M55 F47
Separate rooms!!!! Gets on our goat:)
January 29 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
Agree more CunnyFunts..You've hit the nail right on the head..We've actually been asked by a couple on here if we'd split up and go our separate ways for dinner, then meet up later on in the night and then play in separate rooms..What Tha? But each to their own..
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RHP User
13 years ago
we see the whole 'open relationship' thing......as just an extension of the 'seperate room' thing...neither makes any damned sense to us... why be a couple....... if you play 'apart'.....and why be a couple.....if you cant play in full view of each other? its been said to us that its about 'freedom' to explore desires etc ...free from 'jealousy', 'reprisal'....which kinda confuses us...as thats exactly what we have now...without seperate rooms, or an open relationship.......
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RHP User
13 years ago
sam and i were talking about this the other night,thinking if thats what you want why not go out seperate do your thing and catch up in the morning, a couple is a couple as we see it,i personally dont like the idea simply as i like to be there for sam in case it gets a bit crazy,so all i all its the couple thing we love so no single room for us
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RHP User
13 years ago
not swinging its wife swapping and I would have thought if your are swinging it would be in the same room... Maybe I missed that lecture? Mike
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RHP User
13 years ago
Only with people we had been swinging with for a while and after we'd talked in depth about it, we decided it was nowhere near as fun as all together in the same room and we weren't really interested in separate room play again. We don't see any reason why we'd not want to be in the same room. I don't really see why you could get jealous when your partner is there, in the room with you, helping LOL. The only real issue I could see is if one person was being left out of the play, in which case we would stop and question why that was occurring. Like Mike and Shel I don't feel that my freedom to express my desires is in anyway constrained by my partner being there, I think it's enhanced because I can share it with the person I love most in the world. I could see more problems with an open relationship or separate room play and jealousy or reprisals. I wonder what they mean by "reprisals".
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Otori'Only with people we had been swinging with for a while and after we'd talked in depth about it, we decided it was nowhere near as fun as all together in the same room and we weren't really interested in separate room play again. We don't see any reason why we'd not want to be in the same room. I don't really see why you could get jealous when your partner is there, in the room with you, helping LOL. The only real issue I could see is if one person was being left out of the play, in which case we would stop and question why that was occurring. Like Mike and Shel I don't feel that my freedom to express my desires is in anyway constrained by my partner being there, I think it's enhanced because I can share it with the person I love most in the world. I could see more problems with an open relationship or separate room play and jealousy or reprisals. I wonder what they mean by "reprisals". have no idea whats meant by it either....maybe 'punishment'? for transgressing? who knows? we do know tho, that playing in seperate rooms wont happen and nor will an open relationship..... neither are for us.
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RHP User
13 years ago
We are all different......and there are many alternative forms that relationships can take. Each are just as valid as the next - think of 'Polyamorous Triads', for example. Mikeandshel are cleary very certain about needing to experience everything together and are equally clear that they feel 'open' relationships are missing the point in some way.My view is diametrically opposed to this. The idea of being in the same room as my wife when she is enjoying a man or woman is very difficult to grasp. I love the idea that she can be sexually expressive around others but I do not need to be part of that experience. She also shares the same view and would not want to witness (or participate) me with another....I don't 'own' my wife and therefore do not need to be there when she experiences pleasure with other people - I want her to have unique and varied experiences without me - and I do the same.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' we see the whole 'open relationship' thing......as just an extension of the 'seperate room' thing...neither makes any damned sense to us... why be a couple....... if you play 'apart'.....and why be a couple.....if you cant play in full view of each other? its been said to us that its about 'freedom' to explore desires etc ...free from 'jealousy', 'reprisal'....which kinda confuses us...as thats exactly what we have now...without seperate rooms, or an open relationship....... You state that you see the open relationship 'thing' as just an extension of the separate room 'thing'......and suggest that it makes no sense to you (because, apparently, couples do not do 'that sort of thing'.....You have a very blinkered view about Poly or Open relationships. You also have little or no understanding about the dyanmics of such a relationship - yet you are always quick to show your distaste or suggest that they are dysfunctional or repugnant in some way. That is your opinion - and you are entitled to it.Poly relationships are not just open fucking around - they are about the cultivation of more than one 'loving' relationship. Yes, they do exist......I am not suggesting Polygamy or Polyandry though.....They are about seeking creative ways to maximise love in our lives...in a non-monogamous way....There are many alternatives to monogamy......healthy and responsible openness is the way for us ;-)I think we should respect those who choose to make other choices - (play in the same room or not included)....
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RHP User
13 years ago
It sure doesn’t float our boat, we like musical chairs and the girls to be bi. Now that would be tricky in separate rooms LOL.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Whilst our reason for this topic to be posted in the first place was for intial banter and education to us as we haven't understood a reason for this type of request, I question your bias and responces sir (Philosopherpoet), as you make references to yourself and your wife quite often, however you preclude the existance of a spouse in the information you have volunteered on your profile regardless of a polyamory proclamation, and almost a foot note at that!Now before you get all upset PP it is quite common to have an opinion, as we all do, hence this forum, but seriously either you are "Attached" "In a relationship" "Married" or "Single" (regardless of it's dynamic)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'CunnyFunts' Whilst our reason for this topic to be posted in the first place was for intial banter and education to us as we haven't understood a reason for this type of request, I question your bias and responces sir (Philosopherpoet), as you make references to yourself and your wife quite often, however you preclude the existance of a spouse in the information you have volunteered on your profile regardless of a polyamory proclamation, and almost a foot note at that!Now before you get all upset PP it is quite common to have an opinion, as we all do, hence this forum, but seriously either you are "Attached" "In a relationship" "Married" or "Single" (regardless of it's dynamic) Oh, that again........This has been covered on other forum posts - my wife (northerntantra) also added her bit...When I am contacted I make people aware of my status ;-)If I put married - I do not appear in search results.....90% of the people I speak to do not have an issue with it after chatting to me or meeting me...My wife also puts single on her other profiles on different websites....its not an issue to the majority of people.....some just like to bring it up - as though they have 'caught a deceptive cheat' lol....you really do make me laugh...Danny x
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'CunnyFunts'Whilst our reason for this topic to be posted in the first place was for intial banter and education to us as we haven't understood a reason for this type of request, I question your bias and responces sir (Philosopherpoet), as you make references to yourself and your wife quite often, however you preclude the existance of a spouse in the information you have volunteered on your profile regardless of a polyamory proclamation, and almost a foot note at that!Now before you get all upset PP it is quite common to have an opinion, as we all do, hence this forum, but seriously either you are "Attached" "In a relationship" "Married" or "Single" (regardless of it's dynamic)he confuses us as well....we've seen him as 'single'...then someone said 'married' and 'attached'..then he said 'poly' and lately its 'open' i dont see anything other than confusion. nah its not for us..you're either in a relationship.....24/7 or youre fooling yourself.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' Quoting 'CunnyFunts'Whilst our reason for this topic to be posted in the first place was for intial banter and education to us as we haven't understood a reason for this type of request, I question your bias and responces sir (Philosopherpoet), as you make references to yourself and your wife quite often, however you preclude the existance of a spouse in the information you have volunteered on your profile regardless of a polyamory proclamation, and almost a foot note at that!Now before you get all upset PP it is quite common to have an opinion, as we all do, hence this forum, but seriously either you are "Attached" "In a relationship" "Married" or "Single" (regardless of it's dynamic)he confuses us as well....we've seen him as 'single'...then someone said 'married' and 'attached'..then he said 'poly' and lately its 'open' i dont see anything other than confusion. nah its not for us..you're either in a relationship.....24/7 or youre fooling yourself. Lol - you are so sanctimonious and smug. You think you have the monopoly on what a relationship is....... O P E N Y O U R E Y E S - there is a whole world of diversity out there.....You make me giggle......ha...
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RHP User
13 years ago
My intent was not meant to be humorous, just clarification. If you refer to your partner as "wife" then you are obviously her husband. Married. Simple! If this is a repetitive scenario that you are experiencing, go figure. As you say you only do it because you don't appear in search results. So are you saying that you wish to be involved with people that were originally not looking for you specifically?The issue still remains of separate rooms requests of "couples"Not singles claiming to be couples claiming to be single. Or Couples claiming to be single claiming to be a couple...Oh fark it confusion is your domain...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Philosopherpoet' Quoting 'mikeandshel' Quoting 'CunnyFunts'Whilst our reason for this topic to be posted in the first place was for intial banter and education to us as we haven't understood a reason for this type of request, I question your bias and responces sir (Philosopherpoet), as you make references to yourself and your wife quite often, however you preclude the existance of a spouse in the information you have volunteered on your profile regardless of a polyamory proclamation, and almost a foot note at that!Now before you get all upset PP it is quite common to have an opinion, as we all do, hence this forum, but seriously either you are "Attached" "In a relationship" "Married" or "Single" (regardless of it's dynamic)he confuses us as well....we've seen him as 'single'...then someone said 'married' and 'attached'..then he said 'poly' and lately its 'open' i dont see anything other than confusion. nah its not for us..you're either in a relationship.....24/7 or youre fooling yourself. Lol - you are so sanctimonious and smug. You think you have the monopoly on what a relationship is....... O P E N Y O U R E Y E S - there is a whole world of diversity out there.....You make me giggle......ha... we opened our eyes a very long time ago...and explored the idea of 'open' relationships.... me with a gal i met prior to Shel, and Shel with her ex partner...for her, it failed miserably as he saw it as an opportunity to behave very poorly, and he took to beating her each time she protested or complained... me..i couldnt reconcile with not knowing who i'd be spending 'milestone' moments with....ie, my partner...or alone. no...theres no 'smugness'...just an ongoing feeling of awkwardness as to why or how someone can be in a relationship but behave like a single...i/we just dont get it... and really...dont have to. we are happy in our 'off the shelf' 'generic' relationship...its working just fine thank you very much lol...
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RHP User
13 years ago
I know Danny (Pp) well. I am one of his wives lovers, and we are committed to each other in a round about sort of way..... (love ya babe!) Although it did take me a while to wrap my head around their relationship, I have.....AND come to the conclusion that it is one of the most robust, satisfying, living marriages I have ever had the privalage to witness. He plays separately, as a SINGLE .... As does SHE!!!!! I am in awe that two people can love and respect each other as much as these amazing people! He will not expect you to meet his wife, she will not abuse you if she finds out about you, he will be open about his "status".... And when he is with you be completely dedicated to YOU (if you're lucky enough to capture this amazing mans attention!) We are all here for sex/relationships that do not conform to "societies requirements".... Get of your horses and open your minds.... You might learn a thing or two... Mrs Bom (enlightened and loving it)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Done four in a bed.. two couples. Oh it was very sexy. She invited me shoe shopping the next day but unfortunately I couldn't make it! I was on holidays and had other plans. I wish we could of done it again.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'BomChickaWahWah' I know Danny (Pp) well. I am one of his wives lovers, and we are committed to each other in a round about sort of way..... (love ya babe!) Although it did take me a while to wrap my head around their relationship, I have.....AND come to the conclusion that it is one of the most robust, satisfying, living marriages I have ever had the privalage to witness. He plays separately, as a SINGLE .... As does SHE!!!!! I am in awe that two people can love and respect each other as much as these amazing people! He will not expect you to meet his wife, she will not abuse you if she finds out about you, he will be open about his "status".... And when he is with you be completely dedicated to YOU (if you're lucky enough to capture this amazing mans attention!) We are all here for sex/relationships that do not conform to "societies requirements".... Get of your horses and open your minds.... You might learn a thing or two... Mrs Bom (enlightened and loving it)- Posted from rhpmobile
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DonnaBrett
13 years ago
Although we do play separately at times...(we call them adventures), they are just a little kick on the side.Also we never do it at the same time. But when swinging we do it for the thrill of seeing each other enjoy other people...so for us to say meet another couple & then go off separately totally defeats the purpose. We believe the couples that ONLY play separately do so cos they have insecurities or jealousy issues. They want to play but either one or both would not like to see the other screwing someone else so they figure if they can't see each other they can't freak out!
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RHP User
13 years ago
its all good Bom..... we are just sounding out our views...which we are entitled to hold.... no need to tell people who have been on this journey....since before you were born....whats what....we've seen it all, and more, and dont hold any of it in awe any more... 'open' is very much old hat these days, and has done one of those cycles it does...is it back in 'vogue'...maybe...will it last? hasnt yet...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Philosopherpoet'We are all different......and there are many alternative forms that relationships can take. Each are just as valid as the next - think of 'Polyamorous Triads', for example. Mikeandshel are cleary very certain about needing to experience everything together and are equally clear that they feel 'open' relationships are missing the point in some way.My view is diametrically opposed to this. The idea of being in the same room as my wife when she is enjoying a man or woman is very difficult to grasp. I love the idea that she can be sexually expressive around others but I do not need to be part of that experience. She also shares the same view and would not want to witness (or participate) me with another....I don't 'own' my wife and therefore do not need to be there when she experiences pleasure with other people - I want her to have unique and varied experiences without me - and I do the same. i think thats actually the crux of the matter...to us, being able to enjoy something as wonderful as sex.....with our partner, and another, if the mood so takes us, is a beautiful thing to do. we see having to hide our sexual adventures from each other as something we just cannot do..... we dont 'own' each other either, never ever have we thought that, i know and understand that every day my wife chooses to be with me, is an absolute bonus. so i treat it as such, and we celebrate our love, by sharing some of our most exsquisite moments with others.... a little 'party' perhaps. a celebration of sexual joy even.... how is that 'restrictive' or 'jealous' or any such thing? its joyous and fun....we laugh and cavort like teenagers while we play......and the bonus is that we are creating joint memories that we can look back on with fondness, together, in our twilight years....lol...oh bugger, thats soon i think lol. lets just agree that we are poles apart, that our experiences are other than yours, and our expectations are other than yours.... we are different, for very real reasons..........not better, not worse, just different. ok?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' Quoting 'Philosopherpoet'We are all different......and there are many alternative forms that relationships can take. Each are just as valid as the next - think of 'Polyamorous Triads', for example. Mikeandshel are cleary very certain about needing to experience everything together and are equally clear that they feel 'open' relationships are missing the point in some way.My view is diametrically opposed to this. The idea of being in the same room as my wife when she is enjoying a man or woman is very difficult to grasp. I love the idea that she can be sexually expressive around others but I do not need to be part of that experience. She also shares the same view and would not want to witness (or participate) me with another....I don't 'own' my wife and therefore do not need to be there when she experiences pleasure with other people - I want her to have unique and varied experiences without me - and I do the same. i think thats actually the crux of the matter...to us, being able to enjoy something as wonderful as sex.....with our partner, and another, if the mood so takes us, is a beautiful thing to do. we see having to hide our sexual adventures from each other as something we just cannot do..... we dont 'own' each other either, never ever have we thought that, i know and understand that every day my wife chooses to be with me, is an absolute bonus. so i treat it as such, and we celebrate our love, by sharing some of our most exsquisite moments with others.... a little 'party' perhaps. a celebration of sexual joy even.... how is that 'restrictive' or 'jealous' or any such thing? its joyous and fun....we laugh and cavort like teenagers while we play......and the bonus is that we are creating joint memories that we can look back on with fondness, together, in our twilight years....lol...oh bugger, thats soon i think lol. lets just agree that we are poles apart, that our experiences are other than yours, and our expectations are other than yours.... we are different, for very real reasons..........not better, not worse, just different. ok? We are all unique and diverse - this is what makes us human (partly). We each have our own truth and to live an authentic life is to embrace that truth. Open relationships have been around for millenia - it is not a fad or a passing fashion.My wife and I were monogamous but then found we could be happy having our primary relationship and sharing our time/lives with other people as well......and the important realisation that came from this (one of the many) is that NOBODY has the right to tell you how your relationships are supposed to look..Monogamous, Open, Polyamorous, Mono-Polyamorous, Intimate Triads, Quads etc.......We cannot say that one is better, more functional, more authentic......So, we will have to disagree - we do hold antithetical view points on this one....and that's ok....Danny
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'DonnaBrett'Although we do play separately at times...(we call them adventures), they are just a little kick on the side.Also we never do it at the same time. But when swinging we do it for the thrill of seeing each other enjoy other people...so for us to say meet another couple & then go off separately totally defeats the purpose. We believe the couples that ONLY play separately do so cos they have insecurities or jealousy issues. They want to play but either one or both would not like to see the other screwing someone else so they figure if they can't see each other they can't freak out!its kinda what we felt when we first came across couples that wanted to only play seperately. theres issues at play...that we just dont see as something we'd want to associate with. to us...as swingers......we play together or not at all....this whole 'play' idea isnt so important to us that we see the need to either do things we arent comfortable with, or dont understand. Finding people who we feel an affinity with is all part of the appeal, and if that takes a while, or means we only play now and then, thats absolutely ok, as the one important thing in all of this, is our relationship...not how often or not we play....like yourselves, theres no jealousies, theres no restrictions and theres absolutely no insecurities in our life together.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I just want to say I get you :) And I get the relationship you and your wife have cultivated. And I get that you have single on your profile to remove constraints on RHP but that you are also honest about your relationship with anyone who contacts you (at least, you say so, so I assume it to be true). I get the quest for deepening and increasing love in life - the giving and receiving. I get it. And I admire you and your wife for it. I imagine - though I'm guessing - that you have transcendental experiences of love and that makes me smile with joy for many reasons. I aspire to a relationship based on love and freedom and I follow many paths to my own self-awareness, but I have much to learn and many onion layers to shed. I enjoy your posts x
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RHP User
13 years ago
Thanks sweet ;-) As I said previously, 'Nobody has the right to tell you how your relationships should look'. Danny x
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playfulminx
13 years ago
I think it's a bit much to have a couple suggest going separate house, but separate room isn't that big a deal? Unless you have an absolute hankering for watching and participating in group fun (hands, mouths everywhere) and/or you prefer to keep an eye on what your partner is doing (purely for safety or because you have got reasons to worry :|), you can't knock the added thrill of separate room play IF it's your thing? No one should pressure another couple into it but it's not that weird either to want to engage in a bit of one-on-one. Keep in mind that we all have been initiated into swinging in different ways. Some people actually find a bit of separate room play an ice breaker before launching into a full-on orgy. I suppose if it's an absolute problem then it's wise to state in your profile that you won't under any circumstance do separate room play.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Not that our (or anyone else's) opinion matters however, we are well and truly on your "side" here. I find how quickly certain people judge others on a swingers site to be rather hilarious. Every couple is different and no body should have to explain to others what works for them and why they live like they do.Make love!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Philosopherpoet'We are all different......and there are many alternative forms that relationships can take. Each are just as valid as the next - think of 'Polyamorous Triads', for example. Mikeandshel are cleary very certain about needing to experience everything together and are equally clear that they feel 'open' relationships are missing the point in some way.My view is diametrically opposed to this. The idea of being in the same room as my wife when she is enjoying a man or woman is very difficult to grasp. I love the idea that she can be sexually expressive around others but I do not need to be part of that experience. She also shares the same view and would not want to witness (or participate) me with another....I don't 'own' my wife and therefore do not need to be there when she experiences pleasure with other people - I want her to have unique and varied experiences without me - and I do the same. every relationship has a different shape each to their own
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Cheekyarses
13 years ago
Lots more fun all together! Lots of hands, cocks, boobs, pussys n tongues!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Cos they can.....easy eh??
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have a friend with benefits , who has introduced me to the scene , and I love shagging him and I haven't come across another couple that the male can satisfy me like he does , so when he does go separately into another room with the female partner , I do get a little jealous , maybe we haven't found that right couple !!! But yeh I was always under the assumption of swinging as being , you go as a couple , play as a couple and leave as a couple , has it changed lol
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mistakenidentity
13 years ago
Everyone is entitled to their own fantasies and desires. Everyone has there own way of expressing them selves. Whether that be in the same room, different room or even different houses. I guess that's the bonus of this kind of lifestyle. It's up to you to work out what works for you. We have played at separate houses before... Both couples had kids and it allowed a random evening without pre planning the gents just went to visit the ladies.... Different rooms... We headed off to the bedroom while they remained in the lounge again without planning. On both occasions we were able to relive the events when telling each other about our evenings. Maybe that's the trill we were looking for at the time :-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
We almost always play separately. I'm very shy and can't bring myself to be naked in front of 3 other ppl. And then when I eventually do, I get the giggles and that is such a mood killer. I also like intimacy and would prefer to give the guy 100% of my attention, and receive that attention in return. My husband also prefers separate rooms because when we are together, he is so distracted from watching me that he can't focus on the other lady. We also get turned on sharing the experience with each other later. Having said that, we like to catch up with the other couple and have dinner/drinks as a foursome, before we spend some of our evening in separate rooms.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Having read through this with my husband, we're both astounded by the views. We prefer to play separately, as neither one of us gets a kick out of voyeurism. We much prefer to reflect on our experiences later... while indulged in hot, sweaty, breath taking sex. We believe that the ability to play in separate rooms/separately speaks volumes to our relationship. We are secure in the knowledge that our significant other is playing with someone else and giving them their undivided attention. We always know what the other is up to and don't feel the need to watch them moan and groan. We're all adults and don't feel the need to babysit each other. We have an understanding in our relationship of what does and doesn't happen and we also have the trust in each other to know that limits are exactly that. As with everything, everyone has an opinion and everyone is entitled to share their views, hopefully without a snipey environment... Oh and btw, PhilosopherPoet, I love reading your forum posts! Mrs Lustyus x
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RHP User
13 years ago
It is narrow-minded to suggest that a lifestyle is deficient simply because it didn't work for you. And it is arrogant to suggest that your views are correct simply because you are older. That is why you come across as smug. It is difficult to understand how someone who lives an alternative lifestyle can be so closed minded. It Reminds me of me of swingers who are against gay marriage....happy to focus on 'one man one woman' whilst conveniently forgetting 'to the exclusion of all others'.
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Two_Tarts
13 years ago
We are happy to do either same or different rooms depending on the mood and the type of connection we have with the other couple. Our profile clearly states that we are happy with either choice, or to not swap at all, depending on ours and others preferences at the time. Same and different room are quite different experiences in terms of how much attention you can focus and receive from your friends but both choices create awesome opportunities all of their own. While we are happy to enjoy seperate rooms we are not interested in the open relationship thing and we think it is a very long stretch to suggest that seperate rooms must somehow equate or lead towards an open relationship. Everyone has a right to their own preference and it would be nice to see a little more respect for each others choices whatever they may be. Irrelevant judgements from people who are all old enough to know better should be saved for church. Enjoy!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Poly = plastic = pliable....hmmm polymer is one such thing that is commonly known as plastic...to glue it....use dichloromethane. A fantastic chemical bond that sets rock solid in 3...2...1...yup she's done :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
We did seperate rooms years ago but stopped after the other husband was a bit rough on my wife. Same room is all the go, much more fun, 4 way oral, swapping back and forth doggie style etc etc. We can look after each other same room, We find it hot sex with our own partners getting nice and wet then swapping and back again and swap around again and again......ummmm halftime coffees, round two anyone?
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RHP User
13 years ago
We don't get it either. We only play together as a team sport. It's as much about us as the other couple and all of us experiencing it together. It's so much more fun to all be in a nice big sweaty puppy pile so everything can be kissed licked and played with easily. Being able to watch your partner as they are driven over that great shuddering edge. But then each to their own. Just don't ask us for separate rooms. Mark and Vixen- Posted from rhpmobile
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Cheekyarses
13 years ago
We have done the separate rooms thing n all in all play is alot more fun. But it is entirely up to the couple as to what they like to do! Everyone is different n every relationship is different - so each to their own.
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melbcpl01
13 years ago
We only play seperate rooms with a couple that we have known for a while and can trust , Seperate rooms also means doors must be open so you can here all the sounds of pleasure comming from the room beside We wouldnt do seperate rooms with a couple we just met as we feel the trust needs to be there for it to work
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'd find it ok for women to play alone to be comfortable but I'd rather watch my misses enjoy another male at same time and she would like to watch me with another lady . We think playing seperate is you may have lack of confidence or shy of been watched then maybe should of stayed home and watched a video - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Ghostbusters, you're hilarious 💋- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
I certainly feel that it's only enjoyable for me to have it same room. I love watching her enjoy others and it makes me go harder knowing that we both are having fun with friends. In saying that we have had occasion to experience different things and can certainly see that things can work outside of what we are currently happy with. as long as there is always honesty then play fairly.Long story we are all on here because we don't fit what society says is "normal" so why is it our place to decide/judge what is "normal" within this scene. I have been judged by muggles when we revealed our hands. don't do the same thing within.just my opinion.
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RHP User
13 years ago
No matter what the ‘relationship’ is labelled; continuous open, candid and caring communication is vital in sustaining an authentic agreement between the people involved. If a couple want to play separately (consensually) then what’s the big deal? If it’s not your thing then just politely say ‘no thanks’. I don’t understand why it would be automatically assumed that emotions of jealousy and insecurity would be present if a couple chose to play (consensually) separately. These emotions can just as easily present themselves in couples that play in the same room. And of course vice versa: the absence of these emotions in either scenario. It’s all about where people feel comfortable and the depth of their conformity/non-conformity in aligning behaviours to current societal viewpoint. There are some relationships where (to use traditional language) the ‘couple’ choose to do most things together, and if this works then no need to fix or judge. I can/have/do/will love intensely, however, do not feel that I need to do everything in life with my partner. I enjoy the freedom to earn my living, go shopping, socialise with friends, read a book, take a nap and have beautiful, satisfying, mind-blowing sex with others of my choice without my partner being physically present (same for him). It’s all about being transparent (ie the absence of hidden agendas) and having respect for yourself and others when deciding what ‘play’ configuration works best! Oh, and did I mention communication…… xxxxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Sometimes WE think we will, then again WE think we wont! Seperate rooms are not for us at this stage in our swinging fun but never say never, it depends on so many different situations. To have my partner go in another room with the male partner (or vice versa) of a couple that we have only exchanged msg's with and perhaps 15 to 20 mins of face to face idle chit chat b4 is not an option for us. We think it is a recipe for disaster in many ways, but mostly one bad experience could put either of us off playing with other couples in any form or even worse, playing together! Then again, if we play with a couple that we like and trust over a period of time, wether it be 2 or 3 playmeets or after 5 or 6hrs in the same room on the 1st night, we would discuss the option of seperate rooms and if we BOTH agree that it's what we would like to do, then we would probably do it! Everyone is different as is every situation and while it is not our preferred option, it'is a call that would have to be made on the night or predetermined if we have met previously. Same room playmeets are exhilarating and fun together but some time sooner or later one day/night we might have a situation that we both know or all 4,6 or 8 partners know that seperate rooms for an agreed time say an hour or so is what is required to step it up a bit or bcos we just can't perform on that night all together in the same room for what ever reason? So change our opening line to - ''Most times WE think we wont but then again WE might! Great Topic, like all the comments and each to their own we say! There is no manual or right or wrong way that each couple should go about there way of doing what we do, except for show respect and be honest to everyone you have contact with and meet. J & S
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DTE_couple
13 years ago
We believe if you prefer to play in seperate room thats fine that is their choice, but everyone should be made aware of this before a meet. So everyone's time is not wasted. Everyone that wants to play in seperate rooms , just put that info on your profile. So everyone is on the same page.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Have to agree with mikeandshel. We would only play in the same room and would feel excitement from each other and love to experience first hand new things that might be a turn on for each other that we haven't done ourselves. Being in seperate rooms is a definite no-go for us we are a COULPE not two single people.
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Back_Again
13 years ago
isn't that right Mike :-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Philosopherpoet' Quoting 'CunnyFunts' Whilst our reason for this topic to be posted in the first place was for intial banter and education to us as we haven't understood a reason for this type of request, I question your bias and responces sir (Philosopherpoet), as you make references to yourself and your wife quite often, however you preclude the existance of a spouse in the information you have volunteered on your profile regardless of a polyamory proclamation, and almost a foot note at that!Now before you get all upset PP it is quite common to have an opinion, as we all do, hence this forum, but seriously either you are "Attached" "In a relationship" "Married" or "Single" (regardless of it's dynamic) Oh, that again........This has been covered on other forum posts - my wife (northerntantra) also added her bit...When I am contacted I make people aware of my status ;-)If I put married - I do not appear in search results.....90% of the people I speak to do not have an issue with it after chatting to me or meeting me...My wife also puts single on her other profiles on different websites....its not an issue to the majority of people.....some just like to bring it up - as though they have 'caught a deceptive cheat' lol....you really do make me laugh...Danny xI too have a open relationship with my wife, we have been together for over 17 years & attending swingers parties for over 5 years (where we can play as a couple or seperately) but we've now reached a point where we can play outside the parties like we're single. The problem is I dont got out to bars, so I like to be as honest as I can in my profile, because of this Im listed as married (Im now going to change my profile to single) but it seems to get me nowhere. Ultimately Id like to form a second poly relationship...
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