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Sex and Guilt

July 06 2013

Sometimes I meet guys that are conflicted about what they are doing on RHP.They may have a girlfriend, and yet cannot stay away from the raunchy side of sex as in new pussy, different experiences.I have had the conversation of late with my single girlfriends on RHP, and there is a theory that the guys who are really in a relationship, and not have it on their profile, are more inclined to jerk women around.The thing is, they are having a thoughtE. The idea of it turns them on,they get a little cerebral wank bank going on. they like the pictures and the possibility of sticking their cock in you, but they just cant step over that line.so they stay at home having a tug, but the problem is they talk the talk but never walk the walk. They waste peoples time who are here to meet and fuck in the flesh.The ones that say they are in a relationship are less inclined to fuck women around as they say they are married/ or attached and want to actually be bad boys.I would prefer a guy says he is attached, and also just say up frontI am here for a wank only.That way women do not sit and wait for some guy to get the balls to front up.My single girlfriends , well its not like you guys think that guys are chomping at the bitFor every message and flirt and I want to meet you baby, I would sayonly One in ten men follow through.So ladies tell us what its like as far as your averages. These women are good at sorting wheat from chaff but still its not an easy thing to get laid on a Friday night.Unless of course you want to actually get dressed and go out to a bar.And guys does the same average apply to you?And to all you wankers in the cheap seats, stop wasting a women's time, either front up or shut up.What stops you from actually stepping over that line? and why don't you put on your profile, only want online interaction.after all women on here will put, only interested in the Forumsor not looking at the moment , etc.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    le'me see if I have this straight....   it's not "easy" for women to get laid of RHP?....   who tells you that LT?   maybe they need advice from the women who commented on this thread:   http://www.redhotpie.com.au/Adult-Forums/quottrappingquot-an-Elusive-unicorn-40976

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    We get the frustration. But its exactly the same in terms of couples and women too. So many people on here of every persuasion that that fuck you around. Whether it be people getting cold feet, people on here for a laugh and not really serious, people not who they claim to be etc etc.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    "Honesty is such a lonely word. Everyone is so untrue. Honesty is hardly ever heard. And mostly what I need from you."Not real sure where your going here, maybe my attention span is lacking, I mean I have TLE, thats a form of epilepsy (1 in 20 have it, or 5% of the population), however I'm also in the upper quotient %, and I'm still lost in your post, maybe I should of had a double shot of vodka earlier.Then again my therapist says to eradicate should out of your (my) vocabulary.As that foxy redhead Pauline uttered - Please explain, in Aussie English, lol

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  • sweetgem

    sweetgem

    13 years ago

    My sincere apologies in advance for having a whinge on your thread Lady_Tuscan, because it is Saturday night and there is a RHP Sydney Meet & Greet Drinks on tonight, which I was going to attend initially, but had to cancel at last minute due to severe flu virus! :-( so please pardon me for not giving out positive vibe. In my entire time on here, I have exchanged messages with several men whom sounded keen and promising in the beginning, but after a few emails, they just disappeared without a trace, like they suddenly evaporated into the air! I can never understand why would some people behave like that, but I never worry about them and move on. I don't have time for rude time wasters, and truly it's their loss to pass me up. I have one particular encounter with a man (I'll call him Mr A) from interstate. He approached me first, was always keen and pushing for a meet up. I finally gave in because he seemed promisingly genuine, and I was stupid enough to believe in his genuineness to the extend where I rearranged all my busy schedules around to make time to meet with this man. Anyways, we met for a coffee, the mood was right and we had a very brief taste of each other (nothing much happened because I didn't have any condom in my bag as I didn't prepare to play), then we stopped at the peak of an urge and decided to meet again on the next night at 7pm (when I would be more prepared). Guess what, the next day morning at 10am I received a text message from Mr A telling me that he had to delay me for the second meet because he was going to have a dinner date with his business client! He had also asked me about a Sydney swingers club, which I had no clue as to why he asked! So, I replied with a cold message and full stop. I didn't hear from Mr A again after my reply to his text on the day he postponed me, so I thought he got the message and would leave me alone. I logged in on here the day after and saw his email (which was sent on the same day he delayed me) asking me to meet with him after 10pm! I just shook my head as I read his email, because I couldn't believe how selfish Mr A had been as he knew I lived quite far away from the city, but still expected me to be there for him at any time he wanted! What a user and loser he was!!! Now you might wonder why I still whinge about this one experience. Well, because I had gone to a great effort to make time to meet with Mr A, and he knew it well, but still ditched me lightly for a dinner date with his business client! Now it's my turn to wonder if the terms "professional business" and "dinner date" can be mixed together??? I doubt it! Unless his business client is in the sex industry, otherwise it's unprofessional to call a business dinner a "dinner date"!!!- Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Actually Tuscan the odds generally for men here would appear to be a lot worse. Endless threads on the topic :)

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    I have been literally thinking about the very same thing over the last few weeks as said in your post LadyT.....Great to have it said and put out there. I have only been on rhp for just over 6 months. In that time I have noticed differing scenarios with guys who generally fall into one of two opposing camps.The first description... I had a 'single' guy message me, quite pleasantly, for nearly 3 months. The emailing was somewhat drawn-out because I was in the eastern states during that time, he in WA. Anyway.. finally, got to a face to face meet, in May, it was immediately apparent to me that he was, in fact, married. It was so obvious, especially when his body language (vibes) as I walked up to greet him, in a cafe', gave me an almighty shove backwards. (I was thinking to myself, 'WTF was that?') He had 'married' written all over him and he literally oozed guilt feelings right in that moment and we hadn't even touched each other at all yet? I later thought 'obviously the reality of what he was doing was too much for him?'That was the end of that for me. The second was with a confident, direct and lovely guy who is in a completely 'open' marriage. (A complete contrast to the first guy). The differences in the two encounters? Very, very different. I would choose the second man every time! Why? Because, energetically speaking, the first guy, (the one who said he was single but was really married), is the one who will never own his own actions, desires, wants or needs. These types dick you around and just stuff around like a teenager who is trying to hide his porn stash from his mum. So many issues in the closet with these types of men....and his problems will always be his wife's fault or projected onto the woman at hand. He is the great excuse maker and it is never 'his' fault as he is not responsible for his behaviour...women are!This type of male is really not that good a lover, either, when it all boils down to it, (if anything physical were to eventuate at all), as all his energy gets used up before hand in the anticipation, the chasing, the lies, guilt and all the rest of the fantasy going on in his head.I found the latter, the second man in the 'open' marriage, genuinely approachable, reciprocal, real, focussed and present. He didn't stuff around getting to a meet, he showed respect, was punctual, emotionally open, sensual and capable. If anything he was definitely original, and resolute. He owned his power and who he was which only made the connection more genuine and effortless and it just seemed to flow? He held nothing back at all....as a lover he was total.That is my 50c worth in a nutshell (or maybe a pumpkin shell?)I just can't be bothered with the blokes who say they are single but are married and doing the dirty on their wives? I just don't go there. Maybe if I was young and ditzy and just didn't know any better I wouldn't care either way....as the saying goes, "What you don't know can't hurt you?" but I don't even believe that anymore! I would rather just 'go without' than stoop. What is the alternative? Kids half my age? I still don't know how I would feel 'getting it on' with a guy young enough to be my own son? I think to myself, "He would have to be an old soul for that to work? What would we have in common?" (I know in saying that I have probably left myself wide open for a few tongue-in-cheek digs from the peanut gallery?) But what I am sure of is.....I'm 43 next week....I only want quality and I know that is what I give.That is rock solid.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Don't even know if I answered the question?Oh well...make of it what you will.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Lady Tuscan, can your hear that violin... ? 😢 We ALL get dicked around in here, by some. It's life... Not nice, not pleasant, not what we want, just life. Maybe you should set up a single male profile, and watch the offers come rolling in... 😛 Or stump up your $120 and start sending out your 5 messages per day... Each message thoughtfully addressing the woman's profile, without templates of course... And when you do actually get a reply, half of the poor girls are totally shellshocked (as in new to the site) often replying with no more than a terrified sentence or two... Before fleeing the building... And then there are the women who do actually write a profile that you CAN address... But they can be so overwhelmed by choice, (and often jaded as well) that most often no reply is forthcoming... People are strange fuckers...NOT men in particular... PEOPLE ! Who knows what is going on in the heads of real people, let alone Internet wannabes ? So, whats a koala bear to do ? We stop complaining, adjust our tie, check our comb over and keep knocking on doors... Hp xo

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    This website can be to good to be true to some people and just come on here for confidence boost. This place has got to be just as hard in meeting up as it would be at a nightclub. Things are more open but not necessarily liked by some.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    I can't remember having been dicked around on here, but then my attention span is so short I may just not have noticed.     M**

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Deep blue something that was not 50c but $2 worth LOL I have found that above 40 do the stuffing around and that is why most of my play dates are under 30. I have always believed that the older you are the more down to earth but have been proved wrong on here and on dating sites so, I am stuck being single. I can not comment on married or single as it has been rare that the lady is married so just do as I do and go with the flow, just be patient..

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Quoting 'deepbluesumthing'Don't even know if I answered the question?Oh well...make of it what you will. and it was well thought out, thank you

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    I find that I will get a few offers all at onceThen after a few messages to and from each, the more genuine ones tend to stand outThey are the ones that have a decent profile, make comments that suggest they have read mine, have photos that a guest can see, will offer their number and have a good plan to meet etcIt doesn't always work but RHP has worked v well for meNot nearly as good for my husband

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Quoting 'Highpriority'Lady Tuscan, can your hear that violin... ? 😢 We ALL get dicked around in here, by some. It's life... Not nice, not pleasant, not what we want, just life. Maybe you should set up a single male profile, and watch the offers come rolling in... 😛 Or stump up your $120 and start sending out your 5 messages per day... Each message thoughtfully addressing the woman's profile, without templates of course... And when you do actually get a reply, half of the poor girls are totally shellshocked (as in new to the site) often replying with no more than a terrified sentence or two... Before fleeing the building... And then there are the women who do actually write a profile that you CAN address... But they can be so overwhelmed by choice, (and often jaded as well) that most often no reply is forthcoming... People are strange fuckers...NOT men in particular... PEOPLE ! Who knows what is going on in the heads of real people, let alone Internet wannabes ? So, whats a koala bear to do ? We stop complaining, adjust our tie, check our comb over and keep knocking on doors... Hp xo I know exactly how hard it is for me on here, ten fold over what women face. but what I am saying , like that other post I got directed to.   women are not all sitting at home, and going to the front door to see RHP men lined up the street, And its the guilt that is associated with sex, that makes people hesitant in meeting people.   they want to , but they cant step over that line. what the do though is cost other PEOPLE, not just men or women, their valuable time and cost as well, as in getting there or a baby sitter, or a new outfit. Women do not just throw on the tracky dacks and say be here in a second honey.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Men not me...I do ok, thank you very much

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Quoting 'chevtrek' Deep blue something that was not 50c but $2 worth LOL I have found that above 40 do the stuffing around and that is why most of my play dates are under 30. I have always believed that the older you are the more down to earth but have been proved wrong on here and on dating sites so, I am stuck being single. I can not comment on married or single as it has been rare that the lady is married so just do as I do and go with the flow, just be patient..  How about you speak for yourself. 'Being stuffed around' and getting a 'flat-out refusal' are not the same thing. Are you really 'stuck' being single? Or just find yourself without any mature and sexy women who are interested in you at all?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    Quoting 'deepbluesumthing' Don't even know if I answered the question?Oh well...make of it what you will. You answered perfectly! Mrs and I were talking about this the other day, as she has a friend and I'm only starting up the steep hill (steep as I'm seeing it from here - the ratio of men vs women especially)From a personal perspective of a man - I'd like to say to women to at least appreciate the men that put the status as "married' rather than "single" (which they're not). Even though most of us are not looking for relationship you still want to meet a person that is reasonable and honest.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    I'm not sure if its guilt Lady Tuscan, though I'm sure it is with some. I think a lot of people enjoy being able to play games with people... Especially when the chance of repercussions for them is almost zero... A name and shame thread may be the answer... 🙈🙉🙊 Ooow, wouldn't that be a fun thread 😄 Hp xo

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    RHP in terms of meeting men just doesn't work for me....

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    13 years ago

    married man speak for.....''.I don't want to fuck YOU anymore....but I do want to fuck someone''.....

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