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Tattoo in memory of a lost loved one

February 06 2019

So my late partner passed away mid last year from suicide, I'm about to get a tattoo of her done on my ribs so she'll always be with me and close to my hart. The problem is my sister and some other people seem to beleave it's to much and that I'm not been considerate of my future partners and could be a bad idea . Where I beleave she's always going to be part of me and in my life in some way making it just part of who I am, take it or leave it type thing . So I would love peoples thoughts - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • FeistyFatty

    FeistyFatty

    7 years ago

    Why do you care what other people think?? Your body, your tribute, your choice.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    So sorry for your loss. Maybe you could get something that reminds you of her. I have something similar people don't know the meaning but I do.

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  • boobsandbusted

    boobsandbusted

    7 years ago

    your body you do what you want ,but agree with sundaze,do something that has meaning to you but doesn’t scream it out loud for everyone to know ,mrs b has a rose 🌹,originally when i knew her as freind i talked her out of a name ,and she is so happy that she didn’t get the name of an x ,if you still feel strongly in another few years about a name ,you could always add it on then ,but it’s your call only you can decide

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  • Sawadee

    Sawadee

    7 years ago

    With boobs or bust.. Dont be too hasty... Your feelings are probally still very raw and driving your need to preserve the memory. My advice would be to give yourself time to reflect once your emotions settle.. Like any tattooo , if you dont give it plenty of thought , you may well regret it. After all's said and done its your decision regardless.. Just food for thought...

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Thanks to everyone, I feel a lot better with my choice. I'm going to go ahead with it , I've booked in for Saturday .thank you for your condolences sundazeoo5

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  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    7 years ago

    Great! Good on you. You dam well do as you please. If this is how you cherish a lost love one, then go ahead. You do not need anyone's permission. Ms Foxy

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    I've been touched by suicide too it doesn't define you but it does shape you. If a memorial tattoo is too much for a potential partner there's only word for them... NEXT 😈

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    You do whatever you feel you need to do. I lost my brother 7 years ago to suicide, so I understand what you are feeling. Hugs to you 😘

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  • MsJonesy

    MsJonesy

    7 years ago

    I'm a vote in the yes category. Your reasons for doing it are coming from your love for her and a desire to keep her close...that is beautiful. The only thing I would add is that, personally, I'm not a fan of portrait tattoos...people's faces. Unless you find an exceptional artist who happens to be a tattooist, they can disappoint. Even if it is a fantastic rendering of her, as the tattoo ages and you age, the picture changes. So it won't be the memory you tried so hard to capture. Ultimately, it is your choice, to do as you wish. Good luck, and I hope it brings you peace, and love.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Personally I’d not bother...her most powerful existence remains in your heart....she lives there now, as she does with all those that were involved with her.... But... You don’t need an advertisement....no one else can share what you had or begin to feel what you do...so trying to explain it when asked is going to vastly different outcomes than I think you believe....

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    A) It's entirely up to you. B) You have a choice to have a more personal/private symbol? That as someone else said can be added to later? I don't have a tattoo but noticed someone else's today which had me wondering privately about the meaning, so your question was timely for me. A tattoo to recognise my most loved is something I have considered. Me being currently tattoo free lol. I'm inclined towards the idea of making it a private thing that would be understandable to my nearest and dearest. Something I have pondered on for a little while. All the best with your choice, Peachy

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Your choice your decision .nobody else can really understand just why it's important to you. Hugs Q xx

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Sorry for your loss libbylou2 , my hart go's out to you

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Thank you to everyone for your replys it means a lot

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Very sorry for loss. I tend to agree with your sister. You will always have a place in your heart for her. Ware your tatoos on the inside, not the outside

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  • atomicblonde

    atomicblonde

    7 years ago

    I’m in the same boat as you I lost my partner last year from suicide too. He had a few tattoos and I plan on having some of my first tattoo dedicated to him but in a subtle way so it has meaning to me and won’t be too obvious to anyone. I don’t think anyone can understand the feelings you go through unless the same situation has happened to them. It’s immeasurable pain you can’t describe. The pain of having it done down my ribs where my favourite tattoo of his was will be nothing compared to it. All the best x

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Sadly we aren't yet ready, as a society, to give this subject the light and air it needs. The suicide toll makes the road toll look small. As we're seeing here far too many people have been touched by suicide, and unless we can discuss the subject openly we can not begin to work to prevent further suicides.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Will this be your first tattoo? Are you planning on having a portrait as opposed to a representation of her? If you are planning on having a portrait please choose your tattooist carefully, a good portrait is a fantastic tattoo and anything less will disappoint. I have a number of memorial tattoos, they are "stylised" by which I mean that they are not meant to be "life like" images. They are mostly taken from photos of friends on their bikes. It started with the one but progressed to look like a number of bikes following the leader. I love both as a memorial to five friends but also as a great tattoo.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Sorry for your loss atomicblonde, Its a pain i wish apone no one and for this am devoting my time to address this issue and if I can help even one person from having to go through this I consider it a win . I've gone ahead with my tattoo and if people are interested it's in my profile pics. Thanks again for everyone's point of view it was greatly appreciated so thank you

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    7 years ago

    Such a beautiful portrait OP. Hugs Q

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