M56
Seeing that new girl!
April 24 2012
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RHP User
14 years ago
your going to pursue the one you want... and why not!Best of luck to ya bloke.Cheers Felonius
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RHP User
14 years ago
You can get hit by a train tomorrow....live for today.....go for what is in your heart! Just saying! :) Hugs...xFunlovingx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Perhaps MTAYB might not be all that into you.If she is ,perhaps she doesnt want to be the temporary fix. A long term marriage does take awhile to get over, why is 41 an age where you are running out of time? For what? Talk to to this woman about how you feel,if she feels the same way then why not enjoy spending time together. Just get to know each other.Falling inlove is a rush to the head and the loins.,really getting to know someone takes time. Then everything else will fall into place xHugs H
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RHP User
14 years ago
We say GO for it !!!! and good luck :)
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RHP User
14 years ago
But in moderation. Don't throw everything at Miss Tick or your enthusiasm may push her away. You could explain to her that time alone is wasted on you and better spent with her. She may say yes. She may say no. Either way you aren't left sitting wondering and if it doesn't work out you haven't wasted time that could be spent finding another girl that ticks your boxes.
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RHP User
14 years ago
If Miss Tick does not have any unusual emotional baggage eg trust issues, and she's genuinely looking for love, and she's honestly into you, it unlikely she would push you away. You probably need to ask yourself of there are any signs that she's less into you than you're hoping for. On the other hand, it's not unreasonable for her to wonder how you can jump from love to love so quickly and she might just be protecting herself. She might be testing you a little, women have a tendency to do that. She might be keeping her options open, men aren't the only ones that play the game from time to time. Unless you think she's a player, or not really into you, unless those signs are pretty clear, I'd go for it. Life's short, love is precious.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Well you know your going to Go after her and why wouldnt you.. Hate to be the devils advocate but is she letting you down slowley by saying have some time alone or are you so hungry for the right person you may have fallen heavily for anyone..Not saying either are true but it happens and the question is will she Back away as she wanted you to have some space or Take you with opne arms Time Will Tell All
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RHP User
14 years ago
Steady on there Fangio .This is a woman we're talking about here, she has said something that might have been hard for her to say........let's not dismiss her words and send the man in all gung ho!!!!She may have meant one of a few things by her words, and one of them may mean that she wants you to not make her the rebound tick girl here. Or she may also be a little taken aback by the fact that you are so certain she ticks all of your boxes and she hasn't had time to make sure you tick all hers......us girls do like to go at our own pace .My advice.......play it smoooooooth , do not push the whole forever thing on her, take it as it comes, take her for dinner or a walk........but not everyday let her have her time to tick the rest of her boxes......and in the meantime show her more of you .Best of luck xx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Tread carefully my friend, there may be no correct answer.Which means you may as well just do what you feel is right and hope for the best.But if she also asks if her butt looks big in these jeans run for your life. No point pushing your luck.Mr C
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'D_G_T'She may have meant one of a few things by her words, and one of them may mean that she wants you to not make her the rebound tick girl here. Or she may also be a little taken aback by the fact that you are so certain she ticks all of your boxes and she hasn't had time to make sure you tick all hers......us girls do like to go at our own pace . It's definitely a trap!
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RHP User
14 years ago
You were married... THEN you found someone else to get serious with and was wrong...... Meanwhile you have been chatting to another.... Miss Tick......... . Okay so Miss Tick needs to be certain that you are her Mr Tick. also she may have doubts about her being your Miss Tick...You were wrong once or twice before clearly. Miss Tick does not want to be Miss Rebound-and-I-dont-really-know-what-I-want. Softly, softly my friend. I dont think you quite know what it is you are looking for and from the point of veiw that Miss Tick has, she seems to think that you get involved too fast. Maybe she is right here. Maybe you do need to play the field before making another Miss Take!
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RHP User
14 years ago
I recently came out of a marriage too and ended up in another relationship quite soon after in the beginning I thought she ticked most of my boxes too but as time went on the fog started to clear and I realised I just was not mentally ready to commit again just yet a marriage and a long relationship is a hard thing to get over when you lose your best friend. I'm voting for goin the lone ranger for a while till things settle down.good luck all the best
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RHP User
14 years ago
...think that she ticks all the boxes, then you have nothing to loose by waiting. What's that saying about acting in haste and repenting in leisure...take time to see what she really means by what she has told you, what her feelings are and then step softly if this may be more than something that is just a bit of getting naked fun. Of course you could tick her box ...and just have some fun then see where it leads, time is always on your side if you are thinking long term no matter how long that may be.|Enjoy the journey...and yes, it's a trap!
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RHP User
14 years ago
hey magnum,, i'm more curious to know how long you have spent alone?... not just after Miss serious, but have you ever played the lone ranger before?.... if you haven't,, then maybe some 'flying solo' time is what you need to discover yourself a little more.... i say this not knowing your situation of course, but you did mention having a 'rather long marriage' .... were you childhood sweethearts? If so lil_bit_angelic has a good point about how you might be 'jumping from love to love'.... once again, i'm not sure of your situation, but if this is the case it's something to think about...... i speak from experience here, 37 of my 38 years has been with someone and only this past year have i been alone..... it's been very rewarding for me, spiritually and sexually. Having said all that... i've always listened to my heart when it comes to love and life, i'm just a bit more cautious with the love thing now and tend to use my head more with that one..... purely because i've enjoyed my time alone, and i needed it too.... if love is meant to happen, then it will happen.... and don't let your age rush you into any decisions either....... age and time are just human inventions.go for it if it feels right, just be cool about it and don't force the issue...... good luck!
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RHP User
14 years ago
oh Magnum... and your problem is????she likes you, AND she wants you to sow some oats?????....
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RHP User
14 years ago
what a cute butt you have coodi xxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Ok I m the last person to give relationship adivce because I have PHd in how to fuck up a relationship...Im a true Master... All I can say is there are some excellent posts here tonite and Ive agreed with each and every single one......in this forum, I find I'm swinging backwards and forwards...my head says to say tread warily and softly, my heart says go for it All I can add is this....many years ago I was kinda in the same situation...kinda sorta..I threw caution to the wind and followed my heart....and at the time I was so glad I did...as the person involved after a few months passed away.. would I do it again..I dont know..as it was 10 years ago and much has changed, including me Life is short and we have no idea what is around the corner..and I believe if two people can find each other in this crazy mixed up world of 7 billion people..then thats fucking awesome...so all I can say .just respect her and yourself..go slow..be gentle and kind to each other..and if you are meant to be ....you will...... I wish you all the luck in the world....
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RHP User
14 years ago
After a long relatinship you need to go it alone and find yourself I often see men rush inot rebound relationships because some men need this. Your miss tick is testing you making sure your a man who can stand on his own two feet and not be babied.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Hmmmmm......we women are complicated breed, aren't we. Is she telling you to wait in the hope that you'll go after her or does she really want you to wait? If she really ticks all your boxes, go for it. The beauty of being married before is you already know what you DON'T want. Good luck!
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RHP User
14 years ago
... the only thing I want to sow is you
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RHP User
14 years ago
I've fought extremely hard for love, and lost. I can't describe the dreadful hurt, but I can say that there is peace in my heart because I did all that I could. I have no regrets about following my heart.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'lil_bit_angelic' what a cute butt you have coodi xxx i'm wiping drool off my lip looking at your boob
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RHP User
14 years ago
I think a bit of both...... get your independence- play around and also spend special moments courting Miss Tick chick :) That way if she is not sure about you will get the chance to convince her. Do it until such a time as *you* know you are a different man and have grown. Then stop playing on the side and focus more on her, tell her what you have learned/ achieved through your experience to reassure her fears of rebound and that *now* what you need is her and thank her for her understanding.Cass xxx All the best.
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RHP User
14 years ago
@ lil_bit_angelic. I know the feeling exactly ... It's beautiful when through all the pain there is so much healing. @ magnum23 there is always way too much devil in the detail. My advice; don't worry too much. If it's meant to happen it will. Either way you know this amazing woman. Just be with and enjoy her in the moments that you are. No expectations - they'll often let you down. Cassandra xx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Remember how you felt when you "Fell for" you Wife?? Remember how you felt when you "Fell for" Ms serious?? Of course you remember how you feel when you "Fell for" MTAYB? Lo!! and Behold!! are they NOT all the same? OR, is THIS a Mid life crisis issue? Affraid to be alone? I am NOt pulling the piss mate: Just gettting you to THINK with the head on your shoulders, instead of the one in your jeans.. We all want THIS ONE to be THE ONE.. good luck if you have found her.. but, but dont count TOO muck on it.. I read into your thread that you were talking to MTAYB WHILST you were still with MS-serious... raises a danger flag to my confidence in you separation even being on legitimate terms.. You went from wife.. to M-serious.. and now trying for MTAYB.... one to the other to the next... bad move :) But, as I said.. good luck.. caveman.. (reads too much?)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'coodi_yowie' Quoting 'lil_bit_angelic' what a cute butt you have coodi xxx i'm wiping drool off my lip looking at your boob any day Coodi x
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RHP User
14 years ago
She might need space after a relationship has ended, but that doesn't necessarily mean that you do. Maybe try explaining that you feel very sure about her and you don't need time to sort out your feelings.
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RHP User
14 years ago
@ride_me Totally agree, no way he should go all in. IP Just take the time to get to know her and so she can get to know you. If it turns out you are not what she wants you won't feel so much like killing yourself.
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RHP User
14 years ago
it's obvious you and MTAYB have talked bout your ex and your issues there...if she is saying you need time to yourself and you feel the same way then whats the problem here? take a time out! you feel like you're running out of time? think about it realistically...you need some growing up to do still even as a man...then let the happiness follow...:)
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RHP User
14 years ago
Wow, thanks to all that posted here! I didnt expect such a response to be honest and its given me encouragement to do more of the same! I agree with a lot of the posts here, some in part some with all! However a sidenote for those being a little more critical may be, walk in thier shoes for a while, your perspective may change! But no hard feelings, i enjoyed the read! All in all I have contemplated pretty much all that has been said before I posted, I cannot change who I am, but I can learn and change what I do! I have taken a chance, i wont say what just yet, but for those interested, watch this space and will update you as time allows! Do the oates need sowing?
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RHP User
14 years ago
hey sweety, how you been?
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RHP User
14 years ago
It could be the whole playing hard to get thing that is keeping you hanging on. If she is not %100 about you as you seem to be about her there is no point in flogging a dead horse. Tell her you are happy to see what pans out in a few months or so but don't be her fall back guy when nothing better comes along for her. You are better than that and don't let her, or should I say, don't let yourself be strung along. If she calls you answer.....if not, maintain your dignity and move on. You will feel better for it.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Sxc :)
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