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Sex after a hysterectomy
September 26 2017
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RHP User
8 years ago
to follow this topic. I was terrified I would need one, as it turns out I didn't, but found it really difficult to get information re sexuality following it. I really hope women share their experiences, it's so important to put it on a public forum, to potentially help others. Good luck with yours op xx
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RHP User
8 years ago
Sorry i apologize for the grammatical errors in the above. That will teach me to try and multi task !
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RHP User
8 years ago
Yes there is alot of miss information out there. I am hoping to hear some experiences from real people..........good or bad.
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Hawt1
8 years ago
Hi Akela, my only experience is seeing for a few months a woman who had one some years before. Everything seemed to work fine from her and my point of view, in fact she had a very healthy appetite... I dont remember if she had scarring on her stomach, so maybe she had the vaginal procedure. Not much info I know but I hope that is reassuring.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Hawt1' Hi Akela, my only experience is seeing for a few months a woman who had one some years before. Everything seemed to work fine from her and my point of view, in fact she had a very healthy appetite... I dont remember if she had scarring on her stomach, so maybe she had the vaginal procedure. Not much info I know but I hope that is reassuring. Encouraging to hear positive stories. And yeah there are different types of hyst and incisions so she may not of had much in the way of scars.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I have had several partners in your situation, nothing to be concerned about. One used hormone replacement several years after and wore by it as simply awesome.
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RHP User
8 years ago
First and foremost, it will not change you nor who you are as it is a surgical procedure performed for very specific reasons. If you are unsure about having a hysterectomy, you should seek a second opinion. Sometimes it is appropriate to take time making the decision except when there is cancer or uncontrollable life threatening bleeding. For many women, hysterectomy relieves the symptoms and improves quality of life. Often women say, 'I wish I had done this years ago'. A small number of women take time to recover following hysterectomy. This may be for many reasons including: - complications following the operation such as infection or bleeding which prolongs recovery- adjusting to the loss of the uterus and the ability to have a child- concerns about femininity and sexuality, particularly if the ovaries were also removed- becoming menopausal if the ovaries were removed before periods had stopped- feeling unhappy about the doctor and/or the hospital staff's treatment I will send you a note and please feel free to ask any question that you may have privately. In this particular venue and format, I've learned to keep many of my comments as private as any other doctor and certainly beyond irreproachable discretion. You are a beautiful woman and nothing as discussed here will change that at all. Best always..... CM
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Sailbadthesinner' I have had several partners in your situation, nothing to be concerned about. One used hormone replacement several years after and wore by it as simply awesome. I am keeping my ovaries (hopefully) so wont need HRT.
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RHP User
8 years ago
As a lot of folks crap on here about who they are and what they know? Ask and I will send you my bar code number so no matter what time of day or night, I can pass inspection and ave a wonderful hospital meal. Scoot over and let's get a multiple person discount on sneaking in some McDonlads! CM...who no longer eats from any hospital cafeteria!
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RHP User
8 years ago
A long time FWB of mine had to have this procedure due to some suspect growths and hereditary cancer risk. She has come thru the other side of the procedure and has been given an all clear thankfully. Post op she was put on a HRT patch which she wears for a few days and then replaces. She has always had a high drive and the HRT patch has got her up and firing well and truly, with a higher drive than what she had before. She says she is finding she gets aroused very easily since wearing the patch. I have certainly noticed an increase in her responsiveness and how quickly her juices get flowing, as well as an increase in invites to visit her since the HRT patch kicked in. Good luck and best wishes with your procedure Akela.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Wunfa' A long time FWB of mine had to have this procedure due to some suspect growths and hereditary cancer risk. She has come thru the other side of the procedure and has been given an all clear thankfully. Post op she was put on a HRT patch which she wears for a few days and then replaces. She has always had a high drive and the HRT patch has got her up and firing well and truly, with a higher drive than what she had before. She says she is finding she gets aroused very easily since wearing the patch. I have certainly noticed an increase in her responsiveness and how quickly her juices get flowing, as well as an increase in invites to visit her since the HRT patch kicked in. Good luck and best wishes with your procedure Akela. Good to hear she got the all clear. Although I am surprised she was able to take HRT with cancer risk in the family- for that reason I wont take it.
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RHP User
8 years ago
All will be good, after a period of time of discomfort ( not speaking from personal experience) things will return and from my personal experience get moocho better, you have lots of enjoyment to come, now... This is from a male but I was once the other half of a woman who walked this path, we had a ball from. D day onwards... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'chamelions' All will be good, after a period of time of discomfort ( not speaking from personal experience) things will return and from my personal experience get moocho better, you have lots of enjoyment to come, now... This is from a male but I was once the other half of a woman who walked this path, we had a ball from. D day onwards... - Posted from rhpmobile Yep looking forward to moocho better...........just need to find someone to enjoy D day and onwards with !
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RHP User
8 years ago
Akela...I will plead the ignorant male defence 😁. I am not sure about how it all relates to cancer risk etc. I neglected to mention that she had an oophorectomy as well so not sure if that makes any difference in follow up therapy/treatments or how it all ties together in relation to HRT, cancer risk etc. She went on the HRT on the advice of her specialist as far as I am aware.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Wunfa' Akela...I will plead the ignorant male defence 😁. I am not sure about how it all relates to cancer risk etc. I neglected to mention that she had an oophorectomy as well so not sure if that makes any difference in follow up therapy/treatments or how it all ties together in relation to HRT, cancer risk etc. She went on the HRT on the advice of her specialist as far as I am aware. It is a bit more complicated if the ovaries are also removed at the same time of the hyst. I am hoping to avoid that.
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Hottie1
8 years ago
Sorry CM, though you seem knowledgeable, yes the hysterectomy changed me physically, some aspects positively and others negatively. Akela, since my hysterectomy, I have enjoyed the most amazing sex life, not that I didn't have one before it too. My hysterectomy was bought about by incredibly heavy periods occurring every 3 weeks. Add to that, ovulation pain at 1 1/2 weeks and I was in agony most of the month. I was on cyklokapron for nearly two years and though this reduced the discomfort it didn't reduce the bleeding, impacting my iron levels severely. I found I wasnt able to build up my iron levels or reserves. I did have a uterus littered with fibroids also. The plus ... my ovaries were healthy and remain in my body, so getting horny and getting wet isn't an issue :) the ability to have sex whenever I want and not be in incredible pain and squirting has been a phenomenon since my hysterectomy. Deep penetration is awesome, especially doggie (my favourite position) since my uterus has gone.The negatives ... I don't have the long and strong uterine contractions I used to have and it took over 6 months to orgasm following surgery (clitoral orgasms, though harder to achieve, are awesome). Recovery time aside, the most difficult part was actually going to the bathroom after surgery, I'm sure I birthed something anally lol. (I took fish oil; in liquid form and within 24 hours that pain settled too :) I had my two children by caesarean so vaginal surgery was not an option, the scar has never been a problem. Overall for me, the liberation of the removal of my uterus through the hysterectomy has been nothing but wonderful. I don't feel less of a woman, still felt sexy and my love of sex remains high :) All the very best to you.Mary xx
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RHP User
8 years ago
My wife had procedure over 4 years ago. Her sex drive is pretty much gone now. Its hard on me. I work away 2 n1 and when I come home I just want some intimate moments with my wife. We go to bed and she rolls ovef. Not even a cuddle anymore. I love her and my daughter. Its wrong of me to go on sites like this but a man has needs. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Hottie1' Sorry CM, though you seem knowledgeable, yes the hysterectomy changed me physically, some aspects positively and others negatively. Akela, since my hysterectomy, I have enjoyed the most amazing sex life, not that I didn't have one before it too. My hysterectomy was bought about by incredibly heavy periods occurring every 3 weeks. Add to that, ovulation pain at 1 1/2 weeks and I was in agony most of the month. I was on cyklokapron for nearly two years and though this reduced the discomfort it didn't reduce the bleeding, impacting my iron levels severely. I found I wasnt able to build up my iron levels or reserves. I did have a uterus littered with fibroids also. The plus ... my ovaries were healthy and remain in my body, so getting horny and getting wet isn't an issue :) the ability to have sex whenever I want and not be in incredible pain and squirting has been a phenomenon since my hysterectomy. Deep penetration is awesome, especially doggie (my favourite position) since my uterus has gone.The negatives ... I don't have the long and strong uterine contractions I used to have and it took over 6 months to orgasm following surgery (clitoral orgasms, though harder to achieve, are awesome). Recovery time aside, the most difficult part was actually going to the bathroom after surgery, I'm sure I birthed something anally lol. (I took fish oil; in liquid form and within 24 hours that pain settled too :) I had my two children by caesarean so vaginal surgery was not an option, the scar has never been a problem. Overall for me, the liberation of the removal of my uterus through the hysterectomy has been nothing but wonderful. I don't feel less of a woman, still felt sexy and my love of sex remains high :) All the very best to you.Mary xx There is no substitute for a person who has experienced this thank you for sharing. My hyst is for large fibroid tumours. I have no bleeding issues but the tumours are too big for my body and are damaging my other organs. I have had 2 minor surgeries to fix the damage. I was not prepared to risk side effects of drugs. And as you know surgery is the only real "cure" . Sucks being female ! Squirting ? is this something you could do before the hyst or did it start after ? I don't think I orgasm with uterine contractions so wont miss that. Always been a clit person. Yeah i have been warned about the digestive shutting down temporarily after surgery. :( How long after surgery were you cleared for sex ?
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Stevo73' My wife had procedure over 4 years ago. Her sex drive is pretty much gone now. Its hard on me. I work away 2 n1 and when I come home I just want some intimate moments with my wife. We go to bed and she rolls ovef. Not even a cuddle anymore. I love her and my daughter. Its wrong of me to go on sites like this but a man has needs. - Posted from rhpmobile I am sorry to hear that for both of you. Does she still have her ovaries ?
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RHP User
8 years ago
I had a hysterctomy around 39 due to abnormally revolting painfull periods and cancer of the cervix so that went too. Healthy ovaries tho, so I was able to keep those, even tho they are polycystic. Discomfort for a bit. The usual no driving etc. Like Mary I too had had two ceasarians previously, so could not have a vaginal removal of the oven and cervix. Apparently vaginal removal recovery is far less. As for sex, about 8 weeks before full penetration, tho for me, still a little tender. From my phsyc point of view. I did mourn the loss of my "oven" for about a month afterwards. Yes it did have an impact on my mind in terms of my sexuality as a "child bearing woman", It is final, no more children with my blood line. I did feel less of a woman, however due to the information provided to me before hand, I knew it was normal to feel this way and I would get through it. So I did and from about 8 weeks things got better and my sexual drive increased and dryness seemed to decrease. One thing that helped me was the support of other woman who had been through similar. My husband at the time was understanding tho, but like anyone who has not had a hysterectomy, you just can't understand it. It's like those who have never owned a business, you probably think business owners are rolling in cash and surely it is not hard to run a business.... wrong For me personally. Best thing I ever did, of course with not much choice, tho I have no cancer and my sexuality in all areas has increased. Please feel free to ask any questions. Good luck and gods you save a lot of $$ skipping the tampon isle. Excuse the typos etc. It's late. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' I had a hysterctomy around 39 due to abnormally revolting painfull periods and cancer of the cervix so that went too. Healthy ovaries tho, so I was able to keep those, even tho they are polycystic. Discomfort for a bit. The usual no driving etc. Like Mary I too had had two ceasarians previously, so could not have a vaginal removal of the oven and cervix. Apparently vaginal removal recovery is far less. As for sex, about 8 weeks before full penetration, tho for me, still a little tender. From my phsyc point of view. I did mourn the loss of my "oven" for about a month afterwards. Yes it did have an impact on my mind in terms of my sexuality as a "child bearing woman", It is final, no more children with my blood line. I did feel less of a woman, however due to the information provided to me before hand, I knew it was normal to feel this way and I would get through it. So I did and from about 8 weeks things got better and my sexual drive increased and dryness seemed to decrease. One thing that helped me was the support of other woman who had been through similar. My husband at the time was understanding tho, but like anyone who has not had a hysterectomy, you just can't understand it. It's like those who have never owned a business, you probably think business owners are rolling in cash and surely it is not hard to run a business.... wrong For me personally. Best thing I ever did, of course with not much choice, tho I have no cancer and my sexuality in all areas has increased. Please feel free to ask any questions. Good luck and gods you save a lot of $$ skipping the tampon isle. Excuse the typos etc. It's late. - Posted from rhpmobile Glad to hear you got the cancer early and kicked it. That is one positive - I wont have to worry about cervical or uterine cancer and they are taking my tubes to reduce the risk of ovarian cancer. I never got to have kids. Yes I would have liked to but didnt meet the right guy who would have stuck around. I would never do IVF. So yes I have grieved for the kids I wont have but at my age the probability of that happening when I am not even in a relationship is slim. So I am being practical about it and have moved on. I do not want to be one of those sad 40something women whose life is destroyed by obsessing over kids. It is not my destiny. And I am not selfish enough to think that I have a right to everything I want in life. So I feel ok about it now. Maybe it will be different after the op when reality hits. Although normally i am a pretty calm, logical person. Unfortunately my tumours are too big and my body too tiny to have the less evasive types of hyst. The surgeon thinks he may have to do it the old fashion way with a vertical incision. On the upside he will get a clear view of everything and less likely to miss anything that may be "lurking". Completely understand the business analogy ...........I have owned a business too :) Have your orgasms changed in intensity ? Yeah pretty excited about skipping the tampon Isle I had to stop myself the other day bulk buying when they were on sale..........30 year habit hard to break !
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Hottie1
8 years ago
As with Inspirit ... penetration was ok'd by 6 weeks ... we took it slowly and full penetration was easily achieved by weeks 8-9 onwards :) Squirting had not occurred for me before the hysterectomy ... it was something very new for hubby and I, 15 odd years into our marriage :) I don't know the name of the position lol , it was in this position that I squirted for the first time ... all over him and when he withdrew, all over the carpet, the wall etc ... (sorry for too much info lol) I do get 'those internal contractions' and I'm told it feels like I'm trying to push the guys out, they do also feel that I tighten a fait bit too when I'm having them. I just don't feel them in myself as intensely as I used to but it's no biggie :) I've always been multi orgasmic but I have greater stamina now after my hysterectomy because there isn't so much going on in there with my uterus gone :) I can fuck for hours lol 😂 I didn't feel a 'loss' for my uterus but I can completely understand it :) for me the decision to not being able to have any more children had been made by my doctors ... it was too dangerous to have anymore and I had had years to get used to it and of the fibroids and terrible gynaecological history in my family ... I saw it as having done its job and needed to be removed. I too am happy to chat about this further if you like at any time :) when I had my hysterectomy there were some support groups but not easily accessible for me so if I can help in any way, shout out :) Mary xx
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'Hottie1' As with Inspirit ... penetration was ok'd by 6 weeks ... we took it slowly and full penetration was easily achieved by weeks 8-9 onwards :) Squirting had not occurred for me before the hysterectomy ... it was something very new for hubby and I, 15 odd years into our marriage :) I don't know the name of the position lol , it was in this position that I squirted for the first time ... all over him and when he withdrew, all over the carpet, the wall etc ... (sorry for too much info lol) I do get 'those internal contractions' and I'm told it feels like I'm trying to push the guys out, they do also feel that I tighten a fait bit too when I'm having them. I just don't feel them in myself as intensely as I used to but it's no biggie :) I've always been multi orgasmic but I have greater stamina now after my hysterectomy because there isn't so much going on in there with my uterus gone :) I can fuck for hours lol 😂 I didn't feel a 'loss' for my uterus but I can completely understand it :) for me the decision to not being able to have any more children had been made by my doctors ... it was too dangerous to have anymore and I had had years to get used to it and of the fibroids and terrible gynaecological history in my family ... I saw it as having done its job and needed to be removed. I too am happy to chat about this further if you like at any time :) when I had my hysterectomy there were some support groups but not easily accessible for me so if I can help in any way, shout out :) Mary xx See this is exactly why I started this topic...........they never tell you about squirting as a possible side effect ! I have only ever squirted once so theoretically i am capable of it but just does not usually happen. I wonder if it is because without your angry uterus and other issues your energy is flowing more freely and everything intensifies.........lets hope so. Orgasms for me now are taking longer I think due to energy blockages. I have found some support groups on facebook and the women are great but there is also alot of hysterical ones and on one wants to talk about sex or you only hear from the negative side. So these positive comments are fantastic..........thank you !!!!!!
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RHP User
8 years ago
I was unaware tho if I could reach female ejaculation before I had the surgery, as it wasn't even in my vocabulary back then. However now days......... ;-) and if that is accountable to post surgery, it is defo not a bad thing. Akela, I read your profile and hear you. However, I do not feel you have too much to worry about (easy for me to say). I went through some emotional periods after surgery and to be honest sex was not my concern at all. My health was my concern. I didn't even consider sex would be an option to worry about. I still had my vagina and my sensual mind. Orgasms don't generate from your uterus or cervix (that I am aware off). They are created from you mind at the end of the day......right? I will go on to say, remember sex starts with the mind. If you have a healthy mind in that department, you have very little to worry about, in my view. I have been told by other woman who I network with, their sex life improved as they became more senstive and enjoyed sex a lot more. My exoerience is ditto to theirs too. Even your beautiful nector of being a woman, seems to flow more freely. I am pro hystorectomy. I think there may of been a forum a few years ago on this topic and for memory most woman felt the same as I do. You are having a hystorectomy. To be honest you will back on that bike in no time, if you are mentally and physically healthy. Just know you are not alone and aware of any possible phsycological issues that may arise. X - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Didn't fix my fat finger issue nor my dyslexia tho. 😁😁😁 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' I was unaware tho if I could reach female ejaculation before I had the surgery, as it wasn't even in my vocabulary back then. However now days......... ;-) and if that is accountable to post surgery, it is defo not a bad thing. Akela, I read your profile and hear you. However, I do not feel you have too much to worry about (easy for me to say). I went through some emotional periods after surgery and to be honest sex was not my concern at all. My health was my concern. I didn't even consider sex would be an option to worry about. I still had my vagina and my sensual mind. Orgasms don't generate from your uterus or cervix (that I am aware off). They are created from you mind at the end of the day......right? I will go on to say, remember sex starts with the mind. If you have a healthy mind in that department, you have very little to worry about, in my view. I have been told by other woman who I network with, their sex life improved as they became more senstive and enjoyed sex a lot more. My exoerience is ditto to theirs too. Even your beautiful nector of being a woman, seems to flow more freely. I am pro hystorectomy. I think there may of been a forum a few years ago on this topic and for memory most woman felt the same as I do. You are having a hystorectomy. To be honest you will back on that bike in no time, if you are mentally and physically healthy. Just know you are not alone and aware of any possible phsycological issues that may arise. X - Posted from rhpmobile The mind is the biggest sexual organ.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Staying out of this one.
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