Single lady letter

This is a copy of a letter that we received from one of our single ladies. She said it was okay to post it on any forums so we choose to do that here. It sums up in full what we are so proud of and what we have created. Have a read and thanks to the single lady member. Here is the letter, she submitted this to Council in support of us and our DA to be the first Council approved Swingers club in Queensland...Australia, as we are open and out there we choose to show you all and keep all our wonderful patrons updated. Thank you to all our wonderful patrons for your support! I have been a member of Couples International for approximately two (2) years. I am a single 42-year-old female with a grown son; I am well educated and have a good job. I reside in Woolloongabba, thus, the club is in my local community. I believe the club to be in a perfect location. There is very little residential in the immediate proximity. There is adequate parking and street lighting for the safety of the patrons. The hours of operation are not in conflict with those of standard businesses, churches or schools that may be in the vicinity. I frequent the club on a regular basis and I find the club to be exceptionally well managed. It is always fully staffed and continually cleaned throughout the evening. When I attend, I am met at reception by an inviting and professional person who requests I sign in and another at the bar who ensures my beverage is stored and handled safely. No person is allowed to get intoxicated to the level that they are invasive of someone else’s comfort. There are no spilled drinks or broken glass on the floor and most definitely no uninvited groping of my person. There is a designated outdoor smoking area for the comfort of smokers and non-smokers. This is definitely a notch above some other nightclubs that I have encountered. Couple International has implemented a club etiquette, which I believe to be of the highest standard, most appropriate and well enforced. It is a club environment and the members express pride by way of behaviours. They follow the etiquettes and encourage other visitors to do the same. The clubs website is very clear about what these etiquettes are and anyone is able to access them online. All new people are given a tour on their first visit and the main etiquettes are highlighted. Members always take time out to welcome new visitors and answer any of their queries in a more relaxed and detailed manner. The club is not for everyone and I would feel that anyone visiting the club for a first time would not return if it did not suit their personal preferences. I visit the club because it is a safe place where I can go as a single woman to relax, forget about my taxing week, enjoy a drink, joke, laugh and dance with people I trust and respect. It is a happy place and when I have had a long week I know I will find a friend to give me a well-needed cuddle, it isn’t all about sex. Rarely do you encounter bad moods or people with nasty dispositions. I feel comfortable to go to this venue on my own. I would not go out socially to any other nightclub by myself. In the times I have visited the club I have never seen a fight or observed other such aggressive behaviour. I have on occasion seen the club management request someone leave because they have not abided club etiquette, normally in relation to uninvited touching. This was handled in the utmost professional manner. The club is very female orientated. There is a strong sense of sisterhood in this environment. Women look out for other women, they nurture which is quite lovely to observe. I have seen wives and single girls attend the club for the first time lacking in self-confident about their bodies, self-depreciating and drained from life’s hardships. After a few visits, you see this same woman bud into a confident, strong, sexy woman in control of her life. It is exceptionally unusual to hear anything derogatory about someone’s person. It is more often then not, quite the opposite. This is not an environment where husbands intimidate naïve wives to partake in sexual activities to satisfy their perverse pleasures. Most of the couples I encounter are well balanced, respectful of each other’s wishes and boundaries and more importantly happy within their relationships. They all have their rules, which are composed to suit their individual preferences and personalities. I have many friends that are truly happy in their relationships that do not enjoy this lifestyle. I do not see any difference in the quality of their relationships. My non-swinging friends go to Apex dinners on a Friday night and others go to Couple International and enjoy the lifestyle. They all get up the next day and take their children to soccer, netball or partake in whatever their life commitments may be. Morality Issues. Some in the community have preconceived ideas and are not open to any further understanding. Please, rid your mind of pictures of mass orgies as you walk through the door and keys in bowls. Women are now liberated and no longer at the whim of their husband’s, unless they chose to be. Most women in our communities work, have there own money, chose how many children they will have, are equal shareholders in marital assets and have resources to leave a bad relationship should they need to. Not so long ago, women would have been ostracised from their communities and churches for working once they were married or taking a contraceptive. We have brought domestic violence and child abuse out of the cupboard and tabled it. We all knew these things were about but they were best left in the home and not spoken of in polite company, not unlike the lifestyle. This appears silly as the lifestyle is not illegal, the people that partake are not hurting anyone and it does not involve children or animals. Bringing real life issues into the open gives a better awareness to the community and provides the opportunity for professionals to be involved versus the less ethical management, which we are all aware operate in other parts of the sex industry. My point is UNDERGROUND cultures are more harmful to our communities. Time has brought about change and most of it has been for the better, especially for women. It would be terrible shame for us to go backwards and adopt old precedents. Let’s keep moving forward. We all appreciate that this may bring about new challenges but the past has shown us that change brings about more good then bad. We all make judgements and this is very necessary for us to determine our personal morals and boundaries. We all have the right to make a judgement call that suit us, our lives, families; suits our beliefs, and morals. This may even encompass making a choice not to associate with anyone that enjoys this lifestyle. That’s your choice and most reasonable people will accept this as your choice. You do not have to agree but it would be enlightening if you did not condemn either, thus placing obstacles in the face of others choices. J. K.