M47
Scenario......
September 10 2014
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
A bit more info Stir...Does she do this behaviour because she is looking for a genuine 'relationship', or...Is she just playing hard to get for her test ?What is her agenda ? Tall
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RHP User
11 years ago
Either way...... if the guy just wants a root, and he's an average chump, he'll chase. So as a test it sux, and as a game it doesn't work ;-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Society is so messed up that people feel the need to play these games or apply these tests to others.I can see why they feel the need, it is just sad that people can't be more open and say what they feel.(Stands on pulpit and reads from the communication bible again) If a guy is ignored and/or told "Sorry I don't have time for you" does that mean he is being tested for his level of interest or is she genuinely not wanting to see him again?If he assumes wrong and chases then he could be facing a restraining order or crucifixion for his persistence.If he assumes wrong and stays away then he and she could be missing out on a wonderful relationship (be it Friend or Lover). Ultimately it probably comes down to how it is all delivered... being a simple male I would rather a straight "fuck off I think you are repulsive" to a weak message that may or may not be a test. I don't know if I've ever been tested because I take people on face value and their written word literally (am getting better at detecting sarcasm and facetious comments when face to face). SG(Confused as ever)
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RHP User
11 years ago
and doomed to fail, as DG said. I test men - and actually everyone - all the time, on all sorts of things. I'm always looking for substance beneath words. For example, if they say they're not racist or homophobic, I'll ask questions to see if they're really not (as in, they consciously practice not doing or saying racist or homophobic things) or if it's just rhetoric. I ask a lot of questions, usually open-ended, to get to the heart of a person's values and beliefs. I'm interested in people with deep, thoughtful, tolerant spirits, whose actions reflect that. I don't what the draining energy of superficiality, gossip, intolerance or drama drama drama in my life. So yeah, I test people :) I learn a lot and it guides me well. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
'Games' like that send out mixed messages and make men more confused about women than what they already are. The poor men already have it tough trying to find our G-spot ;) I agree with Amicus. Just be open and say what's on your mind. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MissBishere
11 years ago
God that's awful. I'm not into mind games or tests or whatever you want to call them. And I agree with ML it won't prove anything. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't agree with tests or rules (3 dates before sex wtf???)The world would be a better place if people stopped this sort of shit.Amicus said it all :) Quoting 'Amicus75' Society is so messed up that people feel the need to play these games or apply these tests to others.I can see why they feel the need, it is just sad that people can't be more open and say what they feel.(Stands on pulpit and reads from the communication bible again) If a guy is ignored and/or told "Sorry I don't have time for you" does that mean he is being tested for his level of interest or is she genuinely not wanting to see him again?If he assumes wrong and chases then he could be facing a restraining order or crucifixion for his persistence.If he assumes wrong and stays away then he and she could be missing out on a wonderful relationship (be it Friend or Lover). Ultimately it probably comes down to how it is all delivered... being a simple male I would rather a straight "fuck off I think you are repulsive" to a weak message that may or may not be a test. I don't know if I've ever been tested because I take people on face value and their written word literally (am getting better at detecting sarcasm and facetious comments when face to face). SG(Confused as ever)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Are bullshit and I refuse to have anything to do with them - and if I unwittingly miss out on some sex as a result, then so be it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
fuck that.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't like testing people and don't like them to test me either. You don't clarify exactly what your friend says. I think there's a difference between your friend saying to a guy "You think it might be better if we're just friends?" to gage his thoughts and perhaps reassure herself, and actually telling him she won't sleep with him anymore, purely to make him prove how important she is, but in my opinion they are both based on wanting to have her ego stroked. When you play games like that you must prepared for the outcome not being what you want. He may also call her bluff and test her right back.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Isn't that why we have rhp ? Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
11 years ago
I would walk and never look back its not like she is the last woman on earth and I cant be fucked with games / life is for the living not testing for the future
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RHP User
11 years ago
She recognises his advances and says "I'm not looking for anyone for that...." Despite her definite interest in him.... I told her had that been me I'd have not bothered chasing any further.... Why push away but expect him to continue his pursuit??? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Seems like the Woman is a tyre-kicker too . GH♒️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
Yeah not really my style, sounds like a head fuck to me. I don't do games, high maintenance, attention seeking or head fucks..........
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm not in any way interested in this girl; nor is she an RHP member. We are just two friends that discuss some weird shit like this and bounce stuff off.... It just puzzles me; as a few experiences have also suggested the same in that women test men constantly but the context of such tests have always been unknown. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
the lies men tell to get women into bed, I can understand it to a certain degree. Can't see how it is really any different to men saying they want something that they don't just so they can get their dicks wet either. I am not up for the games myself and I suppose that is why I get so pissed off with men and their bullshit, same shit, different tactic. Like Amicus said, why the fuck can't people just be honest?
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RHP User
11 years ago
As a teenager I used to play by "The Rules.." Such as, don't call him, make him pay, keep him waiting, play hard to get, don't show him yr interested.... I found the old rules just made me feel manipulative, bitchy & false. It also attracted the wrong guys, as I was not being myself. I have learnt in life to just be myself, always. I hate trying to lie, manipulate, test, or pretend to be woman with no outward feelings or emotions. I wear my heart on my sleeve, & am almost too honest about my thoughts & desires. who wants a woman that is false calculating,, unattainable, a game player - one who messes with yr head & heart, or one who feels the need to test what you say with misleading or open-ended questions. That's just catty school girl tactics. I prefer to be upfront, logical, sensitive. if I want further clarification on his feelings or objectives for me - I ask. Its as simple as that... But hey, I am sometimes disliked by people - Not boverrrrred..!! At the same time, I attract strong friendships or relationships with those people that like ME for ME.. And they are ultimately the people I want in my life anyway.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Mind games and high maintenance crap like this are not attractive at all and I would be running away.
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
I get the gist of what was going on. To me it looks like she was playing by the 'Old Rules" as Spanglish has put it, and I would personally understand why she was doing this IF she was looing for a full-on relationship - to sort out the wheat from the chaff. But I think nowadays this behaviour is not longer relevant as most people are willing to be more open and discuss their ideas about what they each are looking for / expecting. If on the other hand she was trying to get rid of the tyre kickers merely looking for sex, and she was just playing the hard to get game, I think she will be in for a long and lonely existence as most guys will tell her better luck next time, and move on. Tall
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RHP User
11 years ago
What she is doing is silly, as its the test that may not even get a guy as her friend, let alone sex or a relationship it might work in high school. I have a lot of single girlfriends and I can tell you right now if a guy roots you on the first date he looks at you with a whole different slant on things. the girl that roots on the first date, that is on RHP and fucks other guys, or has a sexually imaginative life can very easy find herself on the bootie call list. They come on all hot and heavy, and, yes I am open minded guy but then a few dips of the wick and its on to other RHP women. The great irony is that they on other date sites looking for that girl to take home to mother. do not kid yourself at all ladies, the moral values of that who you hook up with for public activities and who you hook up with for under the sheet activities are poles apart. How many of those hot young studly guys you are fucking take you out to dinner and introduce you to their mates. how many guys actually meet you on this site, and take you out to dinner and have the old fashioned date? they normally ask you before they even meet you if you like sucking cock/ or going down on pussy. I still stick by that five date rule, no sex for five dates till you find out that you might have something to build on rather than your pink bits. She is just grasping at straws to try and find mr right. he aint here sunshine. "Mr Penis for you."lives here. thank god am married as I would have a hell of a time keeping my knees together for five dates think of it this way, how long have some women/men been on rhp? still looking and some gave up ages ago and hang around the forums like old dudes at a bar in the same bar stool...thats me the games we play to get what we want
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RHP User
11 years ago
It could backfire on her and she would have lost out on a very special thing? Not recommended
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MsJonesy
11 years ago
If I have to pass a test then they can pass me by. I am simply not interested. Actually its more than that; tests can be a sign of some significant issues around trust and relationships. It can start with one test and end up as a multitude, all designed to keep you on edge and under their control. The answers to the tests seem to change too, just to ensure you slip up and they can crow "I knew you weren't for real/couldn't do as promised/wouldn't meet my expectations/didn't like me enough/didn't love me enough/wouldn't last the distance". Tests are often laid out by people who have deep insecurities or have been deeply hurt (trauma comes in many disguises - mental and/or physical). It takes a long time to change behaviours (therapy, self reflection etc). Setting up tests for those who indicate they want to become close/r to you will only result in a reinforcement of flawed behaviour by the tester. Ultimately no one can pass the tests as they are designed to be failed; they are based on skewed logic and/or flawed perceptions of reality.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'inthekiss' do not kid yourself at all ladies, the moral values of that who you hook up with for public activities and who you hook up with for under the sheet activities are poles apart. Disagree. I think that's a pretty big generalisation. True for some men on here, but not for all. While I would love a loving relationship in my life I'm not actually open to one and not meeting men for that purpose, because my heart is already taken. So I meet men as friends only and I've become friends with plenty, some of them have stayed good friends for years. I go out with them, dinner, movies, one of us will stay over sometimes when we're doing something that ends late and we don't want to drive home etc. I met these men on here and they would all LOVE to find that special someone. They're on here because they like being free and open about sex but they want to date, take women out for dinner and all that good stuff. I'm sure they're in the minority but they do exist on here. How many of those hot young studly guys you are fucking take you out to dinner and introduce you to their mates. Agree! Hot studlies tend to have women fawning over them so they don't really have to put in the extra effort. Best avoided most of the time, if you're looking for luuuuurve or some such thing. I still stick by that five date rule, no sex for five dates till you find out that you might have something to build on rather than your pink bits. Great idea IMO! If you want to be treated differently gals, don't give it up so quickly :) While I'm not dating at all I have a similar philosophy to messages. If he doesn't have the patience to swap some messages, ask some questions, give some information, establish if there's a half-decent connection, then it's clear he's not interested in actually know me and he just wants sex. No point meeting then. If I do have sex on the first meet (and the last time was a long while ago!) I know it's only going to be sex. Even when he talks about hanging out and blah blah, those guys have never followed through and have only been in it for more sex.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think women get just as confused as men do. I decided a long time ago that if I want to see someone, I ask them. If I want to call or text them, I do. If this scares them off, then they're not what I'm looking for anyway. Sometimes women also need to hear a straight forward I am or I am not interested. Why waste time playing games when it could be time spent enjoying each others company?
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RHP User
11 years ago
5 dates inthekiss! what the........... surely that is too many! Gawd and I thought it was bad when my "mate" told me I shouldn't have anal sex on the first date.
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RHP User
11 years ago
People just aren't that impenetrable that you need to test them. If you spend time with someone, and you relate well and naturally with them, then you are absorbing all the information you need from actions and conversations to form a sense of that person. As humans we do this naturally, subconsciously and very effectively. If people need to consciously test other people, then that's because they don't trust themselves and their own judgement.
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RHP User
11 years ago
can't people just say what they mean and mean what they say...? I don't get game playing, why would you fuck with someone you actually like? For that matter, why would you fuck with someone you don't like? Just be polite, direct and move along. Am I missing something here?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks for that Meeka100 Laughed out loud.. :) I like how U say it as it is... No BS with U...!! InTheKiss... I respect yr right to play by yr rules, but where did you get the 'No sex for 5 dates rule' from? I have sex when I want, where I want, with whom I want, & how I want. The fact that I haven't had casual sex in over a year is irrelevant lol... I don't let out-dated & prudish notions of normality dictate my actions. I believe that if I meet a man who melts my heart & my defences, and if the chemistry, attraction & conversation is strong enough, then a solid, loving & respectful relationship can be built even after sex on the first date. Please excuse my crappyv writing style tonight, have had a few too many ...;)Live & let live I say....
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RHP User
11 years ago
For How long you been chasen her now sir ??? Bahahaha - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Fuck!!! You're easy :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
The only thing you may have missed is:- She does to guys she actually likes and wants more than conversation with.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sir_Stir, just leave your money on the fridge on the way out.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Testing one two ,three....this is why I always wear a lab coat on the first date....saves a lot of confuscious:-) Q xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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