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The RHP "Thing" Was it good for you........
November 11 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
It's all good. It's bringing me out of my shy self and I'm feeling confident and RHP has helped. I've met a couple of amazing people, and a few idiots. Went to my first meet and greet and loved it. It's not about hook ups for me but learning, chatting and maybe meeting people who I would never normally meet.
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compressor
10 years ago
I think it is great it has worked out so great for you and yes you are an attractive lady
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yep, I'm one of those single guys who has been roundly disappointed since joining RHP a couple of months ago. It's not RHP's fault, mind, it's just that there seems to be such disproportion between men and women on here and other such sites. I'm prone to modesty, just cannot bring myself to claiming to be anything more than I am. Sadly, this puts me at a disadvantage as I really do not stick out as being anything but ordinary. I started with a simple profile and accompanying spiel about myself. This got me absolutely no messages or expressions of interest. I was under no illusions that, being in my forties, it was going to be a case of bevvies of twenty-something hotties champing at the bit to roll around sans-clothing with me. I kept it ''real'' in what I was looking for. I was originally heartened by the ''profile views'' until I realized that does not necessarily mean that somebody has actually looked at your profile - rather, people skimming through profiles still registers as a view. I sent numerous messages of interest out to people. Half messaged back saying ''you're just not what I'm looking for'', despite their profile indicating otherwise, the other half didn't message back at all (which is cool, I really am okay with that). I changed my profile spiel to one which laid it all out there about my interests (i.e. I just want to have simple, good fun) - I got one message from a woman interested but this degenerated into ''message ping pong'', we set up a tentative meet with her to confirm but this was the last I heard from her. It's hard not to sound a little bitter - I think I'm halfway attractive and good fun, with a healthy apetite for sex. Does this actually get me anywhere? Apparently not. I have a theory, which may or may not be true. I think that there are a lot of blokes half my age on here who will take pretty much whatever they can get. Women on here of my generation will get messages from myself and others, some of which will be from some strapping young bucks. Which are they going to choose? Which would I choose if it were me? The answer is somewhat obvious. There will be those that look at my profile after reading this and say ''your profile doesn't exactly grab my attention, that's why'' - I'll revert to what I said at the start - I'm modest probably to the point of fault (I recently lost out on a promotion because I could not strut like a peacock in the interview, which the others did - I was actually told this by the interview panel later). I could up the ante, carpet-bomb every woman on here with messages, really drum myself up as the porn star of their dreams. I suppose. At what point do you think ''actually, this just isn't for me, let's pack it in''? A friend of mine was an RHP member for about six months. He had some success, but he said that in the end you expend a lot of energy and waste a lot of time messaging women with little or no return. As he said to me, ''you've got just as much chance down at your local pub and at least you're out doing something''. I am starting to think ''amen to that''.
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RHP User
10 years ago
My issue is that all the events that are interesting to me are either in VIC or WA or QLD that I find that the interesting people are either in VIC, WA or QLD that it seems NSW is dead and or forgotten whilst I LOOVE to travel and do it more frequently than most of the people I cannot be on the road every single weekend going around Australia - I would love to but there is that thing called "life" coming in the way. The lack of social meet and greets and-or contacts in NSW is the only thing that I dislike about RHP :(
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RHP User
10 years ago
As you stated Koko, I'm a single male and used to get a little frustrated at the constant non reply's to my messages. It didn't matter how much or how little effort I put into my message the result was the same... nothing. I got frustrated to the point that I took a hiatus from RHP and looked at several other sites but have returned as this is still the better site out there. As a result I have become a little more thick skinned and my expectations are not as high and I have met some lovely Ladies from here. So I have accepted RHP is what it is and I liken it to being like fishing, every cast wont get a nibble but when you do the excitement created is worth all the effort
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
Being here has exceeded my expectations by a long way. Changed my life. Just wanted to say that I've enjoyed watching your evolution since I've been here 18 months ago, albeit from a 3000k distance. You are amazing and a great friend. And good luck for the next 24 months. Annie xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Why dont you see if there are others interested in starting a Sydney social group? You might be surprised...... xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Thank you and likewise xxx Look forward to eventually meeting you, because it will happen! Til then... xxxx
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precious142
10 years ago
Nearly 2 years Koko????? Same here, most of it has been liberating as well as eye-opening And have met some pretty special people..... The first time I met any RHP's was at a cupcake party!!! My only beef would be that it can be so frustrating sometimes dealing with people, but in the end it has been worth it. The best part had been the Socialites.........and all the fun lunches, drinks and events we have attended so far...... Looking forward to the Summer of 2016.......xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Enjoyed most of my time here love that I got to meet some peoples at a couple of meet and greets which I haven't come across on other sites. OkeyDoke as one of those who is quite modest and not into big noting myself in anyway I understand your frustration. The online dating/meeting world is driven towards men joining and women not really having to do much to garner attention but I did think a more open site apposed to purely dating would prove to be a better option for meeting someone to enjoy some time together, sadly I have found it to be the opposite much less chances of meeting someone for me here than a pure dating site (current experience so far). Don't have a great social life so the forums kind of give me that outlet but the couple of things that get to me on the forums are people who want to shoot someones opinion down (as they are only opinions) as well as just some plain ugly posts. I have also found at times I have been a bit pissed off at the high school mentality that some posts bring. Which I guess is fair enough as there are obviously many here that have been in long term relationships and they are here to gain confidence, get laid or make friends and have a damn good time letting their hair down. Has seemed a pretty good place to be for me though.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Has been good for me especially this year . I've met 2 wonderful men who became my FWBs (at different times of course !!!) I was "a Guest" for the first year and didn't start meeting men until the start of the second when I decided to become a Paying Member. I must say that my experience of meeting men has been interesting. I consider myself "lucky" and I'm very grateful for having met my 2 FWBs on here. I hope that they feel the same about having met me. Currently, I am happy. I have what I was "looking for"; a FWB who means to me, much more than that !!! Amy
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RHP User
10 years ago
More time. Everything happens eventually, but don't expect anything much in only a couple of months. For me, rhp is one tool combined with many other sites, combined with meet & greets, and many swinger parties. Also, if I too had given up in my first few months, I would not have met anyone. So my advice is to "give it a year". Certainly it's a lesson in dedication and resiliance. But if you find your local pub/club more promising, go for it :) I don't really drink, and for other reasons I'm not a fan of that scene. As for messaging, you learn to judge profiles not by the basics of what they have written, but HOW they have written it (if that makes any sense). More correctly, you become a better judge of whether they are likely to reply or not, to you specifically, and then you end up improving your ratio of responses to messages sent. Consider every interaction a learning experience, even if it doesn't work out. OP: A National Meet & Greet? Isn't that effectively what happens with any meet, considering the high number of interstaters that already attend the different events? Or a much bigger/higher capacity venue? I suggest Alice Springs, centrally located for everyone :p
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Kokoflamingo' Why dont you see if there are others interested in starting a Sydney social group? You might be surprised...... xx I am waiting for that person - or people to come forward and message me :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
She said it's "like shooting fish in a barrel". For women I think that's an understatement, but correct in that there's really no sport in it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Women not having to do much? Wow, i probably should stop right here before i start, but i won't. Let's see, have a look at my profile, which i constantly update, take and add/swap pictures, update the written part as i evolve, then i spend or used to spend, shit loads of time communicating back and forth prying pictures and information out of guys, then if in the unlikely event i have any patience left or if they haven't irritated the crap out of me for wasting so much of my time, if it gets to hook up, i host most times ao i then set about cleaning my digs, like it to be clean, fresh towels and sheets, clean bathroom and kitchen etc. Usually shop to make sure i have drinks and food. Then, i start on my personal showering shaving, moisturising, straightening my hair, then if they choose to show up for 5 minites or longer, depending on the guy, how would you consider i'm doing nothing? Throw into that i'm trying to earn a living at the same time. Okeydoke would not only not get a response i wouldn't even view the profile no pictures, so the process would start, i don't waste my time anymore, anyway just wanted to outline the enormous amount of time that women spend not only on here joining the dots, because men are too lazy to do it themselves, but doing the same in real life, with little to zero recognition of the time they spend running around after children and husbands. Sorry but your comment rubbed me the wrong way. It's not women who don't put the effort in - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Aside from the above vent, love the website, something slightly narcisistic (spelling?) about it, but it feels like coming home, like a blankie lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
otherwiseYour rant made me check out your profile, why do you like showing your phone off so much in your pics
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RHP User
10 years ago
I have been on rhp for 3 or 4 years and had a lot of fun. I came with no expectations, and have been pleasantly surprised by genuine responses to many of my messages, had fun reading and responding to the forums, attended a meet and greet and got to put faces to some of the names, and had hand full of meetings with nice people.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I joined (again) about three and a half years ago and was just wanting to enjoy the forums and interact with people online, whether it be on forums or through private messages. I've met some wonderful people and made some lovely friends so that's a huge bonus.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm sorry but I think you misinterpreted my post. Yes there is much women have to do once using any online site and even more so than men mainly for safety reasons and that women are generally more particular than males. I was simply referring to the act of just joining a site. Men here generally will decide to pay for membership as women can generally stay as guests and will be contacted. A major percentage of men do not get messages or flirts sent to them and do not have a free message as a guest. That is all I meant. I can see how you saw it though and clearly understand why it would get your goat
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RHP User
10 years ago
Yeah thanks, i know you're not like that, i just spend a lot of time, less now than i used to, well you know all the stuff i said. I do send flirts, i'm a hopeless flirt actually as you might have noticed lol, and would be a paying member in a hot second if i could afford it, looking forward to that day. Funny thing actually, i was getting frustrated with the guest restrictions so started the process to upgrade, then common sense took over, realised i didn't have enough money to pay bills, let alone pay to be on here, so didn't proceed to payment, but now every so often, i'll click on a public picture in a profile, and up comes all the upgrade pricing, it won't let me view the pictures even though they're public, the site getting crappy that i never went through with the upgrade, who knows. But thank you, insert smiley face, i'm on the mobile - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Women can join up,not put much effort into writing a profile, and before your pics. Are even approved, youre inundated with messages. I get what you mean by the men having to do the work. We can sit back if we choose and not even bother typing in a search. Just go through the messages we recieve. Especially when you are a new woman.Settles down after a while, and message volume depends on if you live in a large city or a small town. We dont have to be proactive in searching.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Three and a bit years now. Have met wonderful lovers, had a couples profile, ticked off dozens of things on my fucket list, made some great friends, organised a handful of M&Gs in Sydney (one with many interstate travelers) and attended others' events, went to clubs and orgies, learned to love my body again and get creative with taking pics of it, and loved letting it all hang out on the fora. I'm also learning a lot from people here, from practical things I didn't know to how much views on topics can differ. And the sex, I really like the sex.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Most of the times I log in (cos I always sign out when not on the page) there are 2000 or 3000 people listed as "online now" (the current nr is 2911) Let's assume 30% of those are people who have forgotten to sign out when they last left the page and that they are sleeping etc so 3000 is reduced to 2100. Let's say an other 30 % of them are dormant accounts where the user is not interested in participating or has not participated of a while for whatever reason (but remained logged in again for whatever reason) so we are down to a figure of 1470. Let's say 50% of them are in WA - given the site originates from WA so let's say 50% of all users at any given point of time are from WA wheras the other 50% is rest of Australia. WA is 3hs behind the Eastern states (give or take) so let's say there are approx 750 (735 actually but that is far too specific number) ACTIVE MEMBERS outside of WA online on an early Saturday morning....or any given day..roughly...OK lets make it 1000. Yet - and this is not critism- I see approx 100-150 people actively participating via means of communication - forum posts a day (again give or take). What are the other 600-800 doing?? But more importantly is this a sign of the "purpose of the website" - do most people come here to "impulse buy" when they are in need of company, fun etc or it is more a dating website where people "browse" until they find someone that fits their requirements?
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RHP User
10 years ago
so by the time I finished dealing with numbers it has grown from 2911 to 3052. An almost 5% increase in about 10mins..at 9AM Eastern Time
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Auflaurer' She said it's "like shooting fish in a barrel". For women I think that's an understatement, but correct in that there's really no sport in it. Ive heard it described as..... "like swimming with leeches". hahahahaha
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RHP User
10 years ago
There are lazy women on and off the internet, just saying. I tend to throw myself into everything i do lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Alice Springs would have been awesome but the accessibility and cost was a factor, so looks like AdeLAID......
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RHP User
10 years ago
This is exactly what I was talking about. But.....you are wrong in saying that if someone contacts a woman and has competition from some young beefcake, you know who she will choose. Not so with every woman.....I know, by finding out the hard way, that some of those young beefcakes are all talk and do not intend meeting, although I say some because I have met a couple of those younger guys. Its about the connection, chatting to someone online you kinda get the feeling you would get on with them in real life and then after an initial meet, it seems to fall into place. We are not all shallow, its just a fact of RHP life that there are so many men on here the girls have more of a choice? xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Been on here for roughly 16 months. Started out as fun and got to meet some new faces but has gotten pretty stale as of late. Thought it might be easier to hook up but I guess we're not everyones cup of tea lol. Met some nice peeps along the journey, met some real nasty types also so that sorta balances out. Wasn't quite prepared for the gossip and bullying that goes on, but I guess thats just life in general. We're still here so it's not all doom and gloom. We've made more friends than friends with benefits, which definitely wasn't our intention, and still isn't, but wouldn't trade them and cherish those friendships made.
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RHP User
10 years ago
...I'm quite content with my lot here. With my life in general. Why? Because I have no expectations from this place.Having expectations from something I have little control over will only lead to disappointment I think. That's the nature of expectations isn't it, expecting something in return for your efforts? In this gender biased dating environment that sounds like a sure-fire way to upset myself. And 18 months ago when I upped my efforts it was starting to do just that.But don't make the mistake of thinking I'm lazy in general or unwilling to put in any effort...I'm just realistic. I like to play lotto too, but I won't gamble a $1000 a week on winning division One...I think it's likely that I would end up losing more than I would receive in return. As with my RHP commitment, it's worth having a go...you've gotta be in it to win it...but it's not worth investing a big chunk of my peace of mind when the odds are stacked against me as they are.I can do better at this "game" in the real world where the odds seem more fairly balanced, and I can lay all my cards out on the table, so to speak. You know, my winning charm and all that.... This is just a tool to be used appropriately.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Since I was quite young I've always been a kinky bastard so that part wasn't hard for me to come to terms with. But this site, like so many others, suffers from the same drawbacks as most but with less fake profiles. I use this site as a supplement to my sex life. It's great to make new connections and see where it goes. I think if women and couples all over added the following to their profiles it would spark a positive change: "Dear single men, If your profile isn't verfied, you won't be getting a reply at all." - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' There are lazy women on and off the internet, just saying. I tend to throw myself into everything i do lol - Posted from rhpmobile Someone who won't runaway from me!
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RHP User
10 years ago
G'day Koko, I didn't mean to imply that women are shallow. I do tend to think however that most people (forget man or woman), when given the choice to cavort with an older or younger person, they will probably choose the latter. Certainly not all - I much prefer more mature-aged women. But I've never been in the position of having the luxury of choosing either. Anyways, sorry if it sounded like I was bagging women out - not my intention at all.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Not at all xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
i have been on this site pretty much since it started ,yes ive come and gone over the years and through it all i have met some great ppl....and some not so great. it is what you make of it,at first it was about being able to experience things id never had before with others,and tick things off my bucket list so to speak,majority of it was fun,and then there was the bloody headaches. The thing i notice alot of over my time on here is the jealousy and bitchiness and insecurities,we have all experienced it in one way or another,but we here to explore and have fun. For me now its about catching up with friends ive met along the way and making new ones,i have had 2 relationships from this site and it was great as for now...well...who knows....my main beef....honesty..ppl should be upfront about what it is they want and dont want....and for all the gossip and negativity flowing through the chat room to stop ....it can make for a very uncomfortable experience for others when there is hostility around. all in all....i will probably still be here i another 12 yrs lol
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'lovman8' Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' There are lazy women on and off the internet, just saying. I tend to throw myself into everything i do lol - Posted from rhpmobile Someone who won't runaway from me! can't help you there. I'm always on the run, from the authorities usually lol being chased out of carparks and at my age, go figure I love this, it's so much fun, still like a kid with a new toy
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