Swingers/Sex Party ettiquitte

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  RHP User

  19 years ago

  Hi Guys, No matter the location be it a party or a private meeting, swinging is all about the individual couples involved. There is no golden rule when it comes to the alternate lifestyle, it really does boil down to what each and every couple is looking for. When you ask if it is acceptable to other swingers, to simply touch and give/receive oral but not swap partners for intercourse, you are asking a blanket question....and at the end of the day everyone is going to have their own answers. Overall, it boils down to you as a couple and what you are looking for. Obviously you are not interested in full swap sex at the moment - which is fine, just be clear with others from the outset and do not change your minds in the heat of the moment! As I work in a swingers club and have actively participated in the lifestyle myself I get to talk to couples about their individual rules as couples almost daily - and I can assure you that EVERYONE has different rules. My best advice...... Do not spend any time worrying about what other couples think is acceptable....because they are not you. And there are a whole lot of couples out there who will give you conflicting views which will only confuse the situation more.... stick to your gut feelings people and do what makes you happy - remember that you and your partner are the most important people in the overall scheme of things! Naomi

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  RHP User

  19 years ago

  I suppose it depends on who you are with at the time. It would be perfectly acceptable to me (the female). I guess it would be something you could discuss with whoever you are playing with at the time. It is easy enough in a club, cos you can just play as much as you want and the whole experience is usually anonymous anyway. Just talk it over with whomever you are going to play with.

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  RHP User

  19 years ago

  I have involved in the lifestyle for over 15 years. My partner and I have played together for the past 4 1/2 years. I can speak from playing as a single and as a couple. The number one rule is "you make the rules for your relationship as a couple". You only do what you two have agreed upon or it doesn’t work. Sometimes there will be spontaneous acts, but you have to get the approving nod or gesture from your partner to make sure he or she accepts whatever is about to happen. Your experimenting and playing as a couple is designed to enhance your relationship and sex life together. You don’t want to leave the party arguing about things that one or the other did at the party that wasn’t consulted or agreed upon. One rule that should always be observed at any swingers party is "don’t touch or do anything without asking for consent". I have been to parties where we ended up in groups and people thought they could do whatever just because we were all in the same room or bed. Consent should always be the number one priority. My lady and I visited a club in Sydney about two years ago. We couldn’t find any couples or ladies that we were attracted to, so we played alone. Of course, the voyeurs gathered around to watch and some jerk thought he would reach over and touch my lady without asking for consent. Of course, I stopped him before he could get started and explained that consent is required and that we were not interested in playing with him anyway. Good Luck!!!!

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