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Replying to the "Thanks, but no thanks" reply?
June 02 2014
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RHP User
12 years ago
end up in conversation from replying. I don't mean to, just trying to be polite. I usually have no interest in them but there are some friendly people out there that are probably thankful for someone to at least acknowledge they exist so the conversation goes on.
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RHP User
12 years ago
You've restored my faith, you must be one of the good'uns!
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RHP User
12 years ago
have conversations with people I'm not sexually interested in. I don't see a reason not to if I liked their initial message. This doesn't mean that I'm going to change my mind. It doesn't bother me at all if I get a thank you for replying, just don't get upset if you don't get a reply to that.
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's just as much a sign of politeness as is their reply to your first message. Quoting 'silvangold'Does it annoy the ladies to get a follow up message I doubt very much it would annoy anyone to receive a "thank you". And if it does, it's her problem, not yours
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RHP User
12 years ago
It would be unrealistic to get upset by not getting a reply to a reply! But I guess it happens :) S
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RHP User
12 years ago
OP... they're already "dismissed" your approach...... sending another, is just adding mild (or otherwise) annoyance. Theres no point..... and I know you hope they'll engage after which you aspire to ongoing communication that leads to more. But its highly unlikely. Save your effort. DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
You are most likely right lad, but some of us like myself have to try a little harder to get the same mileage :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I always appreciated it and sometimes did get into conversation with the guy... Gave them some tips or even struck up the occasional friendship. :-)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm a true believer in courtesy, doesn't cost anything and can being a smile to someone's face..... I always thank for the message as I recognise it could have been a wink and tell them to have fun and enjoy. I usually get a reply back saying thanks......... Only one final reply has made me want to message further and no! I'm not saying what he said lol.
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RHP User
12 years ago
That's nice to hear Meeka. I think the regulars on here probably have got their manners well sorted :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
He must have had a way with words, which proves my theory precisely. Even a one in a thousand chance is worth it, and you rightly point out, courtesy costs nothing! S xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have OCD and can't help but reply to every message I get and yes, have had some conversations after my "thanks, but no thanks" albeit, most of them are one or two word replies, discussion about the weather and our health. I would think the guys on the other side would be bored with my replies and stop responding, but I guess they have OCD too :P - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Any attention that validates a guy's ego, even a simple two word reply, won't go astray !
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RHP User
12 years ago
So, to the 5 lovely ladies above, thank YOU for replying to the messages I haven't sent yetAnd to the lovely ladies Whom I have messaged and replied, THANK YOUand to the lovely ladies I have sent a pleasant acknowledgement to their "Thanks but no thanks", please feel free to strike up friendly conversation, even if there's nothing there. ..And to the "second message" ladies, and those that just couldn't be bothered, how do you spell "PTHTHRPT" anyway? Rocky
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RHP User
12 years ago
People after reading their comments on the Forums... I do not think I have EVER actually "Hit-on" anyone here... AND MOST times, I get a response.Often there maybe a couple of messages go back and forward, but I am always careful NOT to get sexual. I realise this is a bit different from "Cold Contacts" like you are doing OP, but, try to take on a few pointers from the Women who post on similar posts, and you will no doubt start to get more positive replies....OR.. "Replies" anyway
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RHP User
12 years ago
I really like receiving a thank you back. It lets me know my courtesy was appreciated, which in return brings a smile to my face. Being nice costs nothing.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Take the time to write it then take the time to reply for your appreciation of not leaving you hang'n and waiting for nothing a no thanks is just as important as a yes please on the net ! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
this doesn't mean sometimes I just dont because I put it on the back burner and then I forget. All up, I am polite I believe you did a great big thing by saying u found someone interesting enough to send a flirt or message. As the ladies say, often you strike a good conversation with the person on the otherwise even it doesn't go further. It just get annoying when the other is not taking your no as a no even you are friendly and talk a bit. Keep it up I think you are on the right track......everything takes a while. Cheers L
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think it is a common curtesy. When people have taken the time to read profiles and formulate a message sending a quick thanks but no thanks is not hard. But yes have happily chatted to some even though it is clear there is no chance of a meet up. If badgering happens they get blocked. Ms S - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Fine lines dont exist on the net as annoying , threatening ,harassing can be conceivable to one ! However to another can be a challenge ,intriguing ,enjoyable dialectic , and the start of entertaining positive communication. And to throw in the towel on i whim? Silva Me old mate tis not the Australian spirit now is it ? So yes minds are changed indeed every day every hour every minute for to make a conclusion on assumptions perceived ? Especially when it is aimed at your ability to partner ! Character ! Personality spirit ! perceived as apart of a larger group? And that will be then concluded ! answered ! with YOUR reaction to a given action and in turn reveal or unveil truth concealed by both parties for whatever reasons the initial response was given ? Understand ? I say this from personal experience more than once struck up very entertaining and enjoyable dialogue with reply's to rejection, and yes also had dates after rejection !! i know mr Lad how could this be ? I don't by it !!! Bahahahahaha! On a recent trip east i received a thanks but no thanks ! So i replied as i always do to show my appreciation of a response any response is better than none !! Then i received another response ! to my reply of appreciation , for a reply of rejection ! From my initial message of engagement ! You keeping up ? Subject being mrs of a couple , who i will refer to as mrs HOT . mr Hot also being present throughout . Mrs HOT stated that in actual fact she must apologise as she did not actually read my message and just pushed past as i was a single male put into the single male waste basket !! In reading my message some time after it drew Mrs HOT to view my profile , in which i must say mrs and mr Hot loved . Had a very enjoyable exchange circumstances did not allow us to meet but was definitely an option and boy oh boy Mr Hot is a lucky and deserving man indeed for i did not ask ! but Mr Hot directed Mrs HOT to open up ALL there pages for Mr Bigocean !! yes ALL of 30 to 40 absolute quality pics of his magnificent wife naturally beautiful stunning with mr Hot complimenting her perfectly and both there character and understanding and spirit in life is a real acknowledgment that positive people can make anything perfect . So never give up on your dream . Ps g'day Mr and Mrs HOT you know who you are best wishes on all your adventures :-)) xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I always try to be polite I don't like to feel mistreated or have someone be rude or offensive to me so in return I always try to be polite. On the odd occasion they don't take the message well then I just ignore and delete
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thanks to all the posters particularly Oceans detailed observations. Seems like a bit of chivalry and manners survives and is appreciated. Silva
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' I really like receiving a thank you back. It lets me know my courtesy was appreciated, which in return brings a smile to my face. Being nice costs nothing. Courtesy is becoming a lost art but I can tell you that I DO appreciate good manners and have sometimes struck up a conversation in this manner.On a couple of occasions the men have been pleasantly persistent (definitely not pushy) and we have ended up meeting and having FB arrangements that lasted several months.If a new friend is made, so much the better, you can never have too many friends.
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sweetgem
12 years ago
Then yes, it does annoy the crap out of me! But your courteous thanking reply is not a follow up message to me, OP :-) so do what you think is polite :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Just occasionally, because I haven't replied to the polite reply, it leaves me with a way to talk to that person again if I change my mind. After all, I am a female and I believe I have that option. On the other hand, if that polite reply becomes harassment then that is another matter.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Good point!
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RHP User
12 years ago
So polite persistence paid off in pussy! But pushy jocks will get their cocks blocked.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I just say something like "no problem. Thanks for the reply" Full stop. No questions asked because they obviously don't want to be bothered. However, it does give them the option to reply in the future if they are a guest and maybe want to make a contact in the future. Silva xxx
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