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Single guys attending events

January 21 2021

We run social events every month and always sell out for couples attending. We offer single guy tickets but hardly sell any! Last event we had one single guy attend who was charming and very well behaved. Am interested to hear from single guys why they don't attend events even though they register lots of interest?

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  • Sawadee

    Sawadee

    5 years ago

    Probally the fear of the unknown and where they fit in.. No one wants to feel like they dont belong or become just another wallflower . I feel im well presented and mannered and id love to attend ' but dont for the reasons just given...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    I’m curious about prices... Are the tickets all the same cost?? Do singles pay more? Do couples pay more?? Further context is needed here for me...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Hi There RHP Country, being single at events and where there is a large number of couples sometuimes you feel in the way. In Victoria for example there are a very large number of parties that are only Couples and Females and when males are addded to the can attend section it is sometimes 2 times or three times that of a couple or a free female. I saw one event for a price of $180 which was double that of a couple. If it were level playing field and the costs weere not so high and limited events for males then aybe more would attend ?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Price, probably. Ive seen events where couples and single women are charged 30, 40 bucks but single guys are charged 100

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    When I play as a single guy I won't go to parties or clubs that charge double for single guys. I think this is how single guys get a bad name. It's called moral hazard theory. People think single guys are sleazy and too forward and therefore they charge more which keeps the decent single guys away and attracts the ones that give the scene a bad name. I am partnered but I play solo and would never pay $100 to go to a club or party and find it offensive when the host wants double bc I'm a single guy. It's better to invite single guys on word of mouth of others or meet them beforehand. If you look at my validations u will see I'm always described as a gentleman and I'm never short of a date opportunity on a Saturday night if I desire so the prices charged for a single guy.....as much as I love parties I would most likely choose something more intimate and spend the money on a nice evening out with her instead. Just one perspective of course....

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    I’m in Canberra and would happily attend as a single - not much happens here so the opportunity to have some enjoyable times would our way any cost really

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    I think there are various reasons. 1. Price disparity. I had a thread on this a few weeks back. 2. When they show up, they are usually a minority or feel like most of the guests there don’t want anything to do with them or even just chat to them. 3. Some single men aren’t really single or being genuine in some sense. They dream the fantasy but can’t commit because reasons. 4. Some don’t do well in social situations and are just interested in smash and go. 5. Believe it or not, a few events here on RHP will say they allow limited number of guys then turn out to not inviting any at all. I have friends on rhp that are couples who have attended events and told me there weren’t any single guys even though they were supposed to. Quality men will enquire for invitation and get turned down or get no response then just lose interest in events completely.

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    5 years ago

    Registering for events then cancelling. The same could be stated about couples and single women. They do it because they can, not so much the costs. That too. The event may not be that high on their priority list that might or something more important came up. Like last minute babysitting. I dare say with single men, if the opportunity was presented to look after their kids that night, I highly doubt they would say no to spending time with them. Especially devoted dads. Just another perspective. Ms Foxy Ms Foxy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    As someone who gave up on events because of the rediculous pricing for single males I'd say the answer is the events themselves got rid of the guys by using them as cash cows.

  • Sawadee

    Sawadee

    5 years ago

    The reason for charging single guys so much ' is obvious.. The organizers and couples ( some couples ) dont really care if single males are there or not ? So whats the best way to keep them away ? Inflate a entry fee that is so ridiculous it effectivly keeps them away , and if they do happen to splurge the orgenizers pocket a tidy lil sum.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    My understanding of this thread was about social meets....not swingers parties/clubs.... Social meets I thought were more like meet and greets... If the OP could clarify this and add some further context so we can all be the same page, that’d be great...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Im interested to know why as well.. 🤔

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    5 years ago

    As Anti suggested, the OP is l think about social nights where there is only a small financial cost to pay for the nibbles etc. Many guys put there hat in the ring but few ever turn up. Some give it a go but find that the couples are very stuck in their little groups and the guys find it hard to get into the conversation. But the groups very quickly include any single females and concentrate on them and excaberate the inclusion of the guys. I've witnessed it many times. The guys end up forming their own groups and have an ok night with themselves but often not enough to give their own mates the flick for the night to attend again. There are exceptions when a guy has the gift of the gab and can talk their way into anyone's undies. The OP has tried many ways for a successful method of getting the mix to work but not much works

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    May I add that its not just single guys who behave badly but also sleazy hubbies. Ive had more trouble with husbands than I have single guys. Couples were all singles once upon a time 😊

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    20 fit guys well that’s were the problem is. Most guys are not fit and are conscious of their bodies just as much as women are

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    It might also be that single guys don't look at events because almost none of them are open to single guys

  • Shadow22

    Shadow22

    5 years ago

    Men seemed to be charged more or excluded from certain events and just give up and don’t bother

  • Mask_007

    Mask_007

    5 years ago

    Hi O.P. i think you are the first person to say that. Usually is the opposite. They do everything and anything to stop single guys to attend. To the point they make as a financial insult.(not just for the value but as well what do you have for what you pay). But that is referring to VIC, I would not know how works in other estates.

  • DanyBR

    DanyBR

    5 years ago

    I'd keen on, but I've never been to these events before and I don't know anyone that would be interested in going with me. I feel it would be ackward to be there by myself without knowing anyone. Besides, I'm straight and not Bi and I wouldn't like to go to an event full of guys

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    I attended that party as the single guy. I liked that we spoke beforehand, I think that's a really good way to screen for creepy behaviour, although not foolproof. I didn't feel uncomfortable attending at all, and I enjoyed chatting to both the men and the women, it was a fun weekend. I had zero expectations other than to meet some like minded folk, and the couples there were awesome and very welcoming. I've attended events with partners and solo, it's definitely harder solo and forces you out of your comfort zone. Thanks for having me along you lot. Everyone left too early on the Sunday, I ventured down to the upper corner of the dam and lay around, naked, swimming for hours.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Ill take single guy ticket.. ill be on my best behaviour

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    My personal experience is price too high ($150-180), only few couples attended due to Saturday is the big day here where single guys aren't allowed.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Do you ever hold events down south around Canberra or south coast I would be interested in attending

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    I am very interested to check out these events and broaden my sexual horizons

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    I always thought you kinda had to come with a partner hence why I haven't attended yet I would love to attend a party

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    @rhp country. Reason why they register is so they can be noticed as being an active guy. They don't necessarily want to go to the event its just self advertising so peoe look and click on their profile.. Just my perception

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    I am single. I encourage and concentrate on getting single guys to my Meet and Greets. Even going as low as putting the events on other sites just to increase numbers. One event. I had over 200 guys say they were coming. Interested, excited. Only 2 turned up! It was a free event. Of the women who said they would come? 100% turned up. Couples 75% turned up. Men don’t seem to have the confidence maybe? If they don’t like the way they are or feel they aren’t attractive, that needs to change. Either their mindset or they change themselves physically until they are happy and feel comfortable. We need men. We want men. Not all women are bi and invited to join couples. Where are all the classy, well mannered men with dirty minds and the confidence to attend events?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    because usually we are excluded.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    well to be honest i have never been as a single guy I have when i was partnered but never as a single guy cause to be honest i thought there would be to many single guys, may have to reconsider going then. as im a fun heathy respectful guy just didnt want to turn up to one of those and 70% were all single guys and not far for couples and woman with so many guys around

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Hi RHP Country, I’ve been to parties when I was in a relationship but now I’m single I feel I have to prove myself as a descent, respectful single male and I’m on this site to try and find a female partner to go to parties with so I’m not going as a single male and being charged double price or more . As mentioned in other replies us single males are over stocked at play parties? Cheers keep enjoying

  • RHP

    RHP User

    4 years ago

    Hi guys, We have had problems where we have invited single guys only to have no shows which left a bit of a catfight . It was fascinating to observe. Finding good looking , responsible , solid RELIABLE , guys that can charm the pants off a girl is a challenge, we've now dubbed them the one in a hundred . Those guys are always welcome .