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The Age Factor - Why is it so important?
March 22 2015
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RHP User
11 years ago
If you have young adult kids like I do. It kind of feels weird when you see a hot buff torso as a guys profile pic, then look at the age and its someone younger than my son!! Thats just me. Oh and on the extreme of that, With older guys, I would prefer when we went back to his place, it wasnt a nursing home!!
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Dryphuz
11 years ago
i always feel a little exposed when with younger women. There's the possibility of becoming typecast as 'cradle snatcher'. Also there's a maturity factor that sometimes gets in the way, simply a way of approaching situations based on less experience that can often be impulsive, emotional or more usually self centered.I've noticed people become more aware that everyone else has a little voice behind their eyelids too as they get older, and how their actions affect other people becomes more and more of a consideration. But i really love fun, bubbly people which is easier to find in youthful people not encumbered by these considerations, as youthful in mind is less frequent since this world of ours weighs you down as you get older. there's a thingy you can supposedly use to know if someone is too young for you... Half your age (rounded down) plus seven. So for me its 23, for your hubby Mrs Bay it turns out to be 25. Now i've never used it as a hard and fast rule, but its a good representation of what society considers acceptable. However i'm a firm believer that love knows no bounds and i don't think less of people who fit outside this recomendation, but i do worry about how society sees me when i'm with someone who was barely in primary school when i was finishing high school. It shouldn't matter, but societies guidelines of acceptability seem to make it matter... Which sux... cos its bullshit...
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RHP User
11 years ago
It could be to fit under a certain age search.... So Ive heard 😎😳
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QLDtwo4fun
11 years ago
When I see someone's age in print I think how young they are and feel protective. However, when we have been at parties and clubs and meet people and simple judged them on attitude, which has led to a surprise or two. We have 11 years between us, Mrs Q is still waiting for me to grow up.
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aussian43
11 years ago
I hooked up with a lady on here 11 years my senior. For both of us we would have been outside the usual age range we looked at. But we ended up having a fantastic time with no regrets. Don't give yourself arbitrary limitations, age is just another number and not a real guide to how mature a person is. There are some very sexy ladies on here who happen to be older!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Everything you wrote seemed great, until we looked at your profile and see you request 18 - 40 year olds. You just seem hypocritical now... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Everything you wrote seemed great, until we looked at your profile and see you request 18 - 40 year olds. You just seem hypocritical now... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Age is every thing. OMG how can you not know that. Ohh is see you are only 20 something... dear me you have a lot of learning to do. See for many people old is ugly and why risk ugly when you can just ask age and dont have to worry about insulting someone because of their wrinkly old person smell. And then there are those that believe young is dumb and why risk dumb when it can be sorted by vetting age. Nothing worse than having to say... well you know. That is all of course a generalization of my life in regards to age. I was young and dumb, to dumb to know that old was sexy, anyone above my age was not even worth a second glance, and to be approached by an older woman was creepy, eeewww. Now that i am old and ugly I cant stand the dumb (sorry should correct my self I should say "Inexperience of youth.") My baby sitting days are way over so if you are younger then you most likely wont float my boat. So Age is an issues for those that are like me, but that is a good thing as i like to break rules, especially my own. It adds excitement to the game, and because everyone around my age is completely certifiable I am left no choice but to try a little old and a wee bit young, it adds to the fun.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Numbers are just that, but they do also actually represent something. I'd prefer to earn $50/hour than $5, even if the value of money in real terms is debatable. If I can be so crude to use this analogy. With cooking, time and temperature will give me a fair indication of how to cook something - even if it can't guarantee whether I will enjoy it. The 'numbers' do indicate something real. Sure, occasionally something is better over done and crispy, and sometimes, and some people will prefer to lick the batter from the spoon. Some love variety. Just because you give value different things, unfortunately doesn't mean others will.
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RHP User
11 years ago
When I'm 64? My age this year. My lovers are between 29 (couples profile guy) and 45. That being said I met a guy fifty plus that was scrumptious but we never had sex. My husband is seven years younger. I am lucky that younger men like older women. I could not go with younger women as I have daughters so I do get why women with young sons can't get their head around bonking guys as young as their sons. Age does matter as physical things change as we age. Women loose hormones and a this impacts on your sex drive and your pink bits are as dry as the Simpson desert. You also as you age might forget the names of who your fucking and your own name as well, Guys find it hard to get up and stay up. People can tend to have some other issues with age like a bit more baggage. A bit more battered and bruised from Failed relationships, there are kids in the mix. All of life's complications. It depends what you want from a person. Is it just a warm body? Is it a warm body and sime conversation? Is it someone you might like to be seen in public with, without people saying.,, I never knew you had a son ( that actually did happen to me) when I was opening a door to let my lover out just as the agent knocked. We are visual creatures and our desire is switched on by what we see. Same as food we eat, or clothes we wear. It's personal choice. If a guy does not want me because I am an old chook and my body is just to old fat and wrinkly for him , that's perfectly fine. I do not like people lying to me about their age but I di get it. As if you tell the truth you can often be left out of the search range , you may look and feel younger. And we all know the stale bread in the rhp bakery gets left on the shelf. Off line it may not be as consumer driven for sex . Relationships not based in sex only may do well with a winter and a spring. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I like what I like... and make no apologies for those preferences. And one of those preferences is an age bracket.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ignore people's age limits to a certain extant if I see a real degree of compatibility, and I'm realistic about that, not just because I want. People are often flexible with there age ranges if they are compelled otherwise, some are more rigid, in which case no great loss.
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LifeUnscripted
11 years ago
But it can also be an indicator of other things. Most people find a certain age range attractive. Is that a hard and fast rule? No, because people can look and act a different age. But as a general rule it helps with understanding if you are likely to be attracted to someone. We are not interested in kids the same age as our eldest daughter...no offense at all, but that just makes us feel creepy, lol. And we are not interested in folks the same ages as our parents either for maybe some of the same reasons. As for lying about age? I understand, but honestly it is one of those red flags for me. Not a deal breaker on its own, but definitely raising questions about what else they are lying about. Personally I don't get lying on profiles at all....I want people to be pleasantly surprised when they meet and play with us, not diaappointed because we aren't exactly what we advertised. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Has hit the nail right on the head in my opinion. I don't feel comfortable with anyone 15 years and younger than me. And if they are old enough to be at my work place well it will be a definate no from me - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
You are a lucky ol thang LadyT... TWO birthdays this year !! 😋😋😋😋😋😋😋😋😋😋😋😋😋😋😋😋😋😋😋😋 Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...
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CompersionCouple
11 years ago
We've never found age an issue. Our age requests r between 18-45 but we use it as just a guide cause we have me some great people in the 45 plus age bracket. Age is just a number. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't like entering my exact contact details for traceability reasons on sites like this - call me paranoid but I'm worried what would happen if they get hacked. When I created my profile, I was lazy and just chose jan 1 as my dob. At the time it made my age correct, but as of New Years it made me a year older than I am until my birthday later this year. Maybe it's going to help me cope with tuning the big 4-0 in December, who knows :)
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
A few years dont worry me. I factor 5 years at the top end and none at the bottom end. I havnt experienced age discrimination. I have had a 19 yo keen to hook up, dozens of 20 somethings and the majority of guys wanting to hook up are in their 30's. Either they dont care that im in my 50's or desperation will let them fuck anything...... Of course with that sort of selection anyone blaming me for not being interested in anyone older than me?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well thought out and spot on post... Age is irrelevant when 2 people are on the same page.. I get along with people of all ages regardless of who they might be. Lets face it , once out there in the jungle we never really know who we're likely to meet .. There have been times when I hit it off with a female only to find out they are much younger than I thought. Still' I treat them as a person first and don't feel that need to judge them . Being them self is what counts for me.. As for those who want to make a issue out of it to begin with ' that's what they're going get in return. Its a frame of mind and you are probally missing out on some genuinely beautiful people... I respect those who feel that way, its just not mine..
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RHP User
11 years ago
and I don't mind admitting it. Like Blindman's reference to older and younger people, that is pretty much what I think also. I am attracted to people around my own age. I actually prefer now the physique of a man my age over a younger hot body, I also prefer their maturity. I was pretty much married through my 20's so no idea what I liked through that time but I only ever recall being attracted to people my own age.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Lol yes my couple profile I sm 60 he is 30 but un reality ge us 29 I am 64. I just liked the math. As u am dyslexic 30 into 60 is easy to calculate Plus that profile is only fir a nught of a wicked tryst. I do not think people that are interested in that will seat the small stuff Feel free to send me two birthday gifts .... Because I am worth it. 😛 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
your right, I gave myself another year....i am 63 this year i do not need to go fast forward things are falling off as it is!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Since my divorce I have almost always ended up in relationships with younger women. Anything from 25 yr gap to 10yr. My current partner is 16yrs younger. It was never a concious effort on my part it just happens. - Posted from rhpmobile
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luvsilver
11 years ago
Quoting 'LadyTuscan3' Lol yes my couple profile I sm 60 he is 30 but un reality ge us 29 I am 64. I just liked the math. As u am dyslexic 30 into 60 is easy to calculate Plus that profile is only fir a nught of a wicked tryst. I do not think people that are interested in that will seat the small stuff Feel free to send me two birthday gifts .... Because I am worth it. 😛 - Posted from rhpmobile I am guessing 30 goes in to 60 quite a few times Lady Tuscan Mr Luvsilver
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RHP User
11 years ago
I personally don't have a huge problem with age but little white lies about age should be within a couple of years either side of what they advertise. I met up with one guy who turned out to be 16yrs older than what he had stated. My expectations were very different to the person standing before me. Although we are very good friends, there are generational things, such as attitudes, that do separate our lives and we will never be completely on the same page. At the other end of the age debate I also met someone in his early 20s and vowed I would never do that again. I felt like my daughter should have been going out with him, not me. There was nothing in common regarding conversation or life experiences and the sex was wham bam and gonzo! We both ticked off the "older woman" and "younger man" combo from our fucklists and never want to be that disappointed again. I much prefer a mature man's body and mind and when that chemistry syncs its explosive. My current partner is 6 years younger than me and that is just perfect for us. LG LG
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rupamohan
11 years ago
We don't care about biological age. If you are fit it can be above 45 If you are less fit the cut off can be even below 45. You need to look not above 45. Not interested in knowing your biological age.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I agree that it is a number. I just so happen to like that number around 35 or younger. I have had my share of much older men. But they have to really really wow me with their personality before I'll even give them a look. It's partly to do with appearance, I've airways liked the late 20s early 30s. Probably always will :p My ex hubby was 11yrs older. My current man is only 2yrs older and I'm finding it much more fun, going out partying and to concerts and having similar interests. I don't care about age, but it IS a number, and to me numbers are always going to be relevant. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
proclaim age doesn't matter....and they're entitled to their preference... There will be those that have their preference to a specific age bracket.... Meh....I'm sure you would have preferences to things that others would ask "what the??" When it comes to people, sometimes the most beautiful thing IS their individuality....which includes their preferences... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Most in sites like this will focus more on the attraction then the age... The age to me is no more then a guid to search for playmates...
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RHP User
11 years ago
My preference is men over fifty but very few contact me,they prefer women over twenty 😀..google the research,men rarely change their age preferences...most men that contact me are under forty but they are just looking for sex..and sometimes I say yes,someone has to put them out of their misery after all 😜xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
I mostly go for girls my age (give it take 5 years) don't go for those in there 20s unless there in a couple situation and in late 20s but for singles I'd say 42 be my pick. Does that make me abnormal ?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Abnormal,no..Just not average I would suggest 😘 xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
Older than a lettuce, younger than a mountain. All good so far.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Lmao yep that's me a little left field I'd say..
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'L2LU69' I mostly go for girls my age (give it take 5 years) don't go for those in there 20s unless there in a couple situation and in late 20s but for singles I'd say 42 be my pick. Does that make me abnormal ?
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
I will talk to anyone, regardless of age, it doesn't worry me at all, but when it come to choosing playmate it a different story. I will not and can not bring myself to play with someone that is younger, the same age or close to the same ages as my children. It feels wrong, I can't get my head around it, I just can't and that's probably because I am a mother..... Don't get me wrong, I love younger men, just not that young. On a general rule I'm not attracted to men my age or older than me (this stems back to my ex husband, that's another story), but that's not saying all men my age or older either, I like to have a age range, there staying, it's just me.....💋
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RHP User
11 years ago
However I disagree. It's a different culture. And If you piss a guy off he will likey label you 'an old hag' and go fuck someone half your age Just to make you feel good
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RHP User
11 years ago
I agree age is just a number, i have recently gone from one end of the spectrum to the other, my Ex husband is 65 and my current lover is 28 !!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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Baysidecouple214
11 years ago
Thanks everyone for your responses, it has given me the chance to see how other people feel and reasons they have these views. I appreciate it all thank you! simple_desires - excellent point, and you are correct there is an age bracket on our profile. As we are a couple the age bracket takes into consideration both person wishes not just one.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I like to have sex with older woman ;) so up to 40 is absolutely okay and a lot of fun.. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Blindman67 your names sez it all sorry but age doesn't matter I've been with a lot older men and much younger and I can tell you that I've been shocked at how adventurous sensual and just amazingly good in the bedroom some younger ones have been and I've been disappointed by the older men I believe people are just got it naturally and some just don't and never will yes your always learning and trying new things but doesn't mean because your older and have had more experience doesn't mean crap all!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think alot of ppl miss out on some real cool intelgent men with good stamina especialy women with cut off age 45 remember ladies certain things dont get shorter with age and experience money just cant buy - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
We have age brackets on our profile. These are guidelines, not hard an fast rules. We have found that we have little in common with the under 30's and Mrs 71 is unable to contemplate play dates with people in her parents age group (60's). As others have already posted, meeting via the internet and meeting in person are two very different things. When meeting at a club or party then presentation, attitude and compatibility are the key points. We met a wonderful couple some years back (in person) who we probably would have turned down flat had the initial contact been via the internet.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I chat with everyone regardless of age, sex, race etc. I am attracted to a person because of who they are, not what they are. I have playmates ranging from 23 to 55, though I must admit I'm very cautious with young couples as they often have insecurities or are too early in their relationship to be comfortable swingers. In saying all that I'm only looking for fun, but I can understand the importance of age in relation to relationships and lifestyle choices!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Good post op, you said it well.. age is a number to define time, that is all.. people posting about numbers for money or cooking are on the wrong track, 5 to 50 dollars, or in the oven at 180 for 2 hours cant relate to what a person can learn in time, maturity is based on life, experience and chemistry.. its different for everyone. Personally i get turned on by older women
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RHP User
11 years ago
The answers here are diverse doesn't mean anyone here is right or wrong, what it means is there are a huge diversity of experiences to have here. Celebrate it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Like OP, I have an older husband. I like to look for a younger guy in contrast to him. I have been messaged by older men, but what I look for in a long term partner is very different to a short term lover.
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LetsFrolic
11 years ago
If a lady is too old though its like i may break her Age has never been an issue for me.. as long as they aren't that young that id get areested - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I dislike people of all ages.
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RHP User
11 years ago
the only reason someone needs to lie about there age is that there worries about what other ppl think of it. or they under age and want to be of age. everything is judged by a number in some way. if your not judging there age your judging there wage! if it's not there wage it's the number of grades the got in class or how many time uve been laid and taken it the ass . numbers get old like the time that was just told. A MEMMORY TO ME IS 4 EVER GONNA BE A THOUGHT IN MY MIND NOT A NUMBER IN TIME. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've e always felt that age as in a number is just that, a number, your life experience is what helps define us not how old we are. Being seriously ill at 20 taught me quite a few lessons that I probably wouldn't have otherwise learnt until later in life. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I share your sentiments bayside -there are far important attributes that define a person other than age. - Posted from rhpmobile
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ElleWould
11 years ago
I think the number is less important than the person but I will admit that I tend to discount people younger than myself when I'm looking at profiles. It's hard for me to put my finger on exactly why that is. I've had some amazing sex with a man 15 years my senior, I didn't know how old he was when we met at a party and the question seemed utterly irrelevant at the time. 10 years older seems like nothing. Only very recently have I slept with someone my own age and it was also a very satisfying evening. But if I think about getting naked in front of someone, say, seven years younger I feel a bit shy... ...doesn't mean I wouldn't though. Haha!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Age is just a newspaper. I love older women just as much as I do younger women... Heck, I just love women that love sex. - Posted from rhpmobile
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