M55
Sex is natural.
May 09 2015
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RHP User
11 years ago
If he knows and is ok with it: yes. If he doesn't know: No, never. If he knows but isn't ok with it: depends on their situation and it's up to them to sort it out. It's lying and deceiving I have a real problem with.
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RHP User
11 years ago
your moral compass.... But here's a thought... How do you know and prove she's not satisfied at home?? It's easy to get sex when you get fed potential bullshit like that. But if your moral compass sits ok with it then do it... Just keep in mind that everything has a price, and every decision has a consequence....question is what are your consequences going to be?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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DynamicCouple36
11 years ago
Normally it's the husband that feels he is not getting enough at home and as a result has a single male (or even a couples ) profile on here with the hopes of getting sex . Many who play without their wives/girlfriend say that they have her permission/blessing. So many cheaters out there. So many of those men try their luck, in the chatrooms, to meet the female half, if this couple, alone. Despite our making it very clear that if and when we play, it is always together. Clearly they have no respect. They cheat on their wife and then try to get other wives to cheat on there husbands. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Fully agree with Sir Stir, I was the wife in your scenario!! Do I regret it? Yes and No, yes because I hurt a lot of people but no because it got me out of my loveless marriage. Did the guy I did it with care? To be honest I doubt it, he wasn't the one dealing with the fall out. I get messages all the time from married men in here even though in my profile I say I'm not interested in married or attached. I never want to be involved in anyone else's relationship dramas, been there with my own and the truth will always come out. Be very very careful and think of the consequences. If she isn't getting what she needs at home she should leave before involving anyone else. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' your moral compass.... But here's a thought... How do you know and prove she's not satisfied at home?? It's easy to get sex when you get fed potential bullshit like that. But if your moral compass sits ok with it then do it... Just keep in mind that everything has a price, and every decision has a consequence....question is what are your consequences going to be?? - Posted from rhpmobile those thoughts are echoed from who have children and life experienced.
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DynamicCouple36
11 years ago
Excuse the typos and spelling mistakes this morning - darn iPhone and it's AutoCorrect :( - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm curious to hear why you called you forum "Sex is natural". What does that have to do with sleeping with someone else's wife? I've heard a few people here say that cheating is not a big deal, as it's "only sex". Is that what you mean?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Of course sex is natural. Wondering the same thing Meander is and agree totally with Sir Stirs comments. If I were to go that way I would have to meet and talk with said husband and see where he was coming from. Words are only words my friend and should be taken as just that and lets face it it is so easy to be anything you want behind words, hence some getting themselves into shit on many social sites.
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RHP User
11 years ago
And if it is about cheating that is never right under any circumstance. It just leads to pain and trouble for many parties
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RHP User
11 years ago
A pretty simple rule I try to live by: don't fuck anyone else over. Especially if "it makes us feel good."
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think you'll find it relates to the topic in the sense that sex is a natural thing between two adults and he would like our approval to engage in what comes naturally even if it means its with someone else's wife and has no knowledge of the impending proposal. But.....I could be wrong :)
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
We are reared with the idyllic notion that we grow up, get a job, get a partner, have 2.5 kids and live a perfect life and grow old together. Some go down that path and find that the monogamic path is difficult due to ancestic genes. Love the partner but........ Complex and i have been on every side of the coin. And even stranger is that i have no problem in being with married men but will not go with married women. Go figure.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Gus.... were she your wife..... and you found out another guy was secretly schlepping all over her in the shadows....... how would you feel about it when you looked at her? There are more than enough available people in this world...... to start looking at those who aren't.What she is or isn't getting sexually in her marriage is not your business, or problem to solve for her. She may make the decision to cross that line.... but you should be a MAN.... and NOT make the decision for her. If its "just sex"....... and I have to assume thats the case by the wording of your profile and the 64 "friends" giving me an insight into your mindset... then,.... get your "just sex" elsewhere. DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
No it is not wrong to want to sleep with another mans wife HOWEVER it is wrong to act upon as you know and we all know it is morally wrong, IF the hubby does not know. On the other hand if he does know then so be it, HOWEVER it may open up a can of worms. Therefore I suggest you tread very carefully. I often wonder about people not getting pleasure at home in the marital bed. Personally I think IF there is a medical condition, be it physical only then perhaps one can justify it (with consent of course). If on the other hand it is a mental condition then wouldn't seeking help from a professional as a couple, fix things at home? Perhaps not however at least they would have a better understanding and then make educated decisions on their sexual relationship. From my own experience not getting your needs met at home is usually to do with a lack of open and honest communication, in particular communicating what she actually desires. I have found woman will ACTUALLY talk less about there needs in the bedroom IN DEPTH, than a man. Simply because men are usually easily pleased and generally just want to feel they are pleasing their partner, as simple as it may sound, it is so, in my experience. Woman on the other hand want more than just sex, more intimacy in the way of romance etc creating more of a feeling of being wanted than just sex. I only say this GUS as what is it, you will be fulfilling in her - I doubt it is just sex if she is going behind her hubby's back. As some one else said earlier it gave them the ticket to leave their loveless marriage. How is is that correct? Things getting a little lonely down there in Serpentine ey
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes, sex is natural and it releases more feel good natural drugs into our system than does a shot of heroin. However I think at this moment you may be feeling the effects of similar natural high as when you are chatting to some one and getting horny. Such a great feeling though does it give justification for you going further and fucking a married woman with out consent.......................up to you.
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RHP User
11 years ago
OP, if you get fed the line that 'I'm married/attached and hubby's cool with it', then speak to hubby. By phone or face to face if you must, but if she shies away at that prospect then walk away. If she pretends to be single and you find out later she's hooked up and has lied to you, walk away with a clear conscience. Otherwise - enjoy!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
That was kinda exactly what I meant, but I was trying to be non-judgemental. 😉
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RHP User
11 years ago
lol like or not we all do a certain degree. As long as the OP is happy then he's ok in my book too... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Your smart enough to work this out for yourself. Put your self in the other mans shoes. Lots of things in life are natural, but does that me we act on those things. I have slept with married guys, and it never bothered me much as I am detached from emotional stuff to a degree. however sometimes we do get stuck like the story of the tar baby. Its a kids story for those that do not know. If you give a married woman a girlfriend experience, not just the sex but make her feel so special, I can tell you now it will only end in tears. For who? For her, for you for the husband for the children they might have for their family. A dick can do a lot of damage if it points in the wrong direction. Get your own girl honey, there are plenty to be had and there are lot of single women on here that would take you to their bed. Forbidden fruit is the sweeter, till it ferments
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RHP User
11 years ago
Don't let sex and love mixSex can be used to show love but is not loveand I am lucky others think that way.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Adultery is a mortal sin! and you will burn for eternity. Are your souls ready for the torments of HELL!!! Really we are adults and consensual intimacy is entirely up to the individuals involved. Who are we to cast morality, beside if she is going to cheat its only a matter of time before she finds someone else to fore fill her needs. So hold your place in the line and make it worth her while. Apart from the chance of being caught out in the middle of a domestic dispute, what could possibly go wrong? LOL
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RHP User
11 years ago
I disagree. Personally don't give a crap if any guy sleeping with someone else's wife is happy if there is deceit involved. It will never make him ok in my book. (Only aimed at the OP if he is sleeping with the wife without the husband's knowledge, which he hasn't stated).
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Blindman67' Adultery is a mortal sin! and you will burn for eternity. Are your souls ready for the torments of HELL!!! At least we'll be in good company looking at the sinners here
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RHP User
11 years ago
Except I'm an atheist ;-) Now I'm pretty sure you're just trolling to get a reaction, but I'll bite as its a quiet day at work. Quote: "if she is going to cheat its only a matter of time before she finds someone else to fore fill her needs." Does that mean you may as well deal drugs, because if not from you the addicts will get it from someone else? Buy cigarettes for minors, because they're gonna smoke anyway? You may not care if you're enabling the destructive behaviours of others, but luckily (I think anyway) many of us do.
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RHP User
11 years ago
But it's not HIS deceit to be responsible for.....it's hers. So if he's happy to accept the potential consequences of involvement in her deceit; what really do we care???
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RHP User
11 years ago
Because it means that he condones cheating. Doesn't see anything wrong with it and there is a good chance he will cheat on his partner one day. So.... Who wants to hook up with a guy like that? Cheaters should stun together, they deserve each other. :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Stun = stick
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RHP User
11 years ago
We could say that of course, but if that deceit was unknown to this guy - that is that she palmed herself off as single - would we be saying that?? The only difference is he has a conscious and more informed choice that he's being faced with. While I personally couldn't accept the potential outcomes of enabling her its not my moral compass that needs to make a decision.
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RHP User
11 years ago
There is no comparison. If you don't know you don't know.... If you do know then you condone it. End of story. I don't really give a rats fandango what his reason is. The fact he does it when he knows the husband doesn't know is enough for me.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quote: "But it's not HIS deceit to be responsible for.....it's hers" So if I may go back to my analogy, why would it be wrong for you to help minors obtain cigarettes and alcohol? You're not doing anything wrong and it's their own responsibility, right? See no problem there?
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RHP User
11 years ago
What the OP and everyone else do is none of our business. Except the OP asked... 😉
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RHP User
11 years ago
You haven't actually got someone in mind,and you are asking a group of strangers whether or not it's right or wrong to do what comes naturally with a married woman with or without her husbands knowledge...I very much doubt if you seriously want anyone's opinion on this..you will do whatever you want to do xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' But it's not HIS deceit to be responsible for.....it's hers. So if he's happy to accept the potential consequences of involvement in her deceit; what really do we care??? A MAN with a fully functioning moral compass..... would rationalise .... that the could never truly expect any woman to be 100% faithful to him... ... if he facilitated another woman being unfaithful, to her own man. DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
then look for couples who choose this lifestyle and are looking for a "bull". It is their kink and there is less likelihood of things going wrong. LG
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RHP User
11 years ago
It is not a matter of it feeling good.... it is about it hurting people. My thoughts.... is my fun (or feel good) more important than someone else pain? My answer... NO! If someone is not happy in their relationship..... get out, then look! I don't want to cause their partner (who I may not know) grief. That is my responsibility!
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RHP User
11 years ago
In Gus's defence, he did say our thoughts "wont change my mind about what I do or the way I think" when asking the question. I'm actually not sure why I bothered now. Good to talk to you though. ;-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think that that's an unfair analogy given the fact it's illegal to supply cigarettes to a minor; but it's not illegal to make a decision to sleep with someone's wife behind her partners back.... Meeka...I get your point and from my personal viewpoint as I've said I wouldn't be enabling her. But we're not Gus. If Gus is ok with it; where's the problem?? She's clearly entertaining the thought of it as much as he, yeah?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Who is Gus and why should I care? He asked a question I am answering it. Is it okay? Sure if you are okay with it. As I said, cheaters are good together.
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RHP User
11 years ago
i highly doubt he wants her to be faithful... My view is that it's just a cheap thrills bit on the side.... But I'd also bet my bottom dollar on the OP not just fucking her either. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I love it when you talk dirty like that.... You know this right?? 😝 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I didn't read him to admitting to anything. I just saw, he asked a question...............?? Which part say's he has committed adultery? Thinking about something is ok, is it not?
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's just sexit doest' mean anythingIf I don't have sex with them, they will just get it somewhere else. It makes me feel goodThe poor didems doesn't get all the sex on tap they want so are forced to get it elsewhere, awwwwww I am doing a community serviceIt is not my responsibility I am not the one who is married These are all bullshit excuses people make to say that being with someone who is cheating is okay. I believe that everyone on earth, no matter what culture or religion or belief system is taught that lying and betraying people you love is bad thing. Am I wrong in that? So my comment is. Man up and grows some balls. Admit that you are enabling somebody to cheat and that you are culpable and as much to blame for someone potentially getting their heart broken. Man up. Go into these affairs at least with some integrity and truth. It isn't going to meaningless to somebody, that is the clueless partner, they may not just see it as just sex. So if you have to do it fine....... but don't ever say to me it is just meaningless sex because I say bullshit! Like that language, stud?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes sex is natural and so can wanting something or someone we shouldn't or can not have! Doesn't mean it's right nor does it mean you should use the excuse of sex being natural to justify your desire to play with this woman. Sounds like a drama and disaster waiting to happen! My advice - move on and enjoy the single girls of rhp and let her face up to her marital issues without using you as her plaything to make herself feel better in what is obviously a miserable marriage (or so she says). - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't particularly care what any of you think about my reasons for doing what I do but what really gets me is that it's acceptable for men to do so. Oh and shock horror, my profile says i prefer married or attached men so yeah I'm that type you all can't stand but guess what sunshine he's obviously not getting it at home as good as he'd like or he wouldn't be here to begin with so consider it a service, I don't want him per se, I just want that part of him that you no longer require. Rather me than some young Bimbo that wants him, his Babies, your life etc. You can keep all of that, I have my own. PS: I tried and explored ALL options and or avenues prior to taking it outside the marriage. You might think you know of me, you don't know my story or me!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' i highly doubt he wants her to be faithful... My view is that it's just a cheap thrills bit on the side.... But I'd also bet my bottom dollar on the OP not just fucking her either. - Posted from rhpmobile
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sweetgem
11 years ago
To want to sleep with another man's wife WITHOUT his consent (or permission, if that sounds less official)! But not an issue if the husband knows and has given his wife a hall pass to do so! However, like sir_stir pointed out, how do you know or prove that the wife is truly not getting what she wants or needs at home? If, only if, sleeping with another man's wife is one of your fantasies, then maybe hook up with couples who are genuinely in an open relationship, who can play apart as well when they are up for it. That way, it saves a lot of troubles and heartaches for many people that are involved in the action! Unless sleeping with another man's wife without his knowing is what you rather want and do, otherwise please have some consideration for the couple and think through for the consequences of your action! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Except I'm an atheist ;-) Now I'm pretty sure you're just trolling to get a reaction, but I'll bite as its a quiet day at work. Quote: "if she is going to cheat its only a matter of time before she finds someone else to fore fill her needs." Does that mean you may as well deal drugs, because if not from you the addicts will get it from someone else? Buy cigarettes for minors, because they're gonna smoke anyway? You may not care if you're enabling the destructive behaviours of others, but luckily (I think anyway) many of us do. LOLAnd we may as well kill because everyone will die anyways. You logic is impeccable. If I am enabling I fear my powers have grown beyond my control, best I retire my keyboard and leave the moralistic assumptive judgment to the disablers. With only scant information you cast a moral judgment, aware that it is highly unlikely to influence the OP's fait accompli, for what reason? Because you care? Or are you completely unaware that the post is nothing more than mere boasting and as far from asking advice as any act of waving your dick in the wind can be.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quote: I think that that's an unfair analogy given the fact it's illegal to supply cigarettes to a minor; but it's not illegal to make a decision to sleep with someone's wife behind her partners back.... Ah, ok. So if it wasn't illegal, it would be morally ok. Gotcha.
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RHP User
11 years ago
feel better yeah?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
To some people yes....to others no....you've at least made it a level field 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Easy, tiger, easy......... No one said it was more acceptable for men to play up outside the home than women. Plenty of profiles here say they prefer married or attached people. There appears to be a consensus, though, that such playing should be with the consent of the other half of the attached couple. In no way am I judging you and no I don't know your story. It's just a reflection of the broader view, I guess. Easy..... easy now...... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
And how do we know it is not him that is intending to cheat. It is an odd thing to sayQuote OP:".... the same question you could answer for a man in the same position, only men are not my thing, lol." Why say that? How suspiciously delightful. Don't worry OP the natural assumption is that guys are straight, and cheating on a mans man is not adultery, yet, till the laws change that is!! I will just assumes you are very in tune with the feminine world and wished to avoid casting any gender bias. ;)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I thought this was going to be about the nature of sex. I was deceived. How ironic. Next.
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j_jones1969
11 years ago
Surely it is my body and I can do with it what I want as it is truly the only thing I absolutely own....as can anyone else do what they want with their body. With that premise cheating becomes a negated perspective as no one has any right over my body but me.......ho hum. Now back to the women I love and if they won't have me then where's the wife!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
....damn moral compass is on the Fritz yet again ...... I gonna have to get me a conscience with a Tom Tom ...... .... I think that we only have to look around the fora to know that morality is subjective within a normal distribution ....... behaviour contrary to societal conventions shakes the foundation of the non legal codes that we live by. ..... The boundary of morality is always under challenged/ and review .... i.e. society values are not always 'right' ...... homosexuality was/is a taboo in some circles, swinging , kink, .......god, even 'loose' behaviour with strangers ??..... hurting people is never going to be morally fashionable ? .......... should we own the physical rights to another humans sexual autonomy ? .... and where do you draw the line ....? having lunch with a member of the opposite sex, even having them as a friend ?, looking at girls at the bus stop .... (for that one Blindman, I am definitely going to eternally burn in Bruegel's hell ..... l) OP is it the taboo that makes it more appealing ? ..... someone else grass is always greener .... and hell, its nice to roll in, 'until ya get some dog shit on ya' ...or is this a natural progression of a person change in status .... embracing change ... and evolving ..... ie is it a failure in the relationship that causes the contravention of the moral code ..... or the contravention that causes the failure .... Desiterata ..... talks of letting the thing that we love 'go' ..... if it returns it is ours .... and if it does not ....'it never was' .... which seems to appeal to my personal code for fidelity U
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
If you are going to cheat on your wife or husband. Or being the facilitator in soneone elses cheating, you keep it to yourself. You certainly dont post it on a national forum. That way you only have to deal with your own conscious and not everyone else's. And that's all that matters. Because you are the one that lives with it. You don't need to take on every one elses hypocritical baggage that they want to offload from their own decisions in the past.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' i highly doubt he wants her to be faithful... My view is that it's just a cheap thrills bit on the side.... But I'd also bet my bottom dollar on the OP not just fucking her either. I wasn't suggesting this woman be faithful... clearly, she's not the type if she's gonna rub uglies with the OP. But the OP might need to re-think his expectations of the women HE dates and has relationships with...... if he is prepared to facilitate one womans cheating, but expect his own women to be totally faithful. He has a choice of path to take.
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RHP User
11 years ago
As an aside I find it interesting that those that question the morality of the senario do so by arguing that the innocent party has ownership of the offending party and his/her rights are being abused. I'm not sure that concept is morally right in this day and age so which morality gas priority. If it wasn't sex it wouldn't raise an eyelid - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
speaking from experience when not if the nuclear bomb goes off take a step back and understand the pain and hurt of everyone involved , man up you married men and women , go renew your vowed and full in love again , or. Deal with the truth and walk away with some pride , too many coupes get busy elsewhere because they can't deal with where they are and pretend - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Marriage doesn't rule a person out for me.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I look at it this way....if they are looking for an outside interest then why not you? If not you it will be someone else - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
"I find it interesting that those that question the morality of the senario do so by arguing that the innocent party has ownership of the offending party and his/her rights are being abused. I'm not sure that concept is morally right in this day and age so which morality gas priority. If it wasn't sex it wouldn't raise an eyelid" I completely disagree. I don't believe anyone owns their spouse, but if you've agreed to be monogamous (with or without the "Forsaking all others vow), not keeping that promise is a huge betrayal in my view. And you bet I'd raise an eyelid. I personally think emotional cheating is just as bad, so please don't speak for me, thanks.
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