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October 09 2017
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RHP User
8 years ago
This question pops up often. The reasons why people don't reply are many and varied. The thread below gives a good insight into most of them. https://redhotpie.com.au/Adult-Forums/Ok-fella39s-join-me-on-the-war-against-quotnon-replyquot-53693 Best of luck on your RHP journey, OP. Staf safe, and have fun 🙂
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
1. They are not looking for a single man and or are not looking for the same things that you are looking for. 2. You did not read their profile wording with regards what they are looking for 3. You are not what they are looking for 4. They have not yet seen your message 5. They are inundated with messages and have not yet had the time to reply to yours 6. They have deliberately not replied because they feel that it is easier to remain silent than have to explain why they are not interested Most couples & single women, are often swamped with daily messages on here. Many of the senders have not bothered to read through the recipients profile wording, and thus the sender may very well not be compatible to what the recipient is actually looking for. Some do bother reading through the profile wording, but then simply disregard/ disrespect what is written and send an unsolicited message in an attempt to "change the mind" of the recipient. Many more send lewd, disrespectful messages, often accompanied by penis photos in a variety of poses. Remember also, that single males are a dime a dozen on here and in the vast majority when compared to couples & single females. In our experience, it is sometimes better to just not reply at all, rather than have to face a barrage of verbal abuse by the sender of the unsolicited message wanting to know why we don't like his profile, why we don't want to meet him, and that we don't know what we are missing etc etc. In conclusion, no one owes you anything on here. Don't have any expectations nor entitlements. A non reply to a message is, in itself, generally a reply that they are NOT interested.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I've been on and off RHP for many years and I can tell you now that most of your messages (if they're like mine) will not be replied to. The reasons for not replying are numerous. Just take pleasure in the ones that reply, whether they are positive or negative, and don't let the non-reply's get you down. Cheers and welcome to RHP.
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
We commented on your post above, and what did you then do ? You sent us a flirt despite the fact that (a) you are a premium member (and could have actually messaged us) (b) you are in NSW and we are in VIC. Did you bother actually reading through our profile wording , before sending us the wink? And then you wonder why people don’t reply ? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Hi. Well spos it comes down to if your a payed member ,you can contact others ,if not changes things a little I have had contact with 3 others in regard to the Ball on 7 th july this year , and that's it really ,I know many have had a look at my photo and maybe my details , and I,ll take it no one would be interested as I,m in NZ, so I doubt there will be any interest in myself . just the way it is, ...noeleena...
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RHP User
8 years ago
They don't want to. For whatever reason it sucks but it's common - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I do very well in real life and it's only a matter of time before I find my sexy hot unicorn! When that happens we're Gunna make a point of not responding to any couple that ignored us as a singles :) Don't get angry just get even ;)
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RHP User
8 years ago
The genuine ones will reply or make the effort...end of the day this is virtual medium and we don't really know these people personally, so a lot of people couldn't really give a fcuk about good manners. I get reply's but if they have made minimal effort as in a few words I don't continue correspondence...fcuk em. Good luck and enjoy the journey!
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Dirtyandfriendly
8 years ago
Pretty much what dynamic couple said the amount of guys to compete with pretty damn high. Then you compete with those who are just on here for a chat and have no intention of meeting. Then there is the fakes. So this is not substantiated evidence, but let's just say 400 guys to 1 woman (exaggerated?). Would I be far off on that peoples?
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RHP User
8 years ago
It's what happens when your not face to face with a person, or on one end of a phone call, or when you don't actually need anything from the other person. Anything more that's given is a courtesy. Personally, I'm all for courtesy....I think it still has a place.
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MsJonesy
8 years ago
Instead of the app you can tell if someone has read your message or not, by going to the 'sent' folder in your message centre. If they have not read the message it will still show in bold, and say 'unread'. I don't know if the app has the same feature as I don't use the app. If, after a period of time has passed (days not minutes or hours), they are not replying after it shows they have read your message then that is an answer in itself. Not everyone is going to be interested in you, sorry to say. Make the effort to ensure your first message is interesting and references something from their profile which caught your eye - and I don't mean a message such as "let me at those tits of yours, I wanna cum all over them". (For the forum police, that is an example not a direct quote from a message). This place takes time, effort, respect and manners. Good luck 😊
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Sawadee
8 years ago
you my man ' are the dreaded single male.. You're not on your Pat Malone btw so don't take it to heart. In my experience there are far more fakes than I care to think about... Even here on the forums , you can reply to someone which deserves a reply in turn ' yet nothing.. ? Very un Australian if you ask me , but rudeness is a way of life these days...
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RHP User
8 years ago
Are a one way ticket to destination disappointment.... Whilst you may reject that as an issue, this thread is a pretty good “tell” that you have/had them.... That’ll be $50 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
jayme2 - you say "you my man ' are the dreaded single male.. You're not on your Pat Malone btw so don't take it to heart. In my experience there are far more fakes than I care to think about... Even here on the forums , you can reply to someone which deserves a reply in turn ' yet nothing." That sounds a whole lot like a miserable experience to me, even though you chose to join, and you could choose to leave. If this is such a wretched place for you to be, why the fuck do you stay? I mean this question most sincerely. Im baffled by attempting to comprehend the logic. OP - sorry to derail but your question has well and truly been answered.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yes, this is a common topic. I reply to everyone. I have found a way to do it in bulk .. yes, us girls get a lot of messages where bulk replies are needed. I think its a must to reply in my opinion. - Posted from rhpmobile
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johnisfun3
8 years ago
As its been mentioned the couples and single women receive too many messages and winks. It could be pretty annoying to check them alone. I think its the same as waling in a supermarket or in a pub you will not get friendly with everyone. This should not be different. You have two choices either get used to this or like the other gentleman wait for your unicorn.........
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MissRedFox
8 years ago
Another way of looking at it - say a woman is interested in you - would you rather her be responding to you - or all the new messages just to be polite to let them know she's not interested? Sometimes online dating is exhausting. No not sometimes - most of the time. And if men got the volumes we did they'd do exactly the same thing - and how do I know this - because you talk to lots of guys and after a few messages they disappear- oh wait shouldn't I be whining about not getting a polite no thank you after investing in time responding? XX - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
lol @ Sharonski - Posted from rhpmobile
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bonefide
8 years ago
My two cents worth, being polite is effortless as replying or not replying its the way we are "individuals". Struth Surprise surprise, or modern version of that comment " well fuck me". Assumptions are many and various, ideas come from individual or groups, some have strong open views, or some shy and reserved views. Tread softly or stomp around, that's your call. Mmm reminds me "Tap Dogs" movie or similar name, about tap dancing with steel caps, old method new concept. Great movie anyway.
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Dirtyandfriendly
8 years ago
How many messages do you women get? daily? weekly?
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RHP User
8 years ago
It's a bit like lotto, you know the chances are slim, each week is a disappointment but you have to be in it to win it.
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Sawadee
8 years ago
Now why would I want to leave ??? Just because I'm aware of the way it is and say so ' you feel thats worthy of leaving.. Pffft.. I'm here because it's of the good up front ppl who are the lifeblood of the forums and who contribute most of the entertainment. Instead of trying to find a crack in a good thing , why don't you take the time to answer the question the OP asked.. and let him know why he gets ignored... ? I did ? Seriously ... 🙄. 🙄. 🙄 Seems I hit a nerve .. 🙄
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RHP User
8 years ago
That will vary according to how our profiles are set, what we're looking for I mean. Any women want to slow down traffic, insert the word 'relationship' 😉 Best way I know to see tumbleweed Re replying, I ghost 😇
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MsJonesy
8 years ago
As Meander. Flirts go no where...other than confirm they haven't read my profile 😎
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RHP User
8 years ago
Similar to Meander & MsJonesy. 2-3 first messages a day, but no flirts... I've taken advantage of the function that allows you to stop receiving flirts. Never looked at them anyway. Almost 5 years on the site, on and off.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Dirtyandfriendly' How many messages do you women get? daily? weekly? It's slowed down for me a lot but i will still average 10+ per day. I think i have politely replied to majority of males on here over the years so the messages are not as full on now
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