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Swinger couples not allowed to kiss....
November 06 2017
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WineAndFunTimes
8 years ago
We kiss while playing with others however we have met someone in the lifestyle who has numerous food allergies and therefore doesn't kiss others because taking down a detailed list of everything you've eaten/drank recently isn't exactly sexy pillow talk. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
We both do not have a problem spur of the moment thing guys kiss wife while having sex ok with both of us mf kissing ok as is ff kissing very sexy
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
As for us it is a very intimate, passionate & “bonding” act, that can certainly add to ones pleasure. We understand (through our experiences) that for some couples , kissing is something reserved only for them. They find kissing too intimate to share with others. And we fully understand, accept and respect their wishes & preference. We have often wondered why it’s not allowed for some. Is it because it’s seen as being very intimate, very close, the mind & head being associated with ones proverbial “soul” and that kissing is seen as a bonding, of the mind and soul, of ones very being and existence? Whereas oral (as in fellatio & cunnilungus ) is just another extremity / body part? Are they insecure, in their relationship, and as such don’t allow kissing with others? Is there a little jealousy involved? Do they fear that kissing may lead to falling in love ? We generally don’t hook up with randoms and unknown new partners, but prefer instead to get to know people, before deciding to “sleep” with them. This gives us the opportunity to observe / establish / check out their personal hygiene (and habits) before being in a position where we (a) kiss them (b) go down on them (c) sleep with them. It also gives us all an opportunity to talk about boundaries & ground rules, so that we know what they are . That way we don’t step into taboo territory. We would certainly not enjoy, nor feel comfortable, kissing a smoker and or someone with bad breath, obviously diseased & stained teeth and poor oral hygiene. Immaculate personal grooming is thus very important to us. It’s our choice and our preference, to which we are entitled. A good way to ensure that the “dishes & cutlery” are in an acceptably clean (and fresh) condition is to suggest that we all hop into the shower shortly before play. This has worked well as then all concerned are confident that there will not be any unpleasant surprises. We have played with two couples where kissing was not allowed. In the one case she did not want her man kissing Mrs D- insecurity / jealousy issues. In another case, the male of the couple did not enjoy kissing (childhood reasons) and so did not kiss his own wife nor Mrs D, but had no issues with either of us kissing his wife. We still enjoyed the session and had no regrets. The trick is to go with the flow, accept the boundaries as they are / arise and to not let them spoil the enjoyment of the moment. Sometimes we will be prepared to and want to kiss another couple. At other times we won’t. It would depend on our mood, our arousal and how we feel about the other couple. If there was no connection we would not kiss, but then we also would not sleep with them if we did not feel connected. It’s an emotive topic that is sure to cause a debate. - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
but that didn't last long ,lol,there's a certain amount of added passion when kissing but if someone doesn't and everything else gets the tick approval ,then that's their call and we would be good with that and hopefully still have a very enjoyable time - Posted from rhpmobile
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boobsandbusted
8 years ago
but that didn't last long ,lol,there's a certain amount of added passion when kissing but if someone doesn't and everything else gets the tick approval ,then that's their call and we would be good with that and hopefully still have a very enjoyable time - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Kiss awful food allergies. But it is something of a boundry and for their health. So it is something to consider. I met a girl years ago the was allergic to tomato acid and skin would rash out.
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RHP User
8 years ago
When hubby and I started this journey we did so as non kissers. We had an idealised view that it would be something special that would be just between us and kept "sacred" for our relationship. A few experiences later and that went down the can. I love to kiss and it brings an added passion to a sexual encounter which is otherwise just more or less sex. We go with the flow and enjoy each situation as it opens up, but I always enjoy a great kiss along the way. - Posted from rhpmobile
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
Yes we fully understand the part about keeping something special & sacred for oneselves to share as a couple. And that’s quiet acceptable & fair. Our bed at home, for example, is sacrosanct and reserved for us and us alone. We would never share it with anyone. Mr D made the bed with his hands. We consummated our marriage in it and conceived our children in it. It will never be open to any swingers ... - Posted from rhpmobile
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Sawadee
8 years ago
Specially when your face to face.. Going out of your way to avoid it would have to be a dead set passion killer. I mentioned in a recent post when I found a hung guy for my ex for her birthday , I was quite OK with the penetration but pretty uneasy with the kissing ? Anyway I quickly reasoned how hard and cold it would be having one without the other.. I can't think of anyone I was intimate with that we didn't kiss ?
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Sawadee
8 years ago
Agree your marital bedroom is sancosanct .. Some things are non negotiable and that's a biggy..
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RHP User
8 years ago
We both absolutely love kissing, it can be such an erotic adventure with another, discovering the moments of passion. I also believe that one also needs to be totally comfortable with what they are doing with no insecurities. However at the end of the day, complete respect to those that choose this boundary. Each to their own and if that is part of their journey, so be it. We just may not be part of it.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Me and the ex said we were not going to kiss other couples but we both broke that rule on our first encounter. Neither of us got angry and we just carried on. I personally found it very intimate to kiss another and I also found it quite hot watching her. Something I didn't think I would
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RHP User
8 years ago
At a party once, I asked the female half of a couple if I could kiss her (ie on the lips), and she said no. I could have walked, but instead, I asked if I could kiss her anywhere else, and she said yes ;) But certainly, for these likely one off, and likely group encounters, I don't mind. For someone I was seeing on an ongoing basis (ie most likely someone else's partner), I would absolutely need kissing. P.S. At least once, I have also been with a couple in their main bed. So not all have the same boundaries.
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justforthefun44
8 years ago
for use mrs loves kissing women she does not kiss men. just the way it is for use.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I wouldn't (couldn't) have sex with someone without kissing them first. That's the intro so to speak. It's how I like to start things off. Lots of passionate kissing. Also during sex I love to kiss my partner, I would feel like there was something wrong if I couldn't kiss him! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I think no kissing fucks with the memory 😉 😇 See if I can dig up an old thread
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RHP User
8 years ago
https://redhotpie.com.au/Adult-Forums/No-kissing-and-no-single-men-49429-Page8 Disclosure is the key thing. Meander/dissolvedgirl/summer/meander... had a fair bit to say about how we should state we like kissing, be proactive by putting that in our profiles hahaha righto 😉 That and one's honey pot, it's a good read, it's a cracker 👍
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RHP User
8 years ago
Are you kidding me? Jealous/insecure people wanting to swing but not wanting to share 🐒 The dreaded couple rules. Instant softie 😂 Of course they all claim they have no insecurities. What a bloody joke
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SugarSugar69
8 years ago
That feeling of euphoria, makes my legs want to buckle from underneath me. That slow kissing that leads to passionate kissing then neck kissing..... It takes my breath away and makes me feel like I'm drunk. Kissing ignites a flame within me so deep it feels like my soul has been fucked...... So for me kissing is compulsory. I'm a passionate woman and if our kisses are not like this then nothing eles is going to happen. And yes I've kissed both men and woman that have lead to me feeling like this and it leads to the best sex, one could only dream off........ - Posted from rhpmobile
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DynamicCouple36
8 years ago
Yes we love kissing like that too. It makes our hearts race and our legs turn to jelly and go all wobbly. Kissing is so passionate, arousung and utterly delicious. We try to kiss as much as possible when we make love , not just with one another , but also if and when we play with others. It certainly adds to our enjoyment, arousal and passion. It’s like making love with ones mouth, lips and tongue. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Really, I’d need that connection rather than just rut like animals. I couldn’t make out with a lady I had no warmth for. I’d hope the purpose of the forum, was to enable like thinking peeps to get together, and ladies who wanted the kissing and stroking and tenderness to be able to get that, and girls who just wanted a lizard 🦎 between their legs licking 👅 and lapping giving them cum after cum like a Womanizer sex toy, could get that too! So ladies if you’d like to spoon 🥄 and then spoon 🥄 ice cream 🍨 into each other’s 👄 and on the👅 before cuddling into spoons 🥄 position rather than my 👅 licking your toilet 🚽 parts, please, get in iTouch!! Couldn’t resist that last bit!! M_D4 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
That one as we were parting after the first meet n get to know you moments. It was part of our decision process, and hot! Damn! Peachy
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RHP User
8 years ago
Haha I'll give you points for persistence 😂😂 Have to say 'get in iTouch' has a certain ring to it. My new advertising slogan? 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
Kissing is a very important part of these process for me personallybut in saying that as a single guy it's also important to stick to a couples / singles rules and boundaries too. Kissing for me establishs a connection - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Just to clear this up, I meant to contrast kissing them against the simple act of lip to lip kissing. I’ve got to enjoy that, and feel the rush to want the lady more! I’m blissfully happy performing cunnilingus on a sweet, fresh pussy, hairless or otherwise! And I wouldn’t expect a lady to want to suck my lollypop, after hanging in my undies for a couple of hours without a freshen up! Hope that’s out of the way! M_D4 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
It’s the Yorkshire Terrier in me! I just keep going and going!! You’re one I would lick 👅 to death!! M_D4 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Gotta kick things off somehow.
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This_couple
8 years ago
We are just starting out but in putting together our rules, we decided that we were both free to kiss others as much as we want. Playing is a joint decision, of course. No touching until we've stepped aside and had a chat and agreed to go ahead, but we both have pre-approval to make out with whoever. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
You guys have overcome a massive step. And have chatted about boundries. Something many do not even consider when newbies new to the scene. To infinity and beyond.
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This_couple
8 years ago
Yeah, I couldn't imagine trying this without having some in depth discussion and firm ground rules in place. - Posted from rhpmobile
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This_couple
8 years ago
Yeah, I couldn't imagine trying this without having some in depth discussion and firm ground rules in place. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Surely not...why not...the idea for us is excitement at expressing desire without guilt or controless or judgement...who ever desired someone and didn't want to kiss them? We celebrate the joy each other gets from actualising our innermost fantasies and desires..a no kissing rule seems like barely sublimated possessiveness or control...just saying...be free and by doing so free those around you...x
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