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Swingers when we first meet, the secret codes!

January 22 2011

We were chatting with another couple about a couple that we had both met and knew reasonably well. The other couple was saying, when they met the other couple the other lady turned her head little hug and as if to say you can kiss me on the cheek. He took exception as if she was Lady Muck saying I will allow a peck on my cheek only. When the two girls were talking alone she told the other lady she was really after a lady friend and didnt enjoy playing with anyone elses husband. (Obviously finding the single lady hard to get so lets go after a couple not really wanting a couple) We found similiar when we played she jumped off and ran to the toilet within 5 minutes of pentration (great for your confidence) and of course her puppy of a husband pulled out of my wife and followed her, which ended play for everyone after our 4th attempt with this couple over two years we told them no more, we are not interested. So when you first meet other swingers how much do you read into the welcomeing hug and kiss. Like is there something wrong with a kiss on the cheek and the lady turns her cheek, ? Do you kiss on the lips? To you hugg with a bit of a squeeze? How long a quick hugg or a little longer? Remembering first meets are normally a public place so descretion is required. We had never read too much into a hugg and kiss when you first meet and sometimes even miss it and just shake hands , wonder if thats the wrong message / body language? What do you expect / like?

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RHP User

15 years ago

First meeting was always a nervous time for us, but we are getting more relaxed about it now. Just friends out for a cuppa or a meal keep it light and relaxed until everyone is comfortable. We say congratulations on sticking with them for that long, not many people would have persisted that long. We are here for a good time and if you are giving us grief then we are out of it. Clear communication about what you are really there for is essential. Do not be afraid to go to another profile if the one you are looking at does not quite fit, and tell them what it is that you wantregards H&H

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RHP User

15 years ago

we rarely play on the first meet, we like to get to know and be comfortable with people before we take the next step and in that time of meet and greet we can lay down our rules of engagement and find out what thier are so when and if the time comes we all know what the does and don'ts are. Kissing on the lips is always a no no for us that is something we keep for us as a couple, sex is sex just for fun but kissing is for loves, i know it sounds corny but thats just us.

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RHP User

15 years ago

We're always a little nervous, but it's a nice nervous and yes sometimes you can tell that there's one person in the room that won't be enjoying themselves. Best to have a drink and a chat and leave it at that.

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RHP User

15 years ago

I agree kissing is for lovers and although some kissing may be necessary it is 'individual pursuit' and kept to a minimum. That couple you mentioned did not disclose their pre-set parameters and thats unfortunate and uncomfortable. The complexities are many but should'nt be. Clear communication about standards, expectations and limits must be discussed and dealt with before hand to avoid awkward situations. that's my experience anyway. Good Luck in the future.

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RHP User

15 years ago

Quoting 'Tonyerotic' I agree kissing is for lovers and although some kissing may be necessary it is 'individual pursuit' and kept to a minimum. That couple you mentioned did not disclose their pre-set parameters and thats unfortunate and uncomfortable. The complexities are many but should'nt be. Clear communication about standards, expectations and limits must be discussed and dealt with before hand to avoid awkward situations. that's my experience anyway. Good Luck in the future. Many Many conversations and boundries discussed . The other lady was happy on occasions when my wife use to ask for her assistance sharing her husbands cock doing blow jobs etc to make him hard , But that was not for Bi girl play it was so she could fuck her husband and guess the other lady was reading as she was converting my straight wife to bi. Plus I found that pretty good two ladies on their hands and knees shareing a cock with their mouth and tongue, well time for pussy inspections and fucking each lady back and forth,,,,lol After 2 years with weekly chats on MSN clear communication was there, boundries agreed upon but when it came to reality she could not fuck with another guy unless there was girl play at the same time. This bi couple was also very straight ....not allowed to fuck your wife 1st before her husband did ...lol

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RHP User

15 years ago

My engine needs to be warm and I warm it with kissing. Truth be known I don't care much what body part I am kissing... but it's my starter button... I don't usually start kissing lips..... maybe nape of neck.... shoulder... and ear lobe.... down the sides just under the arms.... is it hot in here? Don's think about armpits... down boy down!HugsStalky

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Swingers when we first meet, the secret codes!

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