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The Gift.
January 03 2014
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RHP User
12 years ago
Here comes the real reason! Turns out a threesome is the real fantasy ...
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RHP User
12 years ago
LOL.... there is always a hidden agenda. I think this is the reason why a lot of couples can not find a unicorn. Women do not like to be gifts or be there to "service her man who can't get enough" Blah..... fuck that. There are lot of couples that have no respect for single people, that is what I think. Smug marrieds.
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On_Safari
12 years ago
Lol but you knew there was going to be more than just a booby shot! (Gentle knowing smile and a wink). Being in small towns less than 50,000 heads sucks balls. If you fall out with this couple what are the ramifications going to be? So many unforseen issues/problems/impacts to consider should it all go "pear-shaped". I feel for you really I do. If it were me I'd being weighing up the pro's and con's very seriously. Now as for being "the gift" hmmm I'm hoping to "gift" myself to a couple I met here and then in turn maybe they'll let me "gift" them as an experience to me in a couples scenario. It's been discussed between the 3 of us. I like them very much and they have in turn been very supportive of me. I can't see anything even remotely like a shit storm occurring between us. Guess you need to aak yourself the same about your friends. ~ Kisses to you GF and see you real soon! Indy x - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I associate being a Gift with being expected to perform like some animated toy for the lucky receiver. Sorry, batteries not included.
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RHP User
12 years ago
just a little too tightly wrapped to be anyone's gift.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Was the hidden agenda.... really... so hidden? I expect these guys.... and it's mostly guys who are active in the couples profiles.... would do better to be more upfront in their aspirations, than to make others feel there is a hidden agenda. DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
Personally I find it all a bit strange. People are not things that can be gifted. Ask for a favour, yeah, but don't treat someone as an object. IMHO
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On_Safari
12 years ago
Or offering yourself as such does not equate to being required to "perform" nor does it mean being "objectified" I wouldn't put myself through that or anyone else. It is still a mutual exchanging and giving process as every other encounter should be. Fck I must be so vanilla and quaint in my outlook? Maybe just damned naive.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
It seriously was from left field. I'm really flattered to be thought of that way but I have politely declined as I think we have a great friendship so far and I'd like it to stay that way. I'll keep my naughty business for my Sydney trips. Mes, I agree with you there. I've had experiences where the Mrs has approached and asked to play with her husband as a birthday gift. Again, flattered but I just felt weird about it. I used to think that being a couples sex toy would be fun. Maybe I'm thinking and overanalysing but I now just feel ... I dunno ... Indy, I think you have a pretty good situation there. You know the couple, are attracted to both and feel like you are an equal participant in the encounter. So you don't mind the gift thing, it's part of the game. I guess it all comes down to the dynamic in the 3some. Oh FFs, this is exactly why I prefer groups, parties and clubs. 3somes are just too fucking intimate!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
If I were given as a gift......I would probably be Re gifted ....you know the ugly vase from the mother in law that you then Re gift and give to some one else the next year!!! because I'm not worth it!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
The photo...fine ....but the rest......to me one step away from prostitution...except youre not being paid for it?
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Paradisepair
12 years ago
As one half of a couple I understand the concept of 'gifting' your partner but really a person is not a present, an object. Giving your partner an experience can be 'a present', but the person who is joining the experience really shouldn't be viewed as a gift, unless that's their thing, and they want to be slowly unwrapped... It's one thing to say you'd like to spoil your partner but I cringe when I see profiles, or datefinder descriptions that talk about giving one half of the couple a birthday present, and twice as much when it's usually a couple looking for a female. FMF outside of playing with a couple is still on our bucketlist and when we finally meet that special lady we hope we'll be the ones doing the majority of the giving.
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RHP User
12 years ago
i could imagine the experience being a gift...i.e. two women playing together in front of /with hubby.. but not the person, who is involved in the experience.. me, the female half, enjoy having two men pampering me..but my man is straight..so the fun he gets out of it is enjoying the sight of me having fun..hence in my eyes a MFM play is a gift for me, from him...:) i am however bisexual...and having another girl join us is just as much fun for me, as for him..in fact i could not really imagine a FFM play, if the lady in question was straight...(i would still do it of course, if him and her really fancied each other...but it would not be the same...) i could , however, most certainly imagine organizing a surprise play, as a gift...somewhere down the track...if we had an ongoing thing with a girl, where we actually became good friends...and she was into the idea... i am thinking blindfold...tied up hands...quiet music...and the sudden surprise of an extra pair of hands on his body...mmmm
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RHP User
12 years ago
you beat me to it....
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RHP User
12 years ago
The amount of ribbon and bow's you would need to wrap Paint Me's boobies !(O) (O) A gift you say...so guys have gone from "begging for it" ,to now using their brain and asking women to" be gift's?"What ever happened to honesty and asking for a root!
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On_Safari
12 years ago
Sensualtimestoo.....sooooo want to fulfill that one as well :) would be great fun! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E' Sensualtimestoo.....sooooo want to fulfill that one as well :) would be great fun! - Posted from rhpmobile indeed it would be
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RHP User
12 years ago
Any whiff of a profile smelling like a 'Gift' scenario and I'm already ready to say 'NEXT!' I've always said I need to be attracted to both halves of any couple I choose to play with, and I expect the same in reverse (i.e. they both need to be in to me). Hopefully this means that everyone involved is an active and eager participant. Anything that whiffs of a playdate being a gift for one party or the other, implies that the gift giver is perhaps not as into the idea as the gift receiver. Otherwise wouldn't it be a gift to each other? Sounds like hard work to me, and potentially fraught with jealousy danger. Next!
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madotara69
12 years ago
That thing with Tara giving me a girl as a gift. (creative writing) (other topic over there>) Just about to spill the beans in a creative fashion to that. He believes us anyway, now that's a thing. So Paradisepair, stop looking at us like that I made up a songlist for Tara's birthday when we first got let into this place. I gave it to her in the chat rooms on cam and audio, and the songlist. does that count. (the banter in the chat stream between a few blokes was fckn funny, it made it dynamic for live action thing, it was a good birthday. And...... One guy the first time just him. Gave us a private show, very talented for Tara and that was very passionate, and added to the B,day party. Then the other couple of young blokes on cam shit them selves really when they saw Tara in her moment watching them, talk about spring into action.) For what it was, it is an enjoyable experience, and did turn into one of those things that has no plan, just unfolds. So did the orgasms from all! But it was a gift to Tara for her birthday? Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E' Or offering yourself as such does not equate to being required to "perform" nor does it mean being "objectified" I wouldn't put myself through that or anyone else. It is still a mutual exchanging and giving process as every other encounter should be. Fck I must be so vanilla and quaint in my outlook? Maybe just damned naive.... - Posted from rhpmobile Hi Indy, maybe once you have been with a few couples you may view things differently do you think?
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wingman2014
12 years ago
I think it sounds like a lot of fun ! The whole idea if being or recueving a "gift" like that , the imagination runs wild...,,, But that's just the point , the fantasy doesn't impact on the friendship but the reality might . - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
12 years ago
I've been lucky so far. I wouldn't allow myself to be treated like a convenience, and again the women have to be into each other moreso than the guy = no jealousy. Still not lowering my standards to accommodate though, couples or singles. And perhaps my inexperience stands me in good stead..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I knew that some would be ok with it and others not. It's really interesting seeing everyone's take on it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
To me there is a difference if it is friends I already know and play with. So for example if you rang me and said I want to show Mr X a good time for his birthday lets tie up him like a roast chook and spit roast him.... I would say absolutely. If you said, I am throwing a surprise party for my boyfriend and I am going to tie him up and blind fold him... and when he least expects it I want all my "gifts" to walk in and show him a good time. Yeah I probably would. When it is a couple sending that invitation out to all women or who say this on their profile that they are doing this as a gift to each other, this says to me that they don't have any real interest in the woman as a person and that that they haven't really considered how this third person coming into the relationship feels. She is just a means to an end. It's all in he way you say it I find.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Okay now I am thinking about surprise gang bang parties for the men.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Paradisepair' FMF outside of playing with a couple is still on our bucketlist and when we finally meet that special lady we hope we'll be the ones doing the majority of the giving. * Scrapes hoof and whinnies*
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'When it is a couple sending that invitation out to all women or who say this on their profile that they are doing this as a gift to each other, this says to me that they don't have any real interest in the woman as a person and that that they haven't really considered how this third person coming into the relationship feels. She is just a means to an end. It's all in he way you say it I find. Totally agree Meeks! If it were people I'd played with before and we'd had an awesome time, I would be all over it like a rash :P
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RHP User
12 years ago
I wouldn't mind being a gift if it were a mutual exchange. Don't like the thought of being equated with an object though.
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Paradisepair
12 years ago
I believe in magic... :-)
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On_Safari
12 years ago
Wishes do come true. 😉 Even in Pie World.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm still in two minds about this one miss paintme. On hand I can see it being very flattering to be hoisted up on the pedestal of how highly you're thought of and desired. Which is good in the sense of a confidence boost.... However.... On the flip side, and without knowing the couple referred to, it can be seen to be objectifying the 3rd wheel. Which is somewhat deflating in my view as you become a prize not a person from a situational perspective. Lastly, would I do it?? No. I don't believe I would as it offers no real future prospects or incentives to benefit me or the couple equally. While it may rack up another notch in my belt, and theirs, it's hardly something I strive for. So I guess the question - that you've already answered I see - is what matters to you the most?? The notch or the longer term benefits of friendship? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I don't like the term "gift". But really they just want a threesome. I have done twice with same lady. And it was really about her I would love a ffm Where all participants were receiving the gift and all involved - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thanks to Justin Timberlake and Andy Samberg, I've always fantasised that one day a man will give me his dick in a box.
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RHP User
12 years ago
See you jump out of a cake ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'JayJay_66' If I were given as a gift......I would probably be Re gifted ....you know the ugly vase from the mother in law that you then Re gift and give to some one else the next year!!! because I'm not worth it!! Sorry JayJay... you need a new mirror. Quoting 'JayJay_66' The photo...fine ....but the rest......to me one step away from prostitution...except youre not being paid for it? This I agree with. More so, being a gift to me lessens a person to the level of a "thing" or "object" if you are offered by someone to someone else as a "Gift" then you are just a "plaything"... my caveat to this is the gift of oneself... if I give myself to someone then it is my gift of person not "plaything". (steps off prudish soap box to find a ribbon to tie around the old oak tree... I love giving) SG(Channeling HP - Because JayJay is worth it!)
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RHP User
12 years ago
If you want to be the gift I would ask for payment of the " gift" upfront - Posted from rhpmobile
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luvsilver
12 years ago
Mrs Luvsilver would love it if I organised a surprise for her sometime. Call it a gift or not.I would certainly arrange it with someone we have played with already as any MFM threesomes we have had , Mrs Luv has previously met for coffee to gauge both a physical and mental attraction as well as to make sure they are very respectful. I don't think it is all a one way street though as everyone is involved .The extra party has also had some pampering by Mrs Luv and we all end up having a great time.Same deal for the couple of FMFs we have had. Call it what you will but we are all here for some fun and to do something a little different from the normal daily grind of life.Mr Luvsilver
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yes I've been the gift (I'm the guy) Yes I've had a single girl gift for my birthday (soooo grateful to the both of them) Yes we're both cool with it. (Planning on a birthday gift for wifey soon) Isn't the whole thing a gift? Every time you play with someone isn't there a reciprocating gift of pleasure... Whether it's for a birthday prezzie or just your regular night down your local swingers club it's all the same isn't it? Have you thought about whether that guy or girl you're playing with has been gifted to you by their partner? Does that mean that you wouldn't accept the gift..... Hehehe ;) depends on what they look like eh? Lol :) I like to please and I'm more than happy to be that gift. Wrap me and stick a bow on my ass :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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Rob_Ally
12 years ago
I (Ally): - have been a surprise 2nd wedding anniversary present for the male of a couple Rob and I have played with on several occasions.The wife joined in half way through and the night ended with a celebratory drink and smiles all round. - gifted to Rob’s female playmate exclusive access rights to him for a weekend – it was her birthday present.Rob returned home exhausted, walking funny and smiling. - regularly gift Rob and male playmates with hot steamy female on female play which in turn delivers to me the gift of more intense sex courtesy of male playmates. To the best of my knowledge in each of these scenarios no-one was objectified, no-one was hurt, everyone participated of their own free will and thoroughly enjoyed the experience. Communication is the key to understanding what is being offered or asked and allows for informed decision making. And just to show I enjoy ‘gifting’ outside of RHP land, I regularly gift a Suspended Coffee so that people less fortunate than me can enjoy something that I enjoy every day – a cappuccino. Allyxx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'MrandMrsVelvet' Yes I've been the gift (I'm the guy) Yes I've had a single girl gift for my birthday (soooo grateful to the both of them) Yes we're both cool with it. (Planning on a birthday gift for wifey soon) Isn't the whole thing a gift? Every time you play with someone isn't there a reciprocating gift of pleasure... Whether it's for a birthday prezzie or just your regular night down your local swingers club it's all the same isn't it? Have you thought about whether that guy or girl you're playing with has been gifted to you by their partner? Does that mean that you wouldn't accept the gift..... Hehehe ;) depends on what they look like eh? Lol :) I like to please and I'm more than happy to be that gift. Wrap me and stick a bow on my ass :) - Posted from rhpmobile I really wanted hear from someone with this perspective on things too. I guess this is why I was a little confused and in two minds about the whole thing. Half of me doesn't have a problem with it (if I'm attracted to both then what's the problem yeh?) , the other half ... well ... just felt weird. It's the 'gift' thing. Made me feel like things were a little out of my control. The couples that have approached online before I had never met either one of them. That made me feel like a 'thing'. One wanted me to be part of a harem as a gift to the Mr. I declined. Clubs are different though aren't they? Sometimes it's like a mosh pit and a nod and a wink and "may I please ..." is all it takes and it's on. All gifts to one another. Maybe I'm just not threesome material. Oh well ...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Sorry amicus, I got here as fast as I could 😄😄 Jay_Jay, I hold amicus in high regard... If he thinks you're worth it, then you are 👍 and what's more I've met you, and I second the motion... Motion carried, Jay_Jay is worth it. 😘 As for the op, I don't feel overly comfortable with the term "gift" however the situations as Ally has described are balanced meetings, they are not taking types... Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Laughter is the only true gift anyone can either be given n be part of... Semi nude pics should only eer be between mutual arrangement of long time friendships
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi! Paint Me:) Thanks for your Interesting Topic:) I'm not sure why the Female just didn't say out right what was on the agenda, then you can make an Informed Decision ..My Personal View is when someone approaches me as a Gift or a Playmate for their Partner. I appreciate they want to do it for them, but it makes me feel like They're Pimping for their Partner and it's a real turn off! for me. If the Partner has expressed some kind of Interest in Me, then they need to approach me so I May Connect within them On All Levels. Mind, Emotions, Body, Soul,.If Chemistry is Present when we meet .Then we go from there.. If not enough Connection or Chemistry between us we don't.. That's how I do things and it works for Me and all Concerned ... Cheers Lu:)
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beebs
12 years ago
Didn't t Abbott talk of his daughter's virginity as being a gift? He says so many things from 1950 I may have got lost in the translation.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I had a situation where a school mate's older brother ask me to join him and his Mrs for the night. She had invited another woman when it was his birthday earlier in the year and he had appreciated it and enjoyed it. So if you like my presence was to make her night enjoyable by her receiving pleasure from 2 guys. Was I the gift? No, the gift was him giving her extra pleasure. It wasn't all about me... it was about her and what he wanted to do for her. I didn't even know here (and had met him once when I was in high school), we all just happened to be having a drink at the Windsor (about 10 years after I'd left school)and his younger brother had left and we were left there. He explained what he wanted and why he wanted it, but I didn't look at myself as "the gift". He wanted to do something for his partner and he asked for my help to do it... that was the gift. I remember it as it was an unexpected request, they may remember it or not (I don't know how often they do this sort of thing), but even if they do remember the night, I doubt they would remember me - they person was not important, it was what he did for his partner that was. I was not offended or felt strange or upset by being asked - I could have said NO, but I didn't. I had a blood good time too. It was about her.... not him .... and definitely not me.
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RHP User
12 years ago
And yet, you show the anonymous world your own semi nude pics in your publicly viewable profile lol....... The greatest gift I can give a partner, is the gift of missing me.... it strengthens the connection in so many ways. DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
It all depends on the approach doesn't it, and who's doing the approaching.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I was asked to be a gift for someone a few years ago (female friend of a female friend, part of a couple and all part of a group of swingers). I agreed to do it purely for the experience, there was an opportunity to play immediately afterward with all parties, but I had somewhere else to go so didn't take them up on it (plus someone else was part of that someplace to go). Given the opportunity, I would do it again for sure. maybe I was lucky that there wasn't any hidden agendas. Or maybe I didn't stick around long enough for them to be revealed... :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
12 years ago
It's still going to be a case by case scenario at the end of the day isn't it. Some mfm, fmf and mfmf's you may find yourself wanting to participate in and others you won't. It's your choice regardless what anyone here has to say. If it's not for you it isn't.....we all have free will and if those people truly view you and value you as a friend they won't feel any differently about you whether the answer is yes or no. Cheers Indy x
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RHP User
12 years ago
As a desirable woman in this environment you are spoiled for choice which presents the opportunity to second guess perceived objectification and introduces the genuine risk of the "pimping" angle mentioned by a certain dragonfly. Your incarnation "as" the gift is metaphoric - the gift is given to you as an invitation and between the others in the form of permission, encouragement and understanding (a demonstration of how well they know their partner by choosing a "gift" that is genuinely perceive as attractive when unwrapped).. or something along those lines. I guess It depends on what you're looking for here ... From the NSA, casual approach I'm sure I would get a great deal of satisfaction (no doubt for all the wrong reasons) and pleasure (for all the right reasons) out of being asked to be part of such an endeavor so long as I found the target person physically attractive. The one downside I can think of is the potential for the awkward moment when I jump out of the cake wearing nothing but a bow-tie and hard-on only to be greeted with one of those in-concealable looks of disappointment and dead silence ... could be character building ? ... or not.
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