RHP

RHP User

F53

Safe sex

October 09 2019

I'm just wondering have a lot of people gotten very complacent about safe sex these days? If you have safe sex listed on your profile, what does that mean to you? Am over for a short visit and chatted a guy I seemed to click with for a good few weeks before arriving....on finding some free time we were going to meet, I mentioned I didn't have any with me and could he bring some just to be sure he had some and got a well I don't like using them, I don't enjoy it and we would be meeting for my enjoyment too.. So I was ditched with an 'I'm not sure we are a good fit, I'm sorry we didn't discuss this earlier" message, not that we would of met anyway. My question is - is this common? Men just assuming condoms wont be used as they don't feel they get full enjoyment. This particular profile has listed safe sex for all activities. I pointed this out and his explanation was he gets tested so that's what he means by safe sex!!!! Like WTF! If you are in the casual/swinger lifestyle there is no way you are tested after every encounter, so therefore chances are something can slip on in....🤷‍♀️ - Posted from rhpmobile

Comments

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    ...yeah that justification for having safe sex on his profile makes ZERO sense and is actually super concerning. I can't say i've found it super common that people refuse to play with condoms thankfully, but I do think people are either ignorant or not concerned enough about the potential for catching nasties (not to mention potential for unplanned pregnancies eek!). We have safe sex for intercourse on our profile - we don't use condoms with each other for sex and don't use them for oral sex with other partners but always condom for intercourse with another partner. Miss Little xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    That’s very frustrating OP. Personally I’m all about the condoms, the regular blood tests and yes the chatting and asking all of that before the meet. I’m all for the hot fantasy of spontaneous messy fun, but in this day and age that’s all that is - a fantasy. I may not always have the luxury to be choosy, but I sure won’t take the risks like that, my vibrator won’t complain if I stay in.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    Im glad its not just me that thought his explaination sucked eggs!!! Theres too much risk of loads of nasties/pregnancy, why would you do it? And yes...we should use protection for oral and are risking things also but a mouthful of rubber ain't nice...eeek!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    If it’s not it’s not on...simple

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    It sort of comes down to a trust thing. In most cases it’s discussed, but in the heat of the moment there it plenty of grey area. If you are open about having multiple sexual partners I’d like to think it’s a no brainer. Unfortunately. Some people Take the risk.. good luck to them.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    6 years ago

    Dorky1 have to agree with you, some might take the risk but most here are here to have fun. So I would assume most are seeing others and it’s safety first in my mind :)

  • EarthQueen

    EarthQueen

    6 years ago

    Yes It’s very common for men to ask if they have to use them. Even if you have discussed it first. Maybe because of my age they think no risk of pregnancy so it’s a free for all. It’s not. It’s stupid because often they tell you openly they haven’t been tested . It’s not worth the risk. I wonder if they are talking BS because they often say “Oh the last person I slept with said we didn’t have to use them. “ So maybe there’s lots of both male and females out there who aren’t that bothered? Or it’s just coercive tactic?