M51
Single Parents
December 23 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
being a single parent and trying to have a sex life...I know from personal experience.I looked at your profile OP and I think you might want to reconsider a re-write.There is nothing in there that says anything about you as a person.Women do like to get a sense of who you are not just what and how you like to have sex with them. Why not try the clubs in Brisbane ,there are at least two,check out the events section here.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I was left as a single mum of 4 children when I was 40. Struggling with work, school and preschool.... it was impossible to meet people. Some women might look it as you wanting more than nsa.... and its more than they want so they shy away. My advise .... keep trying ... it does get better.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
13 years ago
Please tell me of the two photos you have one of them is of you not your pee pee? Bluntly put cock shots can be put in your other folder for when they may be requested. How about some nice, sexy pictures of the man driving the creator of life. Would also like to wish you and your children a beautiful christmas. May all your wishes come true. Or atleast the one involving giving your hand(s) a rest. RSI sucks. Ho ho ho
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RHP User
13 years ago
as a single dad.... i found that all kinds of women, and all ages, would regularly approach me....and had a wonderful 5 years looking after my 2 kids...the single women (and some marrieds) at playgroup then kindy and primary school, fussed over us, ooed and aaaahed at my baby girl, and generally treated me with warmth and compassion....i was invited to every event, included in all the activities, and spoiled by women who thought i was deserving of some 'personal attention'.......so its not all 'doom and gloom'... these were some of the happiest, most rewarding days i've experienced, and i wouldnt change any of them in any way.... be open, be involved, and be friendly.... women will look at you more often if you are smiling and confident....
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RHP User
13 years ago
Seriously, I feel your pain, mate.
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RHP User
13 years ago
There's a lot of us in the same boat I can imagine. Just takes some initiative and imagination (and great babysitters on speed dial). Good luck and never give up!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think a lot of people who don't have kids view single parents as trying to replace their child's parent, and as such they shy away. You could always just leave the single parent thing out of your interactions until you get comfortable with someone. If it doesn't affect them, they don't really need to know.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi Single Dad I’m commenting because I don’t have kids….so feel free to say "Bite me”” on any advice Im imparting but it’s because I don’t have kids that I feel I can say this Now firstly – I think it’s great that you have kids..so please don’t get me wrong and I’m sure are doing an admirable job in raising the munchkins……it’s tough being a widower – I’m a widow and lost my husband when I was quite young – so I can relate a little , however as much as your kids are your life they don’t have to be ALL of your life. So if it was me, the first thing I would do is change your user name…..yes you’re a single dad that’s true, but it’s not all of who you are..your young, you still have a gorgeous sexual side of you which is allowed out…your user name is off putting..sorry but it is and yes some women MAY interpret that you are looking for mother – even though you say different…I’m just saying…4 kids can be scary stuff… Secondly rewrite your profile – now at no time am I saying you do not acknowledge nor deny your kids - not at all….but it’s not your whole life… (although it may feel like it at present… )….I’m saying write more about who you are, what you’re looking for…your dreams, fantasies etc…..yes write that you have kids , but I also ask you is that necessary to write on a profile that’s on a sex site….? – you don’t have to make it your opening line….be more subtle. All you have to do is state that you are a single dad and you would love to meet lady that is aware and open to this fact and that obviously at times you are subject to times constraints….when you get talking to the rite lady then you can chat more about ( for want of better words) … rules, discretion, etc We all have issues or things that we feel we need to reveal and be honest up front – I have one too and honesty is the key … ..however I don’t feel the need to put it out there until I make contact with who I consider the rite person that I wish to meet– and when I’m comfortable I chat with them about my issue – and it’s never been a prob - I guess I’ve screened it down to the rite guy….you don’t have to reveal you r hand strait up…however I’m not saying don’t reveal your hand..either…just balanced it all – you are more than just a dad… you deserve all that you are seeking….and more Good luck with it all
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RHP User
13 years ago
Although my situation is not as difficult as yours, I have been a shared custody single dad for the past 3 years. As Mike has mentioned above, there is a plethora of opportunities to meet similar minded women. Just be yourself... Personally I have met more women in real life than online - at the beach, running, gym, work, school, university etc Like attracts like, if you're ready and open you'll find people around you who will be too ;)) Best of luck. A
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have a daughter too. Admittedly I don't have her full time which makes it easier than for you. But if people are put off by it, then they are not worthy of your time anyway. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
100% agreed, you can only allow into your life what you are open to! Also I think mike is right, once the kids are school age, things are a lot different. When you're surrounded by women who are seeing you bust your butt to be a great dad, they really appreciate your efforts, whereas when they're not in school the only person who sees your efforts is you and your ex. That's my take on it anyway, I've gotta wait til 2014 to find out ;-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
I totally can relate to your situation.Best advice I can give is take feedback from other comments and adjust your profile..use it to your advantage. :)I have been single for 3yrs and similar situation (one child-17).Lucky for me NO babysitters required. :)However on the other hand my situation is tough too, as I'm a shift worker and find that some people do get turned off by it.keep your chin up..There is someone out there for you - they just haven't found you yet!!I wish you the Best of Luck. xx
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RHP User
13 years ago
This is my opinion only you dont have to agree however respect that everyone is entitled to their own opinon - the easily offended probably should skip this post. I have been on here for a few years now and regular older forum readers and contributors (older as in been around a while not necessarily age) will know that I am a no kids zone. As a single woman a couple of years older than yourself OP with no children and no desire to have children there are a few reasons why its going to be tough for you to find someone to play with. They are as follows: 1. Your profile reads as your kids are the only thing in your life and that makes me think thats all you can talk about. I really dont want to spend my night talking about them. . 2. We dont like to be cancelled on at the last minute because something has happened - babysitter didnt show, kid fallen ill, etc etc. Your time is even more limited as a widow. . 3. Invariably people with children end up talking about them - I dont want to know anything about them, there are other things you can talk about . 4. Often a friendship can develop or they ask you to meet their kids - not after that thankyou I dont want to confuse the kids...I am not mummy or daddies girlfriend and dont want your kids to be a part of my life. You state you are open to things devloping but dont want a Mother for your kids.....confused a little here? . 5. Being parents mean it can be difficult to organise a place to play - and if the people you are approaching cant host then it can seem a little daunting. You can host? Say what? But we would have to be quiet? You want to bring strange women into your home while the kids are there? Are you nuts? They could walk in, there could be an emergency that needs your handling, Im sorry but thats just wrong! . 6. The amount of time and effort that gos into organising a play date with parents is just too much...why would I bother when there a childless people out there I could play with in a much quicker time frame?? . 7. Because you are obviously crazy for having children in the first place - grotty parasitic creatures that they are and I only like to play with the sane . Hope this answered a few of your questions Kisses Focus (OK OK I did steal this from a previous thread I commmented on a few years ago but I couldnt resist lol) .
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RHP User
13 years ago
I do love a good biting (as I alluded to in another thread) and I am biting my tongue so hard right now it's almost bleeding .... I think I like it!!!!!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well there are two sides to me a mother and a single and I keep them seperate and only talk about them if asked. I can say that I have just started seeing a single dad and it is great and hope it all goes well. Treat prospective partners as they are. Its there personality and character that attracts u not there status or family situation.
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RHP User
13 years ago
For me it is a simple case of... "I am not prepared to put muself in front of disrespectful children" Ok, I am NOT saying yours are mate.. But, I have tried a considerable number of relationships with single women.. AND WILL NEVER DO IT AGAIN. I prefer to die a lonely old man with my hand on my dick, then put up with the crap I have put up with in the past. ONCE AGAIN... I am not saying I am right, and they are wrong.. I am a prick to live with.. and if I see ANYONE bagging my woman, I am going to fight.. That includes her kids.. and believe me.. THAT has gotton me "Single" many a time. Not that I have hit them, but, because I have made issue of it.. HAVING SAID THAT ALL... What makes you think it is the fact you are a single parent that is stopping women from interacting with you mate?? Follow the threads on these forums... "Blokes don't get laid often here" Look at me.. An above average caveman.. articulate.. handsome, wealthy, smart, witty, generous, thoughtful... all the good stuff.. I COULD ask... "Why is it so hard to get laid when you have long hair..." BUT, that isn't the problem... I am older then you.. cranky, smart arsed, politically incorrect, neanderthal with BO, bad breath, broken teeth, jaded and biased... FCK.. these are NOT things that women should judge me on.. I dont want them to MOTHER me.. I just was NSA SEX!!!!!!! Good luck fella... I DO wish I had something sensible to say to you though... But, I don't.. SO I will just wish you well...and good luck!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Cavey u are a cave man and u dont get laid because of your poor attitude and outlook. U seem to tar everyone with the same brush. Your wish to be alone will probably come true.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Silk_Stockings' Cavey u are a cave man and u dont get laid because of your poor attitude and outlook. U seem to tar everyone with the same brush. Your wish to be alone will probably come true. I totally agree
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RHP User
13 years ago
Thanks to most for your comments.Pitty there are a few that really dont have a clue and comment anyway
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'cavey50' For me it is a simple case of... "I am not prepared to put muself in front of disrespectful children" Ok, I am NOT saying yours are mate.. But, I have tried a considerable number of relationships with single women.. AND WILL NEVER DO IT AGAIN. I prefer to die a lonely old man with my hand on my dick, then put up with the crap I have put up with in the past. ONCE AGAIN... I am not saying I am right, and they are wrong.. I am a prick to live with.. and if I see ANYONE bagging my woman, I am going to fight.. That includes her kids.. and believe me.. THAT has gotton me "Single" many a time. Not that I have hit them, but, because I have made issue of it.. HAVING SAID THAT ALL... What makes you think it is the fact you are a single parent that is stopping women from interacting with you mate?? Follow the threads on these forums... "Blokes don't get laid often here" Look at me.. An above average caveman.. articulate.. handsome, wealthy, smart, witty, generous, thoughtful... all the good stuff.. I COULD ask... "Why is it so hard to get laid when you have long hair..." BUT, that isn't the problem... I am older then you.. cranky, smart arsed, politically incorrect, neanderthal with BO, bad breath, broken teeth, jaded and biased... FCK.. these are NOT things that women should judge me on.. I dont want them to MOTHER me.. I just was NSA SEX!!!!!!! Good luck fella... I DO wish I had something sensible to say to you though... But, I don't.. SO I will just wish you well...and good luck!! As a single parent I am very weary of meeting a man with younger children...Unless you are 100% prepared to be a UNITED FRONT to ALL children involved it will NEVER EVER work..I was with a man for 3 WASTED years. During my 3 yrs I had nothing but spoken to disrespectfully, treated unkind, resentment towards me, isolation you name it - I went through it...and the worst thing was the children had no consequences to their behaviour!! Unless BOTH parties are prepared to be educated and get support with blended families it will work..if NOT don't expect miracles...it's never going to happen!!I would prefer to be a lonely old woman with 100,000 cats then put up crap from disrespectful children...I'm very weary now of meeting men with younger children...a huge major urn off for me !! :(
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think it is the odds mate,did a search on another site this morning,firstly women seeking men within 100 km from my location,result 10,men seeking woman within 100km 94!! And on rhp same ,woman 14,men 60!!Merry Xmas and hope you find someone perfect for you and your kids!
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RHP User
13 years ago
single men do get laid......even those who are single dads....... i did, and never had a problem finding a playmate..... there are couples a plenty looking for an extra guy, and women? its a smorgasbord......... if you arent finding fun its likely thats your own fault... perhaps you arent presenting yourself properly, to those people who may be interested...dont blame the site...it works... it works exceptionally well.....
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RHP User
13 years ago
To expand on her post: "What just because I have kids it's like I have the plague." --- this statement + "I'M A SINGLE DAD" username and opening line + forum posting "I HAVE KIDS" = thanks, we have *nothing* to talk about. Nothing. Your interests are YOUR KIDS and oral sex and finger fucking. Um, ok, great, I'm happy for you, good luck with that, but we still have nothing to talk about. No, no one wants your life story in your profile, and yes, it's a sex site, but fuck is it so hard to give a girl a conversation while you're measuring her pheromones and taking your clothes off...?
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RHP User
13 years ago
lots of very harsh judgements,and some good advice but perhaps we could be a little kinder to a new person here.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Some interesting and thought provoking opinion here !Having children changed my life totally from how I view the evening news to how I shop and how I vote. My number one priority is my kids end of story, people without kids don't often get this or find it uncomfortable, a few recognise it as being as it should be. But it is a separate life to the one I live here.I do not involve my kids (8 and 11) in my personal life, they know I date but they also know I'm not looking for a wife and just need company when they aren't around, they accept this.As for meeting people, I've found it a non issue frankly, most of the women I have dated are moms natural or step and know the territory, indeed I would say my commitment to being a good father has earn't me far more respect than scorn and I prefer parents as partners than singles.It's a broad sweeping generalisation but I find singles selfish and intolerant, that is not meant in a nasty or critical way at all, it is just a different life experience to being a parent. A bit of Lego on the floor and paintings on the kitchen table are a natural for a parent but you are a slob for a single, there is only so much you can clean after a week of parenting and returning a home to "Vogue" status week on week off is just not doable !I can host as I am week about, I have other interests besides my kids and I certainly do not need to talk parenting to have an intelligent conversation and indeed I avoid it. As an aside women with dogs are far more boring to talk to than parents !So NSA, I would organise your life so you have a hassle free dating space, don't stress about being a parent just make the necessary adjustments and talk and do what interests you outside of the parenting, talk about it if required and just get on with it.It's not that hard !Good luck.
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RHP User
13 years ago
RHP is an accessory...... not a life-support mechanism.DG.Best advice I've seen on here in a long time !
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RHP User
13 years ago
Dont ask for advice if you dont like what you get back... . Focus and Cavey have given very very good reasons as to why THEY do not play with people with kids and fair enough too. When I was single I arranged an extended weekend to a week away every couple of months and left town. During that time I had all my play times arranged. Yes we do get it. Only too well and I think that it is you that just does not get it. The ratio of men to women on this (and other similar sites) is huge. Way more men than women. It is a veritable smorgasbord for women on here. Maybe you should be trying to make yourself stand out and by raving on about your kids you will not do yourself any favours Your profile states that you can play at your house but you must be quiet at certain times? I too find this totally unacceptable. It is certainly enough to put a damper on any sexy feelings knowing that there are impressionable and vulnerable children in the next room who certainly do not need to inadvertantly wander in on daddy and a strange woman going at it hammer and tongs. As someone who did play as a single parent...I had no difficulty in arranging my play times or finding play friends and I NEVER had a child in the close vacinity.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I am asuming you are refering to me as far as the Pitty there are a few that really dont have a clue and comment anyway" Maybe it was lost_focus.. maybe it was Superfox.. You know.. you asked a question.. you asked "WHY is it so hard to find someone when you are a young widowed single parent" I gave you a relevant answer.. (irrespective of the "Tongue in cheek" stuff that went with it) That answer was ratified by others. What did you expect? A pity party for NSA? Did you think all of a sudden 10 girls would tell you how hot and sexy you are and make a date with you? Is this like the guys who start a thread asking what is wrong with their profile? As I said.. good luck fella...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hey silk.. I have been on here for over 5 years.. in two different profiles... BOTH of those profiles stated clearly I was NOT here for sex.. and both of those profiles... (which includes THIS one) have attracted some delightful physical relationships OUTSIDE of RHP I have that situation taken care of quiet well thank you. Of those few people on RHP who have actually met me, they will tell you something rather different to your view on the character portayed in my mostly "Tongue-in-cheek" responses. Go back and READ what NSA posted in his thread.. then re-read my posting.. Read it with an OPEN mind Silk.. and get NSA to do it too... see what it REALLY says.. GO so far as to start a thread yourself.. it might be titled as follows... EVERYONE please comment on CAVEY's response to NSA_fun_wanted's thread. *smiles* AND I will leave both you and NSA the last thing I said to him. QUOTE "SO I will just wish you well...and good luck!! " UNQUOTE I reiterate that line, AND the spirit in which it was delivered.
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RHP User
13 years ago
and here i was...thinkn advice was best when 'constructive' rather than either belittling or humiliating...well blow me over........
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFox' As a single parent I am very weary of meeting a man with younger children...Unless you are 100% prepared to be a UNITED FRONT to ALL children involved it will NEVER EVER work..I was with a man for 3 WASTED years. During my 3 yrs I had nothing but spoken to disrespectfully, treated unkind, resentment towards me, isolation you name it - I went through it...and the worst thing was the children had no consequences to their behaviour!! Unless BOTH parties are prepared to be educated and get support with blended families it will work..if NOT don't expect miracles...it's never going to happen!! Totally agree with the above, Superfox. I'm also very wary of meeting men with young children....so much so that I prefer to meet women!Did the step-dad thing for 12 years, and it's something I'd approach with extreme caution should I find myself in that position again. I like to think I've raised my kids to show respect to any potential partner....the proof will be in the pudding.Or cheesecake, if you're reading this, Fun!
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