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The age old question...
March 15 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
I believe we are wired with compassion and a need to encourage people to grow. That being said, maybe our insucurities dictate that we need to control others. Or maybe we just like "The Bad" in people. "Bad sells, "Sex" sells, etc Damn, I might have just fallen victium to a marketing exercise! "Arsehole 101"
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RHP User
13 years ago
Oh OP if only I knew the answer to that, my life would be nirvana rite now. Alas I don't. I am the original asshole magnet, if there is one out there I will definitely find him and lose my heart and myself over him . However having said, they have brought me great love, joy, made me laugh and enriched my life, but oh but how they have made me weep. It just must be my journey. And my disastrous love life is always good fodder for those who know me . Asshole free at the moment ...:) but bring it on. I miss the exquisite pain you bring to me .....:)
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RHP User
13 years ago
... there was a black out and the neon warning sign was disabled ;-/
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RHP User
13 years ago
Females can be them too...Just saying.The problem with most people is they are assholes...The problem with most people is they put up with those assholes.Make no excuses for them...You can't put flowers in an asshole and call it a Vase...Foxy*Raises champers in a glass - cheers to all those who have had an asshole in their life - I drink to that *
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Shinas'Oh OP if only I knew the answer to that, my life would be nirvana rite now. Alas I don't. I am the original asshole magnet, if there is one out there I will definitely find him and lose my heart and myself over him . However having said, they have brought me great love, joy, made me laugh and enriched my life, but oh but how they have made me weep. It just must be my journey. And my disastrous love life is always good fodder for those who know me . Asshole free at the moment ...:) but bring it on. I miss the exquisite pain you bring to me .....:) I can be whatever you need me to be. My inner asshole is ever omnipresent to push people away so they don't get too close or they are Assholes in disguise. From a certified Shit Magnet (not Chick)
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RHP User
13 years ago
OP, no one is totally one thing or the other. You most probably found something in that person to make you fall for them. Sometimes that is enough, sometimes not. People are complex and if anyone says they are simple, they are lying. Then again, there is the familiar. People tend to go back to situations that are familiar to them because it is what they know.
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Cheekyarses
13 years ago
Shinas you have said it 100%!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I suppose many of us are creatures of habit,change the habit and you won't choose another arsehole.Perhaps you need to think about your ''type'' OE, change that and you might be pleasantly surprised ,the next man might not be an arsehole Listen to what they say,how do they speak about their previous partners,what do they tell you about themselves.?The best predicter of behaviour is past behaviour.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'zu7bcv' OP, no one is totally one thing or the other. You most probably found something in that person to make you fall for them. Sometimes that is enough, sometimes not. People are complex and if anyone says they are simple, they are lying. Then again, there is the familiar. People tend to go back to situations that are familiar to them because it is what they know. They're really are people that are total arseholes... I suspect you've been lucky enough to have not encountered any?The above post helps to explain why we keep going back to the same thing. I've always known this, however I have memory lapses from time to time
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RHP User
13 years ago
we put up with their endless shit, don't see the warning signs until it's too late and have that habit of wearing rose colored glasses!Freya's right, without the Spanish inquisition thing you can pick things up from someone just from listening to them and stopping yourself from trying to make them to be something they aren't. When you have it worked out OneEmarald, write the book and retire....
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RHP User
13 years ago
When you expect everywhere ARSEHOLES, what do you get, you bat, everywhere you look are ARSEHOLES. They are just coming and coming and coming.So I don't expect ARSEHOLES and they magically stay away from me.lololSimple isn't it? Am I always lucky, no not always , but ARSEHOLES don't bother me, because I can flick em away with my finger like an annoying fly.
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RHP User
13 years ago
They are the Hemorrhoids that Eskimos get!! I thought I was going to get them a long time ago, because of all the old wives tales about Hemorrhoids.. So.. I go to the Doctor for a bit of "Preventative maintenance" He checks me right out.. all over.. totally... and finally says.. "Cavey! No chance mate.. you will NEVER get Hemorrhoids.. EVER" I go.. "Good news eh Doc.. BUT.. would you tell me why I will never get them please?" "Cavey, it is because you are a PERFECT ARSEHOLE!!"
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RHP User
13 years ago
Lol! I'm in the cab trying not to laugh hysterically - Posted from rhpmobile
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Cheekyarses
13 years ago
Cavey - you are a legend!! Laughing so much xxxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
No matter what we never learn. I need an arsehole detector device. But then again I would probably ignore it anyway.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Nice one cavey. I am laughing so hard.
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RHP User
13 years ago
That is the only thing I can say OE. You are right, I do not interact with people who are complete arseholes. I tend to keep them away. I might meet with them through work or social circles, but that is as far as it goes. I do not call them over nor hang out with them if I can. You know the type of people as you have interacted with them before. If warning bells go off, then move away in a calm manner. They have mobile apps that help you get out of bad date situations. They have apps for almost everything these days.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I personally believe that assholes and stupids don't deserve pussy, so I just don't go there. I'm better than that bullshit If all of female kind were able to apply a better set of standards when choosing partners the assholes and stupids would have to evolve into decent people in order to get laid or just die out entirely, but it's women like you who are giving it up and allowing the assholes and stupids to perpetuate, the world would be a better place if you had more self-control.Lift your game, ladies, do it for humanity!xx Sarah
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RHP User
13 years ago
A man becomes one whe its all over, before that he is a god most arsholes have big cocks women can be arseholes as well, but they bleach theirs so you cant see they are really all brown and smelly People behave badly, women think arshole means alpha male look at mio, kinda guy, the guy that women wait on the phone for men that are good in the sack practice their craft and they tend to be a bit of a bee/arshole If it dont mean a thing then you dont get that sting..sounds like a song you know they are an arsehole, deep inside of you women know but hey they are so hot we turn a blind eye to them, they give you signs way early but we have blinkers on I like arseholes, they dont cry when you tell them to fuck off. They look a little suprised but they just shrug and walk away takes one to know one.
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RHP User
13 years ago
arseholes come in all shapes and sizes.Just like the wolf in sheeps clothing,they are very adept at disguise.They are not always arrogant,they can present as the most caring and sharing of guys...or women.They can empathise the bejesus out of you,they can make you want to rescue them,take care of their physical and emotional needs and then move on to the next sucker.....you just have to know what buttons the clever arsehole knows how to press. Some arseholes are covered in honey,and it's hard to tell cos they just don't smell,doesn't mean they are not still full of shit though
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RHP User
13 years ago
but now and then one slips though.
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RHP User
13 years ago
There is always one behind you...sometimes you can't see them till they start drooling sh*t... Foxy- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'tuscanred' A man becomes one whe its all over, before that he is a god most arsholes have big cocks women can be arseholes as well, but they bleach theirs so you cant see they are really all brown and smelly People behave badly, women think arshole means alpha male look at mio, kinda guy, the guy that women wait on the phone for men that are good in the sack practice their craft and they tend to be a bit of a bee/arshole If it dont mean a thing then you dont get that sting..sounds like a song you know they are an arsehole, deep inside of you women know but hey they are so hot we turn a blind eye to them, they give you signs way early but we have blinkers on I like arseholes, they dont cry when you tell them to fuck off. They look a little suprised but they just shrug and walk away takes one to know one. i have embraced my inner arsehole. sounds like a song? 'free ur mind and the rest will follow"
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RHP User
13 years ago
The extent to which an asshole occupies space in your life is the extent to which you let them.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I was chatting to a mate some months back. Neither of us knew any single blokes who were very fussed about being single. Yeah, they'd like a fun lady in their life if one came by, but there was no rush. On the other hand we know loads of very unhappily single women. We've watched them grab at almost any random bloke walking by who's vaguely appealing. Bloke's who, if not actually arse holes, are not well adjusted and behaved in arsehole ways because of this..So there you have it. Despite the perception that woman can get it any time they want. It's men who are actually the desirable commodity. Actually finding someone you fit with takes time and patience. The last time it happened to me the journey was nine months. From friends, to fuck buddies, to love. But well worth the trip.Women should try this?
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RHP User
13 years ago
"I like arseholes, they dont cry when you tell them to fuck off. They look a little suprised but they just shrug and walk awaytakes one to know one."So true. Don't we all have a little 'arsehole' in us?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'MissSarahCurious' I personally believe that assholes and stupids don't deserve pussy, so I just don't go there. I'm better than that bullshit If all of female kind were able to apply a better set of standards when choosing partners the assholes and stupids would have to evolve into decent people in order to get laid or just die out entirely, but it's women like you who are giving it up and allowing the assholes and stupids to perpetuate, the world would be a better place if you had more self-control.Lift your game, ladies, do it for humanity!xx Sarah Agree! Although I do not run into Arseholes most of the time or attract them, as my standards are high. however the few that I've allowed into my life, have made up for quantity in "quality" of "Arseholeness"It took me 7 years to work out my ex was indeed an Arsehole. In fact the definition.Yes good_vagabond I had the rose coloured glasses on for a tad too long, however when they fell off & I realised that he wouldn't be good for me long term, I said good bye... being the Arsehole that he is, he had the audacity to pursue me for a further 6 months, making me feel like I had made the wrong decision, all the while seeking women on another site...I don't agree that it takes an Arsehole to know one, in all instances. Innocent people are a lot fun for Arseholes to play with until the novelty has worn off and damage done.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Oooooh, whoops, I get it.I think the difficulty is that arseholes have some desirable qualities, confidence being high up there. The thing that I always say though is that the 'good' qualities that arseholes have aren't exclusive to them - both saints and sociopaths are driven by an internal self-worth that is independent of how others see them. It's not necessarily about being drawn to arseholes as a whole (must... resist... homophonic joke*), but to these individual traits. Which is a good thing, because they're not infrequently available in non-arsehole varieties. It's just a matter of separating the good (self-worth) from the bad (entitlement.)But then again, unfortunately sometimes the bitchy woman with the leather bodysuit, whip and devastating put-down is just plain hot.*Not a typo.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'LittleRedEngine' I was chatting to a mate some months back. Neither of us knew any single blokes who were very fussed about being single. Yeah, they'd like a fun lady in their life if one came by, but there was no rush. On the other hand we know loads of very unhappily single women. We've watched them grab at almost any random bloke walking by who's vaguely appealing. Bloke's who, if not actually arse holes, are not well adjusted and behaved in arsehole ways because of this..So there you have it. Despite the perception that woman can get it any time they want. It's men who are actually the desirable commodity. Actually finding someone you fit with takes time and patience. The last time it happened to me the journey was nine months. From friends, to fuck buddies, to love. But well worth the trip.Women should try this?These are two separate issues. Can you explain further?Women can get "it" anytime they want, we all know the stats.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'neptune_drift' Oooooh, whoops, I get it.I think the difficulty is that arseholes have some desirable qualities, confidence being high up there. The thing that I always say though is that the 'good' qualities that arseholes have aren't exclusive to them - both saints and sociopaths are driven by an internal self-worth that is independent of how others see them. It's not necessarily about being drawn to arseholes as a whole (must... resist... homophonic joke*), but to these individual traits. Which is a good thing, because they're not infrequently available in non-arsehole varieties. It's just a matter of separating the good (self-worth) from the bad (entitlement.)But then again, unfortunately sometimes the bitchy woman with the leather bodysuit, whip and devastating put-down is just plain hot.*Not a typo.Hahaha! Love it! "drawn to arseholes as a whole ( must...resist...homophonic joke) but to these individual traits.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'neptune_drift' Oooooh, whoops, I get it.I think the difficulty is that arseholes have some desirable qualities, confidence being high up there. The thing that I always say though is that the 'good' qualities that arseholes have aren't exclusive to them - both saints and sociopaths are driven by an internal self-worth that is independent of how others see them. It's not necessarily about being drawn to arseholes as a whole (must... resist... homophonic joke*), but to these individual traits. Which is a good thing, because they're not infrequently available in non-arsehole varieties. It's just a matter of separating the good (self-worth) from the bad (entitlement.)But then again, unfortunately sometimes the bitchy woman with the leather bodysuit, whip and devastating put-down is just plain hot.*Not a typo. I think that bottle will be a huge draw card
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RHP User
13 years ago
In the context of what I said above I think it's clear enough. The general perception of most people vs and observation of my own. Quoting 'OneEmerald' Quoting 'LittleRedEngine' I was chatting to a mate some months back. Neither of us knew any single blokes who were very fussed about being single. Yeah, they'd like a fun lady in their life if one came by, but there was no rush. On the other hand we know loads of very unhappily single women. We've watched them grab at almost any random bloke walking by who's vaguely appealing. Bloke's who, if not actually arse holes, are not well adjusted and behaved in arsehole ways because of this..So there you have it. Despite the perception that woman can get it any time they want. It's men who are actually the desirable commodity. Actually finding someone you fit with takes time and patience. The last time it happened to me the journey was nine months. From friends, to fuck buddies, to love. But well worth the trip.Women should try this?These are two separate issues. Can you explain further?Women can get "it" anytime they want, we all know the stats.
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RHP User
13 years ago
some of arseholes love you emma
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'LittleRedEngine' I was chatting to a mate some months back. Neither of us knew any single blokes who were very fussed about being single. Yeah, they'd like a fun lady in their life if one came by, but there was no rush. On the other hand we know loads of very unhappily single women. We've watched them grab at almost any random bloke walking by who's vaguely appealing. Bloke's who, if not actually arse holes, are not well adjusted and behaved in arsehole ways because of this..So there you have it. Despite the perception that woman can get it any time they want. It's men who are actually the desirable commodity. Actually finding someone you fit with takes time and patience. The last time it happened to me the journey was nine months. From friends, to fuck buddies, to love. But well worth the trip.Women should try this? So many women I know are in these shitty relationships, with guys who treat them like shit and try to control every aspect of their lives, and I get the distinct impression that they are only in the relationship because to them, it's better than being single. They bitch and moan constantly about the guy, but then when someone tries to tell them he's not worth it and she should kick his arse to the curb, she backtracks and is all, "Oh he's really not that bad, I'm making him out to be a lot worse than he is", blah blah blah. But then again they are mostly women in their 20s / early 30s, and it does take time to learn that being single isn't really a death sentence and that it can actually be a good thing to not have some dude dictating who you can see and where you can go all the time. I've never gone out with guys that tried to run my life like that, because I would never put up it, but in my 20s I definitely stayed in relationships that were well past their use by date, due to various reasons but one certainly being the fear of singledom. Well I've now been single for nearly 3 years and while sometimes I think that it would be nice to have that 'someone', I've also become a lot more picky and this seems to have developed in an inverse fashion to my level of tolerance for bullshit. Hence, I'm not at all inclined to grab onto the first available male, just so I can change my FB relationship status and post incessant photos of me and the significant other with captions like "We are the cutest couple!! <3", that annoy the crap out of any sane person that lays eyes on them. Hmm I did start writing this with some sort of point in mind but it seems to have drifted a bit...and now I'm not sure where I was going with it. Ah well, must mean it's time to go get coffee .
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'neptune_drift' Oooooh, whoops, I get it.I think the difficulty is that arseholes have some desirable qualities, confidence being high up there. The thing that I always say though is that the 'good' qualities that arseholes have aren't exclusive to them - both saints and sociopaths are driven by an internal self-worth that is independent of how others see them. It's not necessarily about being drawn to arseholes as a whole (must... resist... homophonic joke*), but to these individual traits. Which is a good thing, because they're not infrequently available in non-arsehole varieties. It's just a matter of separating the good (self-worth) from the bad (entitlement.)But then again, unfortunately sometimes the bitchy woman with the leather bodysuit, whip and devastating put-down is just plain hot.*Not a typo. That's the problem!! I was distracted by this....bottle. Yep, the bottle...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Luckdragon23' Quoting 'LittleRedEngine' I was chatting to a mate some months back. Neither of us knew any single blokes who were very fussed about being single. Yeah, they'd like a fun lady in their life if one came by, but there was no rush. On the other hand we know loads of very unhappily single women. We've watched them grab at almost any random bloke walking by who's vaguely appealing. Bloke's who, if not actually arse holes, are not well adjusted and behaved in arsehole ways because of this..So there you have it. Despite the perception that woman can get it any time they want. It's men who are actually the desirable commodity. Actually finding someone you fit with takes time and patience. The last time it happened to me the journey was nine months. From friends, to fuck buddies, to love. But well worth the trip.Women should try this? So many women I know are in these shitty relationships, with guys who treat them like shit and try to control every aspect of their lives, and I get the distinct impression that they are only in the relationship because to them, it's better than being single. They bitch and moan constantly about the guy, but then when someone tries to tell them he's not worth it and she should kick his arse to the curb, she backtracks and is all, "Oh he's really not that bad, I'm making him out to be a lot worse than he is", blah blah blah. But then again they are mostly women in their 20s / early 30s, and it does take time to learn that being single isn't really a death sentence and that it can actually be a good thing to not have some dude dictating who you can see and where you can go all the time. I've never gone out with guys that tried to run my life like that, because I would never put up it, but in my 20s I definitely stayed in relationships that were well past their use by date, due to various reasons but one certainly being the fear of singledom. Well I've now been single for nearly 3 years and while sometimes I think that it would be nice to have that 'someone', I've also become a lot more picky and this seems to have developed in an inverse fashion to my level of tolerance for bullshit. Hence, I'm not at all inclined to grab onto the first available male, just so I can change my FB relationship status and post incessant photos of me and the significant other with captions like "We are the cutest couple!! <3", that annoy the crap out of any sane person that lays eyes on them. Hmm I did start writing this with some sort of point in mind but it seems to have drifted a bit...and now I'm not sure where I was going with it. Ah well, must mean it's time to go get coffee . Great points there by both. I never understand why a woman or a man (dont want to be sexes now) as in relationships that just dont do either of them a world of good. Then the good blokes no one seems to go for..... go figure...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Too true dear Ornithopting Pyrotechnic Saurian! Quoting 'Luckdragon23'.....just so I can change my FB relationship status and post incessant photos of me and the significant other with captions like "We are the cutest couple!! <3", that annoy the crap out of any sane person that lays eyes on them.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'LittleRedEngine' Too true dear Ornithopting Pyrotechnic Saurian!Hehe, I just worked it out....I can be a little slow sometimes...
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RHP User
13 years ago
As an external observer of 2 single lady friends I have in Sydney... yes they attract a-holes but they also attract nice guys, they just don't seem to see the nice guys and so feel they are only attracted to a-holes. From what I see it is the bold up-front personality that most a-holes exude that they are attracted to and thus they don't see the nice guys who are attracted to them.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Since posting this topic, I've been doing some reading on Alpha & Beta Males...Why women tend to go for the Alpha & ignore the Beta, it definitely explains many things...Reassessment time....
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RHP User
13 years ago
alpha males, whether human or ape, dominate the resources and women like no-limit credit cardsit ain't a mystery
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RHP User
13 years ago
they don't always start out as assholes. Some show their true colors fairly quickly while others play Mr or Mrs nice guy for a while before they give up playing the game
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RHP User
13 years ago
ALL the time... I try to embrace my Feminine inner self... BUT, everytime I try to... As soon as she come out.. she decides to give me a fckn hand job!!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I guess I can be thankfull that I am not too Flexible these days... She MIGHT try to give me a Blow Job!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Maybe I'm a lucky sort of Beta male. Otherwise I must be a Alpha male without issues... Hugs - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'cavey50' ALL the time... I try to embrace my Feminine inner self... BUT, everytime I try to... As soon as she come out.. she decides to give me a fckn hand job!!!! attracted to? Lol Alpha or Beta? And would she fall for an arsehole??
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RHP User
13 years ago
His 6-pack abs and Ducati fade into insignificance when the boorish behaviour starts...or the violence...
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RHP User
13 years ago
So attracted to assholes. We married them, now we just want to put fingers and a cock in them.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
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RHP User
13 years ago
Its not that we are attracted to assholes, its assholes like nice people - an asshole wont have a gf/bf thats an asshole towards them- they certainly dont like to taste their own medicine!!! They target nice people so they can be treated nice and get to treat them like shit
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RHP User
13 years ago
I brought out the arsehole in my husband.. and he brought out the bitch in me. Gotta sift through the illegitimates to find the legitimate..- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
Is there a PC term for a female asshole??? How do I de-magnetize myself from them???
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RHP User
13 years ago
They are a generally manipulative bunch. I think the manipulative nature can suck people in and whilst everyone around the sucker can see what's going on, the poor sucker is oblivious.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'eaglek'Its not that we are attracted to assholes, its assholes like nice people - an asshole wont have a gf/bf thats an asshole towards them- they certainly dont like to taste their own medicine!!! They target nice people so they can be treated nice and get to treat them like shitI think you just answered my question. As nasty as someone is to me I find it near imposible to retaliate. TY
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