling you're looking for people to agree with you, instead of asking tough questions. Your ex is choosing to leave you while carrying your child, which makes me believe it's not a decision she would have taken lightly. The fact you're here looking for bedroom fun while saying you love her and want to build a future with her tells me something about your character.Maybe she came to the conclusion you are not who she wants to grow old with, regardless of her father's opinion. If I were to give you advise I'd tell you to get the hell out of here and show her you're a trustworthy person she can count on, whether you're together or not. Actions speak louder than words. She may change her mind, she may not. You can't make her decide, and whatever the outcome is, that's how it is. Also, to suggest that her not wanting you is due to her hormones is about a ludicrous to me as suggesting a woman is only angry with you because she must be getting her period.Take a long look at yourself and take some responsibility instead of wondering what her problem is.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Won't enter into any form of judgment or advice re your lady or even her father. I will however point out the biggest factor and that's the unborn child your first ? Regardless of what happens with your now ex don't ever give up on the child and don't ever us said child against the ex or her family... Live love and learn...

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  I agree with Meander. Ill add... If anyone has a hormonal problem it is you OP, looking for a root WTF!! Have a wank and get it under control and stop the blame game. This is time for you to show responsibility, reliability and above all patience. Get off this site and start preparing your self to be looking after a child. I can guarantee that if you spend this time gallivanting around while she is carrying it will not bode well for you. If on the other hand you prepare your self and wait till needed you will stand a far better chance of a happy outcome for all, especially the new arrival, it deserves a happy family.

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  What she said. And while you find yourself swirling in the tornado of your current circumstances..... don't do the typical male ego thing and think to yourself... what do they know... this is what I want to do..... .....and remember.... you asked others for help. In short... sort your shit before inviting other shit into your world. You have a child to be responsible of, and for. DG

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  You continue to be here every day, yet have not responded to anything said. Is it because you didn't get the answers you wanted, or because you've been taking your time thinking really hard about what's been said?

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  RHP User

  11 years ago

  Quoting 'Meander' The OP's profile says he's looking for "someone i can have fun with, to explore life as well as a bedroom", so he can't convince me he just stumbled across this site looking for a forum to post his problem on. I guess it is entirely possible that he met his pregnant ex on here, and thought to come back to use the forums to utilise the large cross section of knowledge and opinions? On the other hand he could be a dirty dog who just can't keep it in his pants. We can only assume and that's never helpful. I do hope he returns to respond to this thread to fill us in on more of the story. Hormones can have an effect of intensifying emotions, but the hurt/anger/betrayal already exists to be magnified. I,e. they are not the cause of the problem. If you are genuine Sir, I suggest you are noble and kind and perhaps pen her a letter explaining how you feel and what you are prepared to do to make things right, which will include rectifying the situation with her father. You might not end up best buddies with him, but you can earn his respect if you go about things the right way, with the right intentions. Good luck!

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