Socialising with RHP'ers outside of the scene

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  OpalRose

  4 months ago

  Absolutely. Travelled twice with one couple, a half dozen nye’s and all sorts of plutonic dates over 15 years. And 65 guests at our wedding came from rhp. Our focus isn’t a body count. It’s genuine relationships with people of a similar mindset. Sex is a bonus.

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  seekandplay

  4 months ago

  Me! I have met some beautiful people here, men and women - all zero sexual encounters and formed lovely friendships. Friends who have checked in on me through a divorce, when I’ve moved house, when I’m sick… just genuinely lovely souls. I chat with someone who lives on the other side of Australia and we’d love to catch up one day. I meet with beautiful women in Melbourne for dinners and drinks. I get accidental pocket phone calls from RHP friends and I run out of work meetings to make sure they’re ok because why are they video calling me at lunch time 😆 (I hope this person smiles when they read this!) For me, I think it’s really nice to have people who just ‘get it’. My long term friends just don’t understand it at all. I feel judged. I see the way they look at me differently at times. But I share my stories anyway because I have zero shame. Lifestyle friends - to have those beautiful open conversations with others who just understand… it’s the best. You don’t feel judged. You’re all on the same page. It’s just nice. I think it also helps to share experiences. Parties to not go to, help each other be wing women/men if needed. It’s been unexpected but something that I’ve really enjoyed from this place.

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  JustAManNextDoor

  4 months ago

  Being relatively new to RHP, 4 months or so, it didn’t take long to notice there’s actually a decent sense of community here. Between the deep and thoughtful forum posts and the “what did I just read?” ones, the familiar faces in live chat and the ongoing banter that spills over from there, it’s pretty clear a lot of us are after more than just a quick hello between the sheets. Being in this lifestyle for over half my life, I have been lucky enough to pick up a few genuine friendships along the way. One of those very much nailed the friend part of a long-term FWB arrangement, and honestly, I’m genuinely grateful for that. Proof that it’s not always just about what happens behind closed doors. Life’s for living and ideally sharing a laugh, a drink, or a decent conversation with people you actually like. As I get older (and allegedly wiser), I find I really value meeting people who are looking for more than just a moment of fun and a disappearing act. Bring it on I say! Boundaries and blurred lines indeed!

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  Ourmalibu

  4 months ago

  🙋🏼‍♀️ We have absolutely formed friendships from RHP with lots of beautiful people and we catch up outside of the ‘swinging scene’ with them. We never thought this would happen when we first signed up on here. We are very blessed to have found so many new friends 😊

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  Cucknshells

  4 months ago

  I initially joined over 10 years ago to connect with other people in a similar situation. It was all new to me and I wanted to talk to people about their experiences. The forums were very active then and it was a great open community from all over Australia. I lived in Bumfuck Nowhere and it was a way for me to interact with similar likeminded people. In Melbourne two beautiful woman organised a meet and greet after the night of Saint and Sinners. Was so good meeting people in person that you had chatted with in the forums. Everyone was so open and welcoming. We were able to travel to Sydney and attend a couple of events there organised by another Forum poster. Perth also organised awesome meet and greets but we missed out of them. Too far away. I made some truly great friendships. Had the most amazing experiences. Introduced my BF to RHP which has been awesome. It was different then but it is so good to see lots of new people joining and finding their people. Shells xx

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  Nightglider

  4 months ago

  Great post my gorgeous friend. You know my feelings in this one without me adding but will add anyway for those who don’t know me. After flying solo on here for the first few years navigating a steep learning curve and learning a lot about my self, I finally formed some truely beautiful connections with the most genuine people. At times I think about pulling away from the lifestyle all but seriously struggle to find the type of connections I find here, where less judgement and more openness is found. It’s become a place I really enjoy, I have girlfriends who I chat to most days. We talk about so much, check in on each other, celebrate wins and support each other through the downs too. Last year I had a 3cm cyst in my breast that needed to aspirated. Two of my RHP girlfriends without thought said they were willing to take a day off work and come with me if I wanted someone as support. I’ve been so blessed. It’s also been nothing like I could have ever imagined when first signing up thinking it was just going to be physical release. I’ve also very much enjoyed our friendship. So beautiful to have a male perspective and feeling that care.

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  55SexyandSingle

  4 months ago

  I have been very fortunate to have connected with many amazing humans through this site (both male and female, and both sexually and platonically), all of whom I am privileged to call my friends, and whose company I very much enjoy. I love the way we can talk so openly about all things sexual as well as just life in general, and I honestly believe that good people attract good people into their universe. A wonderful friend of mine on here once said ‘when you meet a good person and make a good friend, you do everything you can to keep them in your life’ … and I feel blessed to have made some really good friends 💋xx

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  MrandMrsEss

  4 months ago

  We have been here a while and have actually found more social friends than play friends. I do think the added openness makes for a different level of enjoyment even when you’re not planning on taking each other to bed.

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  Sescalinata

  4 months ago

  I've met many people socially from all over Australia through RHP. I have very dear friends here in Perth I met through social meet and greets. It's not something I was expecting when I joined up but it added a fantastic few feathers to the RHP cap.

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  Blueflamingo

  3 months ago

  I have made many amazing RHP friendships over the years, friends who know me better than most. Some connections lasting longer than others. People move on, some leaving the lifestyle to pursue the vanilla world and unfortunately I lost a great friend too a few years ago. The connection seems stronger as I know I can be myself 💯 without judgement. The depth and raw open and honest conversations is something I have never found elsewhere. 🩵🦩x

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  SweetSerenade

  3 months ago

  We have formed some lovely social friendships and some spicy friendshipsin the lifestyle. I guess the thing to be careful of is avoiding going 100% into friendzone and losing the spicy edge.

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