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Sniffing around the chatrooms
December 21 2018
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FeistyFatty
7 years ago
Why do you assume people aren't active, or need to be more active on the site? I know for myself, when I engage in a chat, I like to choose someone I'm half interested in and do it on an external messaging app. Not just chat for chattings sake, no one's got time for that.
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DynamicCouple36
7 years ago
Exactly And it is precisely that predatory behaviour, and the barrage of private whispers, many of them saying disrespectful , lewd things, that have chased away most of the quality couples & females. As a result the chat rooms on here have died
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RHP User
7 years ago
Hi, Not very often I bother going in very few know how to talk or write and being a female is like ,,,what.... all guys and I like talking or writing if its something of value other wise I,m gone pretty quick now , I like some thing nice to talk about and around my age other wise what do I have in common. quess I do have a life and its filled with substance not some wishy washy rubbish not my style, ...noeleena...
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FredAndGinger2
7 years ago
This RHP discussion forum is much more lively and more valuable than the chatroom.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I think you all make great points. I also think we are the ones who can change this. I think we'd benefit from more chats, age ranges, topics. I'll try to answer the questions in order. Why do I think the site would benefit from being busier? Aside from the obvious cash injection driven by increasd traffic which would correlate with increased subscribers, I hate messaging in any of the RHP client except chat. Normal messages are aboutas efficient as email vs jabber when compared to chat functions. If I'm qsking a lot of questions I don't wanna open and close messages all day. Yes it's dying, we can fix it and make it what we want. This could be remedied by having more high brow chat options. You could talk about Emmanuel Kant in one while I could a manual car in another. Great way to meet others that share your interests.
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RHP User
7 years ago
There used to be heaps of people in chat a few years ago. On busy nights there was a queue to get in as numbers capped at 100. There was a strong contingent from WA; social outings were arranged, games played, recipes shared 😂 But most have moved on or avoid due to the behaviour DC mentioned. There were also people that didn't like those topics being discussed on a "sex site". They deem it to only be for wanking or fucking on cam.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Isnt there a million and one sites out there , that you can chat about your day. Or most other topics , without chating about sex. Go to one of those if your unhappy. And let the players play
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RHP User
7 years ago
There's a million and one sites for sure, but they don't have the RHP community on them. For the most part there's a sense of sexual enlightenment in the swinging community. The realisation the emotional and mental monogamy are not the same as physical monogamy.
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3SM_Events
7 years ago
Sad thing is if we weren’t active in the chatrooms when we first joined RHP we wouldn’t be here now. As Baz mentioned the WA contingent used to be strong and we made many friends we still have to this day in there. No other avenue on RHP worked for us and still doesn’t. We use it to host events and that’s pretty much it now as no interest is ever returned. In a real-time environment you can banter and get to know distinct personalities while having fun at the same time. Alas, they are no more.
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AnnieWhichway
7 years ago
Since l visited the chat rooms. It was hectic in there. Not sure if RHP changed things to inadvertently kill it. They have tried their best to kill the forums as well through inconsistent and nonsensical moderation that has made many leave. But back on topic OP. Does it not make sense that people use the chat rooms for the purpose of the site? They are not there to chat to another male. They can do that down the pub. And would the "chicks" enjoy being sucked up to? It's always good for the ego to have several seagulls waiting for a "chip". Maybe you are a bit deflated by the competition. So hard to get a chip......
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RHP User
7 years ago
I guess I get those single male invites out of sympathy. But for real, we're all in this together. If using the chat room in the current manner causee the functionality of the site to decrease, it benefits all of us to work to improve it.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I’ve never had any issues with the chat rooms... In fact there’s been a few people approach me there that had seen my comments in here, that I didn’t even know read the forums.... I have however noticed their patronage drop over time though...
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RHP User
7 years ago
I’ve never chat roomed here (female) but have on a site I used to belong to a coupe and found it was very cliquey... Getting acknowledgment of being present in the chat room was liking trying to search for gold in a gold mine. Saying hello and waiting for a response was no more productive than watching paint dry. It was incredibly hard to contribute to as responses were ignored and it felt like I was reading conversation 1 - that I wasn’t privy to and 2 - that I wasn’t being encouraged to participate in via receiving responses from others. Thus I ended up feeling like a stalker to the chat rooms and ultimately reduced my usage til it stopped.
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DynamicCouple36
7 years ago
Red mustang Yes, thats what happens a lot. People simply ignore the new arrivals and don’t even greet. It’s become very boring
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RHP User
7 years ago
I think personally people are too concerned with fucking or trying to get a fuck, that they forget how to engage with people in conversation... It shows people’s true intentions to be honest....
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MsSuperFoxy
7 years ago
I do like watching the seagulls to hot chips in the chat room. It's very entertaining. OP the seagulls do not stay long. They eventually move on. If you are polite and respectful in the chatroom then there shouldn't be any issues. There are some really good people in the chat room on here. I know, as I have met quite a few and they are my friends in real life.They just need to gain your trust. Just keep being you in there. Eventually, over time people do notice respectful behaviour. Ms Foxy
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curiousgirl35
7 years ago
Only fairly newer to chat ( a couple of months now) and I've noticed that when on there the guys seem to be the only one talking to me mostly,other than pleasantries from couples and the rare single woman. Im not really sure why that is, because rarely do any of them view my profile to rule me out etc. Perhaps they are only chatting to people theyve met?
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RHP User
7 years ago
God forgive for this.... But DC and Mustang... The chat rooms really aren’t that dissimilar to these forums...except they’re in real time...ish.. But before I go on, everyone was once a newbie to the forums and the chat....so lessons have already been learnt.... Ok disclaimer .. check. So we all have control of the topic of conversation...so when it’s boring, or you’re busy sitting on the sidelines waiting for someone to meet and greet you like a celebrity or some other expectation ... jump in and define a topic..that way people will notice others, and conversation can become as fluid as it should be like you’re in a group scenario at the pub...
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RHP User
7 years ago
Lol antichrist - I think the difference for me is I can contribute to the forums and not expect a personalised response to my every contribution - that’s not the intent of the forums and how lengthy would the threads get if everyone sought a personalised reply to their contribution! The chat rooms are more for the reply and response in real time ish... so not getting that real time ish reply and response can be a deterrent. Given I haven’t ventured into the chat room here on RHP I can’t say what it is like and was only comparing to the other site... You are spot on in the fact that you get out what you put in so maybe I did limit my contribution to the chats or wasn’t persistent enough to keep piping up and saying hello etc to make a difference or to be noticed...
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RHP User
7 years ago
Red.... I do see how that the lack of reply would be a deterrent...it helps break the nervousness down of being in a new place and feeling as though you’re welcome not shunned... I’ve just always just jumped straight in, living by the motto “fear not the reaction, but the regret of inaction...”
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RHP User
7 years ago
Anti... Not a bad motto to have....
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RHP User
7 years ago
Quoting 'Redmustang' I’ve never chat roomed here (female) but have on a site I used to belong to a coupe and found it was very cliquey... Getting acknowledgment of being present in the chat room was liking trying to search for gold in a gold mine. Saying hello and waiting for a response was no more productive than watching paint dry. It was incredibly hard to contribute to as responses were ignored and it felt like I was reading conversation 1 - that I wasn’t privy to and 2 - that I wasn’t being encouraged to participate in via receiving responses from others. Thus I ended up feeling like a stalker to the chat rooms and ultimately reduced my usage til it stopped. Too cliquey. Existing regulars were not at all friendly or welcoming to newcomers.On the contrary, all those people did was make derogatory comments and hurl insults around.All in the first few minutes!As a result I never bothered to try the RHP chat room.
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curiousgirl35
7 years ago
@antichrist i do usually pose questions or comments to get a topic going ( besides the bloody weather) but it generally falls on deaf ears. Ive stopped going on so much for that reason. Feels like what others have said sometimes ( people looking to wank or whatever) its a shame really.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I agree it’s a shame that people are so focussed on getting off, not that there’s anything wrong with that, but they miss so much of the actual fun I reckon... I reckon that they should also open the chat up to guests too...it was my sole reason for upgrading last time, but I don’t use it much at all now...
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RHP User
7 years ago
We have been members for a while and the chat rooms used to be so much more fun. They used to be a great place to chat to people and "feel" them out before meeting them. We'd spend hours chatting to people on weekends if we couldn't get out and meet people in person or have people over. Now they are boring. People hardly chat at all. I hardly ever go in anymore and when I do it's hi how are you? And that's it type stuff MrsB
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RHP User
7 years ago
Seems the chat rooms have potentially lost their impact due to the cliques that ruled them and then the new voices being unsure as to how to participate when chats are flying left right and centre and you’re trying to catch up with what’s going on at the same time of thinking of a witty remark that will invoke a response.. Either that or we all utilise messaging apps and keep the chats there and thus more focussed to who we have potential attraction to and likelihood to meet as opposed to a free for all chat.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Dc - missed you in the chat room!!!! I thought I’d give it a go tonight!!
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MnauMnau
7 years ago
Chat rooms are waist of time. Tried once, years ago when I signed up. Couldn't bothered since.
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madotara69
7 years ago
A few years ago, before the app and you would have to had been there kinda thing. Like trying to explain to someone who drives a swift or ex taxi...what it was like up on the mountain at Bathurst during the V8 (Chevy predominantly touring cars) had a bit of a race with a fine line between acceleration and disintegration attracted enough maniacs...cut down with an axe... a pole (big fucker) carrying the network data cables and the mountains power supply, they cut it down, 'Bob shot the Sheriff, but he did not shoot the Deputy' Flamming dunny rolls lit up the night skies, pelted in any direction, poor buggers that looked up when they heard a slight rustle in the sky, stream of hot shit paper hit square between the eyes, they most ended on a corner of Market and Pitt with a sign round their necks, saying 'blinded by shit' selling papers.Cars driving into the park full noise, doin donuts and red line, engine sing'n, dust in the air and a scream now and then if one of sometimes a few Riff Raff were run over by them, mostly the favourite scars of all, were those or them."TIMBER" shouted by those in the know, thousands if not hundreds up on the mountain, turned towards all the commotion, maybe 100 maniacs per side, took to the power cable (still live) and the mountain erupted as a strength of pride, a 'Tug of War" heaved and hoe'd for a long while.If any car drove into the park, stirring up the dust, even a fully restored early model V8 panel van, sign written air brush painted each side, "Man and Van, personally thought, 'there's too much of a gap between Man and and and and and Van.... none the matter as it stalled, and as with all the other's, crowds rushed in, rolled and burned, each at some moment had it's final with a mother fucker loud booooom sort of explosion from the sealed tube tail shafts blowing in the heat of the inferno.'Mad Max' i'd say best described the Mount Bathurst moments, some said "a little anti social", but mainly in regards with a round about in town had tried to be moved out of the way, had been heard murmured by no one in particular. Yeah back in the day (before the app) when we would head into the chat rooms, Tara's birthday one night, four post bed, mirrors for it's ceiling, pink fluffy dice, we were all just snug in there, of our own delights, a proper thing that covers, curtains four post beds from Bali it was, a fan blowing a gentle breeze, the computer mounted off a corner post, cammed up, Tara's birthday list with 69 favourite songs and Audio 'on' We found a guy she liked, Quietly I did anyhow, asked him if because it's Tara's B'day, would he mind camming up with her while putting on a bit of a show ? He was awesome and said ....'sure, let me know when She is ready to cam up' .... so we did and Tara had a blast, mostly moaning though, watching a new friend and dazzled by his way he does playing with his cock, but she let go when he shot one off asking her should he ? Tara couldn't speak so properly, but her want and yes and now please and OMG mmmm, sort of thing, if you know what i mean ;) lol Then we fucked on cam, including foreplay and good songs, time with our new friend 'guy'...and while fucking on cam, it's distracting to try read comments in chat streaming and it's on, 100 dirty fuckers in the room (full) well the guys take on too their own, which made Tara's Birthday, one we will never forget and fondly ponder until we take off in our space ship 'set the controls to the heart of the sun'....and old near done. Oh and That young hot guy up remote, working the mines...Well It certainly made his night a day, not will he forget. When Tara clicked on him and ''Baaaam' full screen masturbating scene at the very best for pleasing Tara while in such pleasure. So the guys 'seagulls waiting for a chip ?' you'd and you won't...have to had been there, the in house banter, ideas, suggestions, compliments and -----------------------------------gentlemen that amongst the visual enjoyment, found joy amongst each other as commentators, mostly only all in where the audience had a dabble with interrupting us...."can you please zoom up your camera" Back in the day when 'That sort of behaviour' was hard wired to the desk top before the app. We all know what happened when Eve ate the apple... 'Eve said to Adam, "catch me if you can" it's been the same old story ever since the world began' Eddie Lives :) It's not chasing women that wears a bloke out...it's once they let him catch them that does. (seagulls and chips?) Other than that, chat rooms for chatting and a live time chit chat at that too, since before the app, all changed and sort of fizzed out, so good luck....'cam chat' tho, if you're chasing the whole kit and caboodle. Mado Mado Tara xx
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