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Riddle me this...
April 25 2014
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RHP User
12 years ago
Just a thought, maybe people shy away from sexually open or adventures people because the secretly fear that they wouldn't be able to satisfy them long term. I think this is why men come to RHP for the good time girls, then go the vanilla sites to get to know women who they think will be more willing to have relationships and will be satisfied with ONE partner. It is a reflection on their low self esteem or that they don't understand sexually adventures women perhaps.
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RHP User
12 years ago
men who think still like this are immature, insecure males...old fashion and still not ready for the changing world.However...we women are our own enemies...women think the same about other women who have an active sex life.I have just spoken with one of my Friends and she said...when you want a serious relationship with a man you have to let him wait for sex.....as long as possible...only then will he think about a relationship. I said that's a cruel game and I don't want to play this any more in my life.A man who doesn't accept me as a good woman only because I have sex with him on the first or second date is anyway not a male I want to be with...full stop.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Vanilla sites will only find mostly vanilla women, so why isn't there a site for people that are open sexually but want to find a relationship. Men want great open sex and then find a vanilla relationship to settle a little. Then find they are bored sexually again in the future. Women can be sexually open and still be the respectable girlfriend, wife, mother and daughter. Our sexual selves are only part of us not what we are. When will men realise this Im at a point now that all men are pissing me off, all about cock and themselves. Show me a man who is brave enough to be a good man and lover.
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Paradisepair
12 years ago
If you're in a healthy relationship your partner respects you and that kind of diffuses the whole thing, because nothing-else matters. And avoiding assholes, that really helps too. It's their problem not yours, your problem is that you care what they think.
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Paradisepair
12 years ago
:)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Men AND women love sex..... but society still says that for a woman to express that outwardly, is wrong.And of course thats stupid, and a double standard. But to me its a question OF standards of the individual, and not society. 1. if a woman is outwardly sexual, a man may consider her a slut but want to fuck her because he thinks she's an easy target. 2. If that man expresses his interest in a woman, he therefore considers here worthwhile of his sexual interests. 3. so if that woman rejects him.... he then calls her a prude, or a slut... to comfort his damaged ego and to make it her fault that he's a useless dumbarse with no idea how to attract and seduce even an obviously sexual woman, not his. This creates a somewhat self sabotaging, self fulfilling prophecy, where women love sex... GOOD sex.... but are scared to express it for fear of being labelled by the very guys who'd love to be sexual with her. Yep.Some guys really ARE that stupid. But it doesn't have to be that way. DG
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Lovinit28andKC72
12 years ago
"Quoting Ms silk" Vanilla sites will only find mostly vanilla women, so why isn't there a site for people that are open sexually but want to find a relationship. Men want great open sex and then find a vanilla relationship to settle a little. Then find they are bored sexually again in the future. Women can be sexually open and still be the respectable girlfriend, wife, mother and daughter. Our sexual selves are only part of us not what we are. Spot on....... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Have you got a particular male in mind here, Ralf? I do admit, I've known men who will attack a woman with names like that if they're not getting their own way but that's far from every man I know and nothing like my sweet self.Perhaps you've come across two separate men or types of men, one of whom is vocal about sexually free-thinking, liberated woman and find them over permissive (ie. sluts) while the other(s) feel that women need to be more outgoing and adventurous and find them prudish.For myself, I don't use these labels on anyone although I've definitely met some bitches.
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MissBishere
12 years ago
That's the million dollar question isn't it. Let me know if you work out the answer. - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'Paradisepair' If you're in a healthy relationship your partner respects you and that kind of diffuses the whole thing, because nothing-else matters. And avoiding assholes, that really helps too. It's their problem not yours, your problem is that you care what they think.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I am a Slut I have a friend who is a self proclaimed sex maniac and he says I am just like him in a female body......and he loves me for it
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
I guess it is because some men are intimidated by a women who talk about sex so openly. I think what men really want is .....women with positive attitudes, combined with empowering thoughts, and heart felt actions. Men love sex, just like women do, ok ok maybe a little bit more, but in reality sex is not everything. Deep down, men are very simple creatures. For instance they see snow as snow, sex as sex Where a women sees snow, snowflakes, ice-blocks, the color white, igloos, slushies etc etc this list is endless. Some of the men who call women names aggressively as in sluts etc and put them down because they like sex, well to be honest it's them just being immature.. Most of the time, when they do call a woman a slut is because, the ladies who won't have sex with them....it's a reject thing....LOL little do they know sluts do enjoy sex just as much as they do....but not with them. Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
You are NOT undesirable as a person, because you like sex. You are desirable and super sexy to someone, the right desirable and supersexy man, just haven't found you yet! Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'jensman1903' Have you got a particular male in mind here, Ralf? I do admit, I've known men who will attack a woman with names like that if they're not getting their own way but that's far from every man I know and nothing like my sweet self.Perhaps you've come across two separate men or types of men, one of whom is vocal about sexually free-thinking, liberated woman and find them over permissive (ie. sluts) while the other(s) feel that women need to be more outgoing and adventurous and find them prudish.For myself, I don't use these labels on anyone although I've definitely met some bitches. I have not typically been called those names, unless it was dirty talk, lol, but it is the attitude I am referring to and another thread started by a male pretty much echoed what I wrote. Almost every man I have seen since I have been single has not been interested in getting to know me, just my vagina, and they don't even get to know that very well. I couldn't care less if they did call me names, it is the behaviour that I am only worth a fuck that pisses me off.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Litonya' men who think still like this are immature, insecure males...old fashion and still not ready for the changing world.However...we women are our own enemies...women think the same about other women who have an active sex life.I have just spoken with one of my Friends and she said...when you want a serious relationship with a man you have to let him wait for sex.....as long as possible...only then will he think about a relationship. I said that's a cruel game and I don't want to play this any more in my life.A man who doesn't accept me as a good woman only because I have sex with him on the first or second date is anyway not a male I want to be with...full stop. I am not a game player, I say it like it is too. I don't want to wait for sex and anytime I have refused sex, they just piss off anyway because that is all they are there for. And they accuse us women of playing games but will tell you anything just to get in your pants. Hypocritcal!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have to comment and say I dislike the generalisation that men are simple creatures and somehow women are the more perceptive, such as the way we would both look at snow or even sex. I would say there are roughly equal numbers of ignorant people in both genders. I'd like to think that perhaps we look at snow differently as well as sex. You may appreciate the beauty of snow more and I may appreciate how a snowflake forms, what processes are involved etc. No less complex but we both compliment each other when brought together. I do however, fully agree with your point on it is a rejection thing. Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus May have a point. Women will generally be more open where us men will come back with a sharp retort and retreat to our man cave and sulk. Ralf - could it be that being online means you are associating yourself with a range of people you normally wouldn't? Because of the big mix on here, you possibly would normally associate with people who are accepting, respectful and non-judgemental of the choices you make. So therefore subject to bad behaviour you normally wouldn't encounter because you don't choose to be around such people? Just be comfortable with who you are, what choices you make for yourself and if someone questions that ignore and move on.
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RHP User
12 years ago
From when I was a teenager, a lot of those comments would be slung around by guys who were 1. Trying to fit in with the boys. 2. Just got rejected and had to save face. 3. This is weird and it obviously shows the level of immaturity, but it's was used to get their attention. Some guys that age found it hard to express their feelings....didn't want to be seen as a softie so they would hurl insults at a girl they actually liked just to get their attention. And 4. Yes major insecurities. I refer to the teenage male here because this behaviour of calling someone a slut, is very derogatory and it's an action where little thought of the other person is involved. Hence the teenage reference. But in Adults, I don't quite know if there are any real differences why males would use that word....other than using while having sex with a woman who likes dirty talk hehehe ;). But seriously Ralf, the old saying..."men want to be a woman's first"... The so called old fashioned ones...ones who think that the man should be in control and lead the way ALL THE TIME, feel intimidated by women who have sexual experience, a successful career ie. earn more than them and a good social life. This behaviour of calling a woman that is a form of abuse. I read this article the other day about spousal abuse...not domestic violence but spousal abuse. It's something I have been through and it's something that I can see in this behaviour here. Abuse comes in the form of physical and psychological. In this case the man here is showing psychological abuse. He wants to control the situation, realises he can't and then justifies his anger and feelings of rejection by verbally abusing. This is a real scary thought for anyone looking, or in a relationship that has this because I can tell you now that abusers main objective is to control you by wearing you down at you self confidence, your spirit and you as a person so you feel worthless and think that he is the only one who cares for you and wants the best for you. Be careful Ralf....do not lose heart. If you feel undesired, unloved, not respected....ditch this person....that's if you're referring to someone you're actually seeing.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I see that behaviour when guys ring up, want to have sex...the woman says I can't....I have such and such on etc...the guy gets cranky....calls her a slut to justify his bad train of thoughts....hmmmm know the signs I say ladies and gents....know the signs.
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
I think sometimes, dating one or two is really good for the soul... Yeah they may be arssholes and their behaviors are unacceptable, but at the end of the day, I think dating a few is a good thing. How I see it is they teach us the sneaky tricks of the game they do. The few I have been with arssholes...At the end of the day I really have to thank them. I thank for teaching me some of the sneaky things and manipulative things they do. I have become more empowered and have more inner strength within myself. I now know behaviors/traits to look for. So is dating an arsshole a good thing or bad thing?? Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's a long bloody curve Foxxxy, but learning is the best thing I suppose to come out of those situations....yin and yang....good and bad.....there's always good guys and bad guys....who do you go for? Would that be the question?
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RHP User
12 years ago
I've been doing a bit of this lately... And when I get the "oh no, I don't do that on 1st, 2nd...15th date..." My response is along the lines of "well... How is that working for you...?" I've seen some very furrowed brows lately... Lol. Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ralf you ask - What makes me so undesirable as a person worth getting to know because I like sex? I'm sure you are very worth getting to know as a person, it sounds like you're just experiencing some not so worth getting to know men. But not all men are like that, don't get put off by some bad apples. Why not ask yourself - What makes a man desirable to you? Liking sex is probably part of the answer, getting to know you probably is as well, his actions will tell you more than his words, his kiss will tell you a lot.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Some men are to some stupid idea that there's a correlation between quantity of dicks and how tight she is. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'leoman' I read this article the other day about spousal abuse...not domestic violence but spousal abuse. It's something I have been through and it's something that I can see in this behaviour here. Abuse comes in the form of physical and psychological. In this case the man here is showing psychological abuse. He wants to control the situation, realises he can't and then justifies his anger and feelings of rejection by verbally abusing. This is a real scary thought for anyone looking, or in a relationship that has this because I can tell you now that abusers main objective is to control you by wearing you down at you self confidence, your spirit and you as a person so you feel worthless and think that he is the only one who cares for you and wants the best for you. Agree, the warning signs are there early on. As in the other thread where a man (after 5 weeks of silence) wanted a woman not only to hook up with him no questions asked, but he basically demanded it right now. That need for control from the start should make everyone, man or woman, think twice about being alone with someone like that. Leo, one important point I want to make: spousal abuse is domestic violence, no matter if it's physical, psychological or emotional.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yes I agree....sorry I worded it wrong....I just re read the article. They call the psychological, emotional, you know the stuff you can't see domestic abuse. The stuff like physical abuse they call it domestic violence. Just reading on, it says victims of domestic violence carry their own sets of scars, ones we see. It's a very serious situation to endure and many victims end up in hospital. However, victims of domestic abuse, are affected inwardly and many people, men in particular, deny the fact that their partner is abusing them and or they are victims of such abuse. But all in all Miss Meander, all of this is abuse/violence and there should be ways to reduce this. I understand there are places for men and women to go to..like refuges. But is there a way to get an abusive person to get help? I mean obviously taking them to court but I mean before all that....
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'leoman'But is there a way to get an abusive person to get help? I mean obviously taking them to court but I mean before all that.... There are places for perpetrators to get help. It's up to them to want it though.
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RHP User
12 years ago
People that call girls , that like fucking sluts . Its just an out burst of the purest jealousy. I know people that have never met someone then honked the night away. So they call them sluts. Blokes that cant get laid pay for it , being labelled a slut is more complementary than , desperate and broke .
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think I should open with "I am a slutty manwhore". Just so we're eye to eye. I personally don't care if a woman fucks a lot. I do. Why shouldn't we all? This is why sites like this and blendr and the like are so successful. I've heard women say and seen them do things via these sites that you never get to hear or see in a bar or a supermarket or a friend circle hookup. Its indulging unfettered desires otherwise unspoken in the outside world. Yay, we're all the same, a tribe of violent monkey perverts. On the subject of not giving a fuck about who you are as a person, and only wanting to fuck you, well, a) sucks to be you and b) try a guy in your "friend's zone" for fuck's sake! Boys fall in love with their best female friends, but girls want to be swept off their feet by some charming arsehole whose faults they are unaware of as yet. Your own worst enemies!! Stupid humans. You want someone who will really love you? Date a mate. We wanna pair with our besties after plugging a bunch of randoms. You wanna get plugged by a bunch of randoms and hope one of them will be your bestie. Do you see the dilemma? Fucking idiots! RA
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RHP User
12 years ago
Wow Random... I don't even know where to start countering that outburst.... so I think I'll just leave you in your mire....
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Wow Random... I don't even know where to start countering that outburst.... so I think I'll just leave you in your mire.... Wasn't an outburst, was an opinion. If you want someone who will see the real you, check your friend's box. Yeah, I think my opinion is SUPERVALID. Is that a word? I love English. In the right hands, even fabricated words make sense. RA
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RHP User
12 years ago
Miss Chevious! RA
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
Are you saying fall for your best mate? Date a mate?? "Boys fall in love with their best female friends, but girls want to be swept off their feet by some charming arsehole whose faults they are unaware of as yet. Your own worst enemies!! Stupid humans. You want someone who will really love you?". I actually do resent that comment. The problem is.....some woman do not want to "date a mate" and the reason why some woman who get swept off their feet by a "charming arssholes" is NOT because women are stupid, dumb or inexperienced..it's because arssholes are predictors and will groom a women. You see these charming arssholes, tell unbelievable stories that are tangable and really believable. Their stories and bullshit do sound real and true. Charming arsshole are predictors in my eyes, they hunt until they get what THEY want and they will fill that women's need what she wants and is looking for so they will manipulated her to get their own way. And before too long she questions her own self worth. So please don't tell a woman to "date a mate" cause it's just not going to work, because when a woman does find a great mate, she will keep him in that zone because he's worth being just a friend, to support her when her own self worth has been lowered from meeting an arsshole. See, so having a male mate around, that's being SMART! That is all......... Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
When a woman does have a male mate in the friend zone, sometimes some men do not relize that is all it will be and ever going to be. When a woman seeks advice etc from her male mate, they think, oh she likes me and wants to be with me?? In some cases that is not the case and so the man will turn it around onto the woman that it is her when it is not, because he feels rejected. Yes you are right and I agree, "mates" do accept for who we are, however sometimes feelings do develop from spending time together, so continuous communication is the key. Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ralf, if those men don't want to get to know you, it's definitely their loss. And quite likely you're 'dodging a bullet' as well. If they're not willing to let you glimpse who they really are as a person, it's highly likely there isn't a whole lot going on in that department anyway. I know I used the word 'prude' in a topic I started a few weeks back. Just to be clear, in that instance, it was me being rejected by a woman because she thought I was a slut. I don't think all women who turn me down are being prudish. Some of them are being rather prudent, and I congratulate them on their display of good taste. :P This one was a very special case. It was a bit like finding a militant vegetarian in a steakhouse looking disdainfully at the menu, hoping if she scowled long enough a vegan tofu burger on a gluten-free bun would materialise. ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
... who insist on seeking out a certain kind of man and then complain about the way he is when there are still good men available ... but then the nice guy has never been as attractive as the bad boy, has he ladies?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Nice try lol. You said this, with your typically offhand emboldened flair.... "Stupid humans. You want someone who will really love you? Date a mate. We wanna pair with our besties after plugging a bunch of randoms.".... So, what stage are you in? Mate-dating or random plugging stupid humans? DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Nice try lol. You said this, with your typically offhand emboldened flair.... "Stupid humans. You want someone who will really love you? Date a mate. We wanna pair with our besties after plugging a bunch of randoms.".... So, what stage are you in? Mate-dating or random plugging stupid humans? DG I'm off the box, on the wagon. no soup for me. RA
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'RandomAgent' I think I should open with "I am a slutty manwhore". Just so we're eye to eye. I personally don't care if a woman fucks a lot. I do. Why shouldn't we all? This is why sites like this and blendr and the like are so successful. I've heard women say and seen them do things via these sites that you never get to hear or see in a bar or a supermarket or a friend circle hookup. Its indulging unfettered desires otherwise unspoken in the outside world. Yay, we're all the same, a tribe of violent monkey perverts. On the subject of not giving a fuck about who you are as a person, and only wanting to fuck you, well, a) sucks to be you and b) try a guy in your "friend's zone" for fuck's sake! Boys fall in love with their best female friends, but girls want to be swept off their feet by some charming arsehole whose faults they are unaware of as yet. Your own worst enemies!! Stupid humans. You want someone who will really love you? Date a mate. We wanna pair with our besties after plugging a bunch of randoms. You wanna get plugged by a bunch of randoms and hope one of them will be your bestie. Do you see the dilemma? Fucking idiots! RA How many male mates do you think a single female with kids has? My male 'mates' all deserted when my ex left, I don't have a lot of mingling time to make new male friends which leaves me with the male friends that are married to my girl friends...and I am not going there!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Tex2251' Ralf you ask - What makes me so undesirable as a person worth getting to know because I like sex? I'm sure you are very worth getting to know as a person, it sounds like you're just experiencing some not so worth getting to know men. But not all men are like that, don't get put off by some bad apples. Why not ask yourself - What makes a man desirable to you? Liking sex is probably part of the answer, getting to know you probably is as well, his actions will tell you more than his words, his kiss will tell you a lot. Thank you Tex. Nice answer. My problem is my high sex drive, my body has a conflict of interest with my mind. I certainly understand the concept of thinking with your dick but also having a woman's mind, I don't like the fact that nobody really wants the rest of me.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'jensman1903' ... who insist on seeking out a certain kind of man and then complain about the way he is when there are still good men available ... but then the nice guy has never been as attractive as the bad boy, has he ladies? So are you a nice guy, Jensman? From what I have read, you aren't exactly the boy next door either?? What do you consider a nice guy? I have spoken with a lot of 'nice guys' on here that want NSA, are here because they're bored in their relationships, are looking for a little fun, are visiting the area, just left relationships, etc. I have had sex with a lot of 'nice guys' too and I don't write them off because they are nice. What do you consider a bad boy? I don't like drugs, alcoholics, women bashers, liars and am not likely to knowingly get involved with anyone like that and I don't know too many that would either. So point me in the direction of the good men *eagerly anticipating the way*
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hehehe, not likely. Arsehole is what I get called with most frequency.
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RHP User
12 years ago
When a woman get lots of sex she's a slut, but when a guy gets lots of sex he's a hero (please do not mistake quantity with quality as they are worlds apart). How does that work? I love sex, always want it, even after just having it and wear the badge of a slut with pride. I am perfectly comfortable with women who are open and expressive of thier sexual desires. I don't play mind games and am always completely honest with anyone I meet about who else I'm seeing and what I get up to. There is no way in hell that I'll ever be able to settle for a vanilla relationship EVER! Basically if a guy cannot accept who you are, what you want and what you do, then it is most probably because you make him feel imasculated. And if he cannot accept that you have a life beyond just him then he probably is not worth the effort, so spend that energy on someone else who will accept you and apreciate you for you. There are plenty of great guys out there who are also struggling with the effects produced by the minority of assholes who seem determined to wreck everything they come in contact with (mostly out of ignorance than intention). - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have ah friend who is going through the same problem and I cant understand ether.I cant go to sleep with ah go women beside me until both smiling .So go find someone who will make you smile when you want to !
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_silk' Vanilla sites will only find mostly vanilla women, so why isn't there a site for people that are open sexually but want to find a relationship. Men want great open sex and then find a vanilla relationship to settle a little. Then find they are bored sexually again in the future. Women can be sexually open and still be the respectable girlfriend, wife, mother and daughter. Our sexual selves are only part of us not what we are. When will men realise this Im at a point now that all men are pissing me off, all about cock and themselves. Show me a man who is brave enough to be a good man and lover. show him to me please
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RHP User
12 years ago
The whole concept of a male stud vs a female slut is so abhorrent. A hangover from centuries of patriarchal society fearing the strength of woman and in particular strong sexually confident women. Hang in there Ralph there are guys who believe men and woman have every right to equal standing in society irrespective of their sexual lifestyle. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I myself have always had an given respect to women . An the funny thing is I don't get anywhere haha so riddle me this : do women like a guy that treats them with respect put the woman's needs before his own . Or do they like a guy that treats them like a peace of meat with no or very little respect . - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Paradisepair' If you're in a healthy relationship your partner respects you and that kind of diffuses the whole thing, because nothing-else matters. And avoiding assholes, that really helps too. It's their problem not yours, your problem is that you care what they think. let it be, let it be....
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RHP User
12 years ago
A very complex situation due to the multiple facets and multiple inputs to the male and female psyches. At the most basic level we should all be less hung up on words and other peoples opinions. Words are just descriptors. They have no power over us unless we allow them to. As for opinions, as the old saying goes, opinions are like arseholes - everybody has one. In other words don't let others make you feel bad because you are the way you are, just be yourself and enjoy life as much as possible. As for what is wrong with you - absolutely nothing!! Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. On the partner front, you may need to consider that the partner that fulfills you emotionally/intellectually may not be the same one that fulfills you physically and neither of these may be the one that fulfills you socially. Perhaps a horses for courses approach might be a better fit?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'desertdog' I myself have always had an given respect to women . An the funny thing is I don't get anywhere haha so riddle me this : do women like a guy that treats them with respect put the woman's needs before his own . Or do they like a guy that treats them like a peace of meat with no or very little respect . - Posted from rhpmobile we want respect, who doesn't? I have treated men like they treat me (except that I actually put in an effort when we had sex when they didn't) and they get all offended about it, well hello!! It isn't nice is it to have someone use you then flick you off like a cigarette butt.
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RHP User
12 years ago
meeting someone who I really hit it off with, looks, attitude, sex appeal and having an awesome sex session (already had this part several times), go our separate ways with a promise of doing it again. Now for the 'I'm dreaming part'...Sending/receiving text/call sometime later/next day confirming it was indeed a great time. Being told I was also good company (and a great shag, lol) and that next time we get together we will go out first, maybe dinner and a drink, then back to the awesome sex and then enjoying each others company for a while after sex and doing all that again and again with the same person on a regular basis. I really don't think it is that unreasonable. I get told all time how nice I am, I am apparently great in the sack but I cannot seem to get the package of a sex life and a social life together with one person. I am not seeking anything too full on just sex and company but I am just becoming so disheartened that nobody cares to know me.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I disagree with the generalisation, I would say yes there are guys out there who are immature and frankly disrespectful, but if you only seem to select those types to meet with and try and spend time with then, can i suggest you step back and try a radical change in what you look for in profiles and conversation prior to meeting people, nice guys do finish last as the saying goes because they are not players and they won't spin you lines that make you feel good because they feel that they don't need to do that, because they are not going for the quick short game but more what you are after the longer game and they are willing to take time prior to meeting up. The one way to possibly weed out the bad eggs is to say prior the meeting up that your the sort that's takes a couple of meets to go the next step, don't get me wrong if you both click then go for it first time nothing saying you can't but the players may just move on when they think its not a quick easy meet and sex, won't work for all but if they see that in a profile? I know some who just move on straight on. Now all this is just my opinion and it your choice to try it or not, by no means am I trying to tell anyone what to do cause in the end as we all know everyone has their own free will ;-) good luck meeting one of us decent ones out there Jump x o x o - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
well it seems the only option is to close my legs. I will have to go against what my body wants to find what my heart wants and well my head, it just always goes around in circles anyway. I will stop being a sexual being in the prime of my sexual life to satisfy the prerequisites of the male of the species. Anyone care to take a bet that in 6 months time I am then going to be not only sexless but still loveless?? (and even more frustrated)
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RHP User
12 years ago
That's not what I said :-0!! Just mix it up a bit and try a different approach. Being that, it is just the approach once into it you can do exactly what you want and just be yourself and do as you like. You only need to change the type of guys you hook up with not yourself, cause simply you have nothing to change, just think of it as a big stick and you are beating off all the morons lol never give-up cause then those losers win and we cannot have that. Just remember you are a sexy sexual woman and you have nothing to change in you! I wish you happiness and a man (not a boy) to give you all you need and deserve xxoo Jump ;-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'ralf74' well it seems the only option is to close my legs. I will have to go against what my body wants to find what my heart wants and well my head, it just always goes around in circles anyway. I will stop being a sexual being in the prime of my sexual life to satisfy the prerequisites of the male of the species. Anyone care to take a bet that in 6 months time I am then going to be not only sexless but still loveless?? (and even more frustrated) just do what Lady T and her girlfriends do, get a dungeon and restrain the fuckers, do what you want with them, take em a beer and have a TV with the footy playing, have half a dozen hanging around, take advantage with one of them and the other five will want too love you. But chances are the Pizza delivery bloke would fall for you.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have been fortunate to encounter many different types of men, all of my own choosing. Everybody is an individual and if we put people in one basket and some in another (ie men are from Mars and women are from Venus) we miss out on the beauty of people's diversity. I carefully vet all offers and not just jump in(so to speak) because my hormones dictate for me to do so, there has to be a connection not just sex otherwise it is all meaningless, I think working out what you actually want before you embark on your search makes a difference as to who you actually go out with. Uncomplicated NSA FWB makes life so much easier and fun.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'ralf74' well it seems the only option is to close my legs. I will have to go against what my body wants to find what my heart wants and well my head, it just always goes around in circles anyway. I will stop being a sexual being in the prime of my sexual life to satisfy the prerequisites of the male of the species. Anyone care to take a bet that in 6 months time I am then going to be not only sexless but still loveless?? (and even more frustrated) When expectations aren't met after attachments have been made, You will always suffer. Is there a man anywhere in your life who you know cherishes you? Fuck that guy. RA
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RHP User
12 years ago
Poor jumpme....lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm with you ralf. Lets get together and start the sluts appreciation society. I never understood other guys who spoke of sluts like it was a derogatory thing. (I can understand the girls because that's a jealousy/spite thing.) Ever since I knew what it was about they were the ones I wanted to be with. It always seemed to me that if being a slut was a good thing, a cool thing, then more women would want to be that way. That way we would all get laid more often. So, gentlemen, and ladies too, lets raise our voices (and other bits as appropriate) in appreciation of Australia's sluts. Let us give them the respect they deserve. Elevate them to the highest pedestal, and look up to them ('cause the views good from down here). It is time we put sluts where they belong. Princess by day. Total slut every night. That's my kinda girl!!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Your posit is quite a common "observation." Australia is generically conservative and unenlightened, not to mention "corrupt." When you have a degree of difference, (and sometimes that jus equates to "honesty") you will frequentlybe ostracised. Porn is *dreadful* ... nothing to do with explicit sexual acts, but the betrayal of womenas sluts and whores because they like sex. WTF ?? So, men, you want a girl/woman/wife who likes sex, and wants to have it, but if she does, she's a slut or a whore? And, of course, not all men think that way. The only caveat here is that, it is generally the women who are the gatekeepers of "when" it happens.
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RHP User
12 years ago
There's no riddle!............ Simply, you are seeing the wrong guys. I cant fathom the type of guy who even uses the word "slut"... (and I only use it now, to maintain context btw).
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think you're asking for what you want in your profile, so that's good. I agree to go for meet first play later- make the first date a coffee or drink and that's it. It weeds out those who just want a quick poke and you end up with only the stayers. I've not had a problem finding ongoing fwb, they do move away, find a gf, drift away over time or you can fall for them. That's both good and bad in my experience.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'desertdog' I myself have always had an given respect to women . An the funny thing is I don't get anywhere haha so riddle me this : do women like a guy that treats them with respect put the woman's needs before his own . Or do they like a guy that treats them like a peace of meat with no or very little respect . - Posted from rhpmobile That is a ridiculous, of course women want respect and to be treated equal, etc. Nobody likes to be treated like a piece of meat.... not even men like that. As for a guy that puts a woman's needs before his own. Why would he do that? Shouldn't both your needs be important? But I suspect that you are talking about inconsiderate lovers.... which a lot of the "wham bam thank you mam" guys on RHP are. Selfish lovers. What women want is someone charming and a man that knows how to make them feel sexy and desired.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'jensman1903' ... who insist on seeking out a certain kind of man and then complain about the way he is when there are still good men available ... but then the nice guy has never been as attractive as the bad boy, has he ladies? Being "nice" isn't sexually exciting or mysterious. Women don't want bad boys that treat us like shit. I want a meaan that turns me on, make me feel sexy, dirty. I want him to make my pussy ping. You know, Jensman? I think when people say "nice guy" it is associated with weak or insipid characteristics these days. Or am I over thinking it?
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gazpacho
12 years ago
I don't understand the question. ALL MEN... bla bla bla... that's all I heard. Just get the sex out of the way so you can decide if a relationship is worth the effort. Sex... yes, lots of people like it. Some are actually quite accomplished at it, seems to me. Some are not, that's for sure. Someone might enjoy sex, a lot, but was sharking for them a worthwhile experience? I read somewhere up there about playing games to make it seem like the chastity is intact... please ladies, if you're thinking like that, do spare us all the pleasure of your mind fuck. HugsGazpacho
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