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Telling friends about your lifestyle
January 21 2023
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FeistyFatty
3 years ago
Haven't had this happen with family or friends. Everyone had similar reactions like they weren't surprised that we had an Open marriage. We have always been rather open and liberal though so maybe that helps. Sorry this has happened to you. Clearly, they weren't true friends in the first place. What a ridiculous thing to bust a friendship over.
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RHP User
3 years ago
Wouldn’t miss friends like that..
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OpalRose
3 years ago
My brother certainly didn’t approve when he worked out it was me, after stumbling across my profile and giving it a like. Copped quite a mouthful about how I’m “obviously being forced to do things I don’t want to do” and my “husband is a piece of shit”. Apparently he didn’t think I could make choices on my own. Two years later he admitted to cheating on his partner more than 25 times in three years.
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Mrs_Deep_Love
3 years ago
Agreed not true friends at all.
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Alex_Lover
3 years ago
Are the friends from a religious background? We have a lot of religious friends/family and would never tell them. Having said that, Margo has told 2 of her besties, and they weren't surprised 😱 Sorry this happened to you guys, and hopefully your friends get over their judgy attitude. Perhaps they're threatened, thinking you want to play with them, or steal a partner? - Alex
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MsSuperFoxy
3 years ago
They won't come back. If they are not talking to you, in their eyes what you do is Taboo. They are not friends. Be weary tho, they might gossip and spread/talk crap and discussyour lifestyle with mutual friends. That's the thing that gets me. Be prepared. All the best. Ms Foxy
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ddlbm
3 years ago
You will probably run into them at a swingers club 😂😂
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SimplyUs
3 years ago
Nope, we told our best friends and while they were a little surprised they were mostly curious about how we got started and checked we were being safe…
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Sawadee
3 years ago
I sorta told a few friends who thought l was joking , so l left it there... ? If they wanted to know more ' they'd ask..
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couplecourious
3 years ago
Some friends know, some don't. Gotta know those who can handle it and those who can't. We choose not to make friends who wouldn't get it uncomfortable. It is after all our business not theirs.
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boobsandbusted
3 years ago
Their loss not yours ,curiosity makes me want to know how the found out though ,lol
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RHP User
3 years ago
We walked into a party and here was one of MrsO's oldest and best friends LOL. Neither knew they were in the scene. Definitely has taken the friendship to a new level. We have selectively told some friends and they have been fine about it. But we only pick the ones we completely trust.
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Parzival
3 years ago
I tell most of my friends but I think I have an intuition about who id be better off not telling . I have regretted telling people before so I guess learned my lesson. Obviously I never tell anyone at work unless they are a very special, open minded individual. Sorry that happened to you OP, you may be better off without them, but it's still sad to lose a friend.
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nightingale8
3 years ago
My colleague’s wife (in the lifestyle) told my manager about me. Not cool. Will follow up later but lesson learned to be clear with others who is ok to tell and who is not, even if it is obvious to you. Now I feel it’s damage control as once it’s out, and it’s not you doing the telling, you have no control over that information and can’t clear up all the assumptions that come with it. Sorry to hear your friend wasn’t accepting. It’s a strange standard to hold you to in my view, as I’ll guess they would not have any problem with you having sex with others while single, so long as it’s one at a time lol. Hopefully it’s an adjustment and they’ll come back to you after reconsidering.
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madotara69
3 years ago
Other than most our families don’t know and never asked so that works well. Any friends at some point know, we don’t need explain any of it unless asked, most of our fiends have said they had problems with not wanting to share their partners, some guys can’t get their heads around two guys in the same room and a few have said they wish they could but can’t, some we don’t ask. Then their are all the dirty Fucker’s that have at some point in time and all would be in for the chance and no one asks anything and no one knows any one and that’s a thing. Mado Mado, Tara xx
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teamaj2
3 years ago
When we first started on this adventure I felt somehow I was deceiving my nearest and dearest girlfriends by not telling them what we were up to . For example - being asked what we got up to at weekend or what we had planned . Hard to reply with nothing for fear of being invited somewhere . It was early days and I choose to tell two girlfriends. I didn’t go into any details I just said we went to a city hotel and met up with a guy in bar and well… AND! I got met with stony silence both times . One particular very sexually active single girlfriend responded with I never want to hear anything like that ever again . I was taken aback . She was single , she had many many one night stands , online middle of the night meet ups etc etc . I was being judged as I’m in a committed relationship. Lesson learnt . I will never share with any of my friends or family . Will your friends return to you ? I doubt it . My advice is live your own authentic wonderful adventurous life and without hurting anyone make the most of what life has to offer without judgement . Good luck . Ax
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RHP User
3 years ago
Just dont, never worked in my favour telling vanilla friends
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aaenjoy
3 years ago
We wont judge, in fact we will join in with you and friends.
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JohnAnn2227
3 years ago
We have rarely voluntarily told family and friends but have been caught out numerous times, resulting in mostly acceptance but also the loss of some friendships. Our families know we are nudists at home but not swingers. It is a family joke to ring before coming to our house. My cousin, who used to babysit for us on nights we would be going out to play found out by accident when I slipped on the stairs in my heels and she ran to help me up discovering what I was wearing/ not wearing under my winter coat. I was spread-eagled in a net dress with suspender belt, stockings and nothing else. She clicked straight away that we weren't out for dinner and drinks. She was shocked but fine that we were swingers. She always wanted the details when we got home. I did get caught out on a date by one of John's friends who came to our house the next day to tell John what he had seen. He and his wife were both teary and kept telling us how much they loved us but couldn't keep this from John. We had to tell them that we were swingers and also had an open marriage (at the time pre kids). They were shocked but accepting. After hours of talking they were excited to hear how we started etc. About 6 months later they asked to come to Couples Club with us. We have been outed at our kids sport by some couples who recognised us from Couples Club and just started chatting about coming to a party they were hosting etc. They didn't know that the couple we were sitting with were vanilla friends who did not know we were swingers. Awkward!
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Onemustry
3 years ago
Wow I find that sad that people would refuse to associate with you over swinging lifestyle . Shallow and fearful and no doubt had preconceived ideas of what swingers do As you know swingers are a diverse bunch . Vanilla to extreme My thought is you have outgrown certain friendships
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Marriedsw1ngers
3 years ago
They are probably scared you'll try and kiss them or stick you dick in their mouth🙄😅 Like the old homophobic guys I used to work with, just because a gay man worked there aswell they assumed he found them attractive and wanted to have sex with me 🤦 I've been able to tell 2 very close friends that was welcomed with opened arms, one actually asked if we would take her to a club with us one night when we are ready. Other close friends I feel I couldn't tell because it would change our friendship not in a good way. I value what we have now so it's okay how things are. Maybe one-day I'll tell them but I can't see it.
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Pieman4u
3 years ago
I am more worried about how to explain it to my 18yo son if he finds out
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