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Telling the kids - what and when?
October 18 2016
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RHP User
9 years ago
Wifey reckons daughter would think it was cool...
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RHP User
9 years ago
My kids know about my fetish for young flesh lol I struggle though to contain what I want to say in general conversation because although they know, they don't want to know detail haha and I've slipped up a few times spitting out random stuff, to the horror of my son I'm really open so love not having to hide my preferences, so to speak, and want them to know what options are available in their life. I don't expect anything of them, they are both monogamous right now, but at least they know that's not the only path, I don't push that on them however. I'm very proud of them and support them whichever way they choose to live their lives. Nice topic
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RHP User
9 years ago
My son knows Im on RHP. He knows I go to Swingers Clubs even though I'm not what you would typically call a swinger. Lots of my friends are and and he knows and likes them all. He knows I met my guy online ( and they get on tremendously) and has met a couple of my previous RHP guys. We are very close and I think honesty is important. Ive taught him that sex is natural and a gift and to respect his future partners. Ive also taught him we are all the same under the skin. I remember one afternoon when Unicorn and myself had a photo shoot in the garden wearing our underwear and draped with snakes. The snakes belonged to a CD friend who was there in dress and heels. My son came home from school and said Hi All with a smile, completely unphased. I was able to talk to my parents about absolutely anything and thats how it is with me and my son.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Ive always felt openness and honesty are the best policy. So my kids know. They are completely cool and understanding about it all, but they are in monogamous relationships (for now).
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Lovinit28andKC72
9 years ago
My older 2 sons (25 & 22) know the bare minimum (they no longer live at home), my daughter and her boyfriend (both live with me & both 19) they know my life style choices (BDSM). My younger 2 sons (14 & 11) know nothing, they are far to young to understand. Now I should just clarify that I no longer have multiple playmates, but when I did and was attending parties, when I was involved in the swinging scene as such, I didn't feel the need for any of my children to know, I kept my social/sexual life and my family life very seperate. Now I'm in a loving committed vanilla and D/s relationship (monogamous) they definitely needed to know more. My life style choices are about BDSM, (most weeks I have bruises on my bottom or breasts, I could have needle pricks on my body, rope, my collar, crops, paddles, canes, floggers that are sometimes left laying around in my room, all these things need some kind of explaining) My daughter is more curious than my boys, so she asks a lot of questions that KC and I answer open and honestly for her, hence why she knows a lot more than her brothers.💋
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RHP User
9 years ago
We unfortunately had to break the news to my son (22) before someone we had organized a meet with decided to show our pictures to someone else who knew me & my son & his girlfriend. My sons girlfriend came home and just asked us directly do you guys swing? Did you send photos to this person? I knew the gig was up straight away so we told the pair of them and they just had a giggle and it was fine.However the person that we had sent the pictures to got and ear bashing and i made them come over and apologize face to face (it was the female half that made the error) needless to say we did not play with them.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Over the years many have told there children and the children have been various ages.If you know your kids well and how they think then you will know when is the best time.
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RHP User
9 years ago
forgot to answer your question about when. My son was 17, told him I hooked up with guys not much older than him and he was cool with that, then left him to leak it from there Chinese whispers you know, you only need to tell one
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RHP User
9 years ago
This is a private matter between Mr LAL and myself.... It's none of our children's business and frankly I find it the same in context of a vanilla lifestyle.... We wouldn't disclose our intimate details to them in that situation either. My job as a parent is to listen to my kids and give them different viewpoints- this doesn't mean giving them total access to the relationship we share as a couple Mrs LAL - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Fuck yeah right are you crazy? There is the truth then there is the right for adults to have private life away from the children. The year they pay my mortgages and all my bill and choose my nursing home is is the year that I'll come clean. ''Oh and son I robbed a 7-11 when I was 17 but only scored some shitty burritos''. Get real!!
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horneycouplewa
9 years ago
I'm with MWOC Not their business and I have no intention of making it theirs. My children are also 19 and 13, who know's in 10 years it might be different. Similar situation a few years ago, with people smoking #### at my place, they were open to having their kid's knowing and doing it front of them but I wasn't, not at my house. If they ever want to open up to me about their lives that's fine.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Be a bigger shock if they found out dad had had another lifestyle they knew nothing about?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Most of our kids are old enough to be on here and could well be looking through profiles and in the chat rooms? You just never know 😕
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RHP User
9 years ago
I have no intention of telling my children anything. I dont see why i would need to. I dont host so not ever likely to get busted. i wouldnt tell my friends or family so why would i tell the kids. - Posted from rhpmobile
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BacioCouple
9 years ago
No.. never.. ever...
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RHP User
9 years ago
Speaking as a child, not a parent I really don't want or need to know about my Mum and Dad's fucking (whether it is just them or orgies by lava lamp light). Likewise, I don't want to know about my grandparents nailing each other. I don't consider it as not "open" or not "honest" to not tell me.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I would hardly go into details about the fucking. Im not going to lie about where I met my friends or lie about anything else for that matter. But thats me and Im happy with my decision. We are all different.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I want my kids to be open to any form of relationship, whether it be them experiencing it or being understanding of someone else's choices. I will also encourage them to not be closed in by society's narrow boundaries. However I don't feel it necessary to share my intimate details with them. I have spoken to my 14 yo son about porn and masturbation as the topics have arisen but I didn't feel the need to give him specific examples regarding me. I wouldn't if I was still with their dad either.
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RHP User
9 years ago
The chance that our adult children may one day be on this site is one of the reasons we do not have face shits on this site. People who are interested in our profile are provided with face shots via an email account we set up solely for RHP interactions. The only rule I have is that they show face shots first, then when I know we don't actually know each other in our " real lives" we send off ours. Lots of people we have spoken to on this site do the same thing when this aspect of their lives is to be kept private between the couple :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
You can only go out in fancy dress with a backpack in the early evening and then come home disheveled and giggling at 6AM with a quarter bottle of some liquor with a numbered sticker on it so many times before it arouses suspicion. They were cool with it.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Face shots!!!! Face shots!!!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'TJandDJ' You can only go out in fancy dress with a backpack in the early evening and then come home disheveled and giggling at 6AM with a quarter bottle of some liquor with a numbered sticker on it so many times before it arouses suspicion. They were cool with it.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'CucknShells' one day when my child is old enough to understand. We have a very close open and honest relationship. In my mother's family there were lots of secrets and lies about illegitimate children and lost dads. It all comes out in the end and when it does it is very painful. I don't want to have a family that is full of secrets and lies. I want my child to understand that there is not just one way to have a relationship. That they can come in many shapes and sizes. That there is nothing to be ashamed about the way we are living our life and knowing my child he will understand that. Shells. nicely put and to address SOTL's comment also, it's not about giving graphic detail, it's about moving forward and not having more generations stuck with old fashioned judgements and preconceptions about what relationships, sexual or otherwise, should be like. I'd like to make a comment on some European guys I've met who have grown up with nudity and an open acceptance of nudity and sexuality, and it now makes them incredible lovers, passionate and accepting, loving the beauty of the woman's body, and the act itself yes, but it's more, you don't feel like they hold back, or that they will judge every little imperfection or kinky thought, there are no barriers and they are the guys I look for. They don't care about the age difference, to them, we're all sexual creatures, they've grown up with an open acceptance of that. It's hard to explain but I'd hate to see future generations have to be hiding their sexuality away, as has been the case up to now. No the detail doesn't need to be discussed, but the beauty of intimacy and the walls being taken down, yes, to me, that's vitally important if we ever want to remove the giggling into the hand kind of mentality. It's a mature approach which my children have embraced I think. No, they don't want detail, and I wouldn't either from my parents, but that's not the reason I wanted them to know. It's about acceptance and knowing there are many paths to take Mr Urn also raised an important point. I don't own a tv or listen to the radio, so never even hear news reports, I'm cut off from the world in that sense. My parents ring me to tell me I have to vote etc lol but I was in a shop the other day and happened to hear a news report, and they were talking about the government's stance on gay marriage Shocked and appalled doesn't even begin to describe how I felt. If I could meet those politicians, I'd let rip. I couldn't believe how old fashioned they were, are they serious? Because I've been completely out of the loop, I had no clue of any of this, Who are they to tell us who we can marry and why would they care? Shocked isn't a good enough word. I was absolutely appalled and felt sorry for them. So shouldn't we all be changing instead of allowing those kinds of attitudes to continue. I grew up in a 'poof' time, foot stools and gay reference lol and well remember those prejudices, I would have had them myself way back, though I was accepting of gay sexuality from when I was very young, more so now that we're all crossovers, let's face it, not many people on this site would be 100% straight, at the very least most would be open to exporing, anyway, I'm dribbling on writing a book. My 2 cents
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RHP User
9 years ago
Ive seen couples profiles where they are in evening or casual dress. In the background, bedroom furniture and bedlinen. Or even relaxing in the garden. All would be recognisable? Bit I wasnt saying I thought you were wrong, just that as parents we all have different views on this subject.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Livingandloving2' The chance that our adult children may one day be on this site is one of the reasons we do not have face shits on this site. People who are interested in our profile are provided with face shots via an email account we set up solely for RHP interactions. The only rule I have is that they show face shots first, then when I know we don't actually know each other in our " real lives" we send off ours. Lots of people we have spoken to on this site do the same thing when this aspect of their lives is to be kept private between the couple :) - Posted from rhpmobile that is one of the better typo's I've seen thanks for making me laugh, classic
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boobsandbusted
9 years ago
Not when your child is mid 20s and suffered an acquired brain injury.damn, he now has no filter and all the family and our freinds ,would find out next bbq , in a heartbeat,lmao , - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
If any of my kids asked me directly, I would look themin the eye and blatantly lie and act dumb. Not their business.let them keep their sweet and innocent mum and granny up on that pedistal. Lol. Anyway I had the shock of my eldest son being on here and looking at my profile twice, earlier this yr. the profile pic I had up could have been identifiable by the clothing I was wearing.(not my face) i freaked out, changed a few details on my profile,had a melt down as my profile went into detail about using strapons on guys. Fisting, mmf and the usual vanilla play, haha. Its never been brought up but I still think that he may have recognised my shirt and jewellry that I was wearing in the pic. If he ever asks, I will say no. Dont care, not his business.
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RHP User
9 years ago
As others have said, it's none of their business to know what mummy and daddy get up to sexually.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Love your pic. :-) My kids knew something was up, so it was no surprise when I explained we'd (hubby and I) been leaving the house for extra curricular activities. A lot of explanation was not given nor asked for by our older teenager and adult child, lol... who didn't want or need to know more. I'm not sure that knowledge should be available for anyone younger. My foster-parents had a very active swinging life with details that I remember very clearly until she left him just after I turned 10. We even had an auntie and uncle who retire to the games room and leave us kids to our own devices. I believe sexuality is a good thing for people, a far better thing than violence which is far more universally accepted but not at a loss to our children's innocence. Peachy :-)
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Paradisepair
9 years ago
We got busted by one of us being sloppy with the ipad. It was traumatic for everyone. We had discussed the option of coming out in the past and if I had a time machine we would have with a simple discussion about how sometimes we'll date other people, and leave it there.
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