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Sexual history,
April 05 2014
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Paradisepair
12 years ago
I, Mrs Paradise, have totally different outlooks on the 2. It's been a long, long time since I have been looking for a relationship and when I did sexual orientation and past sexual history was not an issue for me at all if I loved that person. And so 2 out of the 3 significant relations I have had in my life were with bi guys, one with a very shady sexual past. Mr Paradise is relationship #3 and he is 100% straight.... ....Now within our playful sex life we have different perimeters for our partners, how to play safe as a couple, based off the advice of the staff at our local sexual health clinic.... So those who engage in what the sexual health professionals deem as more risky activity are off the list. In the past others have tried to 'convert' us saying we have to weigh up the fun vs risk, but if we can avoid the risk by simply finding other people to have fun with, then we will... It doesn't make us bigots for making those choices but it's amazing how quick others are to judge us for our risk reduction choices...
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
I have been with people with who have had low numbers and been with people in 3 digit numbers and those who have lost count. For me it's not so much the number game or who, what, where or what orientation they have been with. For me, and what I want; is a person to be their self, for who they are and how they treat me also their behavior towards me..That's more important than numbers to me and sexual orientation. Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
If you fell for someone with an extreme kink that was not your thing? Well there are a few options if you wanted a serious or exclusive relationship with them, they either give up the kink, you indulge in the kink with them if you can, or you have to be prepared to allow your lover the freedom to go and indulge in their kink every now and then without you. That would be a very individual thing. Of course some kinks would change the way you feel about someone as well, and not always for the better. Sexual partner history - I never ask. I am interested in experiences that they have had or things they have done but I don't every ask how many times. :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Sexual partner history - I never ask. I am interested in experiences that they have had or things they have done but I don't every ask how many times. :) I am however interested in their history of safe sex and STD's, as well as how they talk about their past experiences and sexual partners. Numbers and who with are much less important to me than mindset.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'Meeka100' Sexual partner history - I never ask. I am interested in experiences that they have had or things they have done but I don't every ask how many times. :) I am however interested in their history of safe sex and STD's, as well as how they talk about their past experiences and sexual partners. Numbers and who with are much less important to me than mindset. I'm more interested in the safe side of things if they don't practice safe sex and have heaps of partners not interested risk is to high
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RHP User
12 years ago
Possibly, though doubtful. .
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RHP User
12 years ago
What did the sexual health professionals deem as more risky activity...can you elaborate on it please. Because I am not willing to have anal sex as much as it seen as a very big sexual turn on.I am happy to talk about past sexual encounters with my partners and I find it interesting, not judgemental at all, I would consider myself more shy towards a person who had lots and lots of sexual partners.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Is something I read in an online article....don't know whether it is true or not though :) Hmmmm I think on a personal level, an insecure person might focus on the number of past partners someone has had. A person with little experience might be a little intimidated at the thought of their partners more experienced sexual past (goes for life experience as well actually). Someone looking to meet to share new experiences with..like discovering new things as a couple point of view could put certain people off a more experienced person.... From a health perspective, I believe that the numbers are not important in so much as how they practiced safe sex or not. If it was me and I met a woman who was comfortable with the idea of "hooking" up with a random and have unprotected sex....well she"ll see me run for the door. But in saying that, a person has to be honest when answering such questions, and that is something that is so important....honesty....I don't remember if anyone remembers this story, but there was a circus performer who had sex with quite a number of women. He was later found to have Aids....this guy was such a liar and because he knew of the fact...I think he was sentenced to prison. A small price to pay after he destroyed the lives of those women......so again knowing that the person has practiced safe sex is more important than numbers.....
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't see myself as out there when it comes to sex....but if a potential partner had a bit more experience, I think it would be great. She would have to be pretty patient though and understand it would take a lot of trust for me to go far....And also if I said no to a certain thing...she would need to respect that....so yeh like anything, if their is a foundation of trust, respect, honesty and integrity....among other things that bind two people together....well the sky is the limit ;)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Past is past, I don't ask. I probably should though, but the conversation always makes me squirm. I'm not always that honest about my past as I find a man can be pretty judgemental even when your lying naked next him in a shared bath of body juices. But health history I'd like to know and am honest about mine. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Doesn't bother me at all. I have had bi lovers, straight, kinky, vanilla, matters de nada. It's how they treat me. And yes sexual safety is a factor. Not that confident that I won't be judged though. Men seem to have a different viewpoint about women they would consider for a relationship. I recently asked a lover if he judged me for my lifestyle and he responded honestly by saying not in our current arrangement, but it would factor in if he was looking for more.
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RHP User
12 years ago
And I have certain boxes that must be ticked and its a lot of boxes. Reality is Ive always led an extremely kinky sexual side and that's not something Im about to give up for anyone. Sexual orientation doesn't bother me as much as Ide be assuming that Ide still be allowed to indulge in my mmmf scenarios even if he wasn't there. Which leads me more inclined to an open relationship. Hey we all have past partners so I don't really care but Im sure that I will be knowledgeable of the ones while we are together. After all, sex is a big component for me and if that's not being satisfied then Im more likely to strat as well as/he or she.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Like you, I have a don't ask and don't tell policy. I don't ask about theirs, as quite often I'm left feeling less than worthy.....how could I possibly be a lover that is remembered if I'm not able to bring something new to them?? Just recently I was having a discussion with a lady off a vanilla site, and she was mentioning a lover from her past that could go and and go and go.....that isn't me....call me selfish, but the tone in her voice suggested that that was something that was important. I couldn't compete with that, so I told her it wasn't going to work and why. And.... I don't tell them about about mine as it's not really that extensive. Once again I'd feel like a lover that just wouldn't be able to cut it as "good enough to satisfy." - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
"In the past others have tried to 'convert' us saying we have to weigh up the fun vs risk, but if we can avoid the risk by simply finding other people to have fun with, then we will... It doesn't make us bigots for making those choices but it's amazing how quick others are to judge us for our risk reduction choices..." We don't care to engage in play with couples who believe that playing Russian Roulette is a great way to enjoy each other... Pass! No glove, No love!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Well come on people, you don't meet someone and have a check list do you ? God, I hope not :P.... we all have had sex before, do you interview potential sexual partners on their history of partners and how many, that could get embarrassing for some and cause unrest and failure for play. I don't think our pasts should be up for scrutiny of acceptance, but do feel safe sex practises and regular testing to be of upmost importance. We all have had sexual partners on here, some long term, some short, some more partners then others, and whatever the orientation is is personal choice. We all have our guidelines and requirements for play. And they vary greatly from person to person. It's what works for you, and your comfortable with, without compromising your safety and health. Honesty, and being upfront are admirable qualities.
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RHP User
12 years ago
It just caught up with me, there was an article in the paper with my face on it and all of a sudden I got a call from someone who I had not seen for thirty plus years she said honey, you look just the sameI said yep its the cataracts on those old eyes, bless her cotton socks. If its a numbers game then I win my husband actually wanted to bed me as I had bonked his mate, and they did the fishing trip the next day and the mate was saying what a reasonable shag I was. my husband thought goodie, I have to try some of that. he did not give a rats arse about my past, or my present or my future sexual partners, so long as I practice safe sex he says its non of his business what I decide to do with my body. I agree that most think that they want to be a mans last and a man wants to be a woman's first. were a conventional lot us humans no matter how much we talk about being the opposite in practice we knuckle down to the society's norm. or we just keep it quiet and away from others who we know will judge promiscuous/open minded people
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RHP User
12 years ago
...... because I can sprinkle it with choc chips, ice magic and hundreds of thousands
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madotara69
12 years ago
I fell in love with Tara, simple as that, have ever since loved her just more as the time went, we still share stories of ex partners, sometimes we have a laugh sometimes we fuck like crazy. She often knees me in the head by accident during position changes, sometimes my hands are a little rough and calloused, so that gets an ouch, sometimes my cock hurts a bit when she deep throats me, sometimes just a catch on her teeth. We try to keep it as safe as we can but there is a fine line between pleasure and pain. Mado Tara xx
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Dryphuz
12 years ago
be intimidated by partners who had more experience than me, but I've come to realise that at the end of the day you either click or you dont. When you do click you can forget many of the things that would otherwise bother you. Once that bond is made you can discuss previous partners in an open way and move forward. I was dragged out of vanilla sex by someone like that. If we hadn't been able to talk so openly about everything i might still think doggy style was adventurous. guys still like to hear we've got the biggest cock you've ever seen. Even if its a lie.
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RHP User
12 years ago
"We all have had sexual partners on here, some long term, some short" Are you sure about that??? - Posted from rhpmobile
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erotictouch4u
12 years ago
If we judged people on their history then we would never have the opportunity to meet someone with more experience to teach us things we would like to try.As long as they practice safe sex, the numbers only count towards experience...just like age. ET xox
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi, new to this and curious to see what the defination of safe sex is. Std like herpes, genital warts can be transmitted with a condom its just skin to skin contact and in case of herpes does not have to be any symptoms present. All others can still be passed with oral sex. So question is is safe sex on here classed as virginal, anal sex with a condom? Please excuse if posted in wrong forum but would very much like to know how to play as safetly as possible.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Pandora... You are correct on many points, the answer is that for many people here, safe sex is a full body latex suit with no kissing allowed... No skin to skin, no bodily fluid exchange = safe sex. As for the op... I'm interested in your sexual history in a voyourisic fashion, but of more interest is NOT what you've done, but rather what you will not do... It's your open mindset that is of interest, not your experience... Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
12 years ago
I am completely practicing safe sex.....no sex is the safest sex n'est pas? :-) :-) xx Q
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't know how many people I've shagged, they aren't in the hundreds but they aren't just 2 or 3. I don't want to count and don't want to be asked I also do not care how many people my partner was with before me, it's in the past. I never ask. I only ever ask about whether or not they once had an STI, when they last got tested and if it's been a while then I encourage that we both get tested A while ago, I fell in love with a strapping young man. Before we had sex he told me he had had unprotected sex with someone that had HIV and had only found out after the deed. He said he was devastated. We waited 3 months before having sex and both went and got tested, we then went back again after 3 months and both got tested. My point is sometimes we say this and that matters but in the heat of the moment we throw all that out the window. The amount of sexual partners doesn't count. And you never know if someone even went and got tested. Best to just assume they haven't and take necessary precautions and protect number 1 Abstinence is the safest sex. And for those that shy away from people who indulge in risky sex, you're lucky they are telling about these risky sex encounters, what of the ones that lie? The more sexual partners you have the more the risk there is. John slept with Judy, Judy slept with Mark, Mark slept with Susan and Susan has crabs.....chances are they all have crabs now :P - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'Highpriority' Pandora... You are correct on many points, the answer is that for many people here, safe sex is a full body latex suit with no kissing allowed... No skin to skin, no bodily fluid exchange = safe sex. As for the op... I'm interested in your sexual history in a voyourisic fashion, but of more interest is NOT what you've done, but rather what you will not do... It's your open mindset that is of interest, not your experience... Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it... Forgot the goggles, women make it almost imposable to have safe sex, now they are all squirter's, Yep, no bio suit no love, no matter what sexual history, could have some thing from a previous life too, so virgins are out too. Shit HP, this may hurt but the only safe sex would be for you to be bi, at least us men can wear condoms. Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'Meeka100' Sexual partner history - I never ask. I am interested in experiences that they have had or things they have done but I don't every ask how many times. :) I am however interested in their history of safe sex and STD's, as well as how they talk about their past experiences and sexual partners. Numbers and who with are much less important to me than mindset. Both of these, same for me. xx Sarah
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RHP User
12 years ago
Past history should be extremely important/ relevant for many reasons. STI infections for one. As much as someone can be unlucky in contracting an infection i.e. From a long term/ regular partner, someone who leads an extremely reckless promiscuous lifestyle with both sexes should be approached with caution in my opinion. Or in my case just avoided. Don't want to get into the unsafe sex practice here as it will go a bit off topic, but it just one way I will screen potential lovers. I could be very wrong about my views, but they are just that, MINE! PP'S post is the only one I have read thus far so hope no one else has commented on this. Now, on to read the rest!
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madotara69
12 years ago
I just had to tell Tara of an experience before we met, just because I felt it was right. Once upon a time I woke up and had this bright red ring at the base of my cock, jeez it looked tender. I panicked as one would and went straight to the Dr, Said "Dr, Dr give me the news, I 've got a bad case of loving girls, fuck is it gang green?" Dr said "your a fucking idiot aren't you Mado" I looked at him in shock, thought "what do you mean by that?" Dr said "Mado you idiot, don't you know the difference between Gang Green and lipstick?" Of course I know now Qefenta.
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JohnAnn2227
12 years ago
The number of people someone has shagged has never been a real factor for us. We both said early on that we would never marry a virgin (would you buy a car without first taking it for a test drive?). Sexual history as afar as what they are into as Meeka said is important as to how compatible you can be. Also STD history is ultra important. But personally neither of us are bothered by the number of partners.
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RHP User
12 years ago
but if I am asked, I will tell. I couldn't give a number because I have never counted but I was a little taken aback when my doctor at my screening guestimated around 30 partners in 3 months! Considering most of my lovers have not been memorable, I had to do a bit of math in my head later...still have no idea. Might have to start notching the bedposts.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Mado, I didn't forget the goggles... My Spider-Man suit is a bit cleverer than your batman one... Spidey has his goggles built in 👀 👍 Do you know that you can catch herpes from kissing ? Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'Highpriority' Mado, I didn't forget the goggles... My Spider-Man suit is a bit cleverer than your batman one... Spidey has his goggles built in 👀 👍 Do you know that you can catch herpes from kissing ? Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it... lips are sealed. ........... ......./\./\ Mado ../`..`\ (black ears and matching cape) .......||.\.^./.|| ......././/|.B.\.\.\ ...//|//()\.\.\\\
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RHP User
12 years ago
With two crime fighters like us on the job Tara will need a month to recover... 😎 Geez, I've gotta get instant posting back... This sucks... 🚀 Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'Highpriority' With two crime fighters like us on the job Tara will need a month to recover... 😎 Geez, I've gotta get instant posting back... This sucks... 🚀 Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it... he he Recovery, Tara is only a little thing, but still it is the other way around, she makes nice soup and spoon feeds ice cream. Every couple of days she gives some physiotherapy which really helps to bring things back into active operational activity, actually peak physical condition may shorten the recovery by a couple of weeks, but what's the point walking around with a scrambled brain
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Smilingwithfun
12 years ago
If it was a book, if it was fiction- an encyclopedia, fact- a short story.
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dubbadeez
12 years ago
Quoting 'Paradisepair' I, Mrs Paradise, have totally different outlooks on the 2. It's been a long, long time since I have been looking for a relationship and when I did sexual orientation and past sexual history was not an issue for me at all if I loved that person. And so 2 out of the 3 significant relations I have had in my life were with bi guys, one with a very shady sexual past. Mr Paradise is relationship #3 and he is 100% straight.... ....Now within our playful sex life we have different perimeters for our partners, how to play safe as a couple, based off the advice of the staff at our local sexual health clinic.... So those who engage in what the sexual health professionals deem as more risky activity are off the list. In the past others have tried to 'convert' us saying we have to weigh up the fun vs risk, but if we can avoid the risk by simply finding other people to have fun with, then we will... It doesn't make us bigots for making those choices but it's amazing how quick others are to judge us for our risk reduction choices... Same Same. But by lowering the risks doesn't mean lessening the pleasure. It enhances it!
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Plain280
12 years ago
Question 1 no all I care about is will we click.Question 2 no.Question 3. You have no right to judge and nor should you, this is where you put your communication skills to the test how to be firm but diplomatic if need be, also to know the LIMITS THAT YOU ARE WILLING TO GO TO.Question 4. The older I get this term vanilla is excised from use, because I realise that I KNOW MY LIMITS, see answer question 3. And I realised awhile ago that some of what we call vanilla has been some of the most intimate and enjoyable experiences ever!!
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