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Single guys playing with a lady in an Open Marriage
November 19 2018
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RHP User
7 years ago
Im unattended and i honestly am all for it and love when a lady gets what she whats but in saying that im not to keen on being a problem in a relationship more of a solution
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RHP User
7 years ago
Hello Kitty and I are in an Open Relationship and free to play with others. We do share with each other what we're up to, but certainly don't need a novel on anything. I am fine to play with another lady as long as everyone is aware.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I for one am cautious about playing with an attached woman. I have no wish to be involved in a situation with an angry partner that finds out his female partner has been playing with another guy behind his back. So even though she might say she has "permission" to play, I'm going to ask a few questions to satisfy myself that she does. If the answers don't add up,
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RHP User
7 years ago
It's less of a risk in the sense you know the lay of the land and the emotional boundaries. I can give you more (drink, date, flirting, chat, post play cuddles) and know it won't be interpreted beyond what it is. That said. Setting expectations is a golden rule if any play attached or single. I also find having a partner meet Abi helps so they see our dynamic and that makes all feel very comfortable.
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compressor
7 years ago
Hi Sxymature, just had a look at your profile and love what I see. I would love to play with and pleasure you for sure and wish I was there with you right now
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RHP User
7 years ago
Wouldn’t bother me
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FeistyFatty
7 years ago
Same here. After both of us being on RHP for many years now and getting totally over being asked the same questions over and over. We keep the script short (availability, hosting arrangements, rules/boundaries etc) and once they start asking about the other person we simply say, "This is a solo profile not my couples profile. So lets focus on that...."
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FeistyFatty
7 years ago
Hit send too early lol.... i also do not play pr chat with single men at all. Ive found, just my experience over the last 8 years, that they in particular are completely clueless of Open Marriages. To the extent of actually implying that i must be dissatisifed with my hubby (laughable, seriously laughable). Married or Attached men only, they have thus far understood the dynamics of whats involved with sharing a significant other...... the love, the trust, the honesty, the bond, how it is a complimentary act not a supplementary one.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Thanks guys... I am finding it interesting to read both points of view... Michael and I are always completely open and honest with one another and that’s the only way it works for us.
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RHP User
7 years ago
It's always nice to be able chat with people in a similar situation. It's also fairly rare for me, so I will ask questions about the partners if I'm with somebody else who is non-monogamous. No particular preference for attached over single tho. Great posts from you and your hubby btw! It's given me some great insights.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Thanks for the comments Sydcity, I’ll message privately, always happy to chat
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RHP User
7 years ago
Thanks SYDcity for your comment... Glad you like our posts... just out there asking each and everyone’s point of view and taking from it!
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Dirtyandfriendly
7 years ago
I don't think it's about clueless men, I think a lot are just getting you to tell them how it works to get themselves off. If they are asking for a lot of detail about your sex life with your partner and it's really dragging on and you are going in circles it's generally just so they get off. I've had a few friends who over the years liked the dynamic of an open relationship, but they went through a lot of men who just seemed to waste time. I am cautious, but pretty open minded and there are signs you sort of know when it's not an open one, but a secret one. My next relationship will be like that, I dream of the day it happens.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Dirtyandfriendly I feel that is what is happening sometimes, hope you have luck finding a lady. Open Marriage is a wonderful thing and works well for us 😉
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RHP User
7 years ago
I've been with couples before and had opportunities to be intimate with there wives and I believe if all parties are OK with what happens then treat the lady with respect but more importantly treat the lady like someone you would love to be with intimately. If only for a moment then so be it. Hope this helps ;)
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countrytouch82
7 years ago
As a single man, I am always curious about the nature of any relationship, and certainly how it works between yourself and your male partner in an open relationship, as any learning about relationships I'm sure is beneficial for myself if and when it happens in the future. So yes, I would probably be one that asks things about the male half. It is also so that I know what thoughts and feelings come up on both sides, especially as I would likely consider a swinging or similar experimental relationship, assuming I met a suitably inclined partner. The crux of the matter is, although I would be flattered to be chosen (for 1 on 1 sex), I don't want to just jump at any opportunity given to me, but I wish to know that I a good choice for you (for the time), as well as you being a right person for me (for the time), and that the male half is well aware that I only wish the best for everyone involved. In any case the far majority of sex for myself has been with couples; although they have always been together at the time, so if I have questions about the man, I have been able to ask the man directly, and not only through the woman partner.
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RHP User
7 years ago
We have a couple we are very good friends with, before we swapped and played, and whenever either of us or all are together or mixed in anyway something usually stirs up lol. It's just what happens now..freedom to be with and share and all are aware and OK. Kinda nice but is maybe only twice a year when we catch up from interstate. So we can answer the forum question from any angle ;-)
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AKAHunk
7 years ago
I think there are a few questions that need to be asked in that situation around boundaries etc, but as long as I know the woman has permission to play it's all good. I find the whole open marriage and/or cuckold scenario super hot... the idea of a wife going home to tell her husband what she's been up to....😍😍😍
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RHP User
7 years ago
Some very interesting points of view. I think the odd question about the ladies partner is not out of the question just to make sure all parties are honest and above board. No one wants to get involved in a possibly ugly situation. For me at this stage I prefer couples or attached ladies as I am not looking for a permanent relationship more of an ongoing fwb as they say. All the best to everyone in their search.
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RHP User
7 years ago
For me an how i love an enjoy sex an being attached it all comes down to whether your in open relationship which is fine in ur case. An for the attached people i think its fine if its not after an affair or some1 to move onto but just looking for some1 who can meet an fulfil eachs others sexual desires that they cant get at home.. without commitments or strings but just for the pleasure of being able to have a women who has a sexual appetite like mine an enjoys an loves to make video oir wild hot sex nites
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mr_ruby
7 years ago
I don't care if you're attached as long as you aren't cheating on that person. I'm part of a couple and we discuss everything we do - dates, drinks, parties, going together or with other people we always chat about it a lot beforehand. I'm interested to ask OP why you asked this question. Have you had guys that are uncomfortable with your relationship or your husband? I think there's a bit of primal jealously that everyone in the scene experiences but getting over that is the hard part for some.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I am fortunate to have a friend with benefits that I met through this site who is indeed happily married. She opened up about it after a couple of visits and it doesn't bother me at all. Her relationship is her business. I don't ask questions about it and respect her family life. We have wonderfully sesual sex and bothe enjoy each others company. She probably visits once a week, sometimes twice if she has the time. All in all I would say its working out well for both of us.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Sxymature, Oh if I only had the chance of meeting someone like you, I constantly jerk off dreaming of you pretty well, I try to think I'm okay but my hard cock is just looking for you all the time, I have tried different directions and it has not worked
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RHP User
7 years ago
I read a lot of profiles that have issues with attached people and then they want to know if your wife knows or not... blah, blah, it goes on. I think guys asking you a thousand questions about your partner is insecurity that sees the need to compete. It is not about connecting. I have been online since the 80s and before you say bullshit, I lived in London and Los Angeles up until mid 2000s, so we did have internet and chat back in the beginning was pretty much HTML... If you don't know what that is, no matter. In all this time, i have only met one person from the net that has progressed to an intimate and now powerful connection. A/ She is married, Bi and sought to be controlled by a man. B/ I am also married in a relationship with a woman I have loved for over 30 years of marriage who is Vanilla in every sense and would not understand my need to dominate. Do I care that she is attached and cheating or not... it is her life and her choice and that choice is not for me to judge as I do not walk in her shoes. I know I love and care for her and relish the small time that we steal to be together. She too does not judge me. We talk about each others partners but not in a way that would create a hatred. We communicate as adults and are confidantes to each other's life. My marriage since being with her is 10 times better and the most important thing whether you have approval of spouse or not is discretion. Where am I going? Simple... rules are meant to be broken and you need to know the rules so as to know when to break them. You would have to be a fool to let something special that is lacking in your life pass you by because of the out of date stance of society. Monogamy maybe for you, but it is not for me. I am more Latin or European in my views and that comes from living in multiple cultures in my lifetime. The only thing that matters is the connection between you and that person. It is only between you and that person. It is my body and who I share my body with is of no business of anyone else. I give my body, my heart and my mind to my wife and she is my soul mate. What I share and feel with my submissive is not part of the pie that I give to my wife. It is a completely different pie and they cannot be compared in anyway. Church can say I am a sinner, but I refuse to accept a judgement of my person that giving another human being pleasure, caring for them or loving them is at odds with Gods will or approval. The church is outdated and is not about good rather than control of humanity. Monogamy is outdated from when it was deemed by society as the way... we now live twice as long and Monogamy was forced upon women to keep them faithful whilst the man went to war where he raped and pillage other women... Woman are the prisoner of society and their sexuality has been imprisoned by man (the Church) and it is now the actions of women that are carrying on the imprisonment and judging women who explore sexuality as Bad. I cannot agree with that logic
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RHP User
7 years ago
I am happily married to my husband and have a single FWB that I've been seeing for around 7 months now. My FWB has even met my hubby after a couple of months seeing each other. I do have a busy life and try to see him on a fortnightly basis, otherwise it is longer. He treats me with respect, care and I have an awesome connection with him. He has another lady he sees whom I've met as well (and played with too). And I must say my marriage remains strong and I love my husband more every day. Eventually I am sure it will stop but in the meantime I'm enjoying every part of being the naughty wife going off to play 😈
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RHP User
7 years ago
I’m a single guy I really believe it’s not my concern if the woman I am seeing is in an open relationship,married,single or has a boyfriend it her concern I’m just out looking for some fun.
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RHP User
7 years ago
So I'm a married man in an open and I play with who ever I can.I've been married for 30 years and I love my wife dearly, we have offspring aged 20 & 22 years old. We both immigrated to Australia in the '89, after we had kids many things changed, including my employment status. Long story short we fed the kids and paid the mortgage and did a few hard yards. There was a silver lining in the dark cloud because we live between the beach and a national park with free BBQ's so life was as great as it can be on a shoe string budget. The kids certainly didn't lack for attention, somewhere along the way Wifey's libido failed to fire on both cylinders (I'm a bike nut).Eventually our mismatched libidos became an issue, initially she would have a few drinks to help her perform her "wifely duties". This became tragic when she fell out of bed during a romp. Somewhere along the way I discovered the "sexy" side of the web. I also read that book "Sex at Dawn" and one thing I took on board was that cheating in a marriage was unsustainable, especially for the male. So we had those first awkward conversations, she would rather I saw a working girl but that was out of the question because it would have been financially irresponsible on our budget at the time. Fast forward, she gave a "hall pass" and the deal included that she could see someone too, fair's fair isn't it? She also said that if I did screw around she didn't want to know about it. Sure enough a divorcee approached me saying that she wanted a FWB and so we got together for that, we still do occasionally, after 3 years. There are others who have been lovers too. Some time later Wifey asked me if I had found a lover, and I told her I had. Although she was prepared for this it still shocked her. We reaffirmed that she was free to "play around" because fair's fair and also it might help reignite her libido. Wifey is a bit wary of all social media and not especially into the WWW scene. This means that she doesn't do Farcebook Twatter or any other social media, apart from the What's Upp for a few people in the work scene, She certainly doesn't do RHP, Tinder or anything else that I do. I think we all know that women attract men more than men attract women. A volunteer worker at her work scene eventually worked his way into her life, initially she thought he was wanker. She slowly started to see that he had a better side to him and she thawed out. They started seeing each other quite a bit and became quite close, until his wife found out...Right now Wifey is seeing a fair bit of her bloke because his wife is away for awhile. We are now in uncharted waters because a few weeks back we both went away with our respective partners. Since then I have stopped seeing one and started up with another woman.The night before last we both didn't come home, anyway I was knackered from working, cavorting and buying another motorcycle so she invited her bloke over to keep her company. No dramas...
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RHP User
6 years ago
From my experience (as a single guy in Melbourne) I like to chat with both the husband and wife beforehand (over the phone and/or in person) to make sure everyone’s comfortable and on the same page. Once that trust has been built, or we all realise that the other party is not completely crazy, then there have been great meets without the husband present.
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RHP User
6 years ago
We play together as a general rule but if Mrs is in the mood and I’m away working she seeks out a toy to play with. Though she won’t play with a toy that has an owner who doesn’t know about it but she always finds it funny how many guys think that there the next Adonis or Casanova and will give her the greatest sex ever then the questions start coming in like can I sneak over after your hubby has left or we could meet while he is watching a movie or I’m very discreet so your hubby won’t know and all the usual completely unaware that I probably know before them if she is going to use them for her pleasure or not. (Guys no offence but for us and especially her any we/she plays with are just toys a living dildo basically)
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Sawadee
6 years ago
If a woman has the approval of her hubby and they are both happy to meet over a coffee or drink and discuse the posibilities and theres good chemistry , happy days.. You cant guess what a person is like just by a profile and a few pics ? If you meet face to face , then you get the full picture. If you dont click, well'' it was a nice coffee anyway...
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Playful2looking
6 years ago
No problem.. but whether it is a male or female ..I would ask if their partner is ok with this.. don't like sneaky cheaters.I would not be happy if i was the reason the marriage or partnership broke up.. I would not be too nosey.. but would ask once is this is okay with your partner.. I know they have a single profile. but still like to hear yes its ok with my partner...if they suggested their partner would like to watch that is ok. but not necessary...
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the2ofus4you
6 years ago
We are in an open relationship, although we do prefer too play together. We find it very hard too find guys for the wife here in cairns that can host, and finding a reliable regular guy has been near impossible If there are any married or attatched ladies in cairns looking for a fwb let us know
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RHP User
6 years ago
Quoting 'FatFunFiesty'the dynamics of whats involved with sharing a significant other...... the love, the trust, the honesty, the bond, how it is a complimentary act not a supplementary one. The love between partners who share is immense. And extraordinary to behold. (Not in a relationship now, but you don't get to 45 without some significant ones)
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RHP User
6 years ago
A year on from my previous posts. Mrs Risin is no longer seeing that bloke, his wife came back from an extended trip overseas with their grandies. She spat it because he was cheating on her, again, and is now back under her thumb. Mrs and i agree that he needs to grow a set but it's not likely to happen because she's an abusive wife and keeps his testicles in her hand bag. I know she's abusive because of my TAFE studies which are in the community services area.Right now she's on the cusp of a...err..."connection" with a workmate, who is now a single bloke. The thing is that I know him and we get on well, he has scruples and is not so sure about jumping into bed with her even though they both want to. I have a lady friend who is happy to see me when Wifey wants company but we need to have a sit down and chat to put him at rest.I firmly believe that if Wifey and I had not honest and open chats we probably would have gone our separate ways so, as is often the case, it pays to adapt to changing circumstances and not to dwell on the past.Human interactions can get quite complex can't they?
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RHP User
6 years ago
my two most recent adventures have been with women in open relationships. I am single but I am busy with work and family so I quite like meeting attached women because it is genuine no-strings, and because of that it can be really really good fun. I ask a lot of questions too before i meet an attached woman. I need to know that her partner is cool with their open status: mostly for self protection because I don't want the guy breaking the door down with a sledge hammer while my pants are around my ankles. I also need to know if there are limits that she may have agreed with her partner as to what she might get up to: is kissing allowed; how about...? There are issues of consent and safe sex. I will ask why she wants other lovers, and whether her partner understands and respects those reasons. I need to know that everything between her and her partner is honest, open and transparent. That said my last encounter was with a woman whose partner enjoyed knowing about her other partners. She wanted to take photos and send them to him right there and then. She even passed me the camera. It turned out to be way hotter than I had imagined.
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RHP User
6 years ago
This is a wonderful question. I have been involved with a few women in open marriages and I haven't had any negative experiences. The main reason for this is my overriding rule of "I will never participate in deception." Communication is everything. When first connecting I ask plenty of questions about their relationship because honesty and respecting that their relationship comes first is paramount. Doubly so when kids are involved. Beyond that is about enjoying the intimacy. This has worked out so well for me in the past that I have double-dated with my partner and her husband and his girlfriend. When everyone is on the same page, fun proliferates!
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RHP User
6 years ago
I personally prefer married or attached women and I never had a problem with whether they had an open marriage or just cheated on their husband. It was always all about having fun and enjoying our time together.
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