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Sex..let's talk about sex
April 05 2015
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well Freya for me it was not so important earlier in my life as my need for intimacy. And in life itself it held no importance to me, I kind of always saw it as the added bonus of a relationship. I was always searching for "the one" and not interested in anything in between.These days I am not so sure as it has been far too long since I had the pleasure of female company, so here I find myself on RHP. I am very unsure of the quick fuck thing as I have not indulged in that much as in the past it left me feeling empty but if it arose (no pun intended, well maybe subconsciously) I may just be up for it. I suppose a long time being on one's own has now turned to loneliness and that has a way of making one think differently. All that said sex is great but it's not really sustenance. Interestingly it is on the list of things that are essential in life or was that touch. Anyways hope everyone is having a great Easter weekend
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi Freya,.Great topic! To answer your questions, sex is extremely important to me. Whilst yes, it is a pleasure and a release, I'd consider it to be as important and eating and drinking. I'll acknowledge that I haven't always felt that way though. When my kids were little, for example, sex wouldn't get a look in if sleep was on offer too. But at this stage in my life, I cannot imagine never having sex again. It would be a pretty big loss of what I believe is an essential part of life. .Human touch is a very powerful force. The more you have, the more you want. And so yes, you can probably have too much sex and absolutely, yes, the mindless pursuit of it can be detrimental to yourself and to others around you. .I infinitely prefer a connection with the people I have sex with, to not knowing them at all. That spark, the connection, it enriches the sexual encounter. I have no experience with sex with complete strangers and the idea has for me personally never held any appeal. .Flirty x
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Dryphuz
11 years ago
I like lots of sex, but quality is more important. I don't get anything much except release out of anonymous sex. I'm always looking for that connection. I hate sex where she is only doing it because she thinks i want it. It HAS to be mutual. Its always preferable to handle your business before sex, but not essential. Sometimes you can have great sex when you know you should be doing more productive things. If i knew i was never going to have sex again i would be devastated. I can quite comfortably go a long, long time without it so long as there's the promise of some in future.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Great topic Freya :-). Sex is a really important thing for me and made no appologies for prioritising sex before I entered my current relationship. I don't think that there can be too much sex in a relationship unless it interferes with your daily life or your sex drive is significantly mismatched with the other person in your relationship and makes the other person miserable. Constant rejection and loss of self worth etc. I prefer the connection with the people I am fucking but sometimes you need a third or more some to enact a particular type of fantasy so your commitment is to your primary partner. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sex plays a big part in my life, though I'd say it adds to it rather than being a "can't live without" thing. I would devastated if I couldn't have sex again, but I know from experience it's doable. My ex and I hadn't had sex for well over a year by the time we broke up.I've learned that the longer I don't have sex, the less I want it, so I believe eventually the feeling of loss would go. As for too much sex: I absolutely believe it's possible. From getting desensitised physically (perhaps too much masturbation) to mentally (too much porn) for example. Also, sex can become problematic when it leads to an addiction that negatively affects other area's of your life (family, finances, etc.) I can fuck strangers (have done so at parties and in clubs), but for me that wasn't great. Being sapiosexual, I find it hard to have satisfying sex if I'm not attracted to someone's mind also. I'm very happy with my sex life and I hope it doesn't change any time soon.
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RHP User
11 years ago
How important is sex to you?.About as important as Drugs and Rock&Roll. It would be a shame if is was not there but then its not then end of life.is it as important as eating and drinking?Nois it just a pleasure,No it is much more than just pleasure, it is both the gift of giving and an indulgent selfishness, it is bonding and socialising. It is all about the other and the depth of human interaction.is it as two men recently told me ,a releaseNo a release is a wank, Yes in the past a partner would help out in the morning as a release, but really that's not sex, that's just wanking ..If you never had sex again what would that mean for you?.If i was looking back at the past of me from now. Well it would just be a shame but whatever.If i am looking forward into a sexless future.. Not happy not happy at all, i would be working out as to the WHY and doing all I could to fix that why...and can you have too much sex?Yes, chaffing, fighting your own hormnons, and a waste of time..can it occupy too much time in the pursuit of it ,to the point where other areas of your life are badly affected? Yes at times, as sex is like Drug and Rock&Roll, addictive and destructive if you let it control your life.Is the connection with the people you have sex with important,or do you enjoy the anonymity of sex with complete strangers.I prefer the connection, but luckily when you start with anonymity, if its not that great then nobody gets hurt. Holding of until you get to know someone before you have sex is just a recipe for disaster. I my book people that need to hold off do not demonstrate much maturity
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RHP User
11 years ago
Having not had sex for most of my life, I would have normally said that I could do without it (obviously, before I knew if it was all it was cracked up to be). But thanks to my lovely former g/f, now, I certainly cannot, at least for the meantime. However further in the future, never having sex again is still in theory plausable while Mrs Palmer is around. No it's not just a release, so to speak. That can be achieved in other ways and I'm not being crude. Passion can be achieved in other areas of life, but it's difficult to replace the passion that comes from sex. Sex is about connection and touch. Complete strangers? Yes they may be strangers but they are still regular people with jobs, hopes & dreams, desires etc etc, even if you never learn their name. Sex is a privledge even if it's with a stranger, at least that's how I treat it. But as a man, even at a swingers club I have to make a connection by general socialising to have anything further eventuate. So I find it hard to imagine a connection-less experience occurring.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I love my sex but it's not the be end and end all of life... Give me laughter and honest connection any day...
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's as important as breathing to me. I just couldn't live without it, can do the job myself but thirst for the touch of a man every waking moment, and yes, in case you're wondering, it does affect other parts of my life, but I don't care. I wouldn't have it any other way now and my encounters are always with complete strangers. Not all are great, but a lot are brilliant, something flat out exciting about walking up to a complete stranger, taking his shirt off haha and kissing him, love it. Does leave me feeling empty on occasion but have met some great guys on here, love rhp. I also hope you've all had a great Easter weekend
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RHP User
11 years ago
Before hand and quickly getting to know each other is far better than shedding your clothes for a meaningless 30 minute fuck. Though Ide rather fuck all day and get to know each other during rest breaks.:)
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madotara69
11 years ago
If it were either one of us. We would work around it, I could only imagine if me then Tara still able finding a bloke who would be willing to be a regular fuck buddy as in long term available, I'm sure enough she would not disagree her sex drive would settle more so because mine is wherever, though we build each other up for how regular Three good roots a week is quite nice, once a month, actually Tara is able to turn it off if needs be, sometimes she has when we have been busy with work and moving house, permanently, I don't know If it were both of us, same as always our friendship centred, sex we have had a good run, together reached some intimate heights for intensity but you did not include the memories Miss Freya, so we take them to the grave and sex for us is of passion so Good memories still with some feelings just of them, like Clayton's sex, sex without the sex. Jumping out of an aeroplane and free falling is a pretty good feeling, we could become regular jump buddies. Or watch the entire series of Game of thrones and 24 and there is always MASH. I reckon a few decades down the track from now, there is a reasonable chance this very question could be faced, Miss Freya, I'll call you and tell you then. although our son was saying something about the life expectancy now with the movements in medicine and science, 140 yrs we will get a shot at it And while we are talking about sex, did you know there has been near 60 reports collectively of dolphins trying to fuck women when swimming amongst them, and only male dolphins, no female dolphins have tried to fuck a man. Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Maybe for too personal (feel free to tell me to mind my own business), but what if you weren't able to have sex again due to illness or injury, or menopause left you with zero sex drive? From your post it sounds to me your life would be awful. Do you think you'd cope?
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RHP User
11 years ago
How do you think you'd cope?
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RHP User
11 years ago
When I first joined Rhp, I was like a kid in a candy store. I did become a little obsessed with burning off some karma and ended up burning the candle at both ends. I spent many weekends in Sydney while my kids visited their Dad. I also lived the high life and enjoyed myself immensely. For MY personal journey this was one of the most important times in my life. But my priorities obviously shifted. The back and forth really unsettled the kids and I decided that my time and money will now be spent on my little family. They are only kids of a short while, so I’ve decided that sex is definitely on the back burner for about the next 10 years. I reckon I’ll ‘suit up’ again when I’m about 55. After all, it’s never too late. I will watch your antics from afar while I focus on my kids and my little business.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I seem to have had times in my life when there was lots of sex..early 80s before motherhood and then no sex while I was a singe mum..for a number of reasons..living in Buddhist communities,my work and focussing on my child..so I absolutely get that...now I am in my sixties my sexual priorities have changed..sex is wonderful with the right person but if I didn't ever have sex again..I would survive lol..I would just prefer that didnt happen..Of late I have been far more proactive in my search xxFreya
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Dryphuz
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Maybe for too personal (feel free to tell me to mind my own business), but what if you weren't able to have sex again due to illness or injury, or menopause left you with zero sex drive? From your post it sounds to me your life would be awful. Do you think you'd cope? That would be different... If there was something medical that actually killed my sex drive then of course it wouldn't bother me much. If there was some medical reason why i couldn't have sex, but my sex drive remained the same it would be torturous, but i would survive how ever i could. Its normally ages between partners for me anyway, so i'm good at getting by. I think if you get too good at getting by you lesson the urge to chase it and therefore get less and less successful as time goes on. I often wonder if its worse being a virgin and never having sex, feeling like you've totally missed out. Or on the other hand, someone who's had sex once and then never again would know what they're missing, but at least would have done it once...
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