Small town syndrome

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  Massage_Donor

  one year ago

  I can only speak from second-hand experience. One couple I've met a few times actually bought a townhouse in my city and they come up most weekends to enjoy the scene. They do this to open more opportunities, and avoid the small town complications. Another couple I've been chatting to recently live an hour and a half away. I offered to drive there to meet them. They declined because small town reasons, so they'll either get a hotel here or (more probably) we'll meet in a motel half way.

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  Flirty2020

  one year ago

  We lived in a small, country town for several years. We found it to be very cliquey. There was a lot of gossip and the locals were of the opinion that they knew more about you, than you did about yourself. We would not recommend swinging nor doing anything like that with fellow residents of the same small town that you live in. Sooner or later things may go pear shaped and you might then find yourselves on the other end of a scandalous gossip campaign. It has happened to a few swingers that we know. We recommend that you rather arrange to meet up with others, on those days / nights that you spend in your closest city or larger town. For us it was a 90 minute drive. We also recommend that you do not tell playmates in what small town you actually live in. You don’t want them rocking up on your doorstep.

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  Alex_Lover

  one year ago

  I'm sure small town has some impact, but what you're describing is our standard experience everywhere. Brisbane, Sydney, Melbourne, Tasmania. In our experience, the majority of people in online dating are just time wasters, with little to no intention of meeting. I believe for couples accounts, it's often the case that the male is always looking, hoping to get someone interested. When he does & he's wasted another couples time, chatting and talking about meeting. THEN he will speak with his wife about it, and she will veto his whole fantasy. They dissappear. Rinse and repeat. That's assuming he wasn't a fake single guy account in the first place. Single women & single male accounts, are rarely better. Mostly time wasters. All of which is to say, don't feel despondent about it... as much as that's possible. Most of us genuine people are in the same leaky boat - Alex.

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  RHP User

  one year ago

  I always tend to find a fun hookup when I travel. I’m in Christchurch presently for the cricket and found a local girl through hinge. Same last year at Wellington. Also the port towns across Australia usually provide and it’s perhaps because I’m a bit more balls out about being here for a hook up. (this kind of ties in with my post about being honest as the day is long about profile intentions).

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