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The Hot & Cold waves
February 19 2024
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MFMHotWife
2 years ago
Happens all too often I'm afraid!
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RHP User
2 years ago
There are no guarantees ! The cheaky one off can be a heap of fun and totally stimulating. It’s not always easy to follow up and remain continuous for a heap of reasons. Maybe enjoy when you can
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RHP User
2 years ago
After seeing many similar posts on this and other related ghosting topics, I feel we perhaps place too much emphasis on the credibility of a singular dimension medium. Men find women don't respond, women find men message too much, couples find men disappear and many variations of those 6. Human behaviour will not change over the web. In fact it allows people to be less accountable. I spoke with someone about expectation management and that sometimes, to keep your sanity and your momentum, you just got to accept it and move toward your goal.
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FeistyFatty
2 years ago
Because they clearly don't actually want you, they want your pics to wank off to when their partners go to bed. Don't fall down the pic swapping rabbit hole is my best advice. Hubby and I learnt that after our first year (many years ago). We stopped opening galleries until after we'd met the person and that system has worked for us both so well .... Playing solo and together.
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RHP User
2 years ago
yes this has happened to me as a single and also as a couple online. It is all too common. One woman chatted and swapped messages and said she was in the car to my hotel and then ghosted me 20 minutes later. Tried to orgnaise a MMF for a female friend had 2 guys say yes and ghost us that day after booking a hotel. Also had a couple put up a date saying they were passing thru town and when we (couple) sawpped pics they disappeared. mentioned to local couple who are friends and they had it happen to them too. These are just a few examples. There are real and lovely people, singles and couples, on here but they are the minority. Frankly I reckon they should make the ‘free’ account like $5-10 a month. Thats a couple of coffees a month not to waste everyone else’s time.
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CampinMassageFun
2 years ago
Weed them out Hun. Give your Face Pic till you can tell if they are Genuine. Anyone who asks for pics straight up is Timewasters. Lot of Fakes out There.
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RHP User
2 years ago
Sounds cliched but it’s really not about you. It’s always about the other person/profile and what they want at a given point in time … I was recently questioning if it was because I was a dud root. After about 30sec of self questioning, I realised whether I’m a dud root or not isn’t the point. People are going to do what they do and I don’t need to give it any more room in my head. I wish I could offer some words of wisdom or advice to help but it really isn’t about you. R x
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MsSuperFoxy
2 years ago
It called "grooming" : behavours that control and manipulate. Like a tiger hunting it's prey. Nothing to do with lifestyle, more to do with your vulerabilty so they get what they want. IE: Pictures, explicit exchange of messages. They picked you, built up trust, till they controlled the situation. Then boom! They've got you. Red Flag: Promises to met. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
2 years ago
I think everything stems back to communication. If you want something particular you need to ask for it or at least make it clear what you are looking for and if necessary what you are not looking for. As a couple we do all we can to avoid one offs. It's the total opposite to what we are looking for. We look for indicators that dictate a high probability of it being a one off experience. People from interstate or overseas traveling through. Hi probably it's a one off. People that have a huge list of validations that just keeps growing. Or mention things about a stack of experiences they have had over a seemingly short period of time. People that don't seem to want to get to know you as a person. Probably a stack more .... That's not to say there's anything wrong with people that enjoy one off hookup style experiences. As long as they make that clear and the other's involved are on the same page. We mention it's what we like and ask if it's something the other person... couple find appealing. If they answer no then we would move probably end the conversation there. If course no body knows if they won't to continue seeing someone until they have had some experience with the other people. But it's more the fact the people find the idea of ongoing connections appealing should every one get along. Sure nothing lasts forever and life, work, or other personal...situational changes typically dictate that. Though we have enjoyed the company of some great people with regular catch-ups over several years while it's working for all. We have also had people have indicated they are looking for similar and ghost after they have had there quick fix....though over the years we are getting somewhat better at avoiding this. Our thinking is if everyone is having a mutually good time and you all enjoy each other's company why wouldn't you want to see one another again. It's bloody difficult finding a good match and to throw yourself back in the sea of people searching again starting from the beginning is something we struggle to understand.
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Andrea_Sydney
2 years ago
Hmmm…. it happens, yes. I guess it doesn’t faze me that much. Ghosting during the messaging stage - who cares, you move on. Ghosting after sex sucks because with common decency at least an excuse would be in order. Even when we know it’s a lie, at least they are trying to be courteous and stop you from guessing. Sometimes people don’t like the sex they are getting with someone, it’s not personal. I prefer a polite excuse over a text saying they didn’t like the sex. You just guess it and move on. Ghosting after seeing photos - maybe they just don’t like the photos. I have to admit, I have done that numerous times and it’s also happened to me. You just know they don’t like the photos, that’s cool. I have to say an email “sorry, you don’t look very nice” would suck more than if they/I just disappear. Just my opinion.
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RHP User
2 years ago
I think you’re lucky. I would love someone to reach out for some hot and heavy conversation and then fuck off because that would be way more action that I get from RHP now. I get excited when someone just views my profile lol. I’m sure I’m not alone
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RHP User
2 years ago
Yes, exactly the same experience at the moment. Disappointed that they have decided to wipe me, they reached out to me, we met a few times and now totally no communication. They are nice people and I get the lifestyle but you can still be decent human beings and explain why they’ve decided to no longer continue.
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Peachesxo
2 years ago
I just joined up yesterday & this happened to me. I wish i could name & shame to warn others but admin rejected my original post naming him
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MSubMiz
4 months ago
Still happening in 2026😭🤮
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Castaway8719
one month ago
happens alot sadly, you can meet someone more thn once things are great always hot and fun the poof gone beats me why
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Samwise_Gamgee
one month ago
Nothing has to last but it's the basis courtesy if someone plans to stop speaking to have a pleasant farewell conversation.
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