The Trouble with couples............

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  2more4fun

  16 years ago

  We all need to pimp our profiles a bit every now and then to get a better response. I mostly like your profile but I guess some others would find it a bit long-winded, devoid of personality (sorry) and a bit point-form. We're all a bit time poor so maybe skip the superfluous info and avoid some of the other stuff you have in there. For example, I'd leave out details of playing separately and your other RHP profiles. It kinda rings alarm bells for some couples who may assume that it's mainly the guy who is up for meeting people and having a couple profile is simply a tactic to get a foot in the door.There's nothing wrong with saying that you're newbies but in some cases, it will rule you out for some couples. If I may use this analogy as a loose example, a couple can be like an employer. Sometimes they are willing to 'train' the right person if they have time and feel that the potential employee has the right personality and attitude. For others, they don't have the time or patience to train a newbie so prefer to 'offer the job' to applicants who have prior experience and can get on with it without needing hand holding. Sometimes couples will sway between the two types of employers :P I think you should have a go at rewording your profile and try and take a few new pics. If you start getting better nibbles after a bit of fine-tuning, give upgrading another go to open your pool of potentials up more :DPS - Be careful with the word average. I know what you mean by using it but find other ways to describe yourselves (ie - everyday people)

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  I agree with 2more4fun. The word average is so general especially about body types. There is a lot of details with no real information, if you are looking for friends tell us a bit about what you like doing. "We are easy-going and enjoy anything that is fun and entertaining." like what is fun to you?about being a newbie.....We are often reluctant to get involved with newbies who do not know what they are looking for because of past negative and your profile screams that you don't know what you are looking for as a couple which is odd seeing you have single profiles ... that is the vibe I get and yeah it does put me off. Regarding the not replying - get used to it people are rude and lazy. How long does it take to say "Thanks but no thanks" - you can even set up templates to save time. The other thing i would say is go to private parties like Passion, or Blue Velvet you can meet lots of people face to face in a setting where you can talk openly with like minded couples. Check out swingers club like CI if anything they are a fun night out. I have suggested this book before "The Ethical Slut" it is a great read for anyone new to the lifestyle. Good luck Mrs scc

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Ok, firstly I'm not a couple and secondly I'm not going to look at you profile because I don't need to for this advice. With what you have stated above you have interest until they see your private gallery pics. As you say after they se your face pic thats it. Well how about scratch that pic out of your profile and try to get a better one up there. Sure you can only do so much but if that is what is turning them off try to find something a bit better. Could always be worse, you could be a single male, then you wouldn't even get the initial interest

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  That is so helpful thanks 2more4fun and sexycountrycpl i will take all those points on board and see what i can fix, off to revamp and take some pics i go.............................

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  thanks to the great advice we have revamped our profile, taken some great new pics and i got so adventurous we even posted some in hot pics, wow what a difference!!! thanks guys and girls you are wonderful kisses from a very happy Mrs GC

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  why would you have single profiles if you are a married couple?? i think that would scare off alot of people...

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  hi it seems some times on here you never win, we are more mature and have been swinging for many years, this also puts some people of meeting us, even tho we still pratise safe sex, and get tested on a regular basis to, but it seems we are to experianced for some, the same as being newbies can also be a problem, the same goes for being just friends, we to like to meet people for evenings of conversation and light play where every one is open minded with sexual things, and be care free, and we have been lucky to have met a few nice couples the same, and we also have our own profiles as we play sep too, and in some cases, and the main one is with good friends of ours, they will not swing with us as a couple, Because we play sep, even tho we have told them we do not play sep with a couple we met as a couple, so again some times a no win situatiion, but keep trying and like us you will meet some very nice couples and singles who you will spend many hours having fun and enjoying one anothers bodies with good hunting,, B & L

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Neoandtrinity, we have the individual profiles to meet people for our solo fun we are clear that we are married(says so plain as day on our profiles) and we do this as we find that couples tend to want to play with couples so we have a profile for that and ones for playing alone, it seems to work for us as people are clear on what we are after and between ourselves we know what the other one is doing so i dont quite understand what it is about that would put a couple off playing?? i mean if they contact us as a couple on our couples profile then that is how we meet and play, as a couple. Playfulcouple5 we know what you mean it seems that just like in the 'real world' you cant please everyone so you have to please yourself!! lol we have learned rather quickly that so long as we are happy and secure in ourselves and we are patient the fun will happen, since revamping our profile a little we have had some more positive responses and things are going quite well but we have also realised that no matter how open you are there are always going to be people who just don't get where you are coming from and well that is ok after all it is supposed to be fun. Anyway thanks for your comments, kisses, Mrs GC

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