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Safe sex; what it means to you?
July 18 2019
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RHP User
6 years ago
Saw a single male profile just today that said in his description 'safe, D&D free' then went on to say 'my favourite thing is to cum right in a hot hairy wife's snatch'....safe and disease free? Considering you have photos of at least 3 different vaginas with you inside them bareback, I doubt the validity of that statement.... It is genuinely concerning. We've put in our profile that anyone who doesn't use condoms outside of their committed relationship is a pass from us, as we've had couples say that they play with 'close play friends' without condoms....okay great, how do you know how many people they've done the exact same thing with? Such risky, unnecessary behaviour. As you said, you can't be 100% safe but you sure can take precautions to protect not only yourself but everyone you're getting naked with. We're safe sex for intercourse. Not for oral, which is a relatively low-risk activity if you do subtle 'visual' checks before sticking any body part in your mouth. Anything less than that just isn't okay with us. Miss Little xx
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RHP User
6 years ago
Well, it appears that RHP safe sex declarations doesn’t mean much without talking to people and finding about what they are into. Mrs Maenad was checking out this one guy’s photos after he contacted us, I noticed him penetrating a blonde bareback, sent the guy a message asking about it, since he said he was “always” protected, he told us she was his partner. But my girl looked closely to photos and noticed they were 3 different women. Different tattoos, skin color... The guy said they were his close “play partners” as you said.. We wished him a good night and moved on...
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
They are actually giving me/others a choice. At least they are being honest. In my time here, I have noticed there are more couple profiles that have "if required" than singles. I'm gathering they strictly play together with out protection and play strictly with others with condoms/protection. In other words, they take precautions to protect themselves against sexually transmitted diseases. Which is fair enough. Ms Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
Is not have sex or wear a body bag. Ms Foxy
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EarthQueen
6 years ago
Just a comment but bit off topic. The amount of men who play dumb when you ask about condoms. I would say 80% say I’m safe. I’m tested. We don’t need them. If everyone is safe std’s wouldn’t exist. I’m talking about first meet. Not when any type of trust or rapport has been established. Plus so many have limited understanding of how or what they can catch. All I would say is educate yourself . Knowledge is power, then you can make informed decisions. Most std’s have an unfair stigma but there’s a couple that are life threatening so it’s best to know what your dealing with. Testing regularly is so easy. Why wouldn’t you do it?
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RHP User
6 years ago
My own health is a life or death matter to me regardless of where I've been or where I'm going so I give myself the privilege of being rather parochial about it all. I play straight up, that is, only one person or couple at a time and then it's time to test. Sure, it might mean I sit out for a while but rather that than some of the other prospects. That said, this attitude has also won me the privilege of long lasting "encounters" (for a lack of a better word) and/or even a few very close friends along the way. Over time, the benefits are certainly there. Besides, I get confused too easily and like the more linear approach nowadays. Last test was 13 April 2019 and all systems go....I even have a summary scanned into my phone for referral should I forget anything and yes, a conversation can be entered into without it being too clinical. Besides, if I'm adult enough to get naked and do all those deviant and vile things that make my toes tingle...I'm adult enough to talk about not getting sick or dying. The last one sounds like it's just too permanent. No sex is that good...close but no cohiba!
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LetsFrolic
6 years ago
Safe to me is not only using a condom it's consensual and also knowing and ok with what happens
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Recently was friended on fuck book by a guy who had some issues with an intestinal bug. Quite common and most of the population has it without symptoms or issues and not a sti.....unless rimming but generally caught via every day things from bird or animal waste such as in tank water. As l am a user of tank water l have had it along with other family members. Having successfully removed it from my body, l gave advice on how to get rid of it. Anyway, he proceeded to hit me up over the following weeks. An attractive guy, l had an interest. However during the course of conversation he shared that he loved rimming others, no biggie l guess as l wasn't going to rim him, especially knowing what he had. Then he shared that he went to the gay saunas regularly. Alarm bells. He kept hitting me up but my interest was now zero. He messaged and wanted to meet for the first time. I said l had a bad cold and declined. Next day he messaged again and asked if he could come over. I ignored it, no reply given. Roll on 4 weeks, he messaged me today and berated me for not answering. Said that having a cold was no excuse and to get over it. Also said that it probably us dirty trans girls were probably to blame for his infection. Why are trans people so dumb, 0 education. Fuck off. And blocked me before l could respond. My point being, here is a single guy not respecting simple health issues of passing on a cold, going to gay saunas to let other guys catch his bugs by licking his arse, then shifting blame to a gender group that he may have dabbled with on occasions to justify his outburst on being being rejected. People will be quick to pass blame but we are responsible for our own actions and health situations. They don't care what they give you if they can just get their rocks off for a few minutes. Just think about the ramifications for yourself because they don't. I'm just about over single guys and their self centred desperation for a hole
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RHP User
6 years ago
Superfoxxxy “ In my time here, I have noticed there are more couple profiles that have "if required" than singles. I'm gathering they strictly play together with out protection and play strictly with others with condoms/protection. In other words, they take precautions to protect themselves against sexually transmitted diseases. Which is fair enough. “ That’s us, only time we have sex without protection is when it’s just two of us and that’s all. However, I came across couples who use “if required” genuinely to say that they don’t always use protection outside, some people trust other people easier, we are not that “cool as a cucumber”, I wouldn’t be able to sleep well that night if someone had sex bare with one of us.
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RHP User
6 years ago
EarthQueen “The amount of men who play dumb when you ask about condoms. I would say 80% say I’m safe. I’m tested. We don’t need them. If everyone is safe std’s wouldn’t exist. I’m talking about first meet. Not when any type of trust or rapport has been established. Plus so many have limited understanding of how or what they can catch.” Luckily so far we never came across anyone who refused to use condoms, however you are quite on point; Lately we are getting more advances from early 20s males, and the lack of understanding and comprehension of STDs are shocking. Two young fellas who spoke to us said that they don’t really use condoms as couples prefer them not to use them -both of these were naturally gifted with monstrous cocks, so I am guessing overconfidence got the better of them- one of them had sex with 2 different couples and 3 single women with no condoms, but he said “it’s no big deal” if we want him to use condoms. I explained these youngsters what they could possibly get from other people, one of them legit freaked out so I am guessing he had no idea up until now. Other one was still oblivious and couldn’t care less, both got rejected.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Chasingmidnight “My own health is a life or death matter to me regardless of where I've been or where I'm going so I give myself the privilege of being rather parochial about it all. “ Bingo! Same here. My local GP got curious and started asking me about why I need to get tested often, I changed the GP. I don’t get tested that often, but GP thought its too often, realistically it depends on when I introduced someone new to my sex life. Last time I had sex with someone for the first time was a while ago, I still got tested in between. Again, tests don’t reveal everything but then I keep my bare flesh to my partner.
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RHP User
6 years ago
If you aren’t out the back door before the partner gets home, it’s not that safe ... Or if they have cameras....😂😂
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
I have been feeling that way for a while now. You are not alone there. I have been considering seeking married ones. At least one knows exactly where they stand and theres no washing of their dirty laundry! Most ones I know and have had conversations with, insist on protection. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
6 years ago
“I'm just about over single guys and their self centred desperation for a hole.” Well I’ll deviate from main subject here and mention something else; We get contacted by singles and couples or attached men in open relationships, as we are open minded about the whole thing, it’s been our personal experience that couples or attached guys in honest relationship brought more substance to our lives than single ones. Of course this is not to say there aren’t great single blokes out there but it’s safer bet to play ones’ cards on those few in ethical non-monogamous relationships compared to hordes of single men one has to go through and sort out endlessly. And with couples I am not just talking about those in RHP, more the poly couples elsewhere than swingers. We made some great friends with them. I remember a particular day when we met these two men, the single one had a great stamina but his persistent messages and desperate attempts to get another session from missus annoyed the goddess so much I blocked him on every platform, he reminded me the Duracell bunny, he just wanted to have sex and more sex non-stop disregarding every other life commitment we both had. I mean, who wouldn’t want to stay at home or at a hotel and have sex for days? Pay the bills and the loan and I’ll gladly do it : ) Anyway. Second one was in open relationship, had a great personality and gave missus a full body orgasm that blew her mind, right after a very pleasant sex session. And he was honest about his lifestyle, getting tested and all. What I noticed about some single men is the constant sexual hunger. Because they are so hungry, they are more concerned about putting out their own fire than anything else. As opposed to a guy in long term and successful open relationship like the one we met, who sees sexuality as a sensual and wild poetry and thrives in presence of female company. Because he is full and he is not motivated by blind urge. Again, I am sure I’ll incite riot and much opposition but I am not talking about all single men. Just the ones that stand out, and I guess they do so because they aggressively pursue their agenda to put an end to their suffering.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Antichrist Why do it when partner is away when you can do it in front of him? : )
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RHP User
6 years ago
Best advice is to use condoms,we dont have worry about condoms as we dont do full swap. The other advice is dont play with,Bi ,Tvs people.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Stay away from Bi guys and Tvs is what i meant to say. You never know where they have been as most dont seem to use condoms at all.
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RHP User
6 years ago
He had been faithfull to his wife during their marriage...been with a "handfull" since his divorce. Said that he had no STDsand didnt like condoms. I did ask when was his last STD test.... He said he had never had one. He couldnt understand why I was saying CONDOMS.... I reminded him of our conversation where he said his marriage broke up because she had lovers.... He really thought that he was STD free as he had no symptoms of anything....seriously, this man really had no clue. Needless to say, there was no second catch up.
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
You can not tell people who they can or can not play with. It us rude as. I'm sure others can decide for themselves. If people want to play with Bi or Tvs they can if they want too. 👍 Ms
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RHP User
6 years ago
Superfoxy You are totally correct it is just what i believe and dont expect anyone to agree, even though most do but just dont state it like i do.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I’m not suggesting you’re scary when I say this... But I think it’s entirely okay to be concerned about stage fright while being watched by someone that looks like the executioner from a Harry Potter movie.... Just sayin
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Stay away from loudmouth males of soft swinging couples I'd say.
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SpicyKale
6 years ago
Of course softcpl can have thoughts like that, they're bigots! Anyone that's been here for a while know that's just what they do on here. In our experience the lgbtqia community are way more educated than the general population when it comes to risks and testing. We've lost count of the number of straight "bulls" that have approached us wanting unsafe play. It's a straight up no and block You say you don't play with bi guys, but you go to the same club we go to at times. Are you sure, are you really sure😉
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RHP User
6 years ago
Softcpl... Just wondering where the link is between someone’s subjective sexual health choices and their sexual orientation?? Cos it seems as though you’re suggesting that everyone who is tv, bi etc automatically have poor sexual hygiene...I’m assuming there’s a typo in there?
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RHP User
6 years ago
They have always insisted on condoms. The myth that straight guys are safer is alive and well I see.
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RHP User
6 years ago
The Anti christ your probably correct.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Is pretty safe, aeroplane ride away, 7-10 day shift. 😜
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Quoting 'softcpl' The Anti christ your probably correct. Bit of guesswork there?You are so full of shit, not so much full of fact
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RHP User
6 years ago
✈️😉😜😈
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RHP User
6 years ago
“SNAP”
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RHP User
6 years ago
Softcpl... Which bit am I probably correct ? The typo??
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countrytouch82
6 years ago
Safe sex quote: Austin Powers: I shagged her rotten, baby, yeah! Vanessa Kensington: Did you at least use protection ? Austin Powers: Of course. I had my 9mm automatic.
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RHP User
6 years ago
The Antichrist “I’m not suggesting you’re scary when I say this... But I think it’s entirely okay to be concerned about stage fright while being watched by someone that looks like the executioner from a Harry Potter movie.... Just sayin.” That just made my day 😂 I never watched Harry Potter, even though Mrs kept insisting, I just never felt attracted to whole franchise, same as GOT, but I think you just pressed the right button to get me curious enough to watch it. : ) On a little more serious note, mrs gets lot of attention from men on and off RHP, and while a very small minority, some men don’t know where to draw the line, my images actually have a lot to do with this, they enforce the right influence and this little system we have has been working just fine until now : ) I am aware I instill certain influence but I assure you I am just an ordinary guy in an extraordinary relationship with an amazing woman, there is no reason for good fellas to be worried, but as for malicious folks; you shall not pass! I guess you can say that I am more of a LOTR person that Harry Potter : )
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RHP User
6 years ago
Softcpl “Stay away from Bi guys and Tvs is what i meant to say. You never know where they have been as most dont seem to use condoms at all. “ Ok, I had to read that twice. Care to share a credible article or research into this claim? My very first sexual experience was with a male, we were lovers for a while and never had any health issues. My very first health scare however was caused by a straight female sex partner who had unprotected sex with a straight male. She didn’t do it knowingly, the selfish meathead with the intelligence level of microorganism with a single cell took the condom off secretly as she was riding him. Luckily it had no impact on me other than causing a serious reconsideration of how to safely keep exploring and enjoying my sexuality. Placing rules around play meets eliminated the issue years ago. I now meet anyone who wants to be with the Maenad alongside her, and together we chat and get to know people before anything happens. If one of us get a bad vibe or feel that we cannot trust someone, that’s the end of it. I find single men very easy to read, their urges often blur their minds and they can’t hide their priorities regardless of how cunning they may be. Anyone who mentions sex without condoms or insamination fetish persistently, is out. I had lot of dinner/coffee dates with men and women, not all of these led to second dates, and even less led to my bed. So far majority of the people we rejected consisted of straight males with oversized cocks. I dont know what it is that makes men “cocky” or think that they are entitled to a woman’s body, anus, vagina or mouth, but lot of them expect to be treated differently than others. Like having a 9 inch cock makes someone immune to STDs and elevates them to Zeus status. As mentioned by someone else, LGBTI community is the best informed layer of society when it comes to sexual health and never had any issue with people who had sexual identity different than mainstream. The problem always came from average Joe who is straight and expected to have full access to all the privileges of a male in relationship with female. Nope. You having an intimate conversation with mrs is a privilege itself, getting that close to anyone’s partner is a privilege. Then it’s up to you to prove you can converse with her like a normal human being who is not blinded by red mist of hormone overdose, only then you get your chance. And again, protected. Fluid bound is a very special connection even I don’t get to maintain myself, as Mrs had to go off birth control pills.
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Mask_007
6 years ago
May be is just me. But teh way i see: you have multiple partners, that is impossible to predict what happen before or after you. How "clean" is the person with you. I can just say and look after me. And at the end of the day that is what come down to. Does not mettar is i get tested, i don't know if the one before me was and was clean. Be safe at all times and look after your self. That for me is the main thing.
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JohnAnn2227
6 years ago
Safe sex for us means condoms always for intercourse with people we meet at clubs etc. Oral we don't use anything but we do have a discreet check for anything unsightly before we lick/ swallow (so much easier now so many people have removed their pubic hair).We don't use condoms however with a select group of friends we have who have all agreed that we only do this together and not with outside couples/ singles. We have been together as a group for a number of years now and have great trust in each other (some of us are even godparents for each other's children). As a bonus all of the guys in the group have had vasectomies which also takes a bit of worry out of the equation. We still get STD checks every 3 months and share these with each other (our GP now understands why we both get checked every 3 months. She was professionally curious for a while and eventually asked if there was anything in my lifestyle that necessitated the regular tests. John said that he got the same questions and together we told her of our lifestyle choices. She was good about it and always advises us of good practices to remain safe.)We regularly get asked by new playmates if condoms are really necessary and we always answer "Yes if you want to get laid tonight". That usually ends the discussion and the fun begins. We have definitely found that guys in their 40s straight out of marriages are less inclined to use condoms and feel like you are being a precious demanding they wear one. They eventually learn!Ann & John
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countrytouch82
6 years ago
Mr Centaur, on your last point about using condoms within your marriage with her coming off birth control pills, does that mean you are not relying on having a vasectomy and/or haven't decided to finalize on having any (more) kids? At least when the female half strays close the 45 or so bracket, it can get quite risky regarding more children, so after that age one would normally see the male half go down the line of having the snip? I have made that decision already but I know the risk of STDs means that as a single I always use condoms with casual or new partners, and would never request otherwise with such people. As such I've only ever had sex without protection with two people thus far, that were ongoing and exclusive partners at least for some amounts of time. I also relate to the above post about what would be called polyfidelity, which is a type of exclusiveness to a group as opposed to just one couple. Which takes a lot of trust, and assuming everyone is staying exclusive to the group at least for bareback, should not allow the spread of anything any more than just staying within a couple would. I would however ask the question to any swinging couples: because condoms aren't 100% reliable, and even with frequent tests you can still catch something and pass something quite quickly, how promiscuous can you be even with protection with others before you might start to decide not to be bareback as a couple in private for risk minimisation only?
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RHP User
6 years ago
Countrytouch82 Vasectomy is not an option for me at the moment as we are looking at having a child together at near future, which will be first and last if it happens, if it doesn’t, then, oh well, there are other joys in life. None of us had kids before we met and we were both getting used to the idea of not having any, as we did not come across someone that triggered that urge in us, until me met, so we lived colorful lives having fun, then we found one another and everything just felt right, besides earthshaking sex in bedroom and other places, we had harmony at home with no fights or arguments but just respectful discussions. So starting a family together is one adventure I’d be more than happy to commit to. Of course it’ll affect our current lifestyle dramatically, we will actually have to drop the whole dating/sex with others for a while and focus on each other and adopt to new lifestyle. Which is more than fine by me, I am at a stage in life where I can say I had enough sex and manifested most of my fantasies to feel comfortable enough to drop all this and commit to being a family man, as crazy as it may sound. As a matter of fact, focus is on my other half at RHP and in this lifestyle as she is the one who is more curious and feels the need to discover and explore everything that’s new to her from bdsm to non-monogamy, so this whole RHP account revolves around her. I have been non-monogamous all my adult life so I guess it’s safe to say that one night stands, hookups, booty calls, play meets with total strangers has no effect on me. I would be more interested in meeting someone for coffee and discuss history than attend an event for sex with total strangers as sex without intimacy does nothing to me at this stage, whereas Mrs Maenad is intrigued by lot of things as it’s a new world for her, I’d only be interested in someone who had that coffee and history discussion with me. I could spend whole night in bed with Mrs Maenad, turning her over from one position to another, having sex for hours, but someone I never spent time with, even if she is drop dead gorgeous tall Amazonian in high heels will have the same effect on me as stormclouds or mountain peaks, ill just say “this is divine”, I’ll appreciate the aesthetic beauty but I’ll feel no sexual urge. By nature I feel no attraction to people or things I share no memories with. Throw Mrs Maenad into the mixture, it’s a different story, her presence triggers things so I don’t need to know much about someone then, that’s why we don’t play alone. I guess my senses reached a stage where they got overloaded with excess pleasure throughout the years, so they only bother to get stimulated when there is one particular person present : )
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EarthQueen
6 years ago
Centaur It’s refreshing to hear a mans opinion on demisexuality (for want of a better word). Enjoying your input in the forums and your honesty.
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
*reply to your last post to me* Like most? Who are the "like most" you speak of? And say it like you do, lol? What with rudeness and non consideration of other peoples sexuality of Bi and TVs. No thank you. 🙁☹ Ms Foxy
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RHP User
6 years ago
For all activities = "That sounds unlikely or you're too vanilla for me"For intercourse = "You wear a condom every time when having intercourse"Sometimes = "This is what people who only wear condoms if it's insisted on should say instead of if required" If required = "This is couples and polyfidelitous groups who have unprotected sex within themselves but use condoms outside the group" Never = "I am a straight up nutcase come along for the thrill ride."Prefer not to say = "Sometimes but that looks bad but I am also too honest to lie"
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RHP User
6 years ago
Hi guys Any doubts Any hesitation Get all parties to go to a place like ‘ Rapid Response ‘ Full test , results in under an hour . Piece of mind It’s free Go for a drink while you wait . You don’t want anything unwelcome introduced to your solid relationship! The lady that does my regular blood tests is also a RHP member !!! Funny as .
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Sensualdays
6 years ago
A lot of guys on here are basically using females as free escorts, that’s all. So they are going to get their moneys worth so to speak!
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RHP User
6 years ago
I once had a fwb we were both seeing others at the time who wanted me to stop using protection. I can remember telling a friend about this and she hinted that maybe this was her hint of ownership not and not wanting the next level??
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RHP User
6 years ago
Miss T here, Before my partner n I got together I would play with some guys unprotected but in that moment a full chat about STD was had and results that were 2 weeks old had to be shared n if they wanted to play with others it was condoms. This is the swinging world after all there is always going to be a risk. But I see a lot of condom talk but seriously what about head munching the puss holds a risk n my partner understands why I say I won’t do it . He can but we do make sure std chat is had before he does to another.. Now people do assume everyone on here is STD FREE. Hahaha what a joke no not everyone is I know of people with HSV n honestly these are the people who really do practice safe sex as they don’t wanna give another the joy of a blistering lip or down stairs.. there was a study years ago that showed how people handled safe sex n you be amazed at who did n didn’t ...
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RHP User
6 years ago
This is super tricky, from my experiences with a range of men. Some men struggle to stay erect in a condom. Others stay erect but don’t or can’t orgasm. Both of those seems disappointing for them and me... There’s also a tricky timing dynamic in “play”. When it’s not “linear, Saturday night, relationship sex” which tends to follow a very simple trajectory and condoms have a clear time to be introduced as both know the script. Play (in my experience) has lots of ebbs and flows, actions and inaction, heightened moments and snuggles, and as a woman, I’m not sure when or how long it’s comfortable to be in a condom for that. I don’t want an STI, nor a pregnancy, however I don’t find it simple at all. And I’m a grown up, I have words, I know the risks. I’d love guidance on how to interact with safe sex in a way that isn’t militant and is considerate?
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RHP User
6 years ago
Windows_spent You are onto something there. As the male half of the couple I’ll make a confession; I much prefer to have an exclusive sex partner and have condom free sex then get repeated medical checks and stress of wearing condoms. That’s why mrs is encouraged to date, flirt and seduce others and have sex if she feels like it, whereas I mostly date and make friends with women and keep penetrative sex to my goddess. Partly because if I am going to have sex with someone I want them to stay in my life, I don’t like going from one stranger to another constantly, medical risks aside, I am bit different; I struggle with sex without any intimacy. The longer I know someone the better sex gets. It’s been a while since we met, and it surprises my woman that sex keeps getting better and better, while I delay the ejaculation and we bounce between making love and having intensified sex back and fourth. I am currently trying to learn to orgasm without ejaculation so I can stay hard longer and give more pleasure to her. I am able to do all these because I’ve known her for a while now, our bodies complete one another. If I have sex with an outsider it wouldn’t be the same, and while I am quite an attentive lover/sex partner, other person wouldn’t get the same mind blowing sex my other half gets. If we introduce only one girl to our lives which we see regularly, she would benefit from our mutual intimacy, but it interests me little to go out and look for another girl just for myself. And then we go through periods in our lives where we are practically monogamous for months, partly because we are so busy and partly because of occasional traveling, and other reason being the sex between us is very intense and satisfying, so much that during our last session my goddess collapsed to bed and looking at me, said; do we really need other people in our lives when we have this? Probably we don’t but then advantage of going out meeting and playing with others is that it keeps us on edge, keeps life interesting and unpredictable. Disadvantages are obvious; you are exposed to greater risk, medical checks are crucial and protection is a must. Is it worth all this fuss? If you meet right people, it probably does. So far we haven’t met people we would like to keep, we met some great people and had lot of fun but the substance and intensity we seek we did not come across yet.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Guys are full of it when they say they use protection always. This site is an STD fest. I always bring my own for play meets. The exception I make is I don't give head over a condom - but I still get tested more than several times a year. If I am with someone long term and the relationship or arrangement is monogamous, then as long as we are both tested beforehand I would consider not using a condom.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Pffft the amount of women who say safe sex always then when you meet one of these such claiming women and they can’t wait to get your penis inside them without a condom on such hypocrisy 😂😂
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RHP User
6 years ago
All these comments just beggar belief.....using a condom does not gaurantee safety......NO ONE i know gives head eitj a condom on.......if i am riski g it so is anyone else playing withme In saying that i am clean & do get checked regularly but dont believe in the myth of condoms are the god of cleanliness. And as i prefer overly large cock condoms arent that realistic no matter what the packaging says. Bottom line is if u are gonna fuck around be realistic & understand the risk.....otherwise stay home & stay safe in your castle. But then i could just be a bitch 😋🤔🙄
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RHP User
6 years ago
Fe4fe Condoms does not protect from everything and there is no guarantee even with condoms, you are right there. However, they do prevent sperm from entering the system and wreaking havoc inside if they carry something more. Most STDs that are harmless or does little damage to men can destroy a woman’s productive system. We get lot of men who with insamination fetish who think they are Gods immune to diseases or just because they do it to married women they are less at risk. Guess what? It only takes one lucky (or unlucky) shot from a wrong cock to ruin your life. My other half refuses to let anyone penetrate her unprotected, let alone cum in her. We both got tested before we decided to commit to exclusive relationship and unprotected sex with each other. Everyone else has to wear a condom. And we don’t play with those who mess around with bukkakes or creampies fromstrangers. Met some gorgeous people who were quite nice but preferred to stay friends, a decision which turned out to be quite wise as they got quite serious scares as they played around.
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
You are right, condoms come with no guarantee of safety but same as when l play Russian Roulette, l prefer to play with just one bullet in the gun not five
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SpicyKale
6 years ago
Annie has just about summed it up perfectly! There's still a risk no matter how carefully we play, it's just up to us to to minimise it. How many people on here have seen someone with their fingers inside of one play partner just go into another in a group situation 😐 You're just passing fluids from one person to the next. It's rare that we've noticed people cleaning fingers between partners like that. It's no different to swapping partners without changing condoms! As to the comments about being "clean", you're negative to the six things they tested you for at the time of the test. Five minutes later, who knows! Testing is just another method like condoms to reduce your risk. Herpes is skin to skin, so condoms are no guarantee there, same thing with warts. From what I understand neither are really tested for in Australia, other than a visual check. The guys that come up with the I can't find condoms to fit me🙄 You've had the thing your entire life, if you're playing in this world get online and find something that fits. One condoms in the states have over fifty sizes. With the number of single guys on here why would you take the risk with those that don't play safe. As mentioned earlier in the thread, we'll take a pass if we see photos of multiple partners playing bare and honestly we'll check friends lists too. You wouldn't be doing this if you didn't except the risks. Just take the time to educate yourself a bit and have fun😊
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RHP User
6 years ago
......most people realise that condoms dont protect you from every STD out there. Just like many people are aware of their sexual health and have regular STD tests. When you get the others that are convinced they are 'clean' having never had any type of STD testing and dont wear condoms that I lose interest and fast. If they cant take the time to look after their own sexual health, there is nothing that makes me think they are going to give a damn about mine. As for the ole "I cant find any condoms to fit me"......phftt. Not all men are aware enough to realise that the sizing is based on girth, not length. Its easy to show how they fit....very gently insert your fingers into the said "does not fit " condom. Massage carefully (especially if you have long nails) and get a little heat into that cock sock. ....now insert all your fingers into the warmed up condom and start stretching it out until until the opening is large enough to pop over your head and over your nose. Start blowing it up via your nose on out breaths and see how long and how big it expands before it bursts..... You may just be amazed . The look on the guys face is pretty funny too.
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Miss_J
6 years ago
Ruby_blossum I’ve seen the condom over the head trick 🤣🤣 but I’ve never seen a dick that big 😱😱😳 Yep you’re right 🤣 “the condom doesn’t fit” is just an excuse 🤣🤣🤣
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RHP User
6 years ago
Pull a skin over your head, you can be the biggest prick in town. 🙄
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EarthQueen
6 years ago
Quoting 'windows_spent' This is super tricky, from my experiences with a range of men. Some men struggle to stay erect in a condom. Others stay erect but don’t or can’t orgasm. Both of those seems disappointing for them and me... There’s also a tricky timing dynamic in “play”. When it’s not “linear, Saturday night, relationship sex” which tends to follow a very simple trajectory and condoms have a clear time to be introduced as both know the script. Play (in my experience) has lots of ebbs and flows, actions and inaction, heightened moments and snuggles, and as a woman, I’m not sure when or how long it’s comfortable to be in a condom for that. I don’t want an STI, nor a pregnancy, however I don’t find it simple at all. And I’m a grown up, I have words, I know the risks. I’d love guidance on how to interact with safe sex in a way that isn’t militant and is considerate? Very true. The loss of erection is often an issue. I don't know if its because I often date men older than 40 or is it common in all age groups. Anyone got any tips. Its' kind of deflating when it happens.
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countrytouch82
6 years ago
Windows Spent, EQ I am one that can maintain an erection in a condom, but that is assuming constant play or stimulation. If we stop and chill for any reason, change activities etc, the erection can be lost, which is not normally any issue for varied play. But if you lose the erection in a condom, it's almost impossible to regain the erection within a shrivelled piece of latex/etc. It's easier to discard, regain the erection, then apply a new condom. So it can make play less spontaneous. I also find it very difficult to cum while in a condom. Many positions you do not feel anything at all (despite the "claims" of condom designers of how "intense" they all feel). I'm waiting for hydrogels. Although some certain positions do the trick still. However, if I'm tired as well, forget it! In any case, I'm quite happy to take the condom off to cum externally etc if the woman also desires. However there was an inference above that cumming on the skin was not safe? Swallowing has various arguments with most suggesting that nasties are likely killed off this way in the stomach. The skin to skin contact of any type seems the most likely way of transmitting anything. Although this rules out kissing too as there is possible transmission there. So nothing is 100% safe, but that is life.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Somehow I feel safe if I don’t kiss, no fingers up my vagina or anal. I know I sound boring but that’s how I play.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I cringe whenever I see "D&D free" blah blah blah. This year I literally got the cold sore virus downstairs, from my partner of almost a year, going down on me. He didn't even realise he had it and I didn't notice anything on his face. To be fair he could have had it since childhood and no longer showed symptoms. Unbeknownst to me, he also had a girlfriend of 15+ years (sneaky lowlife and thankfully out of mine) . So just because someone is in a long-term relationship, it doesn't make them any "safer" There are some absolutely gutless people in this world. I know it was him because I get tested regularly whether in a relationship, sexually active or not. And I'd know if I had it before then. It's excruitiating. (Generally HSV1 is coldsores and HSV2 is genital herpes, but they are increasingly present interchangeably) Anyways, my point is, no one can say with 100% certainty that they are disease free unless they are not having sex at all or in a monogamous relationship. (No one is cheating) some diseases take time to show symptoms or even to test positive. Condoms don't protect against everything and STDs are VERY VERY COMMON. Herpes seems to be one of those diseases that is used to say someone is dirty, even though, around 70% of the GLOBAL population has it. Condoms all the way! Unless I'm in a monogamous situation. Although I'm kinda feeling like my sex life is over now. I won't lie about my diagnosis and don't feel comfortable putting others at risk.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Simmy89 Sorry to hear that, unfortunately cheaters are the the worst people I know when it comes to giving STDs to others and thank you for sharing this with us, it means a lot to hear these as many people think we are exaggerating health concerns.
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